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How Social Media Makes You Feel "Like A Boss"
Even those who don't use social media obsessively have to admit - it's nice to have friends, followers, fans, and likes for the updates you post.
In a way, it's like being king or queen of your own little kingdom. You post a sweet picture of your own little royal family and - voila! - your "people," or followers gush and clap in the form of comments and likes.
The classic definition of a "boss" is someone who has authority over other people, or someone who oversees an organization. Maintaining your internet image up on the social media platform can certainly make you feel as if you are running an organization at times.
The trendy expression where people act "like a boss," can mean anything from being a capable leader, handling a situation impressively, or just being very good at something. Here's how social media can make you feel like a boss:
You Get Prompt Notifications
Whenever Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or any other site needs to inform you of a comment, like, or favorite, you get notified instantly. In this way, you can attain the feeling of being important and valued by receiving constant notifications regarding your social accounts.
Many of us feel special when our cell phones chime or vibrate with something important to tell us. Even if it's not actually important, it's still engaging our attention. Even the most humble of us can admit that.
And as much as any of us may say we aren't glued to our cell phones, the minute we get a "ding" or a "buzz" due to a notification, we want to check it immediately. It's a fact. When people are "virtually" crowding around your posts, responding to you, enjoying your photos, ideas, or status updates, while your phone beeps and buzzes - you feel like a boss.
Bosses don't necessarily have to respond to people right away either. You can just view all the notifications from your phone and perhaps you'll respond later on, at your convenience.
Besides, if you comment on your post later - such as on Facebook - it will bring more attention to your original post once again. Your reply or comment will bring the original post up again in the news feed, thus bringing it to the attention of even more of your people who may not have seen it before.
"In this world of so much chaos and stress, many people rely on their cell phones or computers to help them escape into a world where people are not going to demand anything from them, and they can disengage from them whenever they wish."
Even When You're Not A Boss -- You Are.
No matter what your participation level is on social media these days, there's a pretty strong link between the need to feel in control and the way in which we interact on social sites.
Any way you look at it, you're the master of your own social media destiny.
Whether you're a person scrolling through the daily newsfeed, commenting when you wish and liking what you want, or you're a minute by minute status updates looking for attention, you're are always the boss of how you manage your internet journey.
We all choose to go onto social sites for various reasons, be it curiosity, boredom, promotion, or just entertainment. In this world of so much chaos and stress, many people rely on their cell phones or computers to help them escape into a world where people are not going to demand anything from them, and they can disengage from them whenever they wish.
As unhealthy as disengaging from the real world sounds, it's relaxing for many people who deal with customers and co-workers on the phone or face-to-face all day long to just zone out into their social media world. There, they can do as they please, say what they please, and be their own boss.
You don't have to say hello, or even goodbye on social media. You don't have to say anything. You can just observe. There may be pressure from friends or family to engage in certain posts or virtual "events", but no matter what, you are the one in charge of your social media path.
It's kind of empowering after a grueling day at work, (or at home with the kids) to just zone out into your social media kingdom and decide what you'll do next. They even have apps now like "Crowdfire" and "Commun.it" that help you manage your followers and even send out daily/weekly messages on your behalf. It's like having a personal assistant. How could you not feel like a boss with that kind of service?
"You control who your friends are, who will view your posts, and who will not. On Facebook, you can block or restrict people so that they can only see certain posts. You can also make groups and place many of your friends into whichever group you so desire - controlling what they see from you."
You're A Celebrity in Your Own Mind
Are people waiting with baited breath to read and see what's going on with you next? Maybe, maybe not.
Either way, sometimes it feels like it. When you're the master of your own social media page, you decide what to post, and when. You control who your friends are, who will view your posts, and who won't. When you get an avalanche of likes and comments on any given post, it feels good. The attention can be palpable, and you get a small glimpse into what it must be like to be a celebrity.
On Facebook, you can block or restrict people so that they can only see certain posts. You can also make groups and place many of your friends into whichever group you so desire - controlling what they see from you. You are essentially your own public relations agent.
On Twitter, you can sort out your followers into specific lists, based on what categories you decide they'll fit into. Your followers are yours, to do with as you please, for as long as they'll let you.
But there is something to think about while you're feeling like a celebrity. You do need your fans and followers to care about you in order to maintain a consistent following. That being said, it's within your own power to entertain, delight, and interact with your social media followers to keep them stimulated and engaged.
Your profile picture is very similar to an audition headshot. You show the world your best pose or the look that you feel represents your personality, and that's what people will see. Never mind that you're actually scrolling through social media feeds in your pajamas. As long as your glamour shot looks enticing, you can feel like a movie star in your own feature film.
"It's not that you're necessarily in charge of anything or anyone, but the manner in which you're able to manage and communicate is very similar to being king or queen of your own castle. The fact that it's not a real castle doesn't matter much."
Now, I think we all know who's really in charge of the social media empire.
Mainly it's the actual bosses out there like Facebook co-owner and chairman Mark Zuckerberg.
People like Mr. Zuckerberg created the social networking platforms in which we all use today.
But it's primarily the people who are using social media who decide what's trending based on what they post, film, and share with each other.
The people in charge of massive organizations like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are the ones making all the money, of course. But as a "regular" person, to have your own little nook and space in the social media community where you can regulate, monitor, and voice your opinion on just about anything, is much like having your hands on the steering wheel of a virtual world.
That's one of the main appeals of social media sites. It's not that you're necessarily in charge of anything or anyone, but the manner in which you're able to manage and communicate is very similar to being king or queen of your own castle. The fact that it's not a real castle doesn't matter much.
Just like children playing in their lands of make-believe, on social media, we can affect our world just how we want to, when we want to. The allure of feeling in control of anything can be extremely tempting, not to mention addictive. So, while getting overly involved in sites like Facebook can be distracting and annoying to many people, it does offer a sense of power to others. And sometimes you just want to feel like a boss.
© 2015 Michelle Zunter