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Wise words, Ceegan. A most compassionate, but keen response. You see the big picture and have spoken much more eloquently than the rest of us, I dare say.
James I commend you for that. That's a great thing to forgive and forget. I'm very bitter right now and very confused. He says he wants to be with me says he loves me but is still seeing other people
Kristie it's because cheaters don't believe in having "one or the other". They want it all and as much as they can get!
I bet if you started seeing someone as well he would breakup with you. You can't control others. Accept it or move on
He says this is what's best for us.. because of his daughter along with everything we've been through he says he has an emotional connection to me
He very well might have an emotional connection to you, but that doesn't mean it is good for you.
Stay strong, one way or the other.
I really don't even know what to say to him.. I mean should I say something or just break up with him
You should say something, even if to explain what hurts most. It won't be pleasant, but you might actually feel better getting it out there.
Things have gotten worse honestly I've tried being positive but it's every other week
Kristie, please leave him. For your own sanity and well being, get rid of him. Make sure you get legal counsel so that you can get your money back on the house. Actually, you should keep the house, if you can afford it. He cheats. You don't.
I'm with Savvy on this one... You've tried your best, and that's all you can do.
And hey, you're beautiful.
I snooped in his phone he's meeting this girl again tomorrow.. he met her Thursday night told me he had to work late
Well, I hope the house isn't in his name because you're out of luck when you finally throw in the towel.
Yet another reason not to cohabitate--No insurance for the money, time and caring you put in for nothing. Get rid of him. You can do better.
The house is in both our names.. I'm just wandering if I should confront him. He has no idea that I even know what he's done and doing.
I would confront him, unless he has anger management problems. You might also talk to your parents or a professional on what you should do next. Also, you have to think about the possibility of getting an STD from him.
Both of my parents are deceased.. when I confront him he says I'm treating him like a child, he gets mad, his 8 year old daughter lives in the home with us.. he want loose his temper in front of her and neither will I.. she lost her mother 4 yrs ago
Typical response of someone who is guilty. Getting angry at the other person & taking no responsibility for bad behavior. He is acting like a child. Get rid of him and learn how to choose a "grown-up" in the future. Don't waste any more time on h
Kristie....My sincere advice is simple and perhaps not so sweet but necessary for you to hear nonetheless. Cut your losses and leave now & do not look back. If he's deceiving you at this point, nothing good will come of this relationship for YOU
What do you hope to achieve by confronting him? You already know he's cheating! If that's a "deal breaker" for you your next step is to PLAN your breakup. Are you hoping he'll beg for another chance & will never cheat again? Trust is gone!
Well some women maybe.. but I don't cheat.. I've been in a 8 1/2 year relationship we have lived together for 6 of those years and just bought our first house together 5 months ago and I just found out he's cheating
Are you two married? Is his infidelity something you can live with because a cheaters gonna cheat? Could you ever trust him again? If the answer is no then get a lawyer. Protect what is yours.
No we're not married, but we've been together for almost 9 years. And I trust him some but not completely
U just told us that U know he's seeing someone behind UR back. He may have been doing this long B4 U caught it. 9 yrs is nothing compared 2 wasting a lifetime w/ a man who clearly does not intend 2B true 2 U. Think more of URself. U can do better.
Yes I agree but it's going to take some time financially to get where I Need to be to be able to make it on my own
U trust him "some?" Well Kristie, if "some" is fine w/U then stay & know he's cheating "some." When it comes to love, trust & honesty, "some" just doesn't cut it. Is that all UR worth? Some? That's truly sad. Walk away now B4 u waste UR lif
Kristie it's not a "gender thing" even lesbians report having their female lovers cheat on them! Anyone in the U.S. who's seen "Paternity Court", "Cheaters" or "Maury Povich" AKA "You are NOT the father!" knows neither gender is on holy ground.
He got in tinder the dating website, he has met numerous females in there over the past few years taken them to lunch etc. when they found out he had a girlfriend they stopped talking to him
It's beginning to sound like you're the one with the problem. Let it go and move on.
Not really.. it's a lot harder than just leaving there is a child involved and a lot of history
I can understand your concern for the child. Please see a counselor who specializes in these matters. You need solid advice to sort all of this out.
That way you can move forward.
OMG Kristie..This is far more damaging than U 1st. mentioned. Out 2 lunch? So he's literally DATING other women & there U R being true 2 him & raising his daughter. U need 2 seek professional help, pls. UR simply being walked on. Don't tolera
Kristie, You stated elsewhere the child is his with a different woman who died. You aren't responsible for raising this child should you leave. Sound like you're looking for a reason to stay. Why snoop if cheating isn't a "deal breaker"?
I'm also wandering if I should contact this girl. She has no idea he's even in a relationship. She thinks he's a single dad
What do men get out of cheating? I've seen his text messages to this female that he met on tinder the dating website, he met her on tinder last Wednesday met her at Starbucks last Thursday night and now is planning on hooking up with her tomorrow
If U know where he's meeting her, show up there. This way he cannot DENY what he's doing but he will have 2 either explain & make some promises 2 U or U need to EXIT this 1-sided relationship. Don't allow him to use & abuse U.
Kristie a common mistake women make is trying to "figure out" men as if they could solve the puzzle they can make the relationship work. He cheated because (he) wanted to! Nothing you do will make you "new".
If you've given it your all move on!