Too Short Dresses And Skirts- The Equivalent Of Wearing A Tee
Very practical for shopping at Target Courtney
Don't let your lady parts hang out
We ladies have a responsibility to ourselves to figure out what is appropriate in public and yes, I do take issue with the trend of wearing what I call the equivalent of a tee. They are also known as dresses and skirts that are too short. These things are not dresses or skirts because they barely cover the derriere and if you plan on walking, sitting, or breathing, they ride up! Heck, my cheer leading "bloomers" or my figure skating dresses provide more coverage than some of these "dresses." I cringe for the teens and twenty-somethings that I see wearing them and cringe even more when I see women in their 30's, 40's, and 50's wearing them. My mini skirts that my dad once lamented over would be considered very modest if he were still alive to compare them to the extremely short "dresses" and skirts seen today.
In the unfortunate and overwhelming majority of cases, when a skirt or dress is too short, it does not flatter the wearer in the least. What is going on? Why is it "trendy" to bare all in the equivalent of a tee? I look away and pray for brain bleach when I catch a glimpse of the atrocities that are often hanging out (I'm talking about body parts that should not see the light of day in public places) but many people don't. Even worse it's common for people to talk badly and loudly about that female simply because they've crossed paths while she is dressed in this manner. Some people refuse to change the subject even if you try. So ladies if this type of treatment will ruffle your feathers, it's highly recommended that you refrain from wearing the equivalent of a tee or wearing dresses and skirts that are simply too short.
Dear Chrissy Teigen, this is unacceptable in public as well!
Wear what flatters you...without the need to adjust frequently
Also, it should be noted that not everyone is of an age or mindset to repel or positively handle the nonsense that comes with these attention grabbing skirts and dresses and not everyone has the body to wear them. But hey, that doesn't stop a fairly large portion of girls and women from wearing dresses and skirts that are too shor. Why not wear something that makes you look and feel good about yourself rather than wear something that makes you look and feel timid while wearing it?
If you have to pull and tug on your short skirt or dress, that's a good warning sign in itself. If something fits your body properly, you shouldn't have to pull, tug, readjust frequently. If one cares to note, it's ironic to see some women wearing skirts or dresses that are too short pull and tug every few seconds to maintain "modesty" when the easiest solution would have been to choose something else to wear. There are extremely few people who can moon others and not even bat an eyelash with embarrassment and so we are down to literally a few dozen supermodels and other models that slip into them because they get paid to do so. But what is going on with the women and girls who pay money for these getups?
A short black uber mini. Great if you don't walk, breathe, sit, etc.
Save exposing both sets of cheeks for the beach. Thanks!
Even the members of the small, exclusive, and willowy supermodel crowd are more often seen out and about in more modest choices unless they are on the beach, near a pool, or near a hot tub. Extremely short dresses and skirts are often passed over by supermodels outside of work hours...I wonder why. On smart ladies of all ages and backgrounds you will see short shorts/shorts, mini-skirts and mini-dresses but, the smart ladies' choices will reach a bit closer to the middle of the thighs at least but would never expose their butt cheeks. Perhaps these more modest but still attractive and fashionable choices cause shivers up the spines of those that love wearing the equivalent of a tee but anyone can be beautiful, sexy, slightly more modest, and fashionable by choosing a little more coverage.
So ladies, what's the reason that people are wearing the equivalent of a tee often in the most inappropriate of places? Is it attention, a misguided sense of beauty or a misguided sense of being a woman? Is it some strange "phase?" We all have "burn it" responses to at least one photo of ourselves in cringe worthy outfits whether by our own hand or that of our good friends that force us into horrific bridesmaid dresses. Perhaps wearing short dresses and skirts fits into this realm as well. However, when panties or genitalia can be seen during normal actions such as standing, sitting, bending over, or breathing, this is definitely a problem when it comes to the perception of the wearer by those surrounding her.
- If you have to pull and tug every few minutes or seconds to avoid exposing yourself, choose something else to wear.
- If you cannot sit down without your underwear (or eew, lack thereof) touching a seat, choose something else to wear or put some shorts, tights, leggings, or jeans under that shirt or tube top...face it, that's what it is!
- If you stand, walk, or bend over and your derriere gets exposed, choose something else to wear or put some shorts, tights, leggings, or jeans under that shirt or tube top...face it, that's what it is!
When is a hot mama too hot?
When a tennis skirt or a figure skating dress leaves more to the imagination than a particular dress or skirt in your closet, you would probably present yourself in a more positive and attractive way by choosing a cute pair of shorts or leggings to go underneath or by choosing something just a bit longer to wear. If you are trying to impress a guy, please note that a guy who is or will become serious about you and a relationship with you likely doesn't want his girl/lady dressing in a way that exposes too much.
Even if you don't want a relationship or don't want to be "serious" with a guy, we are judged by how we look and misunderstandings can and often do arise simply because of a too short dress or skirt. While assumptions aren't always fair or right, this is the reality we must deal with and even incorrect first impressions can have negative and lasting impacts on you in a variety of ways.
For instance, if you like to dress in very short dresses and skirts, even if it's outside of your place of work or your school, you will be at risk for being stereotyped to your detriment whether socially, career wise, or both. Before I began working from home, my boss, a colleague and I went for a meal after work. Admittedly, another coworker was off work that day but she showed up for what appeared to be a date at the same restaurant in the equivalent of a tee. We all needed brain bleach to get rid of the image of several things hanging out of her "dress" whether on her upper or lower torso. The professional image we thought we knew had been thoroughly wiped out. Other people were staring and saying a variety of bad or funny things out loud. We cringed for her as a group and didn't know what to do.
She came over to the table to say hi, we all spoke briefly but it was very awkward. We were stunned because the image at work and the presentation before us did not fit together. All our boss could do was shrug his shoulders to the people who then started staring at us in their attempts to figure out how she knew us. I blurted out that we work together and that really made the people at the table next to us confused because we were dressed professionally and she was dressed...professionally at the opposite end of the spectrum. I tried to answer the puzzled looks on their faces but my answer only prompted more puzzled looks so I gave up talking. I knew that even if I said we work in an office park at XYZ mortgage company, they would still be puzzled. Our boss said that was what he is terrified of having to deal with when his daughter grows up. None of us ever looked at her in the same light again after seeing things only someone who was being intimate with her should see. We saw those things in public and it was very awkward thereafter.
There are so many ways to show the world how awesome we are. We don't have to dress like...professionals. We can be beautiful, sexy, fashionable standouts without showing every possible inch of skin. We can also show off all our other, more valuable assets such as our intelligence, independence, creativity, various accomplishments, talents, heart, business smarts, sports skills, laughter, etc. Not dressing in the equivalent of a tee can also ward off at least a few of the idiots that want only one thing and can also ward off some negative commentary by those who may see you while you are in that type of attire (pools, hot tubs, and beaches are excluded in most people's opinions). Otherwise, please leave the tee shirt length dresses and ultra-miniskirts on the racks or at home.
Have you ever worn a dress that was too short?
© 2013 H C Palting