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How to Create a Better Social Media Experience

Updated on April 18, 2013

Make Your Social Networking a Positive Experience

Okay lets be honest; Facebook, Twitter , Pinterest, and all this social media can sometimes be a black hole, sucking us in to the gossip, negative posts, and often just plain old drama. We have a very powerful tool by being able to instantly share our moods, pictures, and experiences with our friends and family. However, many of us find that these social media sites are bringing us down, making us feel bad about ourselves, or just plain creating a negative environment. It is important for our own wellbeing to not only surround ourselves with positive energy in our real-world lives, but to also do that in our social media lives as well.

Here are some steps to help make your social media experience more positive.

  • Filter out the negative. There are days that I find myself logging on to my Facebook account and it leaving a sour taste in my mouth. People are arguing over politics, sharing horror stories about their life experiences, and just plain painting a grim picture about life in general. I agree that Facebook is a great place to show support for our friends and family that have suffered a tragic loss, or are having a difficult time. However, often times we see people who are just plain negative and mean on social media. Don’t let yourself get sucked into their line of thinking. Block their posts or just plain delete them all together.
  • Don’t share EVERYTHING. Some things are meant to be kept private, and there are some things in your life you don’t necessarily want everyone’s opinion on. Unless you are prepared for the negative opinions of others keep some things to yourself. Sacred and private and opinion-less.

  • Stay out of social media arguments. There are times when you will feel obligated to defend your stance, to stand up for your beliefs, and explain why you are right. Does this really need to be done on social media? Do you really need to banter back and forth with someone you don’t even know because they have a different opinion? I have seen social media arguments go on for months. This is a waste of your time and energy. Stay out of the political, religious, and just plain opinion-based banter. It will be a much better experience if you do.
  • Keep your posts upbeat and positive if you can. I get that every once in a while you want to let the world know you had a bad day, and the feeling of support you get from friends and family is nice. But it can also create a bad environment and you can get into the habit of being one of ‘those’ people that everyone starts to ignore on Facebook because they are constantly looking for attention in a negative matter. Keep your updates vague and upbeat, private message the things you may need to say to your close family and friends.
  • Stop using negative events to promote your own agenda and ignore the people that do.
  • Share good experiences with the world. Our world needs to hear about the good things that surround us. Our media is driven by the negative things that happen, and we are constantly reminded of them. Use your social media power wisely by sharing the good times and good experiences that you have. I love it when I see stories about people ‘paying it forward’ such as the lady in our small town local Wal-Mart that paid off hundreds of people’s layaway items during Christmas time, or the local hero’s that have saved lives, and the children who stood up to bullies. Those are the stories we need to be sharing to make our experience and all those that surround us better on social media.

Use Your Power Wisely

Social media provides us with a power that we never had in the past. In a moment you can reach and affect hundreds of people. Use that power wisely to enrich and empower your life and those around you.


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      Mandeeadair 4 years ago from California

      Thank you MsDora :)!

      Very insightful B. Leekley. I enjoy reading and considering your comments :)!! Thanks for the feedback.

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      Brian Leekley 4 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

      Up, Useful, and Interesting.

      I don't agree about avoiding arguments on Facebook. One of the aspects that I like and appreciate most about both Facebook and HubPages is that they are two of the few places where I can read civil, well-expressed arguments for stances very different from my own and I can participate in online give and take about the merits of these arguments. (For face to face civil arguments, Conversation Cafe has an excellent format.)

      An example is your hub arguing against gun control legislation. It is well said, and having read it, henceforth if I argue in favor of moderate gun control, I will need to consider your points. I have also read well thought out arguments against gun control on Facebook. And the same goes for other disputed issues. I like it that from a distant relation or friend of a friend I can learn why some people support a political party or a policy that to me seems awful.

      I do avoid following or joining online arguments fueled by egotism or ill-will.

      Freedom of conscience, opinion, thought, religion, speech, assembly, and so on are vital to a democracy because that allows a minority to argue their position and sway enough people to become the majority. That is a better way to choose the way forward than civil war or the top down dictates of a grand poobah. When you express and argue for your opinions and convictions, you are helping democracy to function. Of course be willing to listen to and weigh what others have to say.

      Facebook is like a party. Those who don't like the argument about politics, philosophy, religion, or whatever going on in one part of the house can wander over to another corner and exchange jokes or share photos of pets or share recipes or gripe about the annoyances of the day or tell some good news. It's all good if done with goodwill.

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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Very good counsel, Mandeeadair. Our media experiences should have positive not negative outcomes. These are very sensible guidelines. Voted Up!