Living with Demons - Everyone has them

Life is Physics?

This has been tickling the edges of my brain for some time now, I think it’s finally time to put it into words.  Everything in life is affected by everything.  I believe the Physics Professors would say ’for every action, there is a reaction’.  I never took Physics, but I did hear that somewhere.

This is in regards to school.  To being young and growing up.  To continuing the learning process once Graduation has been completed.  

Some of us can say that we had a good school experience, some will say it was a bad experience.  Some will just be glad that it’s over.  Let’s face it, kids can be mean.  

We as students aren’t seeing ‘behind’ the scenes, what we are seeing is what is going on in our own lives.  We may have a couple of close friends that we know (or think we know) what is going on in their home, but unless you live with them, you don’t REALLY know.

Everyone one of us is living with our own Demons, at all times.  Once school is out and we move on, then we can grow into our own person.  It will be time to put away childish things.  For some it is more difficult than others.  Maybe there is some things that were left unfinished, or at least the feelings of ‘not being complete’ is still there.  You can never go back, so if those things were left unfinished, they will have to stay that way.  It’s time to move on.

Action

This is for the Football Star’s who had to live up to their Dad’s expectations.  Whose Dad’s had failed in their own youth and was trying to live vicariously through theirs.  Who maybe had to take a punch from time to time to ‘get the point’ across. 

This is for the Cheerleader’s whose Mother’s were jealous of her daughter’s youth and beauty.   Rather than make it a Mother - Daughter relationship, it was made into a competition between the two to see who could get the most boyfriends.  The daughter’s always felt inferior to the mother‘s, because the mother failed to grow up.

This is for the ‘Miss Prisses’ - whose families were very affluent, she had to live up to the expectations of the entire town.  Never doing anything that would embarrass or upset her parents, because they of course were perfect.  They weren’t allowed to wear clothing of their own desire, they had to wear what was chosen for them.

This is for the Brainiac’s who managed to show some aptitude early on in life and their parents pushed for them to do better, because they knew it could be done.  God help them if they got anything less than an A+.  The disappointment would be too great.

This is for the Band Geek’s who spent every afternoon and weekends practicing on their instrument, just so they didn’t hit a wrong note during a game or concert.  Of course their parents were there cheering them on, never knowing their child was considered a ‘geek’. 

This is for the ‘Leather Jacket Wearing - Tough Guy’s’ who spent many nights sleeping at friends houses, in sheds, in the garage, running from the police whenever they saw a cop car.  Whose father’s had left long ago and whose mother’s were alcoholic‘s, taking their anger at the father’s out, on them.  The police knew them by sight.

This is for the Fat Girl‘s, who never had a date in school.  They might have been cute, but ‘what would all of his friends say’ if she got a date.  They would pick on those who dated them.  Whose self esteem was so low that it caused them to continue to eat, making them think that food was their friend.

This is for the Misfits - The rest of you that didn’t fit into any category but wished you did.  You weren’t popular, but you wanted to be.  You weren’t known, but you wanted to be.  You weren’t smart, but you wanted to be.  You weren’t pretty or handsome, but you wanted to be.  You weren’t thin, but you wanted to be.  You were too thin, you didn’t want to be.  You went to dances only to sit, in the hopes that someone would ask you to dance.  You weren’t noticed, you wanted to be, but also were afraid you would get noticed.


Your life was unknown to the world

You leave your high school with many memories, some good some bad.  But when you leave, you are starting out a new life.  You get to build your own, you get to create your own history.

Keep this in mind as you move on;  Your secrets were unknown to the rest of us.  You kept them hidden well.


Re-Action

We never knew that your father’s carried such high hopes for you to become pro-football player‘s. Even if you didn’t want it, we never knew. We just thought you liked the attention you got. We were jealous.

We never knew that you had to compete with your mother’s for the attention of the boys. Because you had so many boyfriends through the years, we just thought you slept with all of them. We were jealous and some of us even slept with boys because we thought you did.

