How to Find the Perfect Fitting Bra for Woman With a Big Chest
Okay, here is more than I usually admit, but I am naturally a 34J. I'm not going to tell you tales of backaches, name-calling, or anything like that, but having a larger chest is not all that it's cracked up to be. I'm lucky that I don't appear as big as I am with clothes on. During my freshman year in college, I complained to a friend that my chest went up a cup size. A girl that lived across the hall peeked her head in the room and asked, "Are you talking about Angie's breasts? Yeah, they're big!" I was then a 34D.
Another story, my daughter, when I first adopted her, said to me at the dinner table shortly after she moved in, "How come you have such big boobs?" My husband excused himself as I could see his back shaking with laughter. Still, I will say I am fortunate, for the most part, that I don't look as big as most girls with triple D+ girls do.
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How To Find the Right Bra
TIPS IN BUYING THE RIGHT BRA
Now, after ten years of bra hassles and annoyances, I have finally started being able to buy a bra in my size that looks cute for my husband and for me, while also not costing me a pretty penny. Here are my tricks:
First Make Sure It Fits Well: I strongly recommend getting measured, and not just by anybody, but someone who has experience measuring sizes. I always try to pick the Victoria Secret lady I recognize, which means they have been at it longer. Then once you are measured, look for cute bras in your size and try them on.
Things to look for when trying on bras. When trying on a bra, you need to make sure it looks good as well as fitting in the proper places. Here is a very basic list:
- The straps are snug on shoulders, but if you pull them off, there still is support. The straps should be there for extra comfort and perkiness, but should not be the sole support system.
- The band around your chest should be snug, but not tight around your torso. The band should also be parallel to the ground and does not ride up your back. If it rides up, then you need a smaller bandwidth. For instance, if you are wearing a 40 and it is riding up your back, then go to a 38 and see if it's snug but comfortable.
- The portion in between the breasts should be flat on your chest. If you can drop a quarter in it like it's a slot, then it's not the right bra for you. There should be no gap between your chest and the little portion between the cups.
- The breast cups should contour perfectly to your chest. There should be no gap between the pad and your chest, nor should you have what my friend so eloquently calls "butt boob," where your chest bubbles out of your chest, which is the hardest part for those of us who have more substantial, more shapely breasts. Some of us rounder, some of us more elongated, so what fits one person with your size might not fit you.
- How Does It Look Under A T-shirt? Put on a light t-shirt over your bra to see how it looks under a t-shirt, which is so incredibly important because there are bras I thought were good, then when I put them on, I noticed I had some overflowing action happening.
If you are like me, Isabella Snow has an awesome website that gives excellent bras that would be excellent for those who are skinny, yet larger chested. I also have placed three of the bras she recommends for bigger chested women that I found on Amazon throughout this page if you are interested.
Make Sure There Is No Gap Between You and Your Bra
Big Chest Insecurities
Bathing Suit Shopping: Of course, in a bathing suit, I can't hide my natural endowedness. I don't like wearing swimsuits unless they are intended for grandmas, but you also don't feel sexy in a grandma bathing suit. My dad's comment came while wearing a bikini that I was initially excited to find. It was my first and last bikini I ever bought.
Bathing suit shopping is akin to having a pelvic exam. No, I take that back, even my pelvic exams do not lead to the same embarrassment often found during bathing suit shopping. All for the same reason as everyone else, the tummy, but also because my chest does not fit in typical bathing suit tops.
Triangle tops look ridiculous. A larger chested woman must choose between covering the nipple or the bottom of the breast because a typical triangle top will not cover both. The square top looks great, but often you must buy a much larger size top than a bottom. Unless the top and bottoms are sold separately, you are out of luck.
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Modesty for Bigger Busted Woman
I Had To Throw Modesty Out The Window... To A Degree: Now, I know some girls would love to have a large chest. I'm lucky, and in some ways, I'm happy with my size. But I will have to say; shirts never look as cute on me as they do the thinner flatter chested woman. Now, I am slim. I have large hips, large chest, but my stomach is flat, and I am well in my range of healthy weights.
I used to be completely modest and refused to wear anything that was slightly low-cut because I would have cleavage. Low to the degree that smaller chested women would not have cleavage, and it would look modest on them, but I always felt like I could not find cute clothes.
It was several years after I got married that I gave up on trying to be completely modest because it was nearly impossible when you have a large chest. People think tight shirts and low cut shirts are immodest. Unfortunately, if you get a shirt that is loose on the top, your waist drowns in it, and you look much heavier than you would with a more form-fitting t-shirt.
Then there's the low cut issue. Seriously, find a non-low cut, a non-tight fitting shirt that does not make you look huge, and I'll buy it! Unfortunately, they don't sell. I have found myself forever addicted to camisoles under low cut form-fitting shirts. Since I don't want to say peek-a-boo to everyone, camisoles are a must.
Gawkers: Since I gave up trying to be completely modest, I do find there are shirts I don't feel comfortable wearing. When you are larger chested, if you choose to show it off, guys and girls alike will stare. When that happens, the shirt goes in the Goodwill pile, and I make a mental note on not buying that style again.
Now, I know that people don't gawk at my chest just because they are lusting after me, but because well, they are there, and it's like looking at someone with a big zit on their face, and you're trying your hardest not to stare! Fortunately, waisted empire shirts are a good look on me that does not encourage gawkers, does not drown my waistline, and coupled with a cami can make a very modest choice.
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The Bra Buying Issue: I think the worst part of all this is bra shopping. DD is standard for 40DD people, but when you are thin and larger chested, forget it. IMPOSSIBLE. I have fewer fingers and toes than how many times I have gone bra shopping and left crying.
I remember the first time I went from 34D to 34DD, and I was pushing DDD right then. The Victoria Secret Lady said, "I'm sorry, we don't have anything in that size. Really? Nothing in that size? You are Victoria Secret for goodness sakes. It was about three years after that they started selling my size, and only one cute bra. Since then, they have begun marketing to us more awkwardly shaped, skinny ribs, larger chests. I partly think it's because of the increase in breast implants, or my mom feels that girls today are growing bigger boobs because of hormones in meat. For whatever reason, Victoria Secret finally sells my size with more choices to choose.
© 2010 Angela Michelle Schultz