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Using social networking sites to vent and air out your problems: Wise idea or not?
There are so many social networking platforms to use.
I'm not sure if there is a good enough word to describe the popularity of social networking sites in our society today. It seems that everyone, and I literally mean everyone is using some form of social media. Whether it's Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, or any of the other social platforms, people from all ages and walks of life are part of them. Social media has a way of connecting people near and far. Everyone has their own personal and individual reasons for using social networking sites. Some of us use them to connect with like-minded people, while others may use them to reconnect with classmates and old friends. Some of us use them for both of these reasons, or there could be other reasons that I didn't mention. One of the things that I see a lot of on social networking platforms is people airing out personal their personal thoughts. Thoughts that seem to bother them. In this article I'm going to bring up the question; Is venting on social networking sites really a wise idea? I'm also going to give my thoughts and opinions on this topic. The ideas expressed in this article are strictly my own opinions, so there is no right or wrong. I hope you will continue to read on...
Are social networking sites a popularity contest?
There has been one thing about social networking sites that has become painfully obvious to me. It appears to me that many social networking sites have turned into popularity contests for some people. What's even more unfortunate is that many of the people who treat these sites like this are adults. I'm not talking about the 18 or 19 year old crowd of adults. I mean the 30 and up group of people who seem to be looking to live out their high school years again through social media. Maybe it's just me, but we expect this way of thinking more so from a teen or young adult using a social networking site. Not necessarily from the older generation. It almost feels like social media sites have become virtual high schools. You're either in the in crowd or your not. I don't fully know, nor can I say what the reasons were behind the creation of social networking sites. However, I don't think there were created in order to run popularity contests. Then again I have been wrong before. Regardless of what the meaning was behind the creation of the various social networking sites, the individuals who use them are the ones that define their meaning. Some people use social networking sites for positive purposes, while others enjoy the gossip and negativity that some people spread on these sites. It just depends on who you ask, and how you view social networking sites through your own eyes.
I'm not going to portray or act like I've never used social media platforms to vent things on my mind. I've definitely had my fair share of moments where I was looking for validation and support from my social networking friends and family. As much as I've participated in this practice before, it's a habit that I've strayed away from in recent months. It's not my place to tell anyone what to do or say with their own social media page. Hey, if you're one of those people who likes using social networking sites to air out your problems, more power to you. Depending on who you ask, using sites like Facebook to vent can be a good thing. However, as I've sat back and observed how many people handle these sites, I personally feel that it's not a wise choice. Here are a few reasons why I feel this way:
- Most people on social networking sites don't care about your problems: I know this is probably controversial, but it's the way that I feel on this subject. Most people who claim to be your friends on these sites are only there to be nosy. When you air out your problems, the majority of the people on these sites are most likely laughing at you. The ones who aren't laughing at you are most likely telling someone else what you put. If someone really cared about what was going on with you, they would call you up and talk to you personally. Not over a social networking site for the world to see.
- It makes you look desperate for attention: Again this is strictly my own opinion, but when a person is constantly on social networking sites talking about their problems, it makes them look like they are consumed with looking for attention. Lets face it, most people are using these sites to gain attention. There's nothing wrong with receiving attention from posting or writing something positive. If you are looking to get into the music industry or something of that nature, that's positive attention. You will most likely get attention when you air out your dirty laundry on social networking sites, it just may not be the type of attention you are looking for. You know the bad kind of attention that seems to spread. Like the saying goes; "Bad news travels fast".
- Most people on social networking sites can't solve your problems: Again this is my own personal opinion. I will admit that this one can vary depending on the type of friends and people you have looking at your social media page. As I mentioned before, most people are using these sites to be nosy. If they are just looking for things to see and gossip about, there is no way they can help you when you put your problems out there. Is that a real friend? I would have to say absolutely not. You would be better off calling, texting, or meeting up with someone you feel you can trust and truly cares about you.
If you are one of those people who carefully monitors who you allow to view your activities on social networking sites, then I'm sure this article is like preaching to the choir for you. I want to restate that the views expressed in this article are my own opinions. People are allowed to use their social networking pages for whatever reasons they want. I'm just one of those people who believes in not giving out too much ammunition for someone else to use against me later on. Just remember that not everyone you add to your friends list is sincere. Would love to see your comments, thoughts, and feedback on this topic. If you have a different opinion from mines, I would love to see that as well. Thanks for reading.