Why Hide When You're A Man Who Wears Women's Clothes?
I recently received the following comment on one of my articles, and I thought it raised a significant point, one that I've addressed before to be sure, but one that is worth addressing again.
Question: Why hide it? Let's keep pushing the frontier so that I can wear at work a visible lace cami just as freely as you can? I would love to embrace the sheer fabrics and layered look that the ladies in the office enjoy. Or, as one of the men who wears women's shoes, I would love to not have to 'camouflage' the fact with thick socks, and boldly wear sheer-toed stockings instead.
Your advice on HOW to hide it is good - no criticism. But let's also look for chances to change society so that we don't HAVE to hide it.
I agree with Chris, but unfortunately, from the experiences I've had writing for men who wear women's clothing over the years the reason why men 'can't' (they can if they want to, but it can be uncomfortable) wear women's clothing as freely as they would like to is because the population of men who wear women's clothing is divided, and it is divided quite unequally. For every man who truly wishes he could wear women's clothing in public, there appear to be several who would rather keep it a secret and enjoy the taboo.
The fact of the matter is, if wearing women's clothing becomes normal for men, then the very same men who now enjoy breaking the taboo will no longer be breaking the taboo. The joy will be gone.
The other fact of the matter is that if men wanted fashion equality, they would have it. If sufficient numbers of men just wore whatever they wanted (and there are men who do go out wearing whatever they want, including skirts and women's shoes, and more power to them,) then it would become a commonly accepted practice. The fact that it hasn't speaks more to the willingness of men to reclaim their fashion rights than it does to wider society.
You don't need a 'chance' to change society. You just go out and be who you are and let the chips fall where they may. If men who really want fashion equality did that, then society would be changed by the mere act of them existing in the public eye that way. As I mentioned earlier, some men are already doing this. Many men with an interest in fashion occasionally incorporate women's fashions into their attire, even fairly conservative and indeed, well known men like David Beckham, who often sports diamond earrings and eyeliner.
If men want it, they can have it. I always get howled down by a small group of the male cross dressing community who prefer to wallow in victim hood when I say this, but the simple fact of the matter is that women have the 'right' to wear 'men's' clothing because they just went out and wore it, and if men want to wear skirts, lace, high heels or whatever else, all they have to do is show that there is a demand, and it will invariably be met with supply, and indeed, inevitably, acceptance.