Basic Things to Ponder and that Really Matter in Living One’s Life


Let me ask a few questions that could possibly trigger our mental processes;

  1. Have you ever wondered why you would want to continue living? Is it something like you live because you have no choice…you were born so you have to continue living or existing till you die…or because you cannot just stop breathing or you just cannot kill yourself so you have no choice but to continue living?
  2. Next question is. Do you really live or do you merely exist?
  3. What is the difference between mere existing and really living?
  4. Last question would be, if you really live then what is the meaning of life for you or what make your life meaningful?
  5. What are the things (whether you possess it already or that you are still pursuing) that you really value in your life?

Let me discuss each question one at a time and so I start with number one then follow on chronologically. The answers here would be my personal answers and I am speaking for myself. Individual differences would cause millions of varied answers to the same questions and everybody is entitled to live the life that one chooses.

Why Live?

Question number one reminds me of an incident with my Dad some decades back when I was just entering puberty. My Dad spanked me because he said I was stubborn. I cannot really recall in details why I made him so angry but I remember my statement to him; “You should not have sired me; I wish I was not born.”

I was sobbing as I said it, not only because of the physical hurt of the belt that he beat on my skin but worse was the agonizing feelings of inadequacy or that sort which made me feel like I didn’t deserve to live because I was not good enough in life and at everything I did or decided to do. I felt that I was a mistake, that I was born a mistake or that it was a big joke or mistake to be here in this life.

I actually attempted to commit suicide many a times but I found out that even in killing myself I was not good enough as well because no matter what I tried to do to kill myself I am still alive until now. (Is it obvious?)

We did not choose to be born neither did our parents chose what kind of personality their children would be once they are born and what kind of life they will be living, (if they did live life.)

In this statement, it is very tempting to discuss on ‘was there anybody who made the choice as far as our personality and kind of life we will be living is concerned?’ The preceding argument would be deeper and broader topics to discuss so that I will just have to limit this discussion about the “now” that we are already in this dimension of the supposedly living state.

Assuming that we have to continue existing because “that’s the way it is” and we are too coward (or brave enough?) to kill ourselves then we have to let our ability to choose the kind of life to live for ourselves in order to really live that life in accordance to the intention of the Giver or Creator of all lives and things in nature.

To personally choose the direction of your life is life itself. This is the only way to live life as opposed to just exist in and be blown where the wind goes.

To Live and to Merely Exist

Basically we all exist whether we like it or not and regardless of what kind of existence each of us is going through.

Majority of the people exist and can easily ride on the bandwagon of what everybody is doing or need to do in a given time, place, and society or culture.

If one would be good enough to belong and be like everybody else then that would be enough for them and there would be fewer tensions to tackle.

The common pattern of life in a given society would be first, being born, then belong to the family, then belong to the peer group or age level socialization processes, church (if any), school, job, and so on.

Some people do it well enough to be in that social pattern but for various reasons, a lot more cannot cope and adjust to this social pattern due to many individual differences (or social defects?) such as the IQ cannot cope with lessons in school, being bullied, and many individual preferences and personal conflicts that cannot adhere to the requirements inherent in the pattern that a given society has sanctioned in its evolving nature.

Whether one can belong well to the societal sanctions or sidetrack from it, one basic human endeavor is to be happy in the kind of life he had chosen. If one has to be in the “bandwagon” then that must be his/her personal choice; likewise, if one is in the “sidetrack” then that must be his/her personal choice. This is the only way to be happy.

Happiness then is living the life you had chosen and created for yourself and can be defined as the freedom to choose; and not only has that one had known of this freedom but also to have one’s freedom to choose work accordingly.

Simply put; your life now is the life that you had dreamed of and that you were the one who had desired and created such life you are living now for yourself.

Meaning of Life for You

Life can only be meaningful if you had defined it for yourself and had acquired or achieved those things that you deem most important for you so that you protect those things from any outward attacks that may damage the values you put into it.

There are countless areas in life that one may value. The Values put into these basic things in life may vary with individual preferences; individual preferences is influenced by cultural, psychological, spiritual, physical, genetic, material, and so forth background.

Among the many areas in life that an individual can value and which one is convinced that he cannot live without are as follow;

  1. Family, Relationships, and Socialization Processes
  2. Education and Self-Expression
  3. Socio-economic status or Status quo
  4. Travel and Leisure
  5. Hobbies
  6. Personality, Self-Value, Dignity and Spirituality

The preceding are just a few of the possibly millions of choices that an individual could be interested about and which one may value throughout his life.

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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Globetrekkermel,

Sure am on, by the sound of it I feel like in my twenties or thirties when I was teaching Physical Education...this will be a physical challenge to me, I got to frequent my gym activities...hehehe, such cute things to imagine and ponder on...Good luck to us! hahaha...


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Globetrekkermel,

Sure am on, by the sound of it I feel like in my twenties or thirties when I was teaching Physical Education...this will be a physical challenge to me, I got to frequent my gym activities...hehehe, such cute things to imagine and ponder on...Good luck to us! hahaha...


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Globetrekkermel 3 years ago from CALIFORNIA

LOL! JYNZ, this will be a meeting like no other. Onother excellent source for a good article in hubpages.ha ha ha! Will show you the unexplored and untouched by tourism , road less travelled places in Laoag. Forget zip lining... too touristic for me, we will be hiking Cape Bojeador lighthouse in Burgus , about 1 hour north of Laoag in Patapat viaduct. I have hiked there before.LOL! are you on?


