How to deal with negative comments on the hub pages

If you stay here on the good old hub pages long enough, sooner or later you will find yourself face to face with a negative comment from someone else. Now how you respond to it can make all the difference in the world. First you have to remember that the hub pages may have been started in a small garage in California, but it's still located on the world wide web. It takes all kinds of people to make the world go around, and eventually you'll meet up with a person that you'll never meet eye to eye with. This person may not understand what you were trying to say in your hub. This person may be having a bad day. This person may not have enough education to understand what your message meant. What ever the reason may be for this person's negative response, you may not be able to reason with them. So don't bother wasting your time, and what ever you do don't fire another negative comment back at that person. Don't let yourself get tricked into an argument.

Now it's okay to disagree or even debate with that individual, but making personal attacks, using profanity, and bickering will be dealt with here on the hub pages. Remember there are rules here at the hub pages to help keep order, which are enforced when they are broken. Since I've been here on the hub pages I've seen a number of hubbers banned for getting too passionate about a topic, and saying the wrong thing. It didn't make any difference how many hubs they had, how long they have been here on the hub pages or what their score was. When these people crossed the line, they were shown the door. There's a fine line between having a disagreement with someone, and an all out fight. You don't have to agree with somebody, but try to have respect for others here on the hub pages. Don’t make personal threats, and by all means watch your language.

Options for dealing with negative comments -

1. The best thing to do is to simply ignore the comment, and move on. Just let it bounce off of you like rainwater bounces off of the oiled feathers of a duck.

2. You may want to attempt to reason with this person, and try to explain your point of view. However certain people can't be reasoned with, and you may just find yourself stressing out and that it was a total waste of your time.

3. If you have a particularly hot topic, you may want to consider not showing your comments from fellow Hubbers until you have personally reviewed them. You have the option in your comment section, where you can opt to approve your comments before they appear. If you don't want these particular comments publicly displayed, then just put a check in that box. After you've read the comment you can always approve or deny to show the comment to everyone. It's your choice!

4. What ever you choose to do, just don't lose your cool and say the wrong thing that will get you in trouble with the hub pages later on. Remember once you post and leave a comment for someone else, it's out of your control and totally in their possession. You can't go back and delete a comment from off of someone elses hub. It just doesn't work that way.

Recently I wrote a hub which some people were in agreement, and others saw it differently. For the most part for those that saw it differently, I don't feel that they read into it enough to fully understand the meaning of the message. However that's fine, and as human beings we are not always going to agree with how others see something. That's fine, and I totally expected this kind of response with that particular hub. But the reason I decided to now write this particular hub about negative comments, was because one individual crossed the line completely, and my first option for dealing with negative comments is how I treated this issue. Remember if you don't like a particular hub, no one is making you read it. Go onto to another hub that you like, and get on with your life. I've always found in life that you get a lot more with sugar than you do with vinegar. I hope this hub helps someone else out there on the hub pages deal with a negative comment that they might someday receive, and remember to just have some fun while you are visiting here on the hub pages.

It's your choice - you can be nice or mean
It's your choice - you can be nice or mean

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Comments 52 comments

Jlava73 profile image

Jlava73 4 years ago from Cyberspace and My Own World

Very Good Advice! Personally, I would likely ignore a rude comment or not approve it in the first place ~ nothing to fuss over then.


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writer20 4 years ago from Southern Nevada

Your right there's no need to take any notice just delete and move right on.

Vote up and interesting.


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Thumbs up on this one! I have only faced this three times and each time I simply thanked them for their comment and moved on. Life is too short to be pulled into a cyber battle of words. I'm here to write, not debate.


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Applause, applause! You have to expect that not everyone is going to like your writing style and topics. I try to comment on those I truly enjoy and to leave some positive feedback. You will never be able to please everyone, just tip your hat and move on. Great hub topic and so useful.


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phoenix2327 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Very good advice. You're never going to please everyone so it's helpful to know the best way to handle negativity without aggravating the sitation.

Voted up and useful.


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

A very wise and sensible advice! Your options are very helpful! Well-done!

Thanks for SHARING. Useful. Voted up.


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angie ashbourne 4 years ago

Hi! Very good advice. Voted up and useful. Angie


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Faithful Daughter 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

Great advice. When I get a negative comment, I either ignore it, try to explain the misunderstanding politely, or just delete it altogether. I feel that it all boils down to respecting others. If you don't like the hub, move on. What do people have to prove by being condescending and offensive?


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kj force 4 years ago from Florida

Extremely good advice..I believe in the philosophy we should agree to disagree, or disagree to agree..everyone is entitled to their opinion..My genre of writing is humor,but, it is tongue in cheek,so there are a few that don't get it..but.."Whatever..I'm Still Here"..and publishing.. just my thoughts..


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Deborah Demander 4 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

Good hub. Even the best of intentions are sometimes met with disdain and disagreement. C'est la vie. People have different perspectives, which makes the world an interesting place.

Namaste.


