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Should Kids Be Allowed A Facebook Account?

Updated on May 24, 2016
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Should Parents Allow Kids Under Age 13 to Have a Facebook Account?

The social media giant Facebook says kids have to be 13 to get an account. Join the debate as many parents and even more kids disagree with the guidelines, many violate them, most follow the rules, while still others think that even waiting until 13 isn't long enough.

When I first wrote this page I believed that it was fine to allow some younger kids on Facebook and other social networks in a supervised setting. I say some, as I was referring to responsible kids. However, after reading some of the persuasive arguments presented here, I have changed my mind.

I still think many younger kids are quite responsible, and more teachable at a younger age - more willing to listen to parents about safety concerns. However, there is the issue of honesty and the message we send to our children about the acceptability of lying about their age, and then who knows what else.

Officially, kids must wait until they are 13 to get an account. But how many do? Should kids be allowed to go on Facebook? Should they be supervised? Here is your chance to have your say.

You have just read my opinion, what's yours?

Quick: Should Kids (age 10-13) Be Allowed to Have a Facebook Account?

Quick: Should Kids (age 10-13) Be Allowed to Have a Facebook Account?

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Should Kids Under 13 Be on Facebook? - Add your opinions here

Here is your opportunity to tell me what you think. You read my opinion above, I say no, but only because it is the rules. Of course I think many kids are responsible enough, some at an even much younger age. However, what do we teach our children when we allow them to lie to get what they want? So, with that in mind I vote no. I don't stand alone either. There are two sides to the coin, like with any argument. I see here many that disagree and believe it's not always necessary to follow arbitrary rules. Other people feel that since everyone else is doing it, it's not only okay, but almost required. Many school teachers, clubs and groups use Facebook to disseminate information, so those kids who do not have an account are missing out.

The arguments on both sides of this coin are long. Do you have an opinion? Has it already been swayed today? And if it has, to which side?

Do you believe that kids under age 13 should be allowed an account? That the actual age decision should be up to the parents. The rule is arbitrary and silly. With supervision, you can still have control over who they friend, what they publicize, and they can learn the dangers in a safe environment.
Or, Rules are rules. The internet is a dangerous place and kids need restrictions.

Here is your chance to have your say:

Should Kids Be Allowed On Facebook?

Yes - Kids under 13 should be allowed to have an account

Yes - Kids under 13 should be allowed to have an account

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    • Sexy Bum 13 months ago

      You should have Facebook

    • Alyssa Maurin 16 months ago

      No that's why we have cyber bulling because our technology is so updated they can do anything to the picture. And am not willing to say what they can do!!!

    • Alyssa Maurin 16 months ago

      No that's why we have cyber bulling because our technology is so updated they can do anything to the picture. And am not willing to say what they can do!!!

    • Simsmaster123 18 months ago

      Yes because they are very mature but they should still be supervised by a parent but after that yeah sure

    • aa 21 months ago

      No no no.

    • courtney cold 23 months ago

      yes they should

    • Jade West 2 years ago

      Yeah alright go for it

    • mariyam nasir 2 years ago

      I am on facebook and my parents are added as friend in my id:) :D

    • mariyam nasir 2 years ago

      I am on facebook and my parents are added as friend in my id:) :D

    • velmanique 2 years ago

      i love it

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      I think children are fine having a Facebook just check and watch what they do only let them accept the follow request from people they know

    • SydneyF 2 years ago

      Yes and no. Yes because some kids are responsible and mature enough and know how to use Facebook correctly. Kids who are responsible and mature enough to understand how to use Facebook and not say things and post things and do things on social media that you know is wrong than your fine. If you are immature and not able to learn how to talk to people and do what you have to do on Facebook than your not ready. Most kids at the age of 13 are kind of immature and some kids are different and know how to control themselves on social media. I think your maturity level is a huge part of it and your responsibility. I got my first Facebook account when I was 14 and when I thought that I could handle it. My opinion is that if you have a Facebook and you feel that you are immature than you should have family on your friends list so when you post something your friends and family are able to see what you are posting and able to see if what you are posting is appropiate. Parents sometimes have the feeling that they can trust their kids on social media but kids take it farther and use it as something to be private with. I think that parents should supervise their kids and make sure that they are using the social media and Facebook the right way and able to be trusted and mature and RESPONSIBLE!!!

    • brianvallois lm 3 years ago

      It's 2014 we're in a digital era. Everyone is online and everyone has a digital footprint. Children use social media to make friends and to build/enhance relationships.

    • anonymous 3 years ago

      Umm...yes but only add friends they no in person not a stranger who are unfamiliar cuz they could be anyone but if they know for a fact its their friend in real life ok then there should kid mode settings that block out all PROFANE LANGUAGES AND UNNESSARY THINGS FORM KIDS and if they try to they should blocked out from facebook for like an hour or more as punishment.