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Globetrekkermel,

Globe, that is an excellent suggestion; I will have no problem on that. Hence I will be checking my HP too every now and then and see the development of our plan. Rest assured I will comply accordingly.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Globetrekkermel,

Globe, that is an excellent suggestion; I will have no problem on that. Hence I will be checking my HP too every now and then and see the development of our plan. Rest assured I will comply accordingly.


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Globetrekkermel 3 years ago from CALIFORNIA

Jynz, meeting in laoag is more favorable for me as well.let's plan on meeting in Laoag then. How about June 15 which will be a saturday after I come back from southeast Asia?.I can have our family driver come pick you up at the bus station and bring you to your hotel on june 15. Will let you know which hotel I will be making reservations for you. Will this work? let me know.If there are any changes in the plan, I have my Ipad with me while I will be in southeast asia and you can leave messages in HP.I will be checking my messages on a reglular basis. My cell phone from the US will also be on roaming . Will email you my cell phone number.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Globetrekkermel,

Hey Globe, this is getting more and more exciting; both options are actually attractive to me but I think going to Laoag is more adventurous and maybe not a "hurry" situation? How long will you be in Laoag?

You see, I had met some traveling friends from foreign lands and being with them is like I also had visited the places they had gone to. Lots of things to talk about if not observe personally and learn from their overall behavior, attitudes and outlook in life.

As to the transportation and hotel expenses you offered to take charge for me, it would help because by now I have not told my husband yet about my intention to meet you. My point is that regretfully I am full time dependent on him financially since I quit teaching for more than a year now.


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Globetrekkermel 3 years ago from CALIFORNIA

Hey Jynz, great... It will be something else if we do meet, isn't it? How about if you come to Laoag after I come back from Southeast asia. I will pay your transportation and hotel expenses. I am flying back to the States on June 24.It will be great if you can come to laoag or I can see you either in Manila on my way back to the States on June 24. I have an overnight stay in manila on june 23 as I have a 630am flight back to San francisco on June 24. I am dreading to take this flight at all , too early. let me know what you think about the options.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Globetrekkermel,

Hi Globe...I feel so excited for you, really! I can only wish I will have such opportunity, the opportunity that should have been easier in my personal capacity if not for the bureaucracy and government intervention; but any way I am just glad that I have a friend like you who can actually what I can only dream of.

I will be very very happy to meet you on June 14. Just tell me through HP when you're in Manila on June 4 then I will give you my phone number so we can talk in the phone. I am now living in San Fernando City Pampanga, 87 kilometers away from Manila or a one hour drive or a two-hour ride on a bus, depending on traffic condition.

Good luck and happy traveling then.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Globetrekkermel,

Hi Globe...I feel so excited for you, really! I can only wish I will have such opportunity, the opportunity that should have been easier in my personal capacity if not for the bureaucracy and government intervention; but any way I am just glad that I have a friend like you who can actually do what I can only dream of.

I will be very very happy to meet you on June 14. Just tell me through HP when you're in Manila on June 4 then I will give you my phone number so we can talk in the phone. I am now living in San Fernando City Pampanga, 87 kilometers away from Manila or a one hour drive or a two-hour ride on a bus, depending on traffic condition.

Good luck and happy traveling then.


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Globetrekkermel 3 years ago from CALIFORNIA

hey Jynz , girl! how are you? I know it's been quite while since last time we talked in HP.I will be in manila in 10 days.yey! I can't wait.where do you live? wanna still go for lunch or dinner? If you are free , we can meet. I will be flying to HO CHI MINH CITY ,Vietnam then to Phnom penh Cambodia on June 4. I have a few hours lay over in Manila from Laoag en route to Ho Chi Minh on June 4, can you make it to manila for a few hours? If not I would like to invite you to meet after I come back from south east asia on June 14. What do you think? let me know.Will be great to see a fello hubber LIVE ! HA HA HA !


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Hi Globetrekkermel,

Good to hear from you again. You are very lucky to have gone around the globe to personally witness various life situations and conditions. Very sensible reasons.

Thank you for your answer. God Bless.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Hi Globetrekkermel,

Good to hear from you again. You are very lucky to have gone around the globe to personally witness various life situations and conditions. Very sensible reasons.

Thank you for your answer. God Bless.


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Globetrekkermel 3 years ago from CALIFORNIA

Mind reeling questions and a challenge to answer.

My answers:

1.The thought of questioning why I choose to continue to live ? It is because there is so much to see in the whole wide world that I have not seen. I do not think about this all day 24/7 but subconsciously, I believe my mind is programmed to achieve this goal.The other reason is that , I like to continue to live because I love to help and be of service to other people. I have a limited time here on earth, I might as well use whatever time left that I have to help other people. I feel good when I help and I feel I am at my best when I can make a difference in people's life no matter how small my effort is.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Thanks so much for your encouraging comment MsDora.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Thanks so much for your encouraging comment MsDora.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean

Jynzly, your article causes deep reflection, and as your title suggests, it leaves us with much to ponder. Thanks for putting your own reflections into a form that affects all of us. Good job!

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