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Too Short Dresses And Skirts- The Equivalent Of Wearing A Tee

Updated on April 19, 2016

Very practical for shopping at Target Courtney

Courtney Stodden
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Don't let your lady parts hang out

We ladies have a responsibility to ourselves to figure out what is appropriate in public and yes, I do take issue with the trend of wearing what I call the equivalent of a tee. They are also known as dresses and skirts that are too short. These things are not dresses or skirts because they barely cover the derriere and if you plan on walking, sitting, or breathing, they ride up! Heck, my cheer leading "bloomers" or my figure skating dresses provide more coverage than some of these "dresses." I cringe for the teens and twenty-somethings that I see wearing them and cringe even more when I see women in their 30's, 40's, and 50's wearing them. My mini skirts that my dad once lamented over would be considered very modest if he were still alive to compare them to the extremely short "dresses" and skirts seen today.

In the unfortunate and overwhelming majority of cases, when a skirt or dress is too short, it does not flatter the wearer in the least. What is going on? Why is it "trendy" to bare all in the equivalent of a tee? I look away and pray for brain bleach when I catch a glimpse of the atrocities that are often hanging out (I'm talking about body parts that should not see the light of day in public places) but many people don't. Even worse it's common for people to talk badly and loudly about that female simply because they've crossed paths while she is dressed in this manner. Some people refuse to change the subject even if you try. So ladies if this type of treatment will ruffle your feathers, it's highly recommended that you refrain from wearing the equivalent of a tee or wearing dresses and skirts that are simply too short.

Dear Chrissy Teigen, this is unacceptable in public as well!

There are NO words or excuses for this and how on earth was her hubby okay with it?
There are NO words or excuses for this and how on earth was her hubby okay with it? | Source

Wear what flatters you...without the need to adjust frequently

Also, it should be noted that not everyone is of an age or mindset to repel or positively handle the nonsense that comes with these attention grabbing skirts and dresses and not everyone has the body to wear them. But hey, that doesn't stop a fairly large portion of girls and women from wearing dresses and skirts that are too shor. Why not wear something that makes you look and feel good about yourself rather than wear something that makes you look and feel timid while wearing it?

If you have to pull and tug on your short skirt or dress, that's a good warning sign in itself. If something fits your body properly, you shouldn't have to pull, tug, readjust frequently. If one cares to note, it's ironic to see some women wearing skirts or dresses that are too short pull and tug every few seconds to maintain "modesty" when the easiest solution would have been to choose something else to wear. There are extremely few people who can moon others and not even bat an eyelash with embarrassment and so we are down to literally a few dozen supermodels and other models that slip into them because they get paid to do so. But what is going on with the women and girls who pay money for these getups?

A short black uber mini. Great if you don't walk, breathe, sit, etc.

An extremely short black mini.
An extremely short black mini. | Source

Save exposing both sets of cheeks for the beach. Thanks!

Even the members of the small, exclusive, and willowy supermodel crowd are more often seen out and about in more modest choices unless they are on the beach, near a pool, or near a hot tub. Extremely short dresses and skirts are often passed over by supermodels outside of work hours...I wonder why. On smart ladies of all ages and backgrounds you will see short shorts/shorts, mini-skirts and mini-dresses but, the smart ladies' choices will reach a bit closer to the middle of the thighs at least but would never expose their butt cheeks. Perhaps these more modest but still attractive and fashionable choices cause shivers up the spines of those that love wearing the equivalent of a tee but anyone can be beautiful, sexy, slightly more modest, and fashionable by choosing a little more coverage.

So ladies, what's the reason that people are wearing the equivalent of a tee often in the most inappropriate of places? Is it attention, a misguided sense of beauty or a misguided sense of being a woman? Is it some strange "phase?" We all have "burn it" responses to at least one photo of ourselves in cringe worthy outfits whether by our own hand or that of our good friends that force us into horrific bridesmaid dresses. Perhaps wearing short dresses and skirts fits into this realm as well. However, when panties or genitalia can be seen during normal actions such as standing, sitting, bending over, or breathing, this is definitely a problem when it comes to the perception of the wearer by those surrounding her.

