You always have a choice


You can blame your family. You can blame your environment. You can even blame yourself.

What you shouldn't do is put the blame on anyone and should just let go.

How can you do this? Just remember that you always have a choice.

It sounds simple, but this short piece of advice is more helpful than anything you can know in life, I believe.

It's undeniable that your environment and ancestry will affect your life and circumstances. However, you have the power to decide how it will affect you and to what extent.

You can change your life if you want to. You just have to make sure that you're ready to change. You have to want it, be willing to try something different and give up things that you've been accustomed to for a long time. You can analyze your dreams to discover things about yourself you never before noticed to help in your decision.

Be willing to take a look at your life and decide if you are happy with your life and the way it is headed. Determine what you like and dislike about yourself and your life. What are the consequences of the action you plan to take? Will your life last long the way it is going?

One thing you can change is your perspective. Be willing to take on different beliefs and consider other spiritualities.

Choose to relax. Find things about yourself that you're happy with and don't let anyone tell you that's not okay. Find your own definition of love. Take a look at how recreation and work fit into your life and decide if you're fine with the roles they play. Do you want to be more productive or do you want to rid stress from your life?

Don't be afraid to deal with your fears. Be willing to establish trust with people you might not have considered doing so with before. Be direct with yourself and others. Listen to others and your own feelings. Keep a journal to keep track of your goals and thoughts. And avoid self-fulfilling prophecies; don't set yourself up to fail.

Make sure your life has meaning in it; choose a goal and stick with it. Many people get pleasure from helping others.

It's time to take your life out of the hands of others and into your own. Take responsibility for your future and you might find yourself happy with the result. The more control your take of your life, the less it is at the will of others. Take pleasure in your strength and power.

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barryrutherford 9 years ago from Queensland Australia

I agree. Though getting started is the difficult bit. Because you want the changes in yourself to be right ! Right? I guess you could go along with the Nike addage "Just do It "

jtboswell 9 years ago

I agree your article. I believe in letting go and moving on. If you don't time will move on without you. Plain and simple.

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Dell13 9 years ago

this helps me out a lot.I think it will be really hard for me to move on but i will give it a shot.

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teeray 9 years ago from Canada

I like what you said about not putting the blame on anyone and just letting go, glassvisage! I am also considering what you wrote about taking on other beliefs and spiritualities. I think this is a very helpful tip - so that we don't always get 'stuck' in thinking from only one perspective.

You have given me a lot to think about!

Thanks for sharing!

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jamestedmondson 9 years ago from San Francisco

Great Hub Glass!

I think the sooner you stop blaming entirely (by taking full responsibility for EVERYTHING that happens in you life) the sooner you can put yourself on a track to total happiness. When you realize that everything around you is a result of your own thoughts and actions, you also realize that you have the power to make your life exactly as you want it to be.

Keep the great Hubs coming!

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Bob Ewing 9 years ago from New Brunswick

good advice.

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MasonsMom 8 years ago from U.S.A.

This is very inspiring!

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TurnOnYourSenses 6 years ago

Great piece of advice. It is true, you ALWAYS have a choice. Especially with happiness, one may want to consider that it is a way of life and NOT a destination. You get what you focus on, so if you see the glass as half full, guess what you are going to see more of? Two people can be looking at the same scenario, and the difference in how they allow themselves to feel is based on perspective. It is like training a muscle; it takes practice. It is a way of life. It is not easy, but it IS possible! A great book for kids and adults alike to alter thinking patterns is The Optimistic Child by Martin Seligman. GREAT book!! Teaches parents and kids how to instill optimism into their character. Authentic Happiness by Martin Seligman and Happiness NOW! by Robert Holden are also very good!!

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glassvisage 6 years ago from Northern California Author

Thank you very much for the comment and insight! :D

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Pastor_Walt 6 years ago from Jefferson City, Tennessee

Well spoken - Short but to the point! Thumbs up!

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andromida 6 years ago

It's an inspirational and outstanding hub indeed.Every words you wrote are so true that I must say everybody should read this hub.thanks :)

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Invisiblestats 5 years ago from london

Great hub thank you

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LailaK 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Well-said & written! Voted up!

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AnnaCia 4 years ago

This is a nice hub. So interesting and powerful. Thanks

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