How to maintain good communication as a person in authority, or how to communicate in every day life!

Human communication is the key to understanding, development, friendship and relationship, cultures and societies. The ability to communicate is a vital social skill and the importance of good communication grows as we become more and more interdependent of each other. Even if you don’t work as a person in authority, maybe you as a citizen have met, or will meet, a representative from an Authority. And if not, you still have to communicate with people around you, at work, at home or with friends. This article can give information to all who in some way communicate with others, and also information on how to induce someone to do something they don’t want to do!

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Communication

I work as an environmental and health inspector and I have the privilege to meet all kind of people in my work. It is part of the fun with this work; no meetings with people can ever become predictable. You never know how a forthcoming meeting with a citizen will develop or is ended. Sometimes when I think that a meeting will be very difficult, everything works smoothly, and sometimes when I’m not prepared for major issues the meeting can be difficult and strained.

But in every meeting with citizens and entrepreneurs I have one goal; to maintain communication! That is one of the most important and also the most difficult part in this work. Anyone who works as a person in authority is also responsible for the communication - we have to take responsibility for all parties concerned! When communication is lost, we have failed.

In my work I do field surveys, I visit industrial settings of all kind, waste facilities, property owners and so on, and I encounter all kinds of people, from CEOs of major companies to owners of sole proprietorships. Besides business people, I also have supervision of individual citizens. But really there is no difference at all; no matter what title a person has, the important thing is that they are all human beings. Possibly, I tend to have slightly higher demands on law knowledge from a business, but unfortunately this is not something you can count on either! The purpose of the work is to ensure conformance with federal, state, and local regulations and ordinances.

The people I meet come from different cultures, have different political thoughts, and they also have different abilities. Some of them can even have mental illness. Much of the work consists of conversation and communication; conversations with citizens, neighbours to business, businesses, politicians and colleagues. With experience I have learned some ways to maintain good communication also in difficult situations. Some of it have I brought with me from my former profession as a nurse at an emergency department and in cancer care and some is experience from my current job.

So, what are the problems I may face in my work? I will give you some examples and some of them are the same problems you can face in normal life too, even if you do not meet this specific type of people!

How do you respond to entrepreneurs or citizens who will not listen, who have prejudices against the authorities and are confident that I have made it all up myself because I have an evil personality? They can be cynical, provocative, manipulative or aggressive. Or the opposite, they may also perceive themselves as victims of government power abuse and burst into tears during the inspection time. Another category are those who says yes and agrees to anything you say, smile and are very charming, but then don’t even try to make the necessary steps that we agreed on. Then there are those that are impossible to meet, that does not answer the phone, refuses to open the door or are not in place despite the scheduled visit. Last but not least is the category that will do anything to try to make a fool out of the inspector by pointing to the inspector’s lack of knowledge of their activities. And I must also add those who believe that their personal finance situation should cause that the law does not apply to them! But in general most people are reasonable and behave ever so polite and correctly and with them, communication isn’t a problem.

But what about the others that I mentioned above and what is it that I do that can cause all these reactions? I will tell you; I infringe on their territory, and moreover I say that they are doing something wrong, and I require that they must take actions they sometimes consider to be completely unnecessary and can be expensive for them! For example, imagine a property owner who has a substandard sewage system and who have to invest in a new, a property owner of an apartment block which has to invest in a new ventilation system so the tenants should have a decent living environment, a car painter who need to improve the management of chemicals, a plastic factory that will have to invest in a new treatment plant for the outgoing air, a service station who must fill in checklists to show that they have done necessary controls to reduce risks of fire/accident and so on. The visits may mean that I issue warning and citation to lawbreakers. In all this visits I infringe on their territory, and to such intrusions, we react different. If they don’t understand why they are not likely to do it voluntarily.

Then, now when we all know the background, how do you maintain good communication?

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Democracy and Participation

I want to start with the fundamental basics; Democracy and Participation.

