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In the Edge of Beauty: What Will We Have Left?

Updated on July 6, 2017
Wizard of HubPages
Wizard of HubPages



I dedicated this hub to the Wizard, Sa`ge, who inspired me to write this Hub. This one for you, dear. ^_^




Hello, Readers. How are you?


Let's discuss for while about beauty.


What is beauty? Hmm… Here is several definition of beauty from several sources:


  1. characteristic of a person, animal, place, object, or idea that provides a perceptual experience of pleasure, meaning, or satisfaction.( en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beauty)

  2. The property, quality or state of being "that which pleases merely by being perceived" (Aquinas); that which is attractive, pleasing, fine or good looking; comeliness (en.wiktionary.org/wiki/beauty)

  3. The quality that gives pleasure to the mind or senses and is associated with such properties as harmony of form or color, excellence of artistry, truthfulness, and originality. (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/beauty)

  4. Beauty is the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit. (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/beauty)

  5. Beauty is the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind, whether arising from sensory manifestations (as shape, color, sound, etc), a meaningful design or pattern, or something else (as a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest). (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/beauty)


Beauty For Exotic People

Himba (Nothern Namibia) woman covering themselves with a mixture of butter fat, ochre, and herbs to protect themselves from the sun. The mixture gives their skins a reddish tinge.
Himba (Nothern Namibia) woman covering themselves with a mixture of butter fat, ochre, and herbs to protect themselves from the sun. The mixture gives their skins a reddish tinge.
The Kayan women wear traditional, stacked metal neck rings that elongate their necks since age 5
The Kayan women wear traditional, stacked metal neck rings that elongate their necks since age 5
The Mursi women are famous for wearing plates in their lower lip and earlobes
The Mursi women are famous for wearing plates in their lower lip and earlobes

So, in short term it said beauty is the quality which gives pleasure to the mind. The translations about which things will gives pleasure to the mind, of course, stay in the eyes of the beholder.

History of human civilization already showed how beauty can be different for each culture and each era. The last Egypt coin people had been found which have Cleopatra face in it showed the fact that the most beautiful woman in her time was overweight. Japan few hundred years ago also thought big woman is beautiful. And just take a look at Leonardo Da Vinci’s Monalisa, don’t you think she is far from what today’s beauty look like? Human seem always creating new category to be added in the definition about beauty and it is changing by the time and by the growth of civilization.

Now, please look at the pictures I added in the right side. Oh yeah, isn’t they are mesmerizing? What kind of beauty is that? Made the ears longer, or the skin became red and hair covered with mud. I love if my neck can be longer than it is right now, but I am sure I will never look attractive wearing that Kayan’s neck ring. But they did this because they thought it is beautiful. And that plate in the mouth! The things women did for beauty! Doh! And they still do it until now! Liposuction, face lift, tummy tuck, breast implant, nose reshaping surgery, eyelids surgery; almost everything to make them look like what civilization today called as beauty; symmetric and dazzling.

Combining those facts above together make me thinking, if yesterday beauty is no longer beautiful today, if we are today laughing on representation of yesterday’s beauty, and representation of beauty from exotic people which still here around us today, who can guarantee, in near future, it is not us the one who become the sources of laugh because what we willing to do to be beautiful? Future is not so far away and to be honest, I will never able to enjoy the possibility to become the sources of laugh because my choice on how I want my beauty looks like.

I want, later when I am 100 years old, toothless, full with wrinkle and bald, I still beautiful. Will it possible?

Maybe not, but nothing wrong about dreaming, right? ^_* hehehe...

Bonda woman in Orissa, India
Bonda woman in Orissa, India
Symmetric face, beauty in today's eyes
Symmetric face, beauty in today's eyes
Maybe you see this person creepy, but he must be thought that he was beautiful with this make up that is why he put it on his face
Maybe you see this person creepy, but he must be thought that he was beautiful with this make up that is why he put it on his face
It can happen to all of us just in split second by accident or another unfortunate event
It can happen to all of us just in split second by accident or another unfortunate event
The title of this picture is "Beautiful People"
The title of this picture is "Beautiful People"
The long ear is symbol of beauty for Dayaknese woman. Imagine if I born in her time, as Dayaknese woman I will have that ear. @_@
The long ear is symbol of beauty for Dayaknese woman. Imagine if I born in her time, as Dayaknese woman I will have that ear. @_@


When Sa`ge brought up this subject into my thought after reading her hub,Strained Vanity, and challenging the readers to writing something about it, I’m not really sure what I will write. As 32 years old single woman, beauty still deeply rooting and taking part into my life. I am not talking about those cosmetic because I did let those go before I put my scarf to covering my head, but lip balm/lip gloss and several lotions for skin protection only. I am talking about the symmetric on the face; our face.

