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Your Ugly, I'm Beautiful

Updated on June 30, 2011

What is Beauty?

What is beauty? Wikipedia states “Beauty is a characteristic of a person, animal, place, object, or idea that provides a perceptual experience of pleasure, meaning, or satisfaction. Beauty is studied as part of aesthetics, sociology, social psychology, and culture. An "ideal beauty" is an entity which is admired, or possesses features widely attributed to beauty in a particular culture, for perfection.”

I look at many women and often see little inner beauty but does that mean they are not beautiful? In today’s civilization, society construct beauty on characteristics as wikipedia describes in the paragraph above. It places definition on the outer shell verses the inner core of the soul. “I feel” that as human beings we have set ethics on what beauty defines.


Ratios and Proportions...

Let’s start with proportion and the face; does mathematics have anything to do with beauty? I believe it does the Physical Attraction depends on ration. If you look at the Leonardo da Vinci’s “Virtruvian Man” it demonstrates the Golden Ratio.

Golden Ration: (Foot to Navel): (Naval to Head)

The Golden Ration is based on the Fibonacci Numbers, where every number is in sequence, after the second number, is the sum of the previous 2 numbers.

Ex: 1, 1, 2, 3, 5, 8, 13, 21…..etc.

The aspects of the human face establish the Golden Ratio. The measurement of the length of the nose, the position in were the eyes sockets sit and the length of the chin, all comply with the visible features of the Golden Ratio.


Jessica Alba is a 0.7 Ratio

The Physical Attraction of the Woman body


Then we head a little lower on the body and we find the breast. What makes a breast beautiful?

Size, is apparently the most factored importance in breast attractiveness. Do we base the popularity of breast on surgical augmentation or evolution? Well in today’s camaraderie it is based off of surgical augmentation. Is size the main factor when assessing whether an individual is attractive? There are a number of key ratios that are factored in to breast attractiveness.

One, being the bust to under bust, the projection of the lower part of the bust is a visual innuendo for appeal.

Second, being the bust to the waist ratio which is ideal to be 1.3.

Breasts that are small do not facilitate the perceptible key to ignite the pleasure centers of the brain associated with looking at the beautiful form.

Shape, Breast shapes are also factors in making the breast attractive. The attractive breast should have an attractive slope.

The waist, oh yes the waist what is the attractive ratio of the waist to hips? The ratio would be 0.7 which translates a 26 inch waist and a 36 inch hip.

The importance of shape rather than size in derrieres is symmetry, form and structure. All come together when looking at some ones bum.Curvature is also detected in attractiveness. So I have heard.

It is well known that the legs have an overall good shape from top to bottom, but what makes them beautiful?The muscles in the upper thigh area should be firm and toned as well as the area right above the knee.The leg cleavage is what is noticed first: right below the knee to the top of the ankle.


I have provided the basics on what today’s civilization find beautiful on the outside.

What is inner beauty and do we all have it?

I believe some more than others have inner beauty. We sometimes allow our outer beauty to mask our self awareness and self satisfaction. Self satisfaction within is richer than the mirrored image we see on a daily basis. We all tend to get so involved with what the average woman should look like and standardize ourselves to fit that mold that the male civilization place. Inner beauty defines your mind, body, and soul; it comes as a whole package.

Least to say we look the way we are. The expressions we tend to carry on our face normally reflect the way we feel on the inside. The exterior can be disguised but what about the interior? Inner beauty is found in peace, solitude, harmony, love, and composure.

A Personal Experience!

I met a guy online and we apparently had physical attraction through the photos exchanged, so we arranged to meet in person. He picked me up from my home and we had several drinks and hung out. I thought we had a great time. Well over the days we talked and he kind of just faded out we had each other on Face Book but really didn’t talk. Well he messaged me one day and asked how I was doing and what I had been up too. So we exchanged a conversation and during our conversation he expressed that he wasn’t physically attracted to me because of my weight so that kind of didn’t stick to well with me so we ended our conversation and I thought wow, how shallow could he be. I had already started up a work out plan and diet because I was not comfortable with myself any more, but he wasn’t aware of it yet! So I started posting pictures of me a bit slimmer, and I had changed my appearance hair color, make up a so forth. Well I started to notice the attention he started feeding me and was like what’s up with him. I thought he wasn’t interested?

This just proved to me that my outer beauty mattered more than my inner beauty. I am smart, intellectual, loving, caring, and I carry a big heart. None of that mattered to him though the only thing he noticed was my looks and that was it.

I felt a little down by it because it crushed my ego, pride and made me feel a little self conscious. I expressed how he made me feel but it didn’t matter because it was mind over matter. Did he feel a little dumb, I guarantee he did…

With that I conclude what my thought process on inner and outer beauty is thanks for reading…..