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PurvisBobbi44 4 years ago from Florida

Hi,

I joined HubPages to write--not to debate my views or opinions--therefore---I will not approve rude comments.

This was a very useful hub, especially to new hubbers, and I hope everyone who is new reads it.

Thanks,

Bobbi


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Lipnancy 4 years ago from Hamburg, New York

Delete and move. Don't take the negatives to heart. It will drive you crazy.


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Angela Blair 4 years ago from Central Texas

You're completely correct as to the subject of the Hub. For some a certain subject is a direct hit at their beliefs, lifestyle, etc. I've encountered these people and make every attempt to placate them and go forward. Sometime this is possible and sometimes not. When it's not and the commenter resorts to personalities and name calling I just refuse further comments from them (after gently suggesting their commentary isn't proper) and let the whole thing go. Works every time. Best/Sis


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Handicapped Chef 4 years ago from Radcliff Ky

This is a great hup I have had a few run in with people with negative comments even after I made a good and honest comment they stiill came at my throat. I have learned to just not say any thing but maybe its just better to remove the comment ....I thing you should be able to leave your comment good or bad because you can learn from then and see another persons point but to be chewed and spit out is a little crazy .....I'M JUST SAYING.


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Teylina 4 years ago

Hp'r's are, I think, notorious for having different views. I guess I kinda think whatever is on hp is kinda same as talking, which includes, TO ME, a modicum of tact, unless somebody is on a debate team! I know I've disagree with some and some have disagree with either a hub, or, more often, a comment I've made and I figure it's part of our give-and-take. I'm sure I've probably stepped on some toes, and I will say right now I never meant to do so. I believe in tact unless a "formal" debate. It's foolish to think we should all agree on anything! Negative means we're reading!


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DIYmyOmy 4 years ago from Philadelphia, PA

Good advice. I am a professional writer & artist and negative comments have been a part of my life for many decades. My best tips for dealing with it: Remember that it's easier to criticize than create. And remember that you have the power to completely ignore anything you choose, so do it. Thanks for posting, voted up and useful!


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean

Well that negative comment brought you an idea for a new hub. How could your response be anymore positive? Good job!


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Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

What a fantasic hub for me, a new hubber. Great advice to say the least. Thank you so very much for writing this insightful hub. As my mother would say, "If you do not have anything nice to say, then do not say anything at all!" She is the sweetest mother on the planet. In my lifetime, I have never heard her say one negative thing about anyone. I can only aspire to do the same; let's encourage each other. In His Love, Faith Reaper


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LauraGT 4 years ago from MA

Good advice. I have yet to have any really negative comments, but lots of disagreements, which I actually welcome. Part of the fun is having an active debate! :) I also might advise that people use a negative comment as an opportunity to redirect the conversation or remake one of your positive points. All press is good press, right?


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ChristyWrites 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

I would agree to disagree. Thank the negative person for commenting and try to understand if what has been said may objectively be true. It's best to be positive so don't dwell on the comment longer than needed. Good topic!


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Inspired 4 U 4 years ago from Queens, NY

Useful information. I would deny a comment that is rude, profane or crosses the line in any way; and agree to disagree with a comment of another opinion, respecting their right to their opinion while standing by my own. I did choose to ignore a comment that I felt was deliberately antagonistic to incite a religious debate.


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mizjo 4 years ago from New York City, NY

Good advice, Goody5. Either ignore the negative comment or disarm it with charm. Some humor always works, unless the commentor is determined to be a grizzled camel.

If the negative comment is not rude, then reply to it in good faith. If it is rude, and nobody has any business to be rude, I say, best ignore it and go on to the next (useful) comment.


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dashingclaire 4 years ago from United States

Thanks for the hub goody5. I use the approval system and delete useless rude remarks. It's a wonderful tool that more people should use. Some people just can't agree to disagree. Voted up


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Vampsdes 4 years ago from Missouri, US

I haven't been active very long, thus everyone I've dealt with so far has been exceptionally nice. I'm sure the longer I am here the more likely I will be to see or have to deal with this. I am one to take things too personally sometimes. So when this does happen, I will keep this hub in mind, and try to look right past it! Voted up!


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Suelynn 4 years ago from Manitoba, Canada

Hi Goody5

Excellent hub and good reading. Forewarned is forearmed - I appreciate all the great advice!

Lovely to meet you. Voted UP, useful and interesting. :)


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sheilanewton 4 years ago from North Shields, UK

Love this hub. No writer likes negative comments - but they have to be constructive comments of criticism. A personal attack is disgraceful. Why do people take pleasure in slashing our good names?? Why oh why?


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Nera Woods 4 years ago

Yes, that's right. There are people out there who get pleasure from making others feel bad, so it's our choice not to give them some more opportunities to play their game.


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AnnRandolph 4 years ago

Good advice. If I read a hubbers opinion I don't agree with I simply move on. I'm busy looking for hubs I like. This is one of them!


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kuttingxedge 4 years ago from Just outside of international extradition agreements

Good advice. Knowing when to walk away is the most important part of interacting with people that only want to stick it out and fight.


