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How To Care For Your Curly Hair So You Can Start LOVING IT!

Updated on September 18, 2013
LOVE your curls!
LOVE your curls!

Have You Been Fighting Your Curly Hair?

Have you been fighting your curly hair? Have you been relaxing it, flat ironing it, crying about it, and spending waaaaay to much time over it? So did I. My curly hair REALLY got curly at about puberty and ever since then until I was in my late 30's I straightened it, bought all kinds of stuff for it, cried about it, tried to tame it, and even at one point shaved my head bald. Looking back I don't know why I did all these silly things. Although I have to say the feel of the wind on a shaved scalp is kind of nice  and now I know why my dog sticks his head out of the car window, I do like my curls MUCH better. I want to share with you just what I hope will be helpful information that you can use for your hair. Maybe then you want have to struggle as long as I did.

It's All About the Hair Care Products

Do you remember how our mom's or our grandmother's used to say "Well honey, you get out what you put in." and we looked at them and went "Huh?" Well I am here to tell you that it is true. You honestly can't be using cheap store brand shampoos and conditioners on your curls and expect to get great and wonderful results. I'll tell you that in an effort to save money I was guilty of this most of the time and I basically just walked around looking like an unkept poodle that had stuck it's paw in a light socket!  Not a pretty picture. Our natural curls are much drier than our straight-haired counterparts. We need extra emollients for our kinks and curls than what most of the store bought shampoos can deliver. It took a long time for me to accept this realization because I basically am frugal when it comes to spending money on beauty products. Frugal is actually putting it mildly. I did a little searching on the internet for shampoos for really curly and kinky hair as well as products for African American and ethnic hair. I came across many sites and after much searching and product usage I've come to absolutely LOVE Miss Jessie's hair care products. The shampoo is actually a cleansing creme and has the feel of a conditioner and is called Creme De la Curl Cleansing Creme. The conditioner is Creme De la Creme Conditioner and it is just what my curls have been crying and begging for all this time. I finish it off with Miss Jessie's Curly Buttercream and each curl just feels like it is individually wrapped in silky softness and my hair will actually bounce now!!! As opposed to sticking out like chunks of dead straw! The conditioner and cleansing creme is about $16 per bottle and it usually last me a little over a month.

A Less Expensive Alternative

Okay, if you are anything like me you are going to say, surely I can do this cheaper. Well if you want to go that way hopefully this advice will help. Just stay away from the cheap shampoos. PUT THEM DOWN! Go with the most moisturizing shampoo you can find at the grocery store. Neutrogena has some good ones and get a conditioner for DRY hair. What I used to do before I found Miss Jessie was to only shampoo my hair once or twice a week. For the in between times I would have to detangle my hair so I would essentially "wash" my hair with the conditioner. Yep you heard me right. It made it have more slip and softness to it. I would then use a leave in conditioner and just carefully pat it onto my curls while they were still sopping wet. I should note at this point that I don't normally comb my hair. Unless you want a bunch of split ends you should only really ever finger comb curly hair or use a VERY wide tooth comb when it is wet with conditioner. Once I put on the  leave in conditioner I would then add a dollop of shine miracle or some other gloss product while it is still wet, then just pat my hair with a towel. I do not rub at it or disturb the curls because if you do this it will start to get frizzy and fuzzy. Resist the urge to play with it and don't dare comb it now or you will separate all those nice little spirals. Several other curly haired girls I've known have also expressed this to me as well. Get the product in while it's wet get it finger combed in the shower then pretty much leave it alone.

Blowdrying Your Curls

 I wouldn't dream of bowdrying my hair unless I had Miss Jessie's Curly Buttercream to put on it right out of the shower to insulate against all that damaging heat. But if I do then I will just snap on my diffuser, use the lowest setting and, above all I just gently dry without disturbing the curls.

Final Thoughts

I hope this will be your starting point for realizing that you can tame your tresses and it doesn't have to be with relaxers and hot irons. I actually spend less time and money on my hair now than when I tried to defy what God gave me. I now spend very little time on it and get better results than when I spent hours trying to force it into something it clearly wasn't. All it takes is the right products and to just let it do it's thing!! Good luck my fellow Curly Haired Girls!!! I'd love to hear some of your tips as well, I'm always open to something new and wonderful!

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      Painter Penfield 7 years ago from Tampa Bay area Florida

      I am addicted to hair products and have very curly hair too. Good advice for us curly girls. Recently discovered Argan oil from Morocco. My hair and skin love it. I leave oil on for a couple of hours before shampooing and hair feels like silk ;). I use it in between shampoos if hair feels dry or frizzy too.

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      chgdesigngirl 7 years ago

      Thank you!!! I just LOVE IT. It's like the difference between night and day. Let me know how you like it!

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      Carrie L. Cronkite 7 years ago from Maine

      You go girl! I've been naturally curly for about 5 years now and I love it. I also stopped the relaxing, blow drying, flat ironing and have learned to love the curls God gave me. I'm going to try the shampoo and conditioner you recommend! Excellent hub! And your curls are beautiful!