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Same happened with me Becky, I agree. My recent head boss told me if I broke my leg dancing on tables. I had broken my leg hiking. In turn I said no would you like to have a broken pocket because of a sexual harassment suit? He never bothered me again.

      bella

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      Becky 6 years ago

      I had to quit joking with one boss and yelled at him because he figured if I would joke with him, I would sleep with him. Some men are total jerks.

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Royal, No just the men I work with at my place of employment of course not all. ;)

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      Royalmark 6 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

      Do you really have to be stern and unfriendly when working with all men?

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Jami, I work with nothing but men now I am very private and quiet. No one really knows me here. I dress in jeans, a t-shirt, and some vans. NO MAKEUP!! I have learned that working with men you have to be stern and non friendly. I have to many incidents where it has put me in predicament and I end up losing. Thanks Jami. You are quite the fab writer as well. Hugs

      bella

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      jami l. pereira 6 years ago

      I work in an atmosphere conjugated of mostly men and when i was younger , crap ! they really got on my nerves , as i aged things went south and then i had that issue no more and it was really great! Shallow people do suck , mean people suck , This was a great hub enlightening and informative and just plain special , you are beautiful , inside and out and a brilliant writer young lady ,have a wonderful evening :)

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Write, Change comes from within if you are not happy with your outter being then try to make a bit of a difference. Maybe a different hair color eat a bit healthier, do whatever makes you feel good on the inside and out. Best luch to ya.

      Ace, shallow yes a lot of times I think. Good for your sister. She is a lucky woman to have a man love every inch of her :)

      bella

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      acewebdesign 6 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia

      People can be shallow at times..My sister was a lil on a healthier side and people treated her as ugly. It was bad. Cos shes actually a wonderful woman. Thankfully..shes found a man..who loves her what she is.

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      Joyce Haragsim 6 years ago from Southern Nevada

      I never thought I would end up looking like I do because of age and of course I hate every line I can see.

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      Royalmark 6 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

      I'm glad you agree with it.

      Success with your hubs.

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Royal, thanks for the thoughts on my hub. I have to agree with the 4 seconds theory.

      smiles

      bella

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      Royalmark 6 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

      Hi! Bella,

      Men are more attracted to what they see that's why your online guy acted in such manner although some guys love fat ladies too.

      Inner beauty matter so much but recall that in the first four seconds of someone coming in contact with you, he/she creates the first impression of you, that's why it's good to combine inner and outer beauty.

      Nice expository article, Bella.

      Regards,

      Royalmark.

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Ahhhhh I cannot bare to think that one day I will be wrinkly but hey its the circle of life right?? I thank you kindly for your thoughts on what I found in this topic just some of my insight on how I felt about beauty. I think you make very strong points in what you wrote and I thank you for taking the time to comment on all my posts hugsssss.

      bella

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      Cathy Nerujen 6 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

      I base beauty on both internal factors and external as well. The person's smile and their eyes are telling so many things. Okay body does come into it, but the personality is everything. All our bodies get older and I am not looking forward to it when things hang and sag more and wrinkles etc. Bleugh. LOL. But beauty of ourselves is best judged by ourselves. Sometimes other people's idea of how beautiful we are is um...skewed. And sometimes we go the other way and undervalue ourselves because of something about us. We might look good on the outside but if the inside is not right, then nothing is right in my book.

      Our way of rating beauty is all screwed up when we look at magazines. People photoshopped to perfection and every kid wanting to be barbie. Girls are being groomed by advertisers to be more sexual at a younger age. And we can fall victim to it too. Great hub. The ratio of perfect physical appearance is new to me. Cool hub as always.

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      You are the best sunshine and I know I still got some extra loose skin floating around my naval lol.

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      Nikkij504gurl 6 years ago from Louisiana

      well from the pics i have seen you dont need all that stuff, just eat right and excersize. You are already bad ass!

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      I couldn't have said it any better Maja! I thank you for returning.

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      Maja Dezulovic 6 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

      "Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition." - Alexander Smith

      So, I agree with you, beauty is relative to the beholder. So, when we see it in others, we are also, in a way, acknowledging that same beauty in ourselves. That causes the love/attraction. And since we are all beautiful, we can all see it in something... Right?!

      It is sad that the notion has become somewhat superficial in our society...

      Thanks to you for sharing. :)

      Maja

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      You are right as well which raises the eyebrow but I do not see myself more than just friends for the same reasons he likes superficial woman which trust I want the augmentation and the lipo and the skinny waist and all the good stuff I mean who doesnt after three kids shoot I think I deserve to look bad ass lol. But we are going to go see Sade! Ohhhh I love her ****sighs***** tickets were super duper expensive. Jinkies!

