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Your Shoe Shopping and your Husband

Updated on October 5, 2017

How to get Him on board with your Shoe collection

Do you have a love for Shoes Heels Boots and Booties like I do ?

I am sure you have this love. Many Husbands and boyfriends also have this fetish but are somewhat ashamed to admit it. And some will complain about not only the cost of our shoe collection but the amount we have. Are you in this situation? I have been and I will explain why he complains and how to put a end to it. You will learn how to get him to Love your shoes and even offer to buy your more. Could that get any better?

How to get him in love with your shoes and even pay for them !

Understand What your shoes say about you to men .

How a man actually feels about your shoes !

I just love shoes I always have, the colors the styles. I just love nothing better than going out shoe shopping.I love looking down at my feet and seeing the pretty shoes I am wearing. Its a great feeling and a visual pleasure! However many women Especially married women have complained to me that they have husbands who complain about the quantity and even the cost of our shoe collections. I was among this crowd.The average man just don't appreciate us wearing them or even begin to comprehend this fetish of ours. This is our own fault and I am here to change that forever just as I have for my self. After all do we complain about the amount of fishing poles he has? ........Well ----- I am sure we have.

This actually began for me one night when my husband asked me to put my shoes on in bed. My first thought was Preposterous what for? I thought. No need for that!. However two evenings later He asked again and I declined. Especially since he has complained I have to many and said some are to high for work. I started to research the connection men have with women's shoes

For some reason wearing heels or boots is guaranteed to turn all men on. Especially in the bedroom.I’m not just guessing at this, I have spoke to men and researched through many online forums, chat sites , professional escorts and even phone sex operators as well as couples console-rs and life coaches.The verdict is that every single man has confessed with a drooling response about the thought of high heels in bed. From the most dominant male to the most submissive male.Most men found it difficult to fess up to this.

Men associate our shoes with sex period.No matter If the heels are high glossy exposed toe or not. Boots especially !! and different shoes have different meanings to men. Men also make a-lot of assumptions about us based on our foot wear. Yes even Mr conservative Johnny do good is looking at your shoes and having his own thoughts! And you would not believe what he is thinking!

I considered most of my shoe collection either formal wear or working shoes. I had not really ever put much thought into what others my think of my foot wear. If they appealed to me I bought them.I liked some of the attention they brought. Then I began paying attention. As it turned out I began to notice most men look at my feet first then work there way up . However I receive much more attention if I had heels on my feet than if I had on some plain tennis shoes. I noticed if I walked into a quiet place the noise of my shoes would get me attention. In-fact I even watched a women punch a mans arm because he was ogling my 5 inch bright red pumps ( which I was only wearing these for experimentation )

What men see in your shoes even when you think they don't notice

First of all nothing makes a man jump out of his seat more than the sound of a sweet pair of heels clacking across a hard office floor ! Men have a lot of deep seated silly fantasies especially involving sexy shoes.This is not just some men.

Black knee high boots or black solid pump He sees a powerful Mistress that will take control of him. Tall high gloss patent heels He is thinking of a knock me over and do me stripper. Conservative 3 inch pump He sees a sex crazed female boss or a cheating secretary. The list goes on ladies ! And to be honest we all know different shoes bring us different levels of feelings when we wear them from powerful and sexy to submissive and even feminine.

I have come up with a way for us to not only acquire more shoes but to even have him pay for them with a smile . It may seem a bit different but it is very very effective and will not only spice up your nights it will size up your collection!

I have done this myself and I found it fun and a bit exciting.

Whether you naked in the bedroom or dressed for business in the office, women in the highest heels get the most attention from men. Men are turned on by a woman in heels. We all know this and this is why we like them ourselves. You can deny this if you like however truth be told you wear them to be sexy .You wear them because they are sexy, they enhance your look. We all know open heels glittered up sandals and anything over three inches high are well not exactly law firm or a official business look. We just say it is! Your exposed feet and toes should be covered no matter how cute your pedicure may be. Exposed toes and big heels dance off the light and grab attention.This is sexy not business like and causing distraction. The only reason some are getting away with it is that in today's society is that employers have to be real careful not to say the wrong thing. As it could even be called discrimination and other issues. So why women are taking advantage of this?.

Because shoes turn men on

Because it reminds him of his deepest secret fantasies

Also shoes are becoming somewhat of a competition with other female workers.

A man thinks about an encounter with the librarian or his Boss or Secretary ,The girl next door or Totally being Pushed into submission by a hot dominatrix, a even an encounter with a high-class escort ! High heels connote erotic moments to men..

For many men the fantasy of a women in Heels is the most erotic moments of their life! So many men I have spoke with would love to be pushed into submission by a hot heel wearing mistress. However many of these men are married and have no clue how to even bring this to the partners attention.

