You Are Beautiful Just The Way You Are
Why Are We So Fascinated By Pictures Of Celebrities Without Makeup?
I was asked recently to write an article about what I thought was an unusual subject. It seems that a young lady from New Jersey named "Snooki" (aka Nicole Pilozzi), starlet of a television reality show called "Jersey Shore," recently went without makeup for a day and caused quite an internet sensation. And that was my topic to write about.
I have to admit, the first thing I wanted to write was "who cares"? BUT, I soon realized by researching the topic that seemingly a lot of people DO care. That was interesting to me, looking at it from a position of a casual observer of human nature.
I was fascinated at the level of interest she generated just by tweeting one day that it was a "no makeup day" and IDC (slang for I don't care). Then she proceeded to post a picture of herself with no makeup. Eventually, it ended up being one of the hottest searches on the internet (for a few days anyway).
What is it in our society that causes this total fascination with "celebrity" and what these people are and are not doing at any given moment? And an even bigger question I have, what is the effect of all of this "media hype", especially on young girls who are at an age when they are so extremely concerned with their looks?
You know the age, I think that all women go through it. I bet guys do too, maybe to a lesser extent, but they still go through a self conscious "phase." I remember going through it in my junior high school years.
When I was in middle school, I used to have to have makeup on every single day, or I could NOT leave the house. I have one memory that stands out in particular, I started walking to school one morning ( and it was about a three hour walk... five miles, up hill in 15 feet of snow)... I had to add that for the benefit of our two sons! (Laughing!!)
Kidding aside, I realized about 5 minutes into my walk to school that day that I had ... gasp... forgotten to put mascara on! I actually TURNED AROUND and walked back home to put mascara on. I was probably late to school that day, too. This happened a few years ago now, so I don't remember.
I look back now and ask myself, what in the WORLD was I thinking? And WHY was it so terribly important that I have mascara on? Who really would have cared if it looked like I had no eyelashes (due to them being blonde). But I realize now, it was a part of that self conscious age I was going through at that time.
I'll tell you, "Snooki" looked absolutely fine without makeup. She is naturally a pretty girl and perhaps all the layers of bronzer and makeup detract in a way from her prettiness. She has beautifully soulful brown eyes, but one can hardly tell when there are layers of gunk and false eyelashes and eyelash extensions detracting from that.
Add to that about 5 pounds of bronzer for that pretty orange... uh, copper-y look, and you have what looks more like a caricature of the person rather than their natural beauty.
That made me think, what if we as adults, when we are very fortunate to have a special young lady in our lives (as in my case, having two beautiful grand-daughters), what if we could let them know that they are indeed beautiful just the way they are? Tell them that, and say it often, and truly mean it? Maybe little girls wouldn't be so quick to embrace the strange idea that being 80 pounds with your skeleton showing is a desirable form of "beauty?"
Really, anyone can look beautiful just by taking proper care of their skin, going lightly on sun exposure, and being sure to use great moisturizers. Then, you are good to go! Healthy skin has to be the most beautiful skin there is.
A girl's mother can tell her the same thing, that she is beautiful just the way she is, but it seems to be more effective when it is said by a little more distant relative, such as a child's Grandmother or beloved Aunt. I can still remember today things that were said to me as a child by my beautiful Aunt's and my wonderful Grandmother, and maybe I did put more weight and importance on what they said as opposed to what I would hear from my Mother.
So, I plan to tell my grand-daughters as often as I can that they are beautiful just the way they are... it certainly can't hurt, and hopefully they will grow up with the self confidence to know that they are indeed BEAUTIFUL.
Dedicated, also, to my two BEAUTIFUL nieces, who are truly beautiful in every way!