Music Snobs: How to Deal

A Personal Experience

Now before I get into this hub, let me be clear. I understand that not every person likes every genre of music, every artist that comes out, or each song that they hear. That's okay. What I'd like to talk about are people who for one reason or another pass judgment on acquaintances, schoolmates, family and friends for their respective taste in music. And by pass judgment, I mean make blanket statements about one genre or another without really going beyond what's presented on the surface.

Why do I think this is important? That's simple. I think how people judge one another about their respective choices in anything, rather it be music, movies, television, food, friends, career, etc. deeply affects relationships in a negative way. I say this because I've dealt with it on a personal level and when I was younger it gave me a bad perception about myself.

When I was in middle school, I was very much into the pop music of the day. My absolute favorite was *NSYNC. I had their albums, two marionettes, and a lot of posters. The only people that really knew were my cousins who I grew up with, my best friend who I would share my feelings with, and my parents. My parents made jokes and the family members they would tell would just kind of laugh as well. But where it really hurt was school.

In eighth grade, I was in history class and we were asked to share three things about ourselves. One of those things I shared was my love of *NSYNC. As soon as my teacher read my index card, he and many of my classmates started laughing. I was humiliated. It wasn't that they laughed, but how they continued to make jokes at my expense was very painful. After that, for an entire semester I was constantly made fun of for that among other things. Most kids in my class were fans of Eminem, Ludacris, Linkin Park and the other less-frivolous artists of the time. So I felt alone in how I felt. I couldn't even tell anyone that I did like other artists because I felt that would be considered fake.

The truth was that I grew up with a lot of different music. My parents are boomers and listened to a lot of Motown. However, that wasn't all. My mom listened to alot of p-funk and my dad listened to Janis Joplin when he was younger, so they encouraged me to listen to what I wanted. I never felt like I had to listen to something because my parents did or indulge in it particularly because they didn't listen to it. I was free enough to be myself at home but at school I felt trapped.

In high school, I decidedly kept my feelings to myself unless I felt comfortable enough with the person to share about my musical tastes. It was bad because I felt like I couldn't express myself and my ideas in a way that I deserved to without fear of being ridiculed. By the end of high school, I was a little more comfortable and started to open up and eventually I felt okay.

Finally in college, I got to be around people who were different than me but I felt comfortable around enough to say, hey I like this kind of music and not feel judged. And it's not like every artist or genre got the same reaction, some people would understand one choice but not another.

I understand being confused but to put people down because of their choices or tastes is bullying plain and simple. Or in some cases when people say "rap sucks" or "I hate pop" you're not only making a generalization but your making the person who expressed themselves to you not feel comfortable enough to express a part of themselves to you

So I'd like to discuss some common music snob statements and how you can effectively deal with that person's assumptions or in some cases ignore.

Pop Pundits

I understand that a lot of people are down on pop music. Some say it's banal, trite, lacks real staying power, etc. But that could be applied to most types of music. The only people who say music is worth something are the people who download, buy, listen to it. Critics do have some say in your perceived expectations, but as long as people listen to it- it's going to be around you.

Another thing that I'd like to reiterate is that pop is short for popular so that really covers most genres. However the specific term of pop usually encompasses artists who combine various genres (R&B, Rock, Dance, etc.) into one that appeals to the masses. Contemporary pop as we know it really didn't come around to the 1960s. Before that pop music usually meant standards out of the Great American Songbook sung by chanteuses, crooners, and harmonizing groups. That all changed once groups like the Beatles and the Beach Boys emerged on the scene with their own unique combinations of different genres but no one dared called them bad.

The real catalyst in people criticizing pop music came in the 1980s when put-together groups like New Kids on the Block and New Edition came on the scene. The 1990s didn't help that assumption with the rise of teen pop in the late 1990s and early 2000s. However, for all of the bellyaching some people do, there are great pop artists out there. Pop music is what you make it. For me, it has a lot to do with growing up. I still listen to *NSYNC because it brings back great memories. But also it's a way to capture youth and excitement.

There are current artists who still give pop a good name. It's just a matter of taking your time to find them. And not all pop is meant to be serious and thought-provoking. Sometimes it is good to have a good time.

In terms of introducing someone to pop, I would definitely start with something simple like Hall and Oates. They're soulful and have insanely catchy lyrics, but they're as far from put together as you could imagine. From there, I would say move into the modern era by playing your favorite songs from your iPod and telling a story.

Now like I said, there'll never be a way to really change someone's mind. They have to want to listen, but my thing is that the person can't make a generalization without actually doing some work.

Generational Grouches

This part of the hub is not focused on a particular genre, but a particular group of people. These people usually think that whatever music from their childhood to early adulthood is the best era of music ever. So this applies to younger people who refuse to listen to oldies and older people who refuse to listen to music that came out after a certain year. I personally know these people and honestly it gets exhausting to talk to them about anything related to music.

Why? Knowing music is just like knowing history and current events, the connections between music and everyday life is endless. That being said, it's hard to get to know someone when they don't know who current artists are or in other cases don't know anything before the year (fill in the blank). It's kind of hard to get into details about something that's so involved.

The best way to deal with a generational grouch is to simply find ways to expose them to other music beyond their generation. For example, if your dealing with a Generation Y person who doesn't know a lot of older acts, a good way to expose them is to make a playlist for their iTunes or music media player. And for dealing with an older person who may not have the same technology, you might want to ask to help plan the music for the next family get together. Therefore if they really like the music you can have something else to share and if they don't, well that's what the skip button is for.