  • If you have to pull and tug every few minutes or seconds to avoid exposing yourself, choose something else to wear.
  • If you cannot sit down without your underwear (or eew, lack thereof) touching a seat, choose something else to wear or put some shorts, tights, leggings, or jeans under that shirt or tube top...face it, that's what it is!
  • If you stand, walk, or bend over and your derriere gets exposed, choose something else to wear or put some shorts, tights, leggings, or jeans under that shirt or tube top...face it, that's what it is!

When is a hot mama too hot?

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Nice save but you could have saved yourself the trouble with a slightly longer choice Pippa!
Nice save but you could have saved yourself the trouble with a slightly longer choice Pippa! | Source

When a tennis skirt or a figure skating dress leaves more to the imagination than a particular dress or skirt in your closet, you would probably present yourself in a more positive and attractive way by choosing a cute pair of shorts or leggings to go underneath or by choosing something just a bit longer to wear. If you are trying to impress a guy, please note that a guy who is or will become serious about you and a relationship with you likely doesn't want his girl/lady dressing in a way that exposes too much.

Even if you don't want a relationship or don't want to be "serious" with a guy, we are judged by how we look and misunderstandings can and often do arise simply because of a too short dress or skirt. While assumptions aren't always fair or right, this is the reality we must deal with and even incorrect first impressions can have negative and lasting impacts on you in a variety of ways.

For instance, if you like to dress in very short dresses and skirts, even if it's outside of your place of work or your school, you will be at risk for being stereotyped to your detriment whether socially, career wise, or both. Before I began working from home, my boss, a colleague and I went for a meal after work. Admittedly, another coworker was off work that day but she showed up for what appeared to be a date at the same restaurant in the equivalent of a tee. We all needed brain bleach to get rid of the image of several things hanging out of her "dress" whether on her upper or lower torso. The professional image we thought we knew had been thoroughly wiped out. Other people were staring and saying a variety of bad or funny things out loud. We cringed for her as a group and didn't know what to do.

She came over to the table to say hi, we all spoke briefly but it was very awkward. We were stunned because the image at work and the presentation before us did not fit together. All our boss could do was shrug his shoulders to the people who then started staring at us in their attempts to figure out how she knew us. I blurted out that we work together and that really made the people at the table next to us confused because we were dressed professionally and she was dressed...professionally at the opposite end of the spectrum. I tried to answer the puzzled looks on their faces but my answer only prompted more puzzled looks so I gave up talking. I knew that even if I said we work in an office park at XYZ mortgage company, they would still be puzzled. Our boss said that was what he is terrified of having to deal with when his daughter grows up. None of us ever looked at her in the same light again after seeing things only someone who was being intimate with her should see. We saw those things in public and it was very awkward thereafter.

There are so many ways to show the world how awesome we are. We don't have to dress like...professionals. We can be beautiful, sexy, fashionable standouts without showing every possible inch of skin. We can also show off all our other, more valuable assets such as our intelligence, independence, creativity, various accomplishments, talents, heart, business smarts, sports skills, laughter, etc. Not dressing in the equivalent of a tee can also ward off at least a few of the idiots that want only one thing and can also ward off some negative commentary by those who may see you while you are in that type of attire (pools, hot tubs, and beaches are excluded in most people's opinions). Otherwise, please leave the tee shirt length dresses and ultra-miniskirts on the racks or at home.

Have you ever worn a dress that was too short?

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      H C Palting 5 months ago from East Coast

      Mini skirts, short shorts, etc. are fine as long as things that are private remain so. The problem is when your butt cheeks, genitalia, underwear or lack thereof are showing. A lot of women and girls take it to the extreme and show everything and get angry when they are told to cover up or are called derogatory names.

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      yunaida 5 months ago

      It's a great feeling and confident as well as comfortable for me wearing mini skimpy dresses, I wear for myself to look good, my boyfriend always give positive compliment to me and he proud of me.

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      H C Palting 18 months ago from East Coast

      I agree Trotter2099. The most beautiful and smartest women know that these types of clothes are not flattering, uncomfortable, and quite limiting in more ways than one.

