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Lingerie Secrets Revealed: The Three Types of Men Who Wear Lingerie

Updated on October 16, 2009

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Apologies, you should probably ignore that title. In reality there are at least as many types of men as there are types of lingerie, and probably more. However, for the sake of discussion and disclosure we're going to lump all of you into one of three categories. Pigeon holing people is super fun. If you vote on which of the listed types you are in the poll, we can make a graph with statistics. Statistics are also fun.

Seriously though, many people think that all men who wear lingerie are the same – raving gay crossdressers. That is totally not the case, and this article will expose a little more truth about men who wear lingerie.

The Strictly Panties Man\

The strictly panties man just wears one kind of lingerie. Some men only like the feeling of hosiery, for isntance, and never wear any other kind of lingerie or women's clothing. Other men might feel the same way about panties, or bras. This type of lingerie wearer is almost always exclusively heterosexual and might even be offended at the thought of being branded 'feminine'.

The Lingerie Afficionado

The lingerie afficionado loves all kinds of lingerie, but does not necessarily identify as being feminine whilst wearing it. For the lingerie afficionado, wearing lingerie is simply a means to visual and tactile pleasure, it is not a means to get in touch with a softer, feminine side. Lingerie afficionados own plenty of lacy, silky, and satiny lingerie. They will often have large collections of lingerie that exceeds those owned by the average woman.

The Feminist

I used feminist not in its traditionally accepted form, but as a kind of short hand for men who like to feminize themselves. On the internet at least, this seems to form a large part of the male panty wearing population. Men who enjoy feeling feminine will wear women's undergarments, often have an alternate female name and/or persona, and quite often wear other types of women's clothing including shoes, skirts and dresses. Men who wear lingerie for the feeling of being feminine may also enjoy being submissive to a partner.

If you're not familiar with this phenomenon you might be surprised to find out that a great deal of these men identify as being straight and are often happily married family men. Not all are straight however, many of these men are bisexual, and sometimes they are gay.

If you're a man who wears womens lingerie...

you may fit into one of these categories, but it is more than likely you fit a couple of them and several more I haven't mentioned here. Perhaps you'd like to think that you're in one category, but secretly you're really in another (it doesn't take much for an afficionado to become a feminist), perhaps you'd like to have your say. If so, do it below... 


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      Margaret 7 years ago

      I do love to wear a padded or gel bra and a nice pair of thongs or knickers, I do love my feminist side

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      joanjo 7 years ago from Herts. U.K.

      Hi Hope, thanks for a really interesting article. I like to consider myself a feminist dressing person foremost.I'm a straight guy BUT I need and want to be dressed in soft panties stockings dress or skirt and heels as much as possible without overdoing it and annoying my wife. I've been married for 38 years now and still love dressing in my fem clothes and I also spend more time on my appearance even if I cannot leave the house.

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      pantieman 8 years ago

      oh wearing nylon panties is such a turn -on,24/7 here wife an i both wear hi-cuts shes pretty good with me wearing ive been wearing panties now for 2 yrs straight an im str8 my self loving it in fla

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      satinpanties 8 years ago

      Hi, I guess I am a lingerie afficianodo of sorts. I enjoy bikinis and thongs, always VS second skin satin. Also I wear a bra on occasion but usually not out in public. Also, I wear thigh highs with a garter belt that i do wear in public quite often. I own about 40 pairs of panties, five bras, five garter belts and about a dozen pairs of thigh highs, so I suppose i fit the "mold" of an afficianado. thanks for the hubs, I enjoy reading about others with the same enjoyments.

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      pete 8 years ago

      i love to wear panties and babydoll nighties, from the 1960s to 1970s babydoll nighties. to me these nighties that are double layered are the best. they not only look awesome but feel awesome and wife knows i love wearing them for her and looking my sexy best. so guys if you want to spice up your love life buy her some babydoll nighties and wear yours for her and you guys will have the best time of your life. making love in babydoll nighties is awesome

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      kfsteve391 8 years ago from Mesa, Arizona

      I fit into the strictly panties catagory. I like ones with lace, ruffles, bows and tie sides in feminine colors such as pink, lilac, light yellow, etc. The sexier the better. At last count I have 82 pairs. Most are thongs, but have g-strings and bikinis, too. The ladies look great in their sexy little panties. I want to look just like them so I wear the same thing they do. I feel and look great in my panties.

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      jamie 8 years ago

      i guess i fit into the strictly panties category,i enjoy hi cut nylon panties and full cut briefs by vanity fair. i usually wear panties to bed ,i find it very relaxing after a long stressed out day to slip into a pair of panties and just chill out in the comfort and solitude .i dont have any desire to expose my interest in panties except discreetly like this.