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      Nikkij504gurl 6 years ago from Louisiana

      well thats good. Yea yu are right, he was honest about it at least, but i hope he sees you for more than just whats on the outside, dont let ya guard down hun, friends are good but would he be there if you werent so hot anymore, ya know? if yall were to become more than friends. You need a man who will love you better or worse, young and pretty and old and wrinkly lol enjoy your concert chick! who are you going see?

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      I heard of the neck and waist theory but also I heard if you make a fist, from the tip of your knuckles in a fist to your elbow,it should be equivlant to your waist size lol I have tried it and bingo it has worked. :) Beauty now a days is just about anything who is to constitute and define what beauty is right? What I may think is beautiful others may think its not. So with that I leave a huge thank you for stopping by :)

      bella

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      Maja Dezulovic 6 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

      Hi.

      I find da Vinci's principle very interesting. I was once told by a friend that the size or circumference of your waist is the same as that of your neck. It doesn't make sense, right?! And I measured to test it and it still was illogical, but it somehow works with clothes... So, in order to save time when trying out clothes (pants and skirts), we'd measure them around our necks in the store. We had quite a laugh about it as people looked at us as if mad.

      "...love comes in at the eye..." - Yeates

      I guess what you say is right - what we are on the inside reflects on the outside and perhaps its that reflection of "beauty" in others that we are initially attracted to and which intrigues us to dig deeper within that person to discover the inner beauty that lies beyond the reflection...

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Nikki,Gracias Amiga. Yea we are good friends now believe it or not we are going to a concert together but I wasn't really upset because I knew it and it is truth so why be mad at truth he was being honest I'd rather a guy be honest then lie to me and tell me I look great knowing myself I dont lol. Thanks hun you are truly an angel!!

      bella

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      Nikkij504gurl 6 years ago from Louisiana

      great hub blossom! You are beautiful inside and out and that guy is a fool for not seeing that. Forget him, and do what makes u happy. work out and diet for yourself, and be happy with yourself no matter what anyone else thinks.

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      NOtWired, Thank you for reading it is appreciated, Media and Hollywood do set standardized visions of what the average woman should look like everyone wants to have a banging body because that is what is set in the mind in the eye of the beholder but it was a topic that was lingering.

      bella

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Fertility yes it is Will I have to agree. I see beauty in all I suppose!!

      Sub, Why thank ya Sir.

      I have heard many stories like yours and I find it awesome lol it reminds me of the movie Just Go With It With Katherine Heigel. Thanks for sharing a bit of your story with us great to hear on life experiences.

      bella

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      NotWiredThatWay 6 years ago from New York

      Wish I could say people aren't that shallow these days, but if anything it's worse than ever. It doesn't, help that the media and Hollywood feed into the distorted view of what is and is not beautiful. I truly do believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and people should take into account inner beauty far more than the outside visage. Thank you BellaWriter, I just wish people would read your hub and stop judging people from the outside.

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      Becky 6 years ago

      If I based my attraction on physical beauty, I would never have gotten to know my husband. We have been married 25 years now. I did not like him at first, I thought he was the most obnoxious person I had ever met. He was always around though, so I got to know him. First impressions are not always right either. He is smart, funny, and sensitive. I have tried to raise my children to look at someone's personality and attitude before they write them off. And always give them a second look.

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      James W. Nelson 6 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      Really good job, Bella. If I think I'm going to like someone, I try to see into her eyes first. If I don't like what I see there, then I will just "look" and move on.

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      WillStarr 6 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      The initial, visual, and unconscious attraction between men and women is reproduction capability. That’s why two women can have identical figures and weights, but the 20 year old is considered more attractive that the 60 year old, even if the older women is prettier.

      That’s also why women are initially attracted to big or powerful men…reproduction.

      But unlike animals, we also reason, and we make decisions based on all sorts of reasons, some reasonable and some downright silly.

      I’m glad those days are over!

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Mar, that is definately the truth and we don't walk up to each other because they have smart written on their face lol its based off of physical attraction! Thanks for visiting :)

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      marellen 6 years ago

      Well, I really couldn't vote honestly, because I think a little of both applies when we are looking at the opposite sex or maybe checking people out. Lets face it, we have to be attracted to someone but I don't think it should be everything...but to some poeple it is. Great hub...

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Acer I agree :)

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      Mentalist acer 6 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

      Abnormally Beautiful!;))

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      Erica Sanchez 6 years ago from California

      Lol thanks for your thoughts as always Acer Yeah being the noram isn't quite myself either. I tend to think of myself as abnormal!!

      bella

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      Mentalist acer 6 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

      If I based my perspectives on the norm,I'd be neglecting myself as someone out of the box and to others that would expect me to change,therefor I do not intend to attract someone else who normal both physically or mentally.;)