    • anonymous 3 years ago

      Umm...yes but only add friends they no in person not a stranger who are unfamiliar cuz they could be anyone but if they know for a fact its their friend in real life ok then there should kid mode settings that block out all PROFANE LANGUAGES AND UNNESSARY THINGS FORM KIDS and if they try to they should blocked out from facebook for like an hour or more as punishment.

    • anonymous 3 years ago

      no because it i

    • anonymous 3 years ago

      Yes kids should be able to have a facebook account Kids are responsible as long as they know not to cuss and stuff like that kids should have a say in what's going on in the adult world

    • anonymous 3 years ago

      yes kids ahould freaks don't

    • anonymous 3 years ago

      Due to nature of the reality, even playgrounds (which are supposed to be the safe place for children) are also prone to dangers like vandalism, smoker/drinker presence, bullying etc. And these dangers are more fatal and worth to consider than abstract "pedophiles" on social networking websites. Due to playground vandalism, our children may learn to swear as early as it gets. Smoking or drinking alcohol near children, even if it's actually a holiday or festive table, can disappoint them because they're too young to drink - and therefore, make them drink in adulthood. Real life bullying is more harmful since it can lead to injuries, not just to plain emotional hurt.

      Since in case of underage kids, parents usually help kids to lie about their age, this is not a Children's Online Privacy Protection Act (or virtually Children's Online Presence Prevention Act) violation since the law doesn't require websites to ban kids from joining - but requires websites to have parental consent obtained when a child joins. Although the operator may not have a message of consent received, when parents allow them to lie and help them to create, it's virtually not a violation.

      As for pedophilia, that's plainly paranoid. Since emotional memory is the most permanent, many kids usually know the person who was abusing them. There is very few chance of being sexually abused by a total stranger. First of all, many people you talk to online live abroad or maybe even overseas from you and/or your kid - so there again is very fewer chance of Internet pedophilia.

    • anonymous 3 years ago

      If the parents allow, and the kids are responsible and safety smart... Then yes.

    No way - Kids don't belong on Facebook

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      • anonymous 20 months ago

        I do not believe kids should be on FB. There are too many creeps. There are more pedophiles out there then you think and research has shown most child molestation comes from a person or family member they know.And children are naturally curious and that makes them easily pursueded into doing things they shouldn't be doing. I also just see it as a babysitter for parents just like gaming. Please take part in your children's lives if they should be learning anything from anyone, it should be the parents.

      • courtney 23 months ago

        no way

      • princess penelope 2 years ago

        all the above status are true

      • anonymous 2 years ago

        YES!!

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        No they should't because lots of people are getting tricked over Facebook and a lot of creepy people are trying to snatch teens.Aka (human trafficking)

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        No they shouldn't because I'm a little kid and I scared of people. âºâ»â¥â â¦

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        kids under the age of 13 shouldn't have a facebook... but ut would be up to there parents if they was aloud to have a facebook

      • Andromachi 3 years ago

        I am a parent and I don't feel its safe for my children to be a part of facebook not until they are older and more mature.

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        No kids should Not be Allowed on FB at 13yrs i think kids are still kids banned kids from FB till they are 16yrs old a lot of the stuff on FB is more for adult keep kids safe keep them off FB

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        i have a facebook

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        I am 13 and some of the stuff i see is even inapropro for me. children should use sites such as club penguin because they are censored

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        NO BECAUSE THEY ARE TO YOUNG AND AND NOT READY

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        No, because there is too much bullying going on and explicit comments/pics/posts... Kids are irresponsible and parents are not monitoring. If they are not on there > ANY OF THEM then there will be no issue. My kids do not have Facebook, Instagram or Twitter access nor will I let them. If they want one they can get it when they are 18. You cannot control other kids so it's better to avoid the whole situation.

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        no i think 13 and up should be on facebook

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        Rules are rules, and they are there for the safety of all!

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        Tell your kids about COPPA at dinner sometime.

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        Read. COPPA.org

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        The FTCs law "COPPA ". Kids should understand that they are being protected. From cyber bullying, hacking,and things they don't understand.

      • anonymous 3 years ago

        NOOOOOOOOOO TWO YOUNG you should have two be 18 to much stress I was 20 when I got on it kids live your life

      • archaeologist71 3 years ago

        No, kids want to go on Facebook because they feel social pressure. Their friends are on and fitting in is really important to kids, especially pre-teens.

        But you have to be your own person, and not give in to pressure (whether its from yourself or your friends) to do something that isn't right for you.

