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The Panty Revolution: Why Men In Lingerie Matter

Updated on October 13, 2009

Why Do You Think As You Do?

Some might say that this sort of thing is heralding the decline of Western Civilization, (along with the atheist homosexual agenda, whatever that may be), but it is undeniable that many things that once were firmly stuck in the closet have been coming to light over the last decade or so. Just a few months ago, same sex couples were granted the right to marry in California, and in the years prior to that, same sex marriage, or civil unions became a reality in several countries. It's not just the gay community which has benefited from this new freedom however, it is also the straight community, who can now be freer about their proclivities and desires in ways that would have been career destroying in the 1980's.

Men who like to wear lingerie, for instance, can now do so more openly than ever before. Several of my readers have written to me, or commented on how they quite often shop for lingerie in stores, not in a surreptitious manner, but openly and forthrightly. Not only are they not daemonized and cast out of the store for wanting to purchase bras or panties, they quite often report receiving exemplary service from the store clerks. Whilst not all men who like lingerie may enjoy this extent of purchasing freedom, it is none the less a step in the right direction that those souls who do brave the public eye, are more often than not, treated no differently from any other customer.

Whilst there are some negative aspects to the opening of society (because that's really what is happening here, we don't have more gay people, or more men who want to wear lingerie than we ever did, its just that these people are no longer forced to hide in quite the same fashion as they once were), there are also benefits. With increased exposure comes increased understanding, not just of others, but of ourselves, and the way society works.

Though you probably wouldn't think it to read all these articles, the wearing of panties or a bra by a heterosexual man is hardly what I would call red letter news. They're simply scraps of fabric which mean nothing in themselves, but which have been invested with meaning and significance by society at large. For a man to wear them, taboos and boundaries must be stretched, if not shattered. Some people find this disturbing. The idea of a man in lingerie can even be sickening to these people - yet if you covered the same guy with a T-shirt instead - simply a differently shaped piece of fabric, everything would be okay.

Men wearing lingerie pushes our ideas of masculinity, and challenges the inbuilt social programming which we are subjected to from an early age. This is not always pleasant, and many people will reject the idea, calling it gross, and even 'wrong'. If they took the time to think about it in a more abstract sense, they might be surprised at the vehemence they reacted with. If we'd been raised from babies to believe that men wore skirts and women wore slacks and that lacy panties were for boys, would we then be disgusted to see a man in a pair of y-fronts? Probably.

The choice then is do we see beyond the artificial constructs which frame society, forcing us all into little boxes denoted by dress, accessories, and toys, or do we look beyond those things to the things that matter, kindness, humanity, love, acceptance, tolerance.

I'm not saying everyone should love men in lingerie any more than I am saying everyone should love pistachio nuts, but I do think there is something to be gained from looking at ourselves and why we think the way we do about these issues.


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      9 years ago

      I started wearing panties, when i was around 12 years old. I use to sneak in my sisters or mom room and grab a pair to put on. Ever since, I been wearing panties every day for the last 20-25 years now. They are Super Comfortable to wear. Also I don't have any Men Briefs, No More.

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      Hope Alexander 

      9 years ago

      Good for you iwhcpanties! I'm glad your wifs is becoming more at ease! :)

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      9 years ago

      Hey Hope! Well my wife is more at ease now with me in panties and I even own some for myself and she doesn’t bother me and will even wear them as well. I still keep it simple with Hi-cut style and few colors. She knows it is not to flaunt/exposé etc and is becoming ok with it. Again I think the real key is to not be the in your face style because it will always be in conflict. As for likewhatiam you go girl! I have found that there are a lot of sales clerks out there who would love to help men look for and purchase lingerie! I have a few special places I like to go just to try things on and they have always been very happy to help.

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      9 years ago

      i wear panties all the time. they are very soft to your body. i never wear mens anymore. i like the lacy type the best. my wife gave me some of hers to wear. i wear them even when i have to go to the doctors. if they do not like so be it. vanity fair and bali are my favorites.

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      9 years ago

      I have purchased the Activskin Comfilon tights. I own about 6-7 pairs. I have with and without fly, footed and footless. I had a pair of the pantyhose at one time but I dont own them anymore. As for other leggings and tights, etc., I happen to own them. I wear them with jeans to show color through destroyed denim. I also wear to the gym under shorts, will also wear with biking workout. Nudes, black, navy, tan are ok. As time progresses more men will get used to it. i have seen sever guys wearing them while biking. They were not leggings or bike tights but actual tights. try it!

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      10 years ago

      Pantyman....why not go now it is close to valentines day, you may be surprised just how many men you see in the lingerie section, don't try telling me they are ALL buying for wife/ girlfriend, i don't even think twice about it anymore, when i first started wearing panties i would watch the panty section in a store and wait until nobody else was around and if anybody else came to look while i was looking i would walk away, now i don't care who is around i just walk over to the panties and start shopping, do get some dirty looks from ladies as they walk away though!!

