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Dressing Hot Yet Adorably Modest?

Updated on March 4, 2016

The changing pattern of the world today has built conflict between fashion and dressing up accordingly. Many people are beginning to respond to the way we wear our clothes, as if clothes now have become a means for one person to assess another.

Rationally, this is difficult as different people have different standards of what is hot. Considering the serious context of being "hot", it could be confusing as "modest" implies understated, beautiful, attractive and conservative.

But taking the whole thing in a more fairly judgement and by how we should deal with things the world offers today, what is "hot" already varies across the world. Perhaps we can take this as a "new adage" to trick the hot trend. It could be a task so challenging as to be nearly impossible.

How Can "Hot" Be Modest?

She wears a black sleeveless dress with a high neckline and a red top that is loose-fitting so it covers the shape of bust and top of body. The whole outfit is very flattering, the style, colors and the accessories made everything looks so proper. Her "glamorous" clothes are worn in such a way that attention would seem to be drawn to the lady that she is than any part of the body.

If guys would rate her in today's seemingly "hot" language, she is hot yet modest... and young women in general like this.

Though the trick can be more difficult because society’s standards of modesty have changed so much over time, the adage could pull both ends halfway and work from there. This doesn't mean changing the standard, it still is an effort to establish clearly what we consider to be "modest."

Sexy Cardigan
Sexy Cardigan

Let's say dressing hot yet adorably modest is all about making you stand out for being different than the usual, revealing attires.

Dressing hot yet adorably modest can simply imply no bare midriffs, no too short shorts or skirts, and no cleavage. It could be all about being airy yet not overtly sexy or funky, and only suggests a modest look that's actually very romantic and feminine.

It's better setting up a positive solution this way than a full-scale revolt of imposing things too hard. The approach can help convey the message to preserve the value of modesty by heart, and help us all understand why modesty is such an important character issue.

The reality to be "fashionably hot" but modest in general can be a motivating factor for young women to slowly make good decisions on their own and adapt themselves to real feminine attire without stepping out of fashion. Here are my suggestions:

Long Sexy Tops

There are long sexy tops which are trendy and sweet. They are very adaptable and can perfectly look nice with skirt, leggings and a good pair of jeans.


This style comes with a hemline that falls below the waist. It may have ruffles, laces, buttons, zippers, shiny things, beads, sequins and embroidery, but still falling down the mid. Long sexy tops can allow you to expose the shoulders and arms which are enough to make you look "hot" and "sexy" without the need to show cleavage and navel.

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Photo by retrogemkitty7

Gentle Form-Fitting Dresses

You can wear things that are a little form-fitting to your shape. Let's set it straight first - a little form-fitting is different from tightly-fitted.

Not everybody likes their clothes tightly fitted. You may be one of those. I am. I didn't really like the way tight body fits looked on some people. But you can always buy and wear the right fitting that you are comfortable in, but "never" wear clothes that are falling off. If you are large, choose dark colors, it can minimize the appearance of width and can make you look slimmer.

Women in the 1950s and 1960s wear gentle form-fitting clothes, yet they possess such flair for sensible sexiness.

Lovely Colors and Accessories

Since we are all visual creatures, we easily notice things that stick out like lovely pastel or vibrant colors. Wearing colors like pinks, yellows, bright blues, violets, purples and greens will make you stand out.

Accessories always give a simple outfit some flair. A simple bright tee with matching earrings or a belt or necklace is a nice look on a nice bright summer dress. Trying to think more on the lines of color and not necessarily the cut or length suggests something "hot" to the eyes.

Men and Women Will Thank You

When you dress in modest attire, the world will appreciate you for being a woman of true elegance, men will thank you for the thoughtfulness of helping them treat you with respect, and women will admire you for taking fashion to a higher standard.

What about this? If your style of dress can be worn to Sunday brunch, party or date and yet wear them to a wedding and get amazing compliments, you are dressing hot yet adorably modest. You looked great for getting it right.

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If your style of dress can be worn to Sunday brunch, party or date and yet wear them to a wedding and get amazing compliments, you are dressing hot yet adorably modest. You looked great for getting it right.