Few months ago, a man was introduced to me since he wanted to know me better and look for a chance to become someone special to me. This incident surprised me a little bit because it came too sudden, but it was not the problem. I believe I was immune to any differences and always respecting others no matter how they look like, but it turned out, I lied to myself. When he stood there in front of me, I did not speak any words for several second. I was frozen. In my head the words jumped like crazy,

“He is so ugly! Too skinny and look like 100 years old heroin junkie. He seems not strong enough to become husband!”

I didn’t say that but in my head only. Still, I made my own prejudice based only by his look and I deserved a slap because of it. How could I decided who he is only by look at his face while he did nothing but shake my hand with very cold tremble hand and grinned a groggy smile? I, who always said that I honoring people not by his look, but by his behavior; did it! This man had no chance at all to show me some behavior but I did made my judgment! Freya deserved a slap for that! It is really hypocrite behavior and a hypocrisy usually really close with sin! It seemed I still made some exception about what wrong things I still able to do if it is for my own sake. Hhhhh… Why I called him ugly when it is not his wish to be one? God made him that way, so if I mocked him because he is ugly that is mean I mocked God! How brave! Too skinny didn’t mean he is a junky! He might be little lazy or too busy to exercise, or he could be sick, or didn’t eat enough food because poverty, but why I should pointed on the worst possibility first? And why it caused me judge his as weak in personality? His hand cold and his grin look weird maybe because he felt really excited to meet the girl he had crush on. I should feel flattered about that and not frowned my forehead! Shamed on me! But I learned my lesson that day about how far I was still from perfection and beauty itself. It is good. It keeping me humble and pushed me to always trying at my best to become beautiful.

So, what is beauty for me?

My belief taught me that beauty is not about the dress you wear, but it is about how you wear a dress. We can wear the most expensive dress in the world and still look like a slut, but we can wear the most cheapest gown the world ever made, but when it is being design in dignity, fitted to the body in polite way, it will make us look graceful and Graceful is the rare quality of beauty today.

It also taught me that beauty is not about the shape of your body, but it is about how healthy you are. We can change our body as much as we can with surgery and stuff, but it will not last forever or end quickly when the changed caused health problem. But if we stay health by keeping our healthy life behavior and keep our hygiene as best as we can, we will always look fresh and full of smile. When we smile to the world, world will smile back to us because smile, just like laugh and yawn, (even not as fast as laugh and yawn ^_*) is contagious. And when we find the world keep smiling to us, the world will feel like the happiest place ever.

My belief taught me that beauty is not about how perfect your make up is but about how bright your face shinning out your personality to the world. When make up masking our face, maybe we look beautiful, but only for while. It won’t able to stop us from look less attractive without it. For several people (and me either), make up caused allergic. It cause the skin condition become bad because it have pimples. And it caused the skin gloomy which is not nice to look at. But if you have great personality, healthy and fresh body, and also full of smile; it will make you happier and happy face will shinning to the world and the world will find you as irresistible.

It also taught me that beauty is not about how sexy your look is but about how good your ability to touch other people feeling with your presence only. The word ‘sexy’ is about sex appeal. A quality which will draw human perception to one activity for sure, sex. I know many women want to be sexy but I found the word “sexy”, if it is said by a stranger, caused me felt like I was being degrading. I don’t want to have sex with everybody so what’s for I allowing everybody think about my sexiness? Therefore, I’m against being sexy for the world. Still I should be sexy for my husband, but me and my husband can work together to find how to become sexy in his sight, which of course different for every individual (and every trial and error me and my husband work on will become ingredient for our marriage so it can be far from boring at all). But there will be no sexy to the world from me! It will be better if every time I am entering the room, my gracefulness and my smile become weapon of my beauty and make other feel cozy around me than make them horny.

My belief taught me that beauty is not about displaying yourself to the world but simply about dazzling the world with your mind. I don’t want to be seen and remembering as a silent image in the photo with my face and my body as the only tools I have. If the house is burn down and all those pictures are scorched while I am already 100 years old, I will have nothing left but my weak bones, toothless mouth and wrinkle skin. But if I put my mind on the paper or teach what I know and what I see in my mind to the world, my wisdom will live through the mind of those who read or hear it, and my beauty will stay long, even after I am gone.

Beauty is the quality which gives pleasure to the mind and the quality is a combination of hygiene, health, great personality, nice attitude, respective behavior and dazzling mind. It is beauty for me. The rest will become part of history only.

Have fun, my friends. Have a nice day for all.