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      trotter2099 18 months ago from United Kingdom

      Too shot is too short. It is very unattractive seeing a woman in a very short skirt constantly tugging at it and trying to prevent it riding up. Or squirming about while sitting so that the skirt doesn't reveal the thong they are wearing.

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      H C Palting 3 years ago from East Coast

      I agree with your points Diana and you've got me thinking too :) Here in the US it is not a regional or cultural tradition for us ladies to go bare breasted as we run errands, attend meeting or ceremonies, etc. but it certainly is in other parts of the world.

      Like you I have also noticed that a lot of young girls and women are wearing the uniforms of sex objects. It is their right, I just can't understand why anyone would want to wear something they cannot walk, bend over or sit down in without flashing their underwear, rear end or genitalia. I continue to be stunned by the wide range of girls and women who do this and they literally do it anywhere. At various events, walking down the street, grocery stores, in schools, at work, funerals, weddings, literally anywhere. I feel embarrassed for them.

      I think shorts and mini skirts are fine unless all sorts of private things are made public. If the wearer must constantly pull and tug to maintain some modesty, then that is the sign they should have taken note of when they got dressed. Unless one is in the world's oldest profession or behind closed doors with their lover, I feel there is simply no need or benefit to showing your larger set of cheeks, genitalia or underwear. Perhaps I am a prude in the minority with this thinking. Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

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      Diana Grant 3 years ago from London

      You've set me thinking. So much of this seems to depend on regional etiquette, and the motive behind the way people dress. I do find myself disapproving sub-consciously of women and even small girls revealing "too much" skin. I feel the women are making themselves sex objects, and the children don't understand what peer pressure and marketing are doing to their image. And yet, and yet....on the beach (and only on the beach, not in seaside shopping malls) I like to see people in scanty sun-worshipping outfits - but not bare-breasted, which I find slightly embarrassing.

      Yet - here is the strange thing - I am reasonably happy with genuine nudism and feel that coyness about the human body is actually unnatural. And in parts of Africa (where I lived) and other parts of the world, it didn't seem wrong to me that it was considered quite normal for women to have bare breasts and for people to be very scantily dressed. I don't feel at all uncomfortable about that.

      I have noticed, though, that when professional women wear revealing outfits, and show a lot of thigh or cleavage in professional situations like parliament, TV interviews, and projecting a business image, they are immediately involuntarily down-graded in my brain and I have to consciously fight these thoughts to raise these women to the intellectual height of their non-flashing peers.

      It's all in our heads, really, isn't it?

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      H C Palting 3 years ago from East Coast

      This is an unfortunate lesson in supply and demand Ksenija. If there were not women and girls buying these things, more would not be made. Even high schools are setting even more strict clothing rules due to plunging necklines and soaring hemlines that always threaten to show parts that should be private. While some designers are women, many are men, some of whom prefer to make clothes for the female body without regards to their preferences, size, shape, etc.

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      Ksenija 3 years ago

      Dresses and skirts are made too short and I just bypass them on the store racks. I look for quality below the knee length (just enough to cover my knees) but those are so hard to find and IF you do they are so horribly patterned or too circular. Sometimes I wonder who the hell are designing these cuts. Where has all the sense gone from ladies wear???????????????????????? I have seen so many nice dresses that get UNSOLD and on clearance racks because they are NOT being bought due to being a bit short (if they were just a big longer with a wider bodice - so many fit too tightly or too snugly that the whole dress is ruined). The cuts are just NOT made for a woman's body. Often too wide at the neckline, an inch too short, and too tight in the bodice . It is such a pity and I demand to know WHO ARE DESIGNING OUR DRESSES and CUTTING THE PATTERNS?

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      H C Palting 3 years ago from East Coast

      So you would allow your under aged daughter out and about in the Courtney Stodden "dress" at the very top of this article? Yeah, you know you would not. And that makes you a hypocrite. Name calling me as shallow and backward may make you feel better so I reciprocate.

      I disagree about being too judgmental but FULLY agree that people have the right to walk down the street unmolested regardless of their clothing choices but in reality things do not work out this way. There are laws that should not be broken but they are, every second of everyday. Saying that something should be a certain way doesn't necessarily make it so in reality.