        Facebook seems harmless but it can cause people lots of worry and sadness, especially if they are not sure of themselves or of how popular you are. Kids want to be popular, it means the world to them, but actually, facebook makes people feel less popular. What if someone hasn't answered your status yet? What if no-one answers your status? What if someone you like never accepted your friend request? These things can really hurt and leave people feeling like their tummy is in a knot, and like they want to cry. They lose their confidence because no-one replied to them on facebook and they will wonder why and what they did wrong. Truth is, people ignore people a lot on facebook. They're more interested in their own popularity!

        Maybe one day you are feeling down and write about your worries as a status. Then next day everyone's laughing about it at school. People can see what you write on facebook, even people you don't know. They just need to be a friend of a friend.

        What if some kids from school, who can be nasty, send your friend requests? if you accept them, they might ruin your facebook life. If you don't accept them, they might start picking on you at school.

        I think its best to wait until you are 13, and let yourself enjoy life without all that extra worry and stress.

        Even at 13, it best to have someone older to talk to, like a big sister or aunt, if you are on fb in case you start to feel overwhelmed with social worries.

        Parents who say no are just trying to take good care of you. They can be annoying but actually, they do know best, and they love you. Its not being over-protective. Its being a responsible parent and one day you will realise just how much they were looking out for you so you can have the best start in life possible. They don't say no to be mean, they do understand how much you want to fit in, but they can see its really not ok for you and won't make you happier in the long run.

        And yes, you'll feel really angry, but that's all part of growing up. Your parents are going to say no about quite a few things for the next few years, until you are 16.

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      At What Age is It OK?

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      Where Do You Draw the Line?

      Is this too young?

      I think we can all agree that this baby is too young for social media. I am assuming the artist who created this shirt did so as a joke. It made me laugh when I first saw it, but then it made me stop and wonder. Where do we draw the line? If we drop the age to include the 10-12 year old children, will the 7-9 year old kids suddenly become the next group to scream that it's not fair, we are as mature as our 10 year old siblings and friends. One would hope it would never filter down to include toddlers. But then 30 years ago who would have imagined that Apple would have an iPad and it would create apps for toddlers to use a computing device.

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          alex sanchez 2 years ago

          I love how kids have risons why kids should be on facebook acunts

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          brianvallois lm 3 years ago

          Controversial i love it!!

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          Andromachi 3 years ago

          Many people argue that social media can be a creative way to spend time however i believe they can be addictive as much as other computer related activities like computer games. So i am totally against them for children younger than 16. Only if i am at present i let my daughter play sometimes a game through my account.

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          jahnaypiink 3 years ago

          They say that kids should not be able to use facebook but i say they should cause they can talk to thire friends and far away families they can also play games on it like candy crush im 15 nd my lil sister has a facebook page but my mom checks her page all the time that's my opinion

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          CalobrenaOmai 3 years ago

          Facebook is okay but not for young kids; including some careless parents that wind up getting their own kids in trouble with their mindless rants. There are some kids that will treat their FB account as a diary and record things on the site and if the settings are set up properly, that information will be viewed by all. As with myspace, I see to it that the privacy settings are set up accordingly; had to do some updating after FB did some updating on their security. And that friends thing; you really don't have to know the person in order to friend them. Sure they put up some type of precaution setting but that doesn't help much; especially when it comes to games where you need people who play the game to join you. Awesome lens.

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          Loretta Livingstone 4 years ago from Chilterns, UK.

          I put a comment above and stupidly made a typo. It should read wise parents, not wide! :-( I think, on the whole, it is better for kids to wait 'til they are 13 and even then to be carefully monitored. Sadly, it is a dangerous world out there, probably more dangerous than a couple of decades ago.

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          @anonymous: Wrong !!

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          JoleneBelmain 4 years ago

          I think the age really depends on the child themselves. Some are so much more mature about things than others, but I strongly agree with the massive supervision part no matter when they start (as long as it is not after adulthood as it would seem more like controlling their lives at that point).

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          ass,coolman

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          lionmom100 4 years ago

          I think that kids should not have a Facebook page any earlier than 16 and maybe not until 18. They are too vulnerable before then and need guidance from an adult.

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          Gregory Moore 4 years ago from Louisville, KY

          Thought and debate-provoking lens. Well done.

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          LisaNowatzki 4 years ago

          Thanks for all the great information.

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          pinkhoodie 4 years ago

          Good and timely debate on underage Facebook use.

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          Good lens. It really sets up a deep issue in the forefront of our lives.

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          they should

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          why is a bad idea for kids to use facebook or twitter

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          Aquamarine18 4 years ago

          Great lens, it makes you think. I still can't answer these questions. My 9 year old has a fb account since 2 months, after crying and complaining for 2 years because his older brother (6 years apart!) had one and he didn't. I can't say I am totally at peace

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          casquid 4 years ago

          Congratulations on the Purple Star! This lens makes me think, but as a Grandmother of 11 children I see their faces before me and know that supervision is the key. Some are responsible enough to keep an appropriate conversation. Others would, definitely need close supervision.

