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How to be Less Feminine for Girls

Updated on November 30, 2012
From the long hair, fitted clothes, and high heeled shoes, this individual is clearly very feminine.
From the long hair, fitted clothes, and high heeled shoes, this individual is clearly very feminine. | Source

Depending on certain situations, you might want to play down certain feminine features or behaviors. In this hub, I'll help you figure out how to look less feminine, even if you're a girl!

A Note on "Femininity"

This entire topic is pretty loaded. First of all, I want to emphasize the fact that femininity is a social construct. This means that it was created by culture, and none of the behaviors that constitute femininity are permanent or biological.

You were not born wanting to paint your nails or curl your hair; society told you those are things you should do as a girl. Also, things that are feminine today were not in the past, are not in other cultures, and may not be in the future.

But, if you want to play down your femininity, the tips below will help you identify social markers that say you're a girl.

At the same time, you won't be able to completely remove all traces of femininity unless you undo them entirely. This would be done by embracing masculinity and embodying all of its traits instead of just undoing femininity. Of course, femininity and masculinity are not mutually exclusive. Some behaviors will overlap.

Unless you undergo a sex change operation and completely embrace masculinity, you will not really be able to undo all femininity full-time.

Have any questions on what I mean? Go ahead and start a discussion below!

1. Avoid wearing makeup.

Whether you ditch all of the makeup or just tone it down, you can appear less feminine. Often, makeup is used to highlight and up-play certain feminine characteristics. Therefore, reducing the amount you use will cut down some of those features.

Tip: De-emphasize feminine features.

Naturally, some of the most common "feminine" features are those that separate our bodies from those of men. To hide your femininity, you would want to downplay our breasts and hips. Do not wear low-cut tops and avoid form-fitting pants.

2. Wear neutral, comfortable clothing.

You don't need to go so far away from your regular wardrobe to the point where you look sloppy, but you would want to emphasize wearing simple, practical clothes with neutral colors.

And of course, you don't need to try to dress like a man to look less feminine. Instead, just focus on minimizing the feminine features and characteristics!

3. Stop focusing on what other people think of you.

Culturally, women are raised to be concerned with social relationships. There's no reason to get rid of all of these behaviors, but you can appear less feminine if you focus more on yourself and the projects you have in front of you.

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4. Speak with an unaffected voice.

Many women speak with a higher pitched voice than men, but not always. If you find yourself speaking in a high pitched voice, try to relax and use a more natural tone instead.

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5. Moderate your behaviors.

Depending on how you already act and what your social group perceives as feminine behaviors, you might want to stop practicing. These could include cheerleading, knitting, nail painting, etc.

Of course, none of these acts are exclusively relegated to females, and some groups and areas might not see their practice as feminine. It all depends on you and where you are.

Having issues with your gender identity? Check out these resources.


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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      What a fascinating topic, one I would have never thought of in a million years. :) I'm not sure I'm qualified to comment on it, but you did a good job of presenting thoughts for discussion.

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      Rachael Cleveland 5 years ago from Woodbridge, VA

      Thanks for the feedback, everyone! I try to emphasize the "just be yourself mentality," even when it's painful and difficult.

      Since gender is a social construct, we can confront it by following our inner instincts!

      This makes me want to write a post on how to dress femininely while also being comfortable. Perhaps I won't advocate the absolute level of frump I tend to prefer for myself, but I think it'd be interesting!

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      Catherine Taylor 5 years ago from Canada

      I found this hub so interesting. I really like the idea of focusing on being a good human being and less on feminine wiles. It would be a very interesting social experiment to follow through on this and see how people responded. (Truthfully, I do most of this anyway so none of my friends and family would notice in the least.)

      Very thought provoking. Voted up and sharing, looking forward to reading what other people think about this.

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      vibesites 5 years ago from United States

      In my opinion, all too female can be very boring. It's also good to have some dash of masculine attitude, that you can be tough, that you can be a "cowboy" (meaning less fussy). This will add some more appeal...

      Great hub. Voted up and interesting. :)