Even the most manly of men confess to dreaming about coming home from work only to be forced into submission by the wife. Many of them fantasizing to submit to the point of even being forced to wear a pair or pink panties and heels themselves! Yes top lawyers and business men and even law enforcement officers have confessed to seeking out a professional dominatrix for this very type of encounter. Someone to put them in their place so to speak. Even if it is just for an hour or so as Mistress watches. Remember Heidi Fliess? her biggest repertoire was dominatrix style escorts. Are heels related to sex = Yes . What is a exotic dancers hottest part of her out fit ? The Shoes.

You already know some one who does this

We all know someone as a child, teen or even a man who has been caught trying on a pair of heels or even walking around in them. They may have acted if it was a joke or just curiosity. No matter how this person played it, he had a desire to put them on! as well as a desire for someone to see him in them. Guaranteed he still has that desire! Thousands of men admit that surrendering to a women is a huge fantasy and would love to be able to confess about it to the girlfriend or wife. Many of them just don't know how to express this side. Many are afraid that it will harm the relationship so they actually pay a professional to experience this. Men in high stress jobs such as police,lawyers, executives confess a need to submit to a strong women to help balance out their lives.

Sex for Women is more about an emotional state. For men, it’s all about creating an image in their mind and vision in the eye. Like when you show up in sexy high heels. They notice and start to feel some of their fantasies coming back. Toss on a pair of thigh highs as an extra boost and watch how he gets so turned on. He’ll want to tear your clothes off or take orders from you like a naughty child. It just depends on which shoes or boots you walked in the room with .You add in some dirty talk to him to that whole image and suddenly you’ll take him to another world.You will being bringing him what he has thought about since his childhood.

Taking control of him and your Situation

There are two ways to go about this :

1) Include your shoes in your sex life ( Yes wear them for him.)

After all if you were out on a date with a new man would you not have your sexiest pumps on ? I know I would.

2) Actually have him wear a pair of heels ( no Its not as silly as it may sound )

This will prove to be more rewarding than you ever imagined!

If your man is average size and under 220 pounds he would be a great candidate for wearing! If he is a big and burly kinda guy you may just need to turn him on by wearing them yourself.

Testing the waters !

Experiment a little just to see for yourself. One evening while he is sitting around like a couch potato Walk in the room with sexy heels on and sit next to him and put those heels in his lap and ask him the rub the top of your feet. Ask him if he likes your shoes. Ask him if they look sexy . Ask him to take one off and rub your foot for you. What you will find out is you just turned him on in more ways than he will admit

Now its time to take control

Take control of him mentally and visually over power him. One evening while he is in the shower sit your self on the bed wearing a knee high pair of black leather boots and a chemise. When he comes out of the shower watch his eyes open and go large ! Stop him from speaking. Tell him to kneel at your feet kiss your boots ! Tell him know from this moment forward you are in charge ! Ask him if he understands and have him kiss your boots again. Have him thank you for it.

At this point you can clearly see he is ready for your take charge attitude . Inform him he is to call you Mistress ____ ! Ask him if he is ready to do what ever you demand ! If he is not thrilled beyond belief he must have had a heart attack .

Anyhow this is where you order him to strip naked ! he will obey with no objections because he is thinking like men do and he is naked in a flash ! Now hold out a big pair of pink panties and order him to step into these panties for Mistress !

If there is any resistance just raise your voice and repeat what you said. It is important that you help put them on him as this is about you controlling him . Take your time as you fix them just right, talking about how he looks ( with your own words and thoughts ) dirty talk or not. He is now memorized by your new power and under your wicked spell. At this point you show him the pink or white glossy 3 inch pumps he is going to wear for you. Mistress knows you love my shoes so you are going to wear these for me ! Do you understand me ? Now be sure to put them on for him while telling him how nice they look . ( if he tries to prevent this from happening you simply again raise your voice and demand he comply ! He will put up some resistance because part of the fantasy is being forced by a women. However he will wiggle right into those heels for you with the smallest amount of coaxing. At this point its important to make sure he feels placed. Say something like well well would you look at you.You talk about my heels so much and now your wearing some ! you're a naughty girl for Mistress ! and look at this it looks like you like wearing heels for Mistress don't you ? as you point out his excitement!

Once he is wearing the fancy footwear his ultimate fantasy just came true.You now posses the power to do and say as you please , Have him serve you a drink or order him to go clean up the dinner dishes ! He is under your spell at this moment and will do anything to please you. Its up to you to figure out the rest of your wild night. Be assertive and demanding . He will love to submit to you. And as long as he has any gratification during this of any means.You could even order him to pleasure himself while you watch and coach him. This will ensure that he now knows his place and you now have the power you need.