The right to participate is part of citizenship and participation is a prerequisite for democracy. The degree of participation may vary but to invite to a dialogue is a first step towards participation. Everyone is entitled to an opinion and we don’t need to have the same opinion. But we must be able to talk about it. You might think that there isn’t any democracy in getting a visit from the authority, but I think there is. You might not like what the inspector say, or you might even consider the law to be wrong. And that is part of a democracy; you are entitled to those opinions, but remember that the laws are decided in a democracy! And if you don’t understand the law, use the inspector for an explanation! And as an inspector, use the meeting to learn something new! There is a value to utilize the different skills and experiences that citizens have. We can always learn something new from a dialog with others and it would be a shame to miss that opportunity.

The next things listed here do not come in any particular order, they are all very important for communication.

 

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See the person in front of you!

View and confirm the man in front of you.

Every human wants to be taken seriously and treated with respect. Make sure that you don’t miss the first crucial moments. Look the person in the eye and greet him/her in a polite way. Be aware that you come as a government official and try to get a first impression of the man in front of you. You must, within a few seconds, determine how to approach the person and communicate at the right level. Since you both are humans, start with something casual, like small talk about the weather or something suitable. The purpose is to create an initial dialog and that is easier to do about everyday things that are not sensitive. By treating the person like this you show that you both are humans!

 

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Feel empathy!

You must be able to feel empathy!

To empathize is to understand how another person experiences a particular situation and also to express yourself so that the other person understands that you have understood. Empathy is one of the basics in a good dialogue. But you should not feel sympathy, you are not supposed to share the other’s emotions and share feelings of anger or despair. That can have the opposite effect on a dialogue.

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Listen!

Make sure that you really listen! Sometimes we are so busy with figure out our next sentence that we miss what the other person says. Don’t do that mistake! That can really offend people and be the sparkle you don’t want. Really stop and listen to what the other has to say, and most importantly, confirm that you understand. You don’t need to agree but it is important that you understand. The best way to tell somebody you have understood is to say; Did I understand you correct now, you mean that……. This is a great way to confirm that you have listened and to prevent future misunderstandings.

Use easy words and give clear messages!

Talk so they understand what you say and avoid using technical expressions. Make sure that they understand what you say, and the most important, make sure they know what is required of them. If needed, be firm and specific about what you want! I always repeat in the end what we have agreed on, or what they need to do even if we disagree.

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Ask questions

To ask questions can give the conversation so much value! The things you see can get a better content if the owner explains how and why. You can start with questions that stimulate the other to tell, for example; how did you do this, and how were you thinking when you designed this? If you do not understand, ask again, it is the one who manage the business/company that has the best knowledge about their particular business. Do not pretend that you understand if you don’t.

If you need to, ask challenging questions, but be careful. Challenging questions can be perceived as if you claim that the person in front of you is lying. That will not take the communication towards mutual understanding.

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Switch between distance and proximity

To switch between distance and proximity is a basic ingredient if a conversation is supposed to lead to common understanding. You have to switch between distance and proximity to both your self and the person in front of you. When you have distance to your self you can relate to the other persons perspective, and can also critically examine yourself. When you have proximity to your self and distance to the other person the difference between your views becomes obvious which is an important step to understanding.

 

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Be a man and allow yourself to have emotions!

Even an environmental and health inspector is a human being! (Surprise!) And like most humans we don’t like to upset people or make their life miserable, we don’t like when someone ridicules us, behave aggressively against us, or try to manipulate us. We react like anybody else in that situation, we feel compassion, aggression, and all human defence mechanism is triggered if we are attacked. But as the representative for the government you can’t allow yourself to act those emotions out free, even if you get as mad as ever. You have a purpose with your visit or inspection, and that isn’t to make enemies. Don’t allow yourself to be provoked or be diverted from your task. But you must allow yourself to have all these feelings! Acknowledge the feelings you have, no matter what they are, and let the feelings be there. By allowing ourselves to feel emotion, we still have contact with the man within us. There is nothing worse than an inspector who is not a human being. But make sure that the good communication continues and do not let it degenerate into a heated debate.

