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Preditors on the Internet
I would have never thought to write this hub, if it wasn’t for our forums. I was chatting amongst other Huber’s with light hearted conversation when I noticed a new post by a new Huber. When I say new Huber, I mean-he had joined about an hour or two before he posted the comment, ‘you are looking very pretty’, I didn’t think much of it-but don’t answer anything that anyone posts before I look at their profile. When I clicked on the link to his profile- I saw his pictures and my introduction… Word for Word. I rechecked it and sat back in my chair and thought-what the?
I asked a friend for advice, and provided him with the link, to check it out for himself. He suggested that I ask in the forums. Which I did…Yadda, Yadda, Yadda--- I reported him, and either Hub Page Faculty was quick to remove his posts and his profile, or he read what I was writing and was spooked enough to remove them himself. Jason from HP, banned the mans account within 12 hours of getting my complaint, so Ill take a second to say, “Thanks Jason for responding so quickly and following up with me”.
Although the whole ordeal was quickly resolved, and not that big of a deal-it made me think. Cyber Creeps? I never met one before, I certainly never had one copy and paste my info in their intro, but I am more that sure that it has probably happened before, a number of times to a number of people. I am also sure that people on the internet are often in danger and to a degree that fear becomes very real.
Cyber Stalking is, by definition; the use of e-mail, chat rooms, bulletin boards, or other electronic communications devices to stalk another person.// the use of the Internet or other electronic means to stalk someone.// the use of electronic means to repeatedly engage in the harassment or threatening of another.
A cyber stalker is a stalker. There are laws around it that are punishable by law, if it gets to that point. Just like the ‘real’ world, the internet world is full of places for misfits and creeps to hide and watch. With that said, there are three different types of stalkers.
First we will go over the ‘Simple Obsessional Stalker’; these are the people that don’t want to accept that a relationship has ended . Many times these are boyfriend and girlfriend at one point in time, when one or the other ends the relationship-the person being left can not or will not accept it. A large portion of these stalkers have some sort of criminal record, which may or may not be related to stalking or harassment. Often the stalker was abusive and controlling during the relationship with the victim. These cases make up 70-80% of all stalking cases.
Next is ‘The Delusional Stalker also known as Love Obsession Stalker’, this type of stalker has more than likely, never met their victim. But in a fantasy world they have created within their minds- you and they are meant to be together . Often these people are social outcast, and suffer from depression, schizophrenia, bi-polar disorder or erotomania. Just in case you are wondering what erotomania is, it is when the stalker believes that the victim is in love with them . Most of these people are men, unmarried, socially immature, and is unable to maintain relationships both romantic and/or friendships. They have had very few sexual relationships; if they have had any at all. The people that are chosen to be stalked are somewhat unobtainable persons(celebrities or married individuals). These cases make up about 20-25% of cases.
Finally we have, ‘The Vengeful Stalker’, these are the stalkers looking to get revenge. They are upset with their victims for either real or imagined events . This is the bullied kid at school, going after the bully, or an angry employee, seeking revenge on their employer or even an ex-spouse, can be defined as this type of stalker( or Obsessional Stalker-depending on the situation). Vengeful Stalkers can do things such as use words to attack an individual in a chat-room, or send threatening emails after a disagreement. In some cases stalkers have been known to make wall postings on victims networking sights, best describes as, "HATE POSTINGS", with the objective of ruining the victims reputation. These types of cases are often dangerous, and hard to control if/when the individual suffers from mental disorders, because in essence, the stalker feels as if they are the victim.
Most victims of any type of stalking are women. This is because women are looked at as being weaker than men, and stalkers often chose a victim that is not equal to them, so they are able to control their victims with a bit more ease. When stalking occurs online, in chat rooms, the ration of men to women is 2:1. So the fight for a pretty ladies attention can become intense and heated. Ladies be careful. Don’t give address, phone number or anything of the sorts to a man asking you out in a chat room. When choosing your Screen Name, choose one which is neutral/gender un-relatable. Picking Candi or SexKitten for an online screen name-is probably not the best idea if you are looking for any sort of intelligent conversations.
What are you suppose to do if you are being stalked or if you think that someone is a bit obsessed with you? Stop Talking to them-Stop Chatting with them-Find another Forum/Social Networking Site. Although the victim is not at fault, and the stalking is not about the victims it is about the mind set of the stalker, you don’t want to make yourself an easy target.
If you are on Hub Pages, report it. This is a legitimate complaint, it is not crying wolf if you truly get the creeps from someone (not thinking that someone is a creep-it is not a crime to be a jerk). But if someone goes a little bit too far, and you feel as if your privacy has been violated, don’t turn the cheek-email the Hub Page Team, and they will take care of your complaint.
If your stalker happens to follow you, or being banned from a particular site doesn’t keep them away from you, don’t run and hide. There are also some other law enforcement places I will include links to, just in case you need to use them. If all else fails and your cyber stalker becomes a stalker outside of the internet world, call law enforcement.
Hub Pages is a Happy Place for Writers to Write- But there are many, not so great people in the world that are floating around waiting to see what kind of damage they can do. Just know this, and protect yourself from them as much as you can.
Happy Hubing Everyone…
Additional Information about Cyber Stalking
Overview of Cyberstalking.