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AlexK2009 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland

Examine it. Take anything from it as valid. Adjust the hub if need be (credit the commenter) allow or not allow the comment. Respond once if you feel like it. Then move on and ignore them. Be careful in your response. On one site I visit one participant often tries to get other participants to say something indicating they are evading tax. Better say nothing than drop yourself in it.


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BeyondMax 4 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Lovely hub, insightful! I agree, we never know who is on the other side and what their intentions are. May be that's some teenagers out of boredom having fun by provoking you, why stress yourself out then? =)


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alancaster149 4 years ago from Forest Gate, London E7, U K (ex-pat Yorkshire)

Thumbs up, Goody5! I've been lucky so far, had precious little I could call remotely excited in a negative way. I've had one or too that approached 'near the knuckle' status, but I try to deflect them with a bit of humour. Some I've had that positivly 'gushed' in my favour, so all in all nothing untoward. Keep on truckin'!


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luvintkandtj 4 years ago from USA

Voted up!


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lifeoflata 4 years ago from Tacoma Wa

I know what you mean, sometime your views aren't the same as others. Especially if it's a sports comment. So that's good to know, I know that I've been lucky to not have a bad comment yet but I know it will happen one day. interesting hub voted up


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ratnaveera 4 years ago from Cumbum

Great advice for the Hubbers especially for the new ones. Yes! We need not take negative comments serious. Sometimes it'll help to build tolerance and patience. Thanks a lot for presenting this useful Hub! Thumbs Up!


kevinbrown55 4 years ago

Great hub, voted up! These are some of the same things they tell us to do in school. I'm attending school online to receive my bachelor's degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. Most of the people in the online classrooms may never appear before me. But Ashford University strictly tells us to report offensive comments to the instructor, rather than create conflict. Great points in this hub, thank you!


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christin53 4 years ago from UK

Good hub. I haven't been on here long enough to have a negative comment yet but if I did I would just ignore it.


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bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Really good advice. Specially to newcomers like me.

I have had rather a weird and negative comment already, didn´t know quite what to make of it , but decided just to not get into it and instead told the person I appreciated them reading anyway. You can´t win em all in life, so forget the bad ones and move on..life´s too short as they say. Voted up etc. PS. I see you are following me, thanks so much for that.


Duchess OBlunt 4 years ago

One thing I think many of us forget is that whatever we say here or elsewhere on the internet will follow us. We create footprints that follow us no matter where we go. So how we deal with these situations is important.

I had one occasion where another hubber tried to intimidate with his so called expert knowledge. The funny thing was his expert knowledge had nothing to do with the hub I had written. As a newbie at the time - I wasn't sure how to handle it. My first thought was to blast him, but I didn't. I went away, cooled down for a few days and then tackled it, and I'm glad I did.

BUT, tact doesn't always work. There are some people who just don't "get it". There always will be. Like you say, ignore them.


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Trish_M 4 years ago from The English Midlands

Hi :)

I agree with this advice:

"don't fire another negative comment back"

If someone is being seriously unpleasant, then it's best to let HubPages staff deal with it, I think :)


Nashira 4 years ago

Great advice! I agree.


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shiningirisheyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

Excellent and positive advice. I pratice these suggestions in my day to day life, as well.


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Wonderful hub. Thank you for the suggestions. GBY


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joyfulmommy 4 years ago

Hi Goody5!

These are great advices and useful! Voted up!


Ginger Ruffles 4 years ago

Well said! I almost blew it a couple days ago with someone who was clearly not comprehending any of my statements and twisting them to fit her ideology...but I just gave up and moved on.


UrsulaRose 4 years ago

Goody Goody GumDrops ... well-written informative Hub Article you have published here Goody5.

Great advice for any newbie or experienced Hubber to heed. This is a hub that I will be only too happy to share. Voted up!


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Goody5 4 years ago from Bohville, USA, Just below the Mason-Dixon line in the land of the pleasant living Author

I'm glad you all see the point I was trying to make here. Rose the best thing to do, when someone has nothing better to do but leave a rude comment, is to simply ignore and delete it. It takes all kinds to make up the hub pages just like it does for the world. There no sense in letting one bad apple ruin it for everyone else.


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Karine Gordineer 4 years ago from Upstate New York

Well written hub and great advice...for life as well as hubs! Don't sweat the small stuff - voted up!


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dianetrotter 3 years ago from Fontana

Our responses to a specific comment are viewed by many people. The comments say more about the commenter than the target of the comments.


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Amanda J Rose 3 years ago from Florida's West Coast

Great Hub and great attitude towards dealing with negative comments. I didn't know that comments could be approved, so I will check that out for my Hub. Thanks for writing this! What helps me sometimes is to remember that sometimes you have to just "shake the dust from your sandals" and move on.


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dianetrotter 3 years ago from Fontana

Yes you do Amanda!!!


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coleikerd 3 years ago

Wise advice.

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