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      Panty Man 

      10 years ago from Indiana, USA

      Very good article but....

      I am not ready to go out in public by myself and shop for panties. I order online and have them shipped to my home.

      Thank you!

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      10 years ago

      In regard to "normal" I find it amazing that killing,etc for a political agenda,etc (war) is so accepted as "normal". Yet it is far more destructive,not to mention the 10 commandments. And in an age where we like to think of ourselves as enlightened,we still use things like this to divide each other. God knows if we were all alike (as the us against them crowd would like) It would be boring. And to those who talk negative about us, think how We have brightened YOUR life. You NOW have a topic for discussion and YOU can now feel better about yourself (as you NOW have someone to look down on. ALL thanks to us. incidentally I am male,yet have worn panties,etc. since my teens. And I am not shamed. The shame is derived from the Idea ,I am emulating an inferior creature (totaly untrue). And it is further evidenced by slack,menswear style, boyshorts,etc for women. Lets see FEMWEAR for MEN.

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      nylon panties 

      10 years ago

      Great article and I must agree, I see more & more single guy's looking AND touching panties which I am sure , a lot of them are buying them for themsleve's. I have been wearing nylon panties for the last 15 years or so. I actually wore panties during the majority of my military obligation. Towrads the end, one female soldier did see the lace band of my yellow nylon panties but I was never confronted on it. Eben though i do not wear bras (out in public) or dresses, I do wear panties 24/7 and do not even own any mens underwear at all.

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      10 years ago

      You are the best Hope! Todays society is far different than 20 years ago. Change has taken place in much of our clothing, but society still can't handle men in something silky, satiny, soft and feminine. Heaven forbid a man finds his other side. Time may help, lets hope the manufactures don't make everything cotton!!

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      10 years ago

      Popular culture extolls the virtues of individuality but just try being an individual. Now there's trouble!

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      10 years ago

      I have been crossdressing for a few years and am caring less who knows as most people I know dont mind, a few snigger but so what. This last weekend for the first time I came across the female very anti attitude. I had told my brother-in-law that I crossdress recently and when I when I started to wind his wife up that I was going to wear a dress to a wedding she immediately came out with the usual rubbish that if her husband did that she would divorce him immediately. She was wearing pants at the time!!!

      I just wish that I could wear a dress to go shopping, down the pub or whatever without anyone taking any notice. The nearest I can get is to wear lingerie.

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      10 years ago

      This is the type of dialog that promotes thoughtful consideration... at the end of the day it may not lead to understanding, but perhaps it can lead to acceptance at best and indifference at worst.

      Nice topic and good writing.

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      Christoph Reilly 

      10 years ago from St. Louis

      As long as they aren't hurting anybody, adults should feel free to express themselves in whatever manner they desire. It takes all kinds. Thanks for a great Hub.

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      Hally Z. 

      10 years ago from Madison, Wisconsin

      Hmm...this is a news flash for me- I do know of men's liingerie, made specifically for men, but what is a man going to put into a bra? Hmm?

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      10 years ago

      Another really good and inspirational article. Your articles really helped me find more good looking lingerie and insights why I like lingerie that much;)

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      Steven Katz 

      10 years ago

      We have been pushing the gender envelope for 10 years, offering legwear (tights, pantyhose, stockings, and other hosiery for men). We now have a good variety of briefs, loungewear, lingerie, and sleepwear in nylon (opaque and sheer) and at very reasonable prices. Need a slip for your kilt or stockings and garter? Check us out.

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      10 years ago

      Thanks for writing yet another thought provoking article, Hope. As a man who loves wearing panties, hosiery etc. I am constantly amazed at the lack interest or moral indignation of men wearing so called feminine garments; mostly by women. The perception that we must be gay is disconcerting to say the least, given that we live in a so called liberated age. Given that women often challenge these boundaries more frequently than men; one would think that they would be far more receptive. Alas, this is not so...

      I find the attitude to be hypocritical. Yes, it is understood that it is not the 'norm' for men and that women may be shocked or even outraged by the idea initially, or they may feel threatened that their man might be gay. However, when it finally does come out and they find out that he is not in fact gay, the response is still almost invariably negative.

      We constantly hear from our female friends about how they are always looking for guys that are more sensitive and more open minded but that door does not swing both ways... well not usually. An odd kind of double standard don't you think?

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      10 years ago

      I personally go to my favourite lingerie shop where my sales clerk remembers my size as well as the panties and styles that I like and she does this with a smile and not a sarcastic one either as she is of the opinion that my money is as good as anyone else's. The fact that a man buys and wears lingerie to her makes no difference as all it does is increase her profit margins.


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