Thank you for reading my random thought. :) and please forgive me for grammatical error and it's friend. ^_^

I hope it useful.

Freya

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  • Micky Dee profile image

    Micky Dee 6 years ago

    Sa'ge is Sooo beautiful! She is a wizard too. She loves and lives and shares. I love Sa'ge. She is one of the most wonderful people I've ever met!

    All the women here are beautiful. I got to tell you though - the Mursi women are beautiful but how can they kiss? I bet they work it out somehow!

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    Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

    LOL. King Micky, it said, Mursi women will take out that plate when they need to eat. I guess it is the same for kiss. Still, it can be really troublesome I guess. Hehehe

    Yes, Sa'ge really beautiful, indeed. I love her too, Micky. I really do. :)

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    Debra Allen 6 years ago from West By God

    Loved it. Now that I sell Avon, but I cannot use their makeup either, I see everyone as beautiful. I see the beauty in their faces. I have rosacea and to me everyone who has a clear complexion is beautiful and I tell them they are beautiful too. Self-esteem plays a role in how you are to the world. I try my best not to judge a person for what they look like because they may have a condition that makes them that way. What Society tells us is not always truth but the truth of that one person who started it. That's why I like the internet so much. You can see the people without judging by their looks.

    Great Hub!

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    Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

    Hi, Lady G.

    Even I can't use that mask for face, I still use several cream for protection, and I'm sure Avon have many collection of fragrance body cream, right? That is what I love the most to used everyday. I love fragrance and the silky skin on my finger tips. Make me feel good and cozy with myself. Hehehe

    Yes, very true. Self esteem playing bigger role. But in many case I hope the world not too picky on what they called as beautiful, because if following "Symmetric Rule", too many of us will become ugly than beautiful and it is mean many will down under insecurity feeling. So sad. Thank you, dear. I will check on your Hub, soon. :)

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    Debra Allen 6 years ago from West By God

    Yes Avon does still sell that--lots of it. I have found a product specific for something else that I accidentally used on my face. It's the Luminosity hand cream that is supposed to lighten the hands. Well I rubbed some on my face and the redness is going away and it doesn't irritate my skin. Now I put it on my face before I go to bed instead of my hands. I am going to write a hub about that in a few weeks to show the differences.

    Sorry don't mean to make this an Avon commercial, buyt I just love finding better things then spending a paycheck getting something from the Doctor and half of it is for the Doctor only!

    I have written about this (in my head) about beauty being only skin deep, I just never put it on hubpages or on paper. You did an excellent job that I doubt if I tried it would be even half as good as yours.

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    Gustave Kilthau 6 years ago from USA

    Freya Cesare - Yes, indeed. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Without that, all of the bugs (etc.) would have long ago disappeared from the planet,

    Gus -)))

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    Sa`ge 6 years ago from Barefoot Island

    OMG! Freya;

    Thank you for this, where did you get that picture? You are so right in all that you say here. You are beautiful my Dear, so very beautiful inside and out. :D you got me dancing like i not danced in long time hehe. I think I broke your tabs, haha :D :D

    Lady G

    From one Avon Lady to another, it sells well. It has been a while since I did any selling, long while. was PC member. It is a fun job. :D I don't know how it is now, but my best and most favorite customers were the collectors. haha. Back then these people made sales jump. :D

    Micky;

    you are so sweet, thank you :D hugs :D

    Ok, Freya i gonna go dance on them tabs right now :D :D

    I love you girl, keep up the great work! oh my, :D hugs :D

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    Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

    Hi, Freya, what a wonderful hub! those photos are so lovely, I think beauty is as you said, what is inside, but sometimes when you see pictures like those at the top of the page, you have to keep looking at them because they are amazing! And you definitely do not need make up, you are very pretty anyway. I understand what you meant about the man being ugly, and your guilt for saying it, I understand what you meant, but of course it does help us to be careful of who to date or just be friends with, you should always trust your judgement about what a man makes you feel like. if you don't feel happy about it, then of course you must not date him. but what a great hub, and yes Sa'ge is lovely too! rated up and awesome my friend. nell

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    Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

    I forgot to say, I also used to sell Avon! ha ha

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    Debra Allen 6 years ago from West By God

    Just how many of us on Hubpages is related to Avon as in used to be and are Reps? Now I wonder if there are any District Managers here as well. This is getting to be quite interesting.