 

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Don’t take it personal!

Often, I find that the business/citizen perceive and treat me as if I am the law, or as if I have come up with these things myself when sitting in my office. And some seems to believe that if they only get rid of the inspector their problems are solved. In those cases you can run into personal attacks, and it is never permissible. Do not allow that to happen! Then you have to clearly show that there goes definitely the limit for you. Look at yourself as a messenger for the law, but you are not the law, and this must be totally clear to the other person. You don’t shoot the messenger!

If it still goes wrong!

If a dispute is escalating, end the visit by saying; “I see that you are very upset now, and we will probably not reach any agreement today. I propose that we meet again in a week”.

Often it goes better the next time, when both have had time to think it through.

If it doesn’t, there is nothing else to do than to take imperative measures, issue warnings and write an injunction even if they do not understand why! With some people that is the only way. You can’t win them all, but you have to try!

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Madurai 5 years ago from Online

very good and inspiring thing about the communication. There are some small techniques which we miss while communicating that should be adjusted ..


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katiem2 5 years ago from I'm outta here

Good stuff here on communication. All of us should learn these skills starting in primary school as they are as fundamental and vital as reading writing and math. Well done! :) Katie


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi Madurai! Communication is difficult, there are so many aspects to consider, and sometimes we do not understand each other. But it is possible to improve on how to communicate, at least a little! Thanks for stopping by and leave a comment!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi Katie, I totally agree. It is a shame it must take half a life time to understand how and why:))Good point! communication is as vital as the other subjects!If we learned how to communicate with each other, many of our daily problems would be solved! Thanks for your valuable comment!


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

Good communication is the key to everything in life.To communicate either verbally or through the written word is so crucial to a happy existence. A very detailed and informative hub - thanks Thougtforce.


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MartieCoetser 5 years ago from South Africa

Thoughtforce, in the capacity of an environmental and health inspector, every meeting must be a big challenge for you. You arrive as a threat, and you’ve got to change the perception of the client in order to obtain his cooperation, which asks for special skills. This hub proves that you do have all the necessary skills. My hat off to you! This is truly a hub you can convert into a course worthy to pay for. Have you ever thought about this?


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LillyGrillzit 5 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

Excellent Hub! I spent 5 years out there, and communication is essential. The thing I loved about working in the field, communication. It is a gift that translates engineering to common sense. Voted Up!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi, acaetnna, it is always nice to see you! You are right on, good communication can really make you life happier! It is the key in all intercourse with people. Haven´t we all been misunderstood or have misunderstood someone else, and felt so bad afterwards! Imagine how many people that walk around and feel bad because of bad communiction. Thanks for your point on happiness, I am so glad you came by!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Martie, you are such a supportive friend! And, yes, every meeting is a challenge, because you never know when or where you will meet "difficult" people. But that is part of the job, and most of the time I meet friendly, funny, intelligent people. There are so many good people out there, and sometimes they just didn’t know that they did something wrong! The tricky part is that I can’t, or I shouldn’t have a bad day my self. But life goes up and down for me as well, and some days I can feel a little bit down. Those days are the worst since I influence the conversation with my mood. But as the years go, I have learned how to prepare my self before meetings with the public. I sort off shake off my own life and play a role. Usually that’s goes well. No, I haven’t thought of a course, but one never know…you have giving me a great idea! Thanks for your positive feedback, I am always happy to see you in my corner. Take care!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hello Lilly, It is such a great job, working in the field! Every day you work in a different arena than yesterday! And you must love to communicate, or it becomes a daily battle. I am sure you also have many great memories from meetings with all this different people. And with persistant I think that we make a different over time. Thank you, for your supportive feedback and the voting up, it means a lot coming from you! Take care!


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LillyGrillzit 5 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

Trank you thoughtforce, I have a hub on Badger Balm from the field, and when Rita met TX if interested. :0)


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onegoodwoman 5 years ago from A small southern town

Voted up!