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      scantilyclad 8 years ago

      mark me "lingerie afficianado" i wear panties pretty much 24/7 and wouldn't think of dressing without them, i also wear pantyhose and a petticoat on my days off or for going out, i sleep much better in a nightie and panties or cami set and my robes are all pink or light blue and womens styles, i have around 130 pairs of panties, 20 pairs of pantyhose, 4 petticoats, 6 nighties, 4 cami sets, 8 pairs of womens pyjamas, 8 robes and various other lingerie and i would guess thars more than the average female

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      bra & pantie mike 8 years ago

      i could probably put on many badges of I.D. i love wearing my panties & bra .i wear them every day. i have no problem putting on make up & dress but i donot go out just to dam ugly to look at. while iam bi its been over 30 yrs sense i serviced a man . while i would like to again. but i will not because i cannot live with a serect like that from my wife. she is mylife. she is ok with me in bras & panties i have mine ,she has hers & we have our shared bras. i just slept in my first full length night gown got to have some more of them

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      carl 8 years ago

      i just love to be wearing thongs, panties, pantyhose, or slips. i love the feeling of them on me. i guess id be a feminist, but thats just a category, i love my intimates, thats all!!!

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      Doreen R 9 years ago

      I probably fit the feminist catagory being someone who truly goes for the total look when I dress up, nothing too dressy or sexy, just going for the look of feminity. When the hair and makeup come out right and the outfit works, I am one happy girl. And I feel my confidence when I walk down the street. No interest in men, just woman who enjoy having a girlfriend with benefits.

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      maninhose 9 years ago

      I guess I'm your typical "strictly panties man" however for me it's "strictly hoisery man" While I do wear panties and girdles it's nothing really above the waist for me. I generally use them for masterbation and have very rarely worn them outside my front door.

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      bikini nut 9 years ago

      I started wearing panties as a boy...I grew to love the feeling and started buying my own. I am bi and the few men I've been with enjoy me in panties. They make me feel fem and I love playing that role and have never had a complaint from a partner. Now the bad part....I have yet to meet a woman who likes me in panties.....go figure

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      shavedm64 9 years ago

      I love wearing panties, hose, bras, and also dressing up like a woman. I shave my legs, not because it makes me feel like a woman, but because I really enjoy the feeling of hose against smooth skin. Smooth skin on both partners also adds a great deal of added stimulation. I am straight, and simply enjoy the feeling of lace, silk and satin against my skin. My wife enjoys both the clothes and the skin, and is very supportive of what we do. I firmly believe that there are many many men who do this, some openly, but most secretly due to social pressure. I thank you for having this site, and also hope it will eventually lead to a more acceptable society.

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      pinkpanties 9 years ago

      i wear panties 24/7 and other fem clothes im bi. i have been wearing panties for as long as i can rember

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      Mikki-Maine 9 years ago

      As is typical with pigeon holes, they are difficult to put round things in ;-). I wish you had broken this into 5 groups, along with a partner question "Where do you fit on the Beaufort Scale of Hetero-Homo-sexual-ness... but maybe that is fodder for a future hub.

      I answered the question before I read the classifications - so I answered 3 time to balance out my first answer. My best guess is that I fall in to the feminine group of lingerie afficiando's. While I wear panties almost every day, I also wear other lingerie at every opportunity (not bras though... i tend to think of them as female jockstraps - to be worn only if you need to.) I live my life as a hetero male, but when dressed in lingerie I feel more feminine and softer in my thinking and how I interact with others. When I am dressed "en femme" I am also strongly attracted to other feminine males, but not hetero or manly-men... only "sissies, CD's, TV's" and such.

      I guess I answered your question - and hopefully opened up avenues for future discussion. I love your hub and love the way you think. Keep up the good words.


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      pantiesbob 9 years ago

      Keep it up Hope, another interesting article.

      While I am happy being male, I do think about what it would be like to be female. Those thoughts never turn to wanting to be with a male though. I guess that makes me hetero, with a feminine side.

      I started wearing panties and have added satin pj's and stay-up stockings. The idea of wearing a bra, cami, slip or dress is not that appealing. Perhaps this is because I have a wife who accepts what I currently do, but I don't wnat to push the envelope. Would it be defferent if I were single? I really hope I never find out.

      So I guess I'm a little of the three categories, and I like who I am doing it.

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      ILoveLingerie 9 years ago

      I voted "The Lingerie Afficionado".

      I started out as "The Strictly Panties Man". I bought a few thongs, then later also some briefs.

      After a while I got interested in trying out bras and even later into hold-ups and stockings - I became "The Lingerie Afficionado".

      Now that I have many types of lingerie, like thongs, bikinis, hipsters and briefs and also bras, torseletts (basques) and corsages, I begin to think about trying out some skirts and other feminine dresses.

      I am not interested in pretending to be female though like cross-dressers often seem liking to do (no offense).

      I can't imagine giving me a female name.

      So I'm some kind of "The feminist" as well.

      By the way: I'm hetero, but sometimes I do think about how it would be if I were female. I don't want to be female all the time, I like being male, but I sometimes get these thoughts. Maybe I'm not totally hetero but more like Bi. I don't really know.

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      Nanciboy 9 years ago

      Started out as strictly a panties man, progressed to Lingerie Afficionado and a few years graduated to being a 'Feminist'. Luckly, I am small for a guy and have no problem finding women's wear that fits.

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      likewhatiam 9 years ago

      Hi Hope thanks once again for the great hub. I am personally a Lingerie Aficionado as I have so many different pairs of panties and other bits of lingerie probably more than my wife's collection and better quality as well. I could never pass as a feminist as I am built like a Russian wrestler and find it very difficult to find ladies stuff in my size apart from the plus size department which is generally too big in the cup size. Keep up the good work our pantie Queen.