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    • Vicki Martin Wood profile image

      Vicki Wood 

      2 years ago from Eldon, Missouri

      This was really interesting, I enjoyed it. I have always dressed this way because of my father who was a minister. It was always a challenge as a teenager wanting to look sexy but getting out the door past my dad.

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      Tonette Fornillos 

      8 years ago from The City of Generals

      Hello toomuchmint,

      I'm with you. It truly has been disappointing our young women have to show a whole lot of skin for fashion today. I bet you too agree that the most perfect way to pull them back into the modest thing is allowing them to dress hot provided it has a touch of modesty, better that way than too much imposing. So nice to meet a woman of sensual elegance in you.

      With us all in this campaign, we shall make it. You're so sweet loving that pink finesse. Thank you for reading and cheers!

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      8 years ago

      Great hub, Tonette! Sometimes I walk through the mall and wonder what happened to American fashion sense. Shorts are so short. Tops are so low. There's so much emphasis on skin, and so little on style.

      It's nice to see appreciation for classic styles like below-the-knee skirts in flattering colors, or color-coordinated outfits that attract positive attention instead of licentiousness.

      I love the pink cardi and the coordinated bloom. Great hub!

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      H C Palting 

      8 years ago from East Coast

      Awesome hub. I wish I could get the girls and grown women who step out in t-shirts as dresses to read and understand this! Voted useful (the Up button is not currently displayed for me to vote up).

    • Tonipet profile imageAUTHOR

      Tonette Fornillos 

      8 years ago from The City of Generals

      Thank you Escobana. You're right, a cleavage can be modest if it is not combined with extra mini skirts. This makes this beautiful asset of a woman to look fascinatingly modest and sexy because hot and modest played well together all along, who can resist such a beauty? :=)

      Very insightful, beautiful and artful idea. You and your friend will surely be among the most envied beauties. Cheers to you and goodluck!

    • Escobana profile image


      8 years ago from Valencia

      Interesting Hub with a fascinating title! I do however think that a cleavage can be very modest if it is not combined with extra short mini skirts.

      My younger girlfriend who has an eye for the modest kind of sexyness, send me back into my bedroom once or twice to change my mini skirt and high black boots into, skinny jeans and pumps. With my larger cleavage it all fell into place.(sort of:-)

      Nice to meet you here and thanks for the lovely fanmail!

      Voted up and shared!

    • Tonipet profile imageAUTHOR

      Tonette Fornillos 

      8 years ago from The City of Generals

      Thank you Chris. All that goes to one thing again - modesty is still the best policy. Glad that you have stopped and read my hub. I wonder what it means by future ex-lawyer. Would be reading your hubs to know the answer.

      Cheers to you!

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      Chris Hugh 

      8 years ago

      Great hub. A woman can't be truly beautiful with some mystery, and she mustn't look like she's trying too hard. Clothes that are too revealing show a lack of grace and class that is anything but lovely.

    • Tonipet profile imageAUTHOR

      Tonette Fornillos 

      8 years ago from The City of Generals

      Oh MsDora, thank you! It's always great to know women who believe on the possibilities of subtle solutions. I think it's what the world is in dire need of today. Hot and modest can truly go together when both worlds consider to meet halfway.

      Glad that you find the hub creative and insightful. I like your attitude on a wise and moral lifestyle. More power to that thought! Thank you MsDora.

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      Dora Weithers 

      8 years ago from The Caribbean

      Hot and Modest! You showed me that it can be done. Will recommend this article. Very creative and insightful!

    • Tonipet profile imageAUTHOR

      Tonette Fornillos 

      8 years ago from The City of Generals

      Thanks for the insightful thoughts Dolores. I too wish more and more moms could lay down dressing rules without being tyrant so fashion could be attractively appropriate (and even hot) without being trashy.

      Liked the history of swimwear for women, the details were very useful and the subtle changes were interesting. I learned from that, thanks. There's one thing I see, swimwear today is going back to the old basic! Thanks for sharing that to us. Awesome!

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      Dolores Monet 

      8 years ago from East Coast, United States

      I so agree that a woman or girl can look very attractive, even "hot" yet dress in a modest manner. Some of the outfits I've seen on very young girls - I can't believe their mothers let them buy such get-ups. Having real style does not mean you jump on the trashy band-wagon.


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