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Goddess 101: Bring Out Your IT-FACTOR

Updated on December 22, 2011
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Goddess 101

Start thinking like a Goddess. I love old Hollywood starlets. How they carried themselves and what they represented. They all seemed so put together even when they weren't all the time. We all want to look like one. Who doesn't want to be sexy and gorgeous like Marilyn Monroe, Rita Hayworth, Raquel Welch or Brigitte Bardot? What did these women have that other women don't?

They had confidence, sex appeal, and the IT-Factor. I've heard of the IT-Factor many times. and wondered what does it mean? What I came up with is that's the special something that attracts people to you. Kind of like charm, charisma or talent. Not everyone is blessed with it and celebrities are on a total different level with it then someone who isn't famous, but who says we can't all have our own IT-Factor? We all want to feel special and unique. We just have to play up on our talents and what makes us stick out.

Rule #1

To find your IT-FACTOR you have to love and get to know yourself.

What I mean by that is know what your strengths are. Know what attracts you to people. Get to know what you like, what you dislike, etc. Start loving yourself. See the positive in everything you have and what you don't have. Don't compare yourself to others because this only wears you down. Everybody is special in their own way. You need to find in your heart what makes you special and OWN IT.

Rule #2

Get your own style.

I completely changed my wardrobe recently because I looked in my closet and hated everything in it. Most of the clothes were from years ago and I haven't worn them in forever. What I realized through this process is that I changed who I am as a person and it reflects on my sense of style. Style is more than what you dress like. It's your attitude and the way you present yourself. It is showing the person on the outside who you are. Clothes are more than just clothes. It is a reflection of your personality. Believe me I don't have tons of money to spend on clothes, but when I do look for something to buy I find something in my own taste range and appropriate to the event I am going to. Your hairstyle and makeup fit into this category to. It is all a representation of YOU and who you are. Take a look at all of the women you admire from their outer appearance. What do they do? How do they dress? How do they present themselves?

Rule #3

Capture your true essence.

Find something about your personality and talents that stands about you that people love or something that you love to do and are really good at it and make it yours. Practice on it. Make it fabulous. Make it the essence of you. If you are a photographer, dancer, artist, comedian, writer, singer, designer, chef, hairstylist, or wherever your talents may lay be the best you can be. People see it when you love what you do and you make it yours. You aren't changing into someone else, just enhancing what you already have. It is important to always be you. I'm just saying be a shinier better image of you. In order to do all this you need to have a positive outlook on what you are trying to accomplish. People are drawn to a happy positive outlook. Capture that in everything you do.

Rule #4

Be Sexy.

Find something you like about yourself physically and play on it. Your curves, your eyes, your hair. Get the right fitting clothes, get a good hairstyle and color and great makeup. Show your confidence through putting yourself together. Confidence and being comfortable in your own skin is the key to being sexy.

Rule #5

Always remember who you are.

Don't act and put on a show. It will always come through. Find the best part of yourself and work with it. Act like today is your last day and you want to show the highest self you can show to others. That is your true IT-FACTOR.


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      Caroline Marie 6 years ago

      Thanks Lisa for your encouraging words and for reading. :)

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      Lisa Brown 6 years ago from Michigan


      Way to encourage everyone to get their own thing going on. You're right, we all do have something special about us. It is up to us to find it.


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      Caroline Marie 6 years ago

      Hi Lady you are so right about their self respect and modesty. Women of the past always seemed so classy. I love your profile. I'll be stopping by to read your stuff soon. Thank you for the comment.

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      Lady_Tenaz 6 years ago

      Rita Hayworth, Hedy Lamar, Vivienne Leigh and Yvonne De Carlo are all my favorites...but you are right, each one had their own identity and their own style. My entire life I have always been influenced by the classic women of Hollywood and never allowed the media of today to influence me in my makeup, hair and dress. Another thing most of the women of the past had that doesn't exist in today's entertainment world is self-respect and modesty.

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      Caroline Marie 6 years ago

      Ishwaryaa thank you for stopping by and reading! Always good to see you.

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 6 years ago from Chennai, India

      Engaging hub! I totally agree with u. The IT-FACTOR is indeed catchy and sync well with this whole well-written hub. Well done! Thank u for sharing. Awesome and Interesting. Vote up and sharing.

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      Caroline Marie 6 years ago

      Thanks SubRon for the comment. I'm glad I brought that out in you.

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      James W. Nelson 6 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      Caroline, I read this one awhile back but didn't know how I wanted to comment. #1, you changed "yourself" and I have already commented positively on your change. Now about those girls you listed: Way back when, I fell in love with Marilyn Monroe from the very start, but there was another one that caught my eye even more: Joey Heatherton. Recently, locally in the media, there has been some of the "it" factor going around: One young woman kind of lost it and another gained it. The one who lost it first got fired which just began a series of unfortunate events for her, but she came out of it even better and now is writing for the local newspaper rather than TV news and I think she's doing fine. The one who "gained" it (yes, there was a connection) well, yes, she is quite beautiful, poised, good at what she does (TV) Etc., but in my mind the onther one has her beat hands down! Wow, you really brought it out of me!

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      Caroline Marie 6 years ago

      @ mathira thank you! Always great to hear from you!

      @ elanger I'm so glaad you liked it!

      @ wonderful1 thank you so much for your sweet comment!.

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 6 years ago from Southern California

      Well said, caroline. It takes one to know one, and it sounds like you have honed your inner goddess. I especially like the last point: keep focused on who you really are. Be authentic, stay true to yourself. Awesome.

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      elanger333 6 years ago from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

      I really like this article. Reading it gives me a bit of a boost. Thank you.

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      mathira 6 years ago from chennai

      It was exciting to see the photos of the old stars and your tips about the IT-factor and I totally agree with you carolinemd21.

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      Caroline Marie 6 years ago

      Stessily thank you so much for your great comment! I will try and add her to me list. I think she's amazing! Thanks for reading. Your comments are always a pleasure! Happy Holidays!

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      stessily 6 years ago

      carolinemd21, Interesting and helpful strategies for feeling better about ourselves and, by extension, about our lives and the world.

      For me, the IT factor is best exemplified by the French saying, Je me sens bien dans mon peau (literally: I feel good in my skin"). That feeling, when it settles around me, is extraordinary.

      You've given excellent examples of beautiful women. I would have to add Gene Tierney to the list; she seemed to be one of the understated beauties of that time period.

      As with all your writing, poetry and prose, this is well thought out and clearly presented.

      Kind regards and best wishes for the holidays; "see" you next year!

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      Caroline Marie 6 years ago

      Thanks GC! For reading and commenting!

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      gchicnotes 6 years ago

      Nice hub! I love the fact that you discuss being yourself. That's the most important thing that everyone should take into account. Voted up and awesome!