We never knew you had to be perfect for your parents’ friends. We just thought you liked to act that way. We were jealous of your perfect-ness.

We never knew you had to study day and night in order to get the good grades, we just thought you were naturally smart. We were jealous because you always got the awards or scholarships.

We never knew you couldn’t go here or there because you had to practice to get better. You made the ability to play an instrument seem so easy. We were jealous because we couldn’t do so.

We never knew your Mom’s were alcoholic’s who called you names. We were just afraid if we said the wrong thing you’d beat us up. We were jealous of your ability to make others fear you.

We never knew you didn’t have dates. You kept a smile on your face all the time and was friendly with everyone, we didn’t think it bothered you.

We were jealous of your ability to ‘blend in’ and not be seen. You could mess up and no one cared. You didn’t have to be perfect all the time. You were allowed to wear K-Mart clothes. You didn’t have to excel at anything, no one would think less of you because you didn’t.


Never stop learning!

We were all just trying to get through the hardest times of our lives the best way we knew how.  Some of us not knowing who we were or where we were going with our lives.  Trying to make others around us happy, never quite being able to do so.  In reality we needed to make ourselves happy.  This would come with time. 

When it comes time for you to go to your Class Reunions, have no fear.  Most of us have grown up.  Most of us will welcome each other with open arms regardless of what we thought of each other those many years ago.  For those who still hold grudges, be nice to them.  In time maybe they will finally be able to put aside their differences. 

To those of you who are still in high school - grow and learn, never stop.  Remember, everyone has their own battles to fight.  Your battles are different from others.

To my classmates - Now that we have grown up, I am glad to finally be able to get to know you.  You were all great people then, and you’re all greater people now.  


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Comments 20 comments

debbie adams 5 years ago

Wow big hand full of information that we some what think.


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cbmm24 5 years ago from Monroe, Mi

Love it Susie... I know where i fit in that... I also know a few peole i could place in the other spots... Thanks for a walk down memory lane... LOL


sharon 5 years ago

I'm glad you shared this with us. ALL of us have things going on in our lives. It's EASY to jump to conclusions about others without knowing how they got to be who they are. It's easy to JUDGE others but we need to take time to know the person before we believe it.


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Sweetsusieg 5 years ago from Michigan Author

debbie - funny what people thin isn't it?

cdmm24 - Not who you think they are!! LOL Glad you enjoyed it.

Sharon - I'm so glad you enjoyed it. It is/was so easy to be judgmental.... I have tried to learn to reserve my opinions since then.


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Dusty Snoke 5 years ago from Chattanooga, TN

With the advent of facebook, we are more able to get to know our old high school friends. As I reconnected with my old friends, I was most amazed by the ones who are so different then they were in school. I have friends who fit into one of your categories in school but fit into a different one now. Like one guy he was the geek in school but now he is the tattooed partier. great hub that everyone can relate to.


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Sweetsusieg 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Absolutely!! I thought about putting an 'advertisement' for facebook! This is what made me think of this Hub, a few friends who I have on facebook and I have discussed what we thought of school...

I remember our 25th Reunion, it was SO different!! I got hugs from people that I would have sworn never knew I existed. The beauty of it, we all grew up!


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Dave Mathews 5 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

A true Christian never stops learning never stops seeking the facts the truth of things yet unknown. To stop learning is to die.


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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

You are quite a philosopher, susie, and your readers will surely benefit from your wise, philosophical musings. Well-thought out and well-written.

Your conclusions underscore, for me, an old Pennsylvania Dutch saying: "Too soon oldt, too late schmart! Ain't it the truth? :)


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Sweetsusieg 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Dave - But of course!

drbj - I have never heard that saying, but I LIKE IT!! It's so true too!

Philosopher? Maybe... Opinionated? Definitely. But the question is, is there a difference?

Thank you both for stopping by!


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twilightnera 5 years ago

Iam so depressed this day and reading your article was so much inspiration. Thank you!


