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The Paranoid Man's Guide To Wearing Lingerie

Updated on October 13, 2009

Wearing lingerie can be a lot of fun and a source of joy and solace in a man's life. However, coming to the place where wanting to wear lingerie is something you can accept about yourself can be difficult. I know and am sympathetic to the fact that not all men who wear lingerie are at the “Oh my! Look at me in my fabulous panties!” stage just yet.

Here are some tips just for you guys, I hope they prove useful in your lingerie journeys and dreams.

Don't Throw Lingerie Away

Men who are coming to terms with the fact that they wear lingerie often buy a few pieces and then panic and throw them all away. Please, for the sake of your wallet, don't do this. Buy a safe or hollow out room under the floor boards if you must, but don't buy lingerie then throw it away. It is such a waste and you will regret it every time. These boards are full of men who have been through exactly the same experiences as you, thrown away entire collections of lingerie and regret it deeply.

Talk To Others

The He Wears Panties site has a forum for men who wear lingerie, or you can just Google around on the Internet and find other like minded males. Talking to them will help you understand and accept yourself for who you are and realize that you are part of a greater community. It's not all filthy talk either, men who wear lingerie do tend to be quite thoughtful and intelligent people.

Love and Lingerie

If you're single, congratulations. You're in a much better position than those married for years with spouses who don't have the faintest inkling. The next relationship you have can be the one in which your desire to wear lingerie is embraced and enjoyed. If you happen to be in the latter category, you don't need to panic either. Depending on how you introduce it to your partner, you may find he or she is actually quite receptive. I've written tomes on the subject already, so have a browse around the other articles to find advice on how to break it to your loved ones.

Final Words

The good news is this. You are not alone in your desires, nor are you an abberation. There have always been men who wanted to wear women's clothing, and indeed, vice versa, though women who wear men's clothing are almost invisible in modern society due to the fact that it is hard to distinguish them from the women wearing women's clothing.

It's such a common phenomenon in fact, that I can't help but think that it has some kind of evolutionary adaptive purpose, or perhaps is attached to something which does. Nobody really knows why many men love to wear various pieces of women's clothing, and the reason is, in some ways, irrelevant. People should live their lives in such a fashion as makes them happy. All the evidence points towards you having just one life, (okay, there is some evidence for reincarnation, but you won't reincarnate as the same person you are now anyway, so that is moot,) go out and live it!


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      9 years ago

      I could never look like the model in the photo above but I would love to have a 'his 'n hers' outfit like that ! What fun together.

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      9 years ago

      Your just perfect! Thanks Hope!

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      9 years ago

      Great advice to Not throw away lingerie. I have done this several times over my lifespan and the hit in the wallet is not the worst part. I look back and think of some of the fabulous items I "purged" and cannot replace because some items and styles are just no longer available. I say, "Love your Lingerie!" If there is doubt, put it away but do not destroy it. When you want it or need it again (and you will), it will be waiting to caress you once again.

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      Waren E 

      9 years ago from HAS LEFT THE BUILDING............

      LOL...I still feel paranoid, a pair of tight Levi Jeans is as close to that Lingerie feeling I may ever have,my extreme muscles and beer belly would have it no other way!


      Just kidding...

      about the beer belly part...LOL!:D

      p.s i hope the words "beer belly" is not penalizable here?

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      9 years ago

      I do enjoy reading your hubs, Hope. Thanks.

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      9 years ago

      I love to read your articles, keep on;)

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      9 years ago

      Thank you Hope for your wisdom and insight on this. It is very much appreciated.


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