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          justmelucy 4 years ago

          Great Lens on a Great Debate. I think it wise to be able to communicate and socialize here in the real world before you enter Fantasy Land (Not just FB but other sites as well)

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          @blue autumn: ya shut up i saw one of ur comment and it said kids sud be allowed to have facebook at age 13 like get a life like how old r u talking bullshit

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          i don't think kids sould have facebook even though if im 13 because we kids don't know wht right or wrong we still need time like y take risk

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          eccles1 4 years ago

          Great debate

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          blue autumn 4 years ago

          Very interactive and informative...sorry i was super long winded in the poll and didn't even realize it lol. Maybe I am bias since my cat can't read and its not an issue.

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          anonymous 4 years ago

          evary one sould be abule to play its fair then! why can't i play?

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          dream1983 4 years ago

          Very nice and interesting lens! You did a great job, Squidlike!

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          chft55 lm 4 years ago

          Interesting topic here!

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          Mary 4 years ago from Midwest

          Great lens I think it being awarded a purple star is right on.

          You put a lot of work into it and I really liked your lesn.

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          tridensright 4 years ago

          Great topic for a lens, many more lenses could come from this issue.

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          IQplusone 4 years ago

          I think Facebook should be open to all but cleaned up too.

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          Edwinrocks 5 years ago

          Great Lense

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          Deadicated LM 5 years ago

          Great topic.

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          JoyfulReviewer 5 years ago

          Very enlightening debate with lots of compelling arguments on both sides. Personally, I'd be concerned with the safety issues. ~~Blessed~~

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          Ribolov LM 5 years ago

          Nice lens, with a lot of good infomration. Thnx for sharing!

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          neuromancer lm 5 years ago

          I don't usually agree with facebook, but I would say 13 is ok.

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          dannystaple 5 years ago

          I've been on the internet in various way since the late 90's, so I can't really hide myself away. I do talk about my children on fb and the net, but I don't think I'd allow them their own accounts until they were much older, and at least socially aware enough to know that very few people have their interests in mind (I am paranoid like that).

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          MintySea 5 years ago

          I am with the nos on allowing kids on facebook

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          MintySea 5 years ago

          I am with the nos on allowing kids on facebook

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          BradKamer 5 years ago

          Great Debate Question. I understand both sides but lean towards "no" with allowing kids access to facebook.

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          Scraps2treasures 5 years ago

          My 2 older kids are allowed facebook accounts with the provision that they add my husband and I as friends. Quite enlightening - some of the comments they make when they forget that we can see their postings :)

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          WriterJanis2 5 years ago

          WTG with being on the front page. Congrats!

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          Timsmansmall 5 years ago

          Congratulations on being on the front page of Squidoo.

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          ideadesigns 5 years ago

          I thought I was just being cautious, but I see I am not alone in making them wait. Like that song "while I'm waiting" can teach patience, but I'm know maturity is needed. Thanks for making such an in depth page about the age issue. :)

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          fifta 5 years ago

          well, I prefer olden days when kids play kids stuff and not adult stuff =).

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          Barbara Tremblay Cipak 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

          I don't allow my 11 year to have a facebook account - he has asked and I've said no, he's too young. Also, I just recently allowed him to have an email account, so long as I have the password, and I check it to ensure everything's age appropriate.

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          linkreggie 5 years ago

          Social media like facebook is not absolutely bad to our children. Besides they give some valuable and updated information to our children as long we guide them on how to use it in the right way. I really love your lens. liked!..

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          HalloweenRecipes 5 years ago

          It's not Facebook that is the problem, it's the world we live in. It is a sad day when kids do not know how to play outside and entertain themselves without a video game or a computer in front of them. Our world is so plugged in!

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          Badbreathguy 5 years ago

          I don't know enough about Facebook but I am better educated now I have read this lens.

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          petkong 5 years ago

          Interisting topic. I don't agree, kids should not allowed to have facebook account. Useless and wasting time a lot

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          ferginarg lm 5 years ago

          We were all taught as kids not to talk to strangers right, we need to move with the times and teach our young ones the same thing for the cyber world. Completely restricting something from a child just makes that thing so much more interesting (with in limits). As long as education, monitoring and communication stays the number 1 priority I think we'll be able to protect our kids online.

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          fshgal96 5 years ago

          NO,NO, AND NO! Im not sure what the heck is wrong with folks these days! As if enough children aren't taken advantage of without the use of the social networking (ie: bad daycares, teachers, physicians, and lord knows what else). I also believe a child should not have a cell phone. For what? Whatever happened to using the home phone (now a day, a parents cell phone) to call their friends for a limited amount of time? My opinion on both of these subjects is simply this: When you are old enough to obtain a job to pay for the services, then you are old enough to have them. PERIOD! Thanks for the lens!

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