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Sweetsusieg 5 years ago from Michigan Author

I am so glad I could help you!!

Cheers!


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south

I must say, this was one of the most profound articles i have read on hubpages. And just in the nick of time for me. I have a high school reunion coming up in July of this year (50th)and was mulling over in my mind if i really wanted to go or not. And for exactly all those reasons you just gave above. God bless you. I now know i will go and probably actually enjoy myself. Thanks for sharing that with us. I always say, we get what we need when we need it in this life. dw


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Sweetsusieg 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Awwww, how sweet you are! You could have read this and went to your reunion without ever telling me that I helped you decide to go. I'm so glad that my words inspired you to see your classmates! I predict that you are going to have a wonderful time and enjoy yourself tremendously!

Oh and if you have it, don't forget to bring your yearbook!! I PROMISE everyone will love you for it!! We didn't get ours until after Graduation, so of course mine didn't get signed. I took it to my 25th to be signed, we all had a blast looking over the pictures of everyone.

Thank you so much!


DaWolf 5 years ago

Susan, I read this and you are so right about a lot of things. I was a leather jacket guy. and my father was a hard man to get along with. My mom was great. I guess that is what kelp me at home. But I went into the service early. And it all worked out. I have grown up now. I stopped my wild times, my drugs, my running around. For what --- I met and married your best friend. Her from Mi. and me from Ga. North meets the south WOW. Who would ever think ? But she and her daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me. And Susan you are a part of our lives and always will be. This story did bring back alot of things that I regret I done. And those people are all my friends now. And we love you so much. Wolf


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Sweetsusieg 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Awww, Thank You Dwayne! Now that I didn't know about you! I thought it was my best friend who corrupted you! Got you into all the motorcycle stuff..

It's funny the things we find out later in life about the people we always said we 'knew', when really we were all just struggling with making it through one day at a time.

So glad you got to read this! MUAHZZ!!


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JillKostow 5 years ago from Pennsylvania

I was a misfit in school. I didn't lack friends because there was a whole bunch of us. Although I was "friendly" with all the others outside of our group, I can't really say we were "friends". Now that highschool is over I am "friends" with many of whom I wasn't back then. It is funny to think back now on the stupid reasons behind friendships never blossoming, we all could of been friends if we were just a little more open minded. But I guess open mindedness comes with age!!!!


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Sweetsusieg 5 years ago from Michigan Author

I was a combination of misfit and fat girl... I did have lots of friends, and like you tried to be friendly with those outside of my 'group'. I was rather shy as well, my kids and friends now can't imagine me ever being shy!

Thank goodness for class reunions and facebook! I'd have went my entire life without knowing what great people I went to school with!

Thank you for stopping by and commenting!


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jeyaramd 4 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

Thank you for this wonderful hub. I am glad I was myself in high school. Though I did not have many friends. The ones that eventually came into my life are still my friends; many years later. A valuable lesson is to start respecting yourself from a young age. People who care for you don't mind you being you. Those that do mind; well you should not concern yourself with their opinions. A lesson well learned. Its best to move forward and have no regrets. Thanks for sharing. Great hub.


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Sweetsusieg 4 years ago from Michigan Author

You are most welcome!! It's funny how people grow and change over the years isn't it? I think that sometimes parents forget that they are raising little people to become big people, lots of good advice gets forgotten to be told.

I no longer have any regrets (haven't for some time now) I am glad that life dealt me what it did, so I could become the person that I have.

Thanks for stopping by!


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jeyaramd 4 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

Thanks for sharing. It is so true that we may sometimes feel that life is so unfair during our childhood. However, years later, looking back from the vantage point of an eagle. We realize and appreciate the cards that we received in life. It does make us who we are. And for that I am so very grateful. Thank you for sharing your comments. Its so beautiful to meet people through hubpages like yourself. A pleasure indeed. Keep up the awesome work. Thanks again.

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