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You Are What You Love | Men And Women's Lingerie

Updated on October 5, 2009
Picture credit: Daily Mail
Picture credit: Daily Mail

The title of this hub should not be construed to mean that men who love lingerie are, in fact, lingerie. It would be difficult to argue such a point convincingly, even with help from existential philosophers. A man may be the dream of a butterfly, but he is most certainly not a B cup contour bra from Victoria's Secret.

So what do I mean when I say you are what you love? I mean that you are the essence of what you love. If you happen to be a man who loves lingerie, you are a sensual being. More so than many men who do not find lingerie attractive on any level, the man who loves lingerie is the man who can appreciate softness, delicacy and subtlety in his world.

A man who loves lingerie is often a man who appreciates femininity and the women in his life. Many men who wear lingerie hide their habits from their partners out of a desire to spare their feelings and keep them in their lives. I do not recommend nor condone this course of action and I believe that it is false concern, for if one was truly concerned about one's partners long term happiness, one would reveal all relevant facts to her before making a significant commitment and certainly before pledging one's life time to her. But nevertheless, there are many men who subjugate the softer parts of themselves in deference to the preferences of their partners and this type of self sacrifice, if made willingly and happily is certainly indicative of a man who truly appreciates the lady in his life.

Men who love lingerie are men who appreciate beauty. Unlike some men, who appreciate destruction and violence, men who love lingerie can at the very least appreciate both sides of the coin. They are not afraid to see the beauty in the world and due to this fact they are able to live lives much more richly than those who see only opportunities to destroy.

Above all, men who love lingerie are often men who can appreciate duality and paradox in themselves and others around them. They understand that a person can be more than one thing, and the more sensitive men who love lingerie are often valued by other people in their lives for this very reason. Not many people are prepared and willing to let those around them be who they want to be, and those who do bring out the best in others.


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      Fairy Mary 8 years ago

      As usual Hope, you a quite right - your article describes a great many men including me! What a shame there are so many people that just don't see practising freedom of choice in this area as acceptable behaviour. Thankyou so much for a thought provoking hub that may help a few such persons to understand a little more clearly.

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      Nanciboy 8 years ago

      Thanks Hope. I sent a link to this hub to someone I just started seeing.

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      Michelle 8 years ago

      I also concur. This article fits me to a "T" lol

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      mezzo_azul 8 years ago

      Thank you for your post. I have someone new in my life who has done as you suggested here. He has decided to be completely open with me about his love of wearing women's lingerie. I am the only woman in his life, now, that knows about it. When he shared this information with me, I was a bit conflicted but not distressed. It is just the first time that anyone has admitted to such a practice. I do care a great deal for him and want to support him. I believe I have to this point. We've even made jokes about it, but in all seriousness, I see no wrong with it. I've not actually SEEN him in it yet, but I'm sure I will. I want him to know that I accept him for who he is, and while I do not venture to say I can handle all things, I'm sure sharing my love of lingerie I can handle. As you mentioned in your blog, these men tend to be sensual. He is! I LOVE that about him. He is a very tender and caring man. I am blessed to be Loved by him, and I hope I convey my Love to him in return!

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      Cyndie_D 8 years ago

      I have a one word comment - YES!!!

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      Manny aka indrag13 8 years ago

      Hope, wow, it sure sounds like you are writing about me. :) I understood what you wrote in the intro. I got that. I agree with what you are saying as well, you are right. I do love lingerie, women, and femininity and I can appreciate the female perspective. I love the company of women much more. I love the girlfriends thing, it's not the same with guys. Thank you again for your positive input.