It is important to realize the other person

does not see the same things you do. They

have their own viewpoints and worldview.

I especially like the reminder to keep the

message simple. Even though, I am all for

increasing the vocabulary, it shouldn't be

necessary to carry a dictionary around just

to talk to someone.

Good job, Thoughforce!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Lilly, Thanks, I am on my way to read about Badger Balm and Rita...


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi onegoodwomen, I am happy to see you here, it is always nice to see your beautiful photo! Just as you say, it is really amazing how different two people can look at the same thing. I am constantly surprised by that. Sometimes you find your twin out there, but usually not. And it is better to assume that we see things different. And the langage; sometimes when I for example go to the lumberyard to buy wood,I get annoyed over that they have to speak their lingo. Suddenly cm are supposed to be inches, Who measure in inches these days, not me! No it is better to speak so every one understand. I am glad you liked it, your comment is always appreciated! Thanks for voting up!


Wife Who Saves 5 years ago

Your description of good communication is perfect. And you seem to have much patience to suggest waiting a week to continue the conversation. It shows that you genuinely care about people. Great hub.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi, WhifeWhoSaves, welcome to my corner of the world! You are right, I do care about people, and still believe that people want to do the right thing if someone takes the time and show them why. In my work I need to have much patience. If I can get them to do what they have to do voluntarily, I get results faster. If I must take it the legal way it will take ever so long time to get it done, since paperwork will slow things down and they must have a reasonable time to fix it anyway! But this does not apply to emergency cases, then I can write an injunction that is valid immediately even if it is appealed and apply for indictment at the prosecution office. But although I have forced someone by using the law, the communication must continue afterwards which can be even harder. There is so much to win if they perform the way they should and understand why from the beginning. I am so glad you stopped by, taking the time to read and thanks for your positive feedback and kind comment.


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Writerly Yours 5 years ago

Great hub! I love your positive attitude. We need this in the world!

Excellent!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Writerly Yours, nice to see you here! Interaction between people is so interesting and no matter how hard I try I will still be surprised and somethimes amazed in meetings with people. And that is part of the fun! I will never learn it all, and at the same time I learn something about myself from each confrontation! Thank you for coming by and I appreciate the "excellent"! Thanks!


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Ashantina 5 years ago

I like this! I've found that 'dont take it personally' is crucial in business communications. You've listed some important tips here, esp empathy and asking questions.. sooo necessary.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

Hi Ashantina, I am happy you liked it! I can imagine that it is the same in business communication too. But sometimes it is hard to not take it personally! Even if I know that it isn’t me or my fault, it is difficult because no one likes to be criticized or be yelled at! So it is important to remember!

Thanks for stopping by and for your great comment!


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celeBritys4africA 5 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

An awesome hub!


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden Author

celeBritys4africa, Thanks for the awesome:)

Tina


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FirstStepsFitness 3 years ago

Great informative Hub from all perspectives ! Communication is so very complicated , seemingly easy to say what you mean , often heard and understood by a myriad of people many different ways .


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thougtforce 3 years ago from Sweden Author

Thanks First Step Fitness! Communication is very difficult and even if we have the best intentions we often misunderstand others and we will also be misunderstood by others.


NicoleKi 3 years ago

I love the article, as it contains so many valuable informations and tips for a better communication! To improve my communication skills I consulted a professional coach on Your24hCoach; it's a website where you can choose a professional to talk to directly over the internet. My coach also advised me to listen carefully and to always switch between distance and proximity. There are lots of similarities to what you write in the article. It's great to read through it and be able to confirm what you give as an advice, as true!


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thougtforce 3 years ago from Sweden Author

NicoleKi, Thanks for kind comment! We can never get enough practice in communication but the good part is that we can get better. To listen to the person in front of us is often missed since we tend to focus to much on what we are about to say next.

Tina


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thougtforce 3 years ago from Sweden Author

claudyobcn, I do agree with you! Sometimes nothing works and there is nothing else to do than to use paper and the laws. Thanks for your comment,

Tina

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