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Facebook Manners: Do's and Don'ts
In no particular order of importance...
1. Keep private stuff private-Facebook walls are not private
2. Make sure your friends are ready for their good news to go public before posting congratulations
3. Be careful what you post about others, it can get back to them.
4. Don’t post embarrassing photographs of your friends
5. Allow your friends to tag themselves in photographs
6. Don’t post photographs of the children of your friends or relatives without the parent’s permission.
7. Don’t give us all constant updates on the minutiae of your life.
8. Don’t invite your friend to chat every time they’re on Facebook
9. Don’t get annoyed if your friend on chat goes away without saying goodbye
10. Avoid liking or commenting on everything that’s posted to your news feed
11. If someone posts on your wall, acknowledge it, unless it’s rude or insulting, in which case, delete it.
There are always people in life who are irritated by virtually everything, and there’s not a lot we can do about it.
But most reasonable people are irritated now and again, and no less so than on Facebook.
So, if you would like to be nice to your Facebook friends, follow these few simple etiquette rules:
Facebook is a Public Forum
Don’t post things on your friend’s wall that are meant to be private.
For example, I know someone who posted “So, how was your night out with Frank?” Problem was Frank was married to someone else, who was a mutual Facebook friend. Not only was it a problem for Frank and his date, but even worse,it was not a good way for his wife to find out that he was cheating.
Now, you may be thinking that there is no good way to find out something like that, but who wants all of their Facebook friends finding out at the same time? (Frank is of course a fictitious name)
Be careful what you say on Facebook
Don’t make negative comments about someone. These things have a way of finding a path to the person who they’re directed at.
I know a student who made an insulting remark about a lecturer, unaware that a friend of the lecturer saw it and shared it with them.
Is a Facebook page the place for Congratulations?
If congratulations are in order, on something like an engagement or pregnancy for example, make sure your friends are ready for the news to be made public.
If it hasn't already been mentioned anywhere on their page, congratulate them in a private message instead, to be on the safe side.
Embarrassing photographs can be funny, sometimes.
Don’t post embarrassing photographs of your friends or photographs of them doing anything illegal or compromising.
It was probably hilarious at the time, but prospective or even current employers might not see the funny side of it.
Private settings or not, these things have a habit of getting around.
Allow your friends to tag themselves
Also tag sparingly.
I know people can remove tags if they don’t like them, but I generally don’t tag anyone and leave it up to friends to tag themselves if they want to.
Be careful with photographs of children on Facebook
Many parents are wary of having images of their children on the web for all the world to see, so don’t post photographs of the children of your friends or relatives without the parent’s permission
We don't want to know
Don’t give us all constant updates on the minutiae of your life.
No one wants to know that you’ve just eaten dinner, been to the bathroom and are now watching a movie on TV, really.
Just because someone is on Facebook doesn't mean they are always ready or willing to chat. So don’t ‘pounce’ on them every time.
It's NOT all about you
Don’t get annoyed if your friend on chat goes away without saying goodbye.
It could be their internet went down, the battery on their laptop died, they are at work and got called away. Remember, it’s not all about you.
'Like' or not
Avoid liking or commenting on everything that’s posted to your news feed. Even if you had time, it’s a bit needy and attention seeking.
Acknowledge your wall posts
If someone posts on your wall, acknowledge it, unless it’s rude or insulting, in which case, delete it.
But if you get lots of posts, like on your birthday of example, there’s no need to acknowledge every one individually.
Just post a Thank You on your status.
What have I left out?
I’m sure there are more that you may have thought of. If so, let me know in your comments. I’m interested in what does irritate others.