      I never said that no one should be "allowed" to wear the equivalent of a tee shirt but if one's panties, cheeks, genitals, and what not are showing there is little likelihood that anyone can get past what they are wearing or take them seriously in anything. Beauty and sexiness do not require that every possible inch of skin be shown.

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      Caitlin 3 years ago

      I think you're being a bit too judgemental. Women (and men) have the right to walk down the street unmolested regardless of what they happen to be wearing. Just because you personally don't like it doesn't mean no one else should be allowed to wear it. I would argue that there does need to be more choice on the market, as a significant proportion of dresses and skirts on sale at the moment seem to be very short, but judging people based on their hemlines is both shallow and backward.

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      H C Palting 3 years ago from East Coast

      I am a lady and I don't want to be near these types either. I find it sad that so many equate showing skin to sexiness when in practice it most often equates to trashiness or worse.

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      Cuttler 3 years ago from HubPages

      Very true your sentiments are and agree with you I do. By the way as a man I I might stare at a woman in short skirts or revealing clothes but \I would never want to be seen walking or chatting with them, Its disrespectful to show what should be hidden and ladies have to realise that by revealing their bodies all they get are stares of pity and shame. Very nice and insightful hub. I like this very much. Shared all over and voted up.

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      It's good to know that some guys truly would like to use a little imagination, I hope that at least some of the girls that wear the equivalent of a tee take heed of what you and Frank have said here.

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      Oscar Jones 4 years ago from Alabama

      Wow!.. though I did some speed reading here, haha.. You were good enough to get a spot on well, daytime tv! very professional and delicately handled. Guys still like to use a little imagination!

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      Thanks so much for reading Torrilynn.

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      torrilynn 4 years ago

      Thanks for the hub it was very interesting to see your viewpoints on short dresses. Voted up

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      Just last week I actually saw a young "lady" in extremely short shorts that showed her cheeks while pushing a baby in a stroller on a busy boulevard near a shopping mall. That yard of thigh that you used to see on your morning coffee break is now a yard of thigh and maybe an inch or two of cheeks on some women/girls now. :( The only time or place I'm showing skin like that is while in a bikini at the pool or beach :)

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      Ralph Deeds 4 years ago from Birmingham, Michigan

      You mean that wasn't you in the black mini? When I was a young bachelor and mini skirts had just come on the scene we'd go down to the cafeteria for our morning coffee break and also get what we called a "yard of thigh!"

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      My sisters and I have been saying brain bleach for years. When you see things that you never wanted to, that's what can come to mind :)

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      Judy Specht 4 years ago from California

      "Brain bleach", is the best description for wishing you hadn't seen something I have seen in ages.

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      Christina Zayas 4 years ago from New York, NY

      Exactly!

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      I agree LeCityKitty. Showing more is often just that and more in this case isn't always better.

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      Christina Zayas 4 years ago from New York, NY

      That's really just too short.

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      I think that red strapless dress looks good on her but it takes a good deal of effort to not expose yourself either up top or below. My coworker that I described in the article had something on similar to this, only more clingy and even shorter! I agree there's a time and place for everything but it appears that some people don't know or ignore this. Thanks so much for reading.

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      I was venting a bit after a "situation" occurred in class filled with adults at my school. A student came in with an extremely short skirt and a lot of nonsense and distractions ensued. Let's just put it this way, someone loaned her a jacket to cover up so we could get on with the process of learning!

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      The young woman in the red strapless dress looks good. The woman wearing the black mini can pull it off since she has a slender figure; however, I agree with you with regards to length of this type of attire especially if you're going to sit down and with your legs crossed even worse. I live in Miami and go to Blue Martini all the time and you should see how many of these women dress.Even the bartenders wear tight corset tops with blue skin tight pants leaving nothing to the imagination. There is a time and place for everything. At work ladies, it's very important to dress professional either a navy blue or black pantsuit or pencil skirt and blouse with jacket. you can still dress sexy and looks classy without coming across as skanky. Great hub! voted ++

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      Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

      sometimes too little is too much..LOL what a refreshing article/hub express.. as a guy.. yeah maybe I do miss using my imagination.. :) voted up