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    Sa`ge 6 years ago from Barefoot Island

    oh yes, quite interesting, :D Avon reunion hehehe. :D

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    prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

    Inner beauty is the best. All the beautiful face is like a mask. Better to complete this with good attitude and pure heart. That's the beauty in my opinion. Freya/ira, don't ever worried about all wrinkles, the body may getting old but you still have young spirit. This is naturally happen to us. But I hope with the young spirit become our motivation in doing the best in our life.You inspire many people with this hub. I love all the pictures, they look beautiful. Thank you very much. Rating up. God bless you!

    Prasetio

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    SilentReed 6 years ago from Philippines

    I like looking at a beautiful woman. nothing wrong with that. But ask me to define beauty and I will say to you that you can truly know beauty only if it is felt not seen.

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    Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

    Hello, My dear friends. Sorry for late reply. I am not really well yesterday. I can read and laugh, but not really able to think a heavy stuff. Sometimes when I got too sick I became stupid. Hehehe...

    Lady G: I don't mind if we talking about Avon. Too bad Avon no longer existed in my country. The said the company who owned the licensed changed the product into Oriflame. I am Oriflame lady only for personal used. It is always good to get 30% off from expensive fragrance lotion they are sale. :)Thank you, Lady G.

    GusTheRedneck: I hate bugs! Hiii... You are very right. If there is nobody thing Bugs is beautiful they must be already extinct right now. Thank you, Sir

    Sa'ge: You are really beautiful too, Sa'ge. Dance, Sa'ge. Dan'ce. I guess it is about the time you let me see your dance, like King Micky did. :D :D :D Thank you,, dear.

    Nell: Yes, maybe it is my awareness who warned me to not be with that man, but I should not made that kind of comment. Made me feel like I am horrible person. But I guess, just like the rapper in your head, something inside my head is hard to control too. Thank you for the compliment, dear. I guess I did said what I thought about you when I created "The Land Of The Hubpages", my beautiful Witch. :)

    Prasetio : Thank you, Pras. I hope I do inspire people. It will make all the works is worthy.

    SilentReed; Agree. It is all inside which came out to outside and soar to everyone who seen it. Thank you, SilentReed. :)

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    Debra Allen 6 years ago from West By God

    I made a hub for the reunion an stuff: http://hubpages.com/hub/Avon-Reps-On-HubPages

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    Sa`ge 6 years ago from Barefoot Island

    My dear Freya, to dance on your tabs is about all the dancing I can manage this time in my life, and I am happy that you allow me to do that. :D hugs :D

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    Neverletitgo 6 years ago from Minneapolis, MN

    Freya, I like your definition of beauty and the you are proud of your self and what you believe. Thanks for sharing your idea. Let me say sis you are wisewomen.

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    Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

    Lady G: Reunion an stuff? Sound interesting.

    Sa'ge: Anything for you, dear Wizard. I am happy to know you in my life. :)

    Neverletitgo: I don't know if I am wise or not, But it is always in my pray, for God to give me his wisdom. Alhamdullilah, if I able to reach it even only a small wisdom only. Thank you, Neverletitgo. I will visit you soon. :)

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    carolina muscle 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

    This is beautiful, Freya !!

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    Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

    Thank you, Carolina. \^o^/

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    Kotori 6 years ago from Chicagoland

    There is an essay by Will Shetterly called "Naturally Unnatural: The Postnatural Politics of the Uglies Series" that addresses many of these unnatural versions of human beauty.

    http://www.smartpopbooks.com/1128

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    Micky Dee 6 years ago

    She's that barefoot wahini!

    Smoother than a Lamborghini.

    The Island wine

    that has gotten so fine.

    To some,

    She's an intoxicating rum.

    Drink her in and you will find,

    She soothes and lifts your mind.

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    Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

    Kotori: Ah, yes. I did see your link. Interesting indeed. Thank you already showed me this essay. :)

    Micky Dee: Ah, I love your rhyme! Hehehe. Very true. Indeed, Sa'ge really something, right? Hehehe. Thank you, dear.

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    Cathy Nerujen 6 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

    A wonderful tribute to beauty and what it truly means. So many are used to being judged on their appearance, and often the real person and what lies on the inside begging to be seen and discovered - is ignored or swept aside. It's nice to see it told as it should be. And this is told with such feeling. You have a way of disarming your readers, and make us almost float out of our seats. :)

    Happy to rate you up, and thanks for an excellent hub.

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    Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

    Ah, you are so kind. I love your comment. Really make my day. Thank you dear. \^o^/

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    Micky Dee 6 years ago

    Oh how I love that Freya.

    You know- so many people want to be ya!

    If I were a hound-dog I would tree ya.

    Happy New Year and soon - I want to see ya!

    God bless you my dear Freya!

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    Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

    Micky Dee, dear, you are so sweet. But I don't think many people want to be me. Hehehe... God bless you too, King Micky.

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