No matter if you reward him by giving him his own sexy heels to wear or you just wear them to bed yourself He will instantly have a new found respect for you and your shoe collection. He will naturally want to add to your collection. Now can he really complain if he wears them too? or if you wore them for him in bed ? Not all men have submissive fantasies. However I did figure out that the majority of men that actually have a thing for heels would love to be forced into some. While others still may just rather see you in them there is a large majority that would love to submit. Remember its just role playing ladies ! and its actually pretty fun !

When you wear them yourself in the house on occasions aside from “business” for example when you go out for date night . He will appreciate them. Love the look of them and the noise they make on the floor. That noise is always has been an attention grabber. If you only wear them out with your friends or to work He will resent them and never like them. He will begin to think you wear them for other men and not him this is just how a man feels. And this is why he complained in the first place.As for the men who do not pay attention or not care what you are wearing or ever notice you. well maybe you should be checking on him from time to time.

Once you have involved this to your sex life you can use it for pleasure or even punishment.I specifically remember my aunt punishing my cousin. He was picking on my sister and constantly making fun of her pink shoes. My aunt told him several times to stop. He told my aunt to shut up! well next thing you know he was over her knee and after that he was put in a pair of pink heels and forced to stand in the corner for an hour. You may think I am crazy but I have used this instead of make up sex , many a time. I have ended many an argument by making him put on heels and giving him a light paddling. Although we hardly ever argue when we do the funny thing is now I win all the arguments. He always ends up saying I am sorry Mistress Tina. ( again its all just fun and games really )

Finding shoes for him

I prefer a nice 3 inch bright glossy patent classic style closed round toe pump for him.In a pink or white ( never a black or dark ) Dark colored shoes convey power to a man not submission or femininity. And since we are trying to capture his softer side (which they all have ) I say the more feminine the better ! I say 3 inch because they are not to tall for him and they still have that bright glossy sex appeal to them. A pair with ankle straps are even nicer because they take longer to put on and hard for him to just kick off. If you are looking to rush this with out going shopping keep in mind that a pair of your own cork based high wedges can do in a pinch . As they are usually stretchy on top and a man with bigger feet can just work right into a women's 9 wedge.Eventually you really should just buy some of his own.

No more complaints !!!!

You now have a husband who not only loves your shoes he wears them in private as well. Or if he is not wearing them you are now including them in your evenings. He has to believe that you are wearing them for him .You will not be hearing any more complaints ever.

Is this odd ? you may be thinking ?

The answer is NO . As a matter of fact way way back when High heels actually started they were a men's shoe. Can you believe it ? You may have a husband who has already done this but just is not able to begin to tell you. Then also consider the fact that today's heels really serve no good purpose other than to appeal to someones or our own eye. Its about looking good and looking sexy ! The truth is they are damn uncomfortable but we still love to wear them. We do it for attention we do it feel sexy and even desired . Also I have found may shoes available in Very large sizes. This should in itself tell you we ladies are not the only ones wearing them. I personally love how submissive and eager to please my husband gets when he is wearing them not to mention I love looking at shoes anyway.So seeing him in them is Hot to me! What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas . Whats wrong with a little fun in your own home?. You might wonder will it make him less of man? NO I think it takes a bigger man to --- shall I say ---step in and do this and want to please a women.Many women have already been doing this. And some women may already have charged your man for it!

How to find the right size shoe for a man to wear for you

The best choices are:

1) Classic 3 inch patent pump with ankle straps

2) Classic 3 inch patent pumps no strap

3) My favorite -Classic 3 inch patent Mary Jane's

Tall wedges are cute and a size 9 or 10 wedge can fit many sizes .

These are the styles submissive men actually prefer and love

Excellent websites to find loads of sexy shoes and plenty of bigger sizes


Men shoe size

men's 9 = women's 10

men's 10 = women's 11

men's 11 = women's 11.5

men's 12 = women's 12 and 13 for best fit

men's 13 = women's 14.


Glossy pumps are the most appealing to him especially if he is wearing them. They also make him feel more submissive.

Glossy pumps are the most appealing to him especially if he is wearing them. They also make him feel more submissive.
Glossy pumps are the most appealing to him especially if he is wearing them. They also make him feel more submissive.

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      2 years ago

      My husband wears heels all the time around my house when he helps me clean or we are role playing.They do have a way of putting a man in his place .

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      2 years ago

      Looksnlike she knows!

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      Mistress T 

      2 years ago

      Ever heard the saying-- "happy wife happy life" --My saying is: "Submissive husband Happy wife "

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      2 years ago

      I cant believe how fun this was trying. Boyfriend loved buying me heels anyway, Turns out he liked wearing them too ! ! !

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      2 years ago

      I think this advice is perfect. My husband is submissive and we role play close along these lines all the time. Definitely usable advice for those women who want to add some spice. A submissive husband makes a very happy wife.

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      2 years ago

      Hubby just loves shoes I want to try this just for the fun in it .


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