Now mind you there are some generational artists who I do not recommend playing for someone with certain tastes, values, or ideologies. It's just like politics- you have to play your cards right or it could get real ugly real quick. For example, if you have a younger person who wants to know about funk, don't start with Rick James, save "Superfreak" for another occasion. And if you have an older person interested in alternative, don't venture into an act with cryptic lyrics but start big with a group like Coldplay.

And beyond that, you have to be ready to give an explanation for the context of the music. My roommate in college had never seen the music video for "Thriller" and after I picked myself off of the floor, I decided to screen the video with her. We had a great time and it was a lot of fun. It then became a habit that once one of us mentioned something the other wasn't familiar with, we'd share and it helped us grow closer.

Of course not every story will have such a great ending, but my encouragement would be to be patient with these types of people because it can end up being a really good thing. Sharing and exploring music is one of the most personal ways to get to know someone.

Hip-Hop Skeptics

Now for all of the flack hip-hop has gotten, people forget it has only been around a few decades compared with many other genres that've been around at least twice as long. I understand the reservations that some people have with hip-hop music and some of them I agree with. The degradation of women, homophobic slurs, and encouragement of violence is something that I don't condone. However, for all of the hip-hop that features that, there are still a lot of songs that are important because of their cultural impact.

Hip-hop connected people within and across generations initially because it dealt with social issues, everyday life, or just having a good time. As the genre evolved and more individuals from different regions got interested, a natural schism occurred. Every genre has its sub-genres and off-shoots and hip-hop is no different.

Gangsta rap is one of the more controversial sub-genres, however it doesn't classify every rapper or rap song. Gangsta rap arguably houses the most controversial hip-hop figures such as NWA, Tupac and Biggie Smalls. And the lifestyle it promoted unfortunately encouraged an untimely death for Tupac and Biggie. But aside from the controversy, these artists sparked thought and debate on several cross-generational social and cultural issues such as poverty, racism, and crime.

Party rap is another sub-genre that is known to be more frivolous and encourages having a good time. While the first big hit in this group would arguably be "Rapper's Delight" by Sugar Hill Gang, the influence of party rap has managed to bridge cultures and demographics. However, it is not without controversy as several songs have stirred issues about the glorification of women and an unhealthy lifestyle.

Whatever anyone thinks of rap, it's meant to be an expression. Not all of it literal, not all of it figurative but all of it thought provoking. A great way for anyone to learn more about rap music is to read Jay-Z's Decoded. I did earlier this year and it provided insight into many things about Jay-Z as well as other artists. He does a great job of characterizing his lyrics in a way that's honest and self-deprecating.

In terms of getting someone to listen to hip-hop, I would start slow. And by that I mean by introducing them to old school and going forward. For instance, Run-DMC is a great group to start with. They're great at rhyming, storytelling and making you want to move. However, if you want to provide prospective on the social consciousness of hip-hop songs like Grandmaster Flash's "The Message" is essential listening. Another group that would be good is A Tribe Called Quest because their music was heavily fused with jazz and also spoke about alot of relevant issues.

Now of course this doesn't mean the person you're with will understand fully about hip-hop. To be honest, it would be nearly impossible. But helping someone decipher their assumptions in a way that is non-confrontational is key.

In the End

Music is what you make it. But it is very much personal to a lot of us. I think the best experiences come from when people share who they are. But others have to be open. Like I said, when you insult someone's taste in music- it can leave a lasting impression but it shouldn't. Everyone should be willing to take a listen.

Now of course, not everyone is going to be open to sharing music but it's worth a try. A new experience is always worth the memories it can bring.

I look forward to your comments below and again thanks for reading!

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FloraBreenRobison 5 years ago

I listen to a huge variety of music of eras and genres. I'm amazed that your teacher was one of the people that laughed at you. That wouldn't fly where I live. I was in Junior High when The New Kids on the Block were popular and in Senior high when Nirvana and other grunge bands were popular. I couldn't stand grunge music and managed to avoid listening to any of it outside of Nirvana-it wasn't possible to avoid Nirvana-but it never occured to me not to feel bad for friends when Cobain died. Perhaps it is because I'm the daughter of retired profession musicians or because my entire family is musical. It could be because I listen to jazz, rock, pop, classical etc. from every decade. But it may be just that I come from a particular society that grew up before the Internet that depersonalized everyone.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks FloraBreenRobison for commenting. I agree. My parents also listened to a lot of genres of music so that was also why I had a lot of exposure to different genres. I think a lot of people have been depersonalized because of the internet. I think I am part of one of the last of a generation to not be so swayed by the internet. I would want to think that the internet would be a great way to expose people to different types of music instead of people using it as a way to bully and humiliate each other.

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JeniferRW 5 years ago from Couch

I read this from start to finish, could not stop I agree with everything you have written here and think you did a great job writing on the subject matter. I have been a musician since age 4 and music is just a part of me. For me as you mentioned above it is a very personal thing as well, and when someone insults my music choices it hits below the belt for me. I can truly find beauty in each and every genre ever born. I like it all. I may not like all songs, but I have always challenged myself to find at least 5 songs from every genre that comes out each year that I like or can relate too, because even if the type of music isn't something I listen to on a daily basis I have respect for it. Voted up/awesome/useful/interesting, have a great day, and also don't let anybody knock you listening to NSync, I still blast and dance to Bye, Bye, Bye, when it comes on in my car ;)

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Neerizzle 5 years ago from Canada

Another great hub and I definitely agree! My main thing is people that seem to hate mainstream music, that argument has no sense whatsoever. How can you hate something just because it's popular? But yeah I've met a lot of people who refuse to listen to certain genres. I was pretty open about music and the music I listened to since I was little so no one really bugged me about it, all my friends are kinda the same anyways, but I know how you feel as I've met countless people who think their taste in music is superior and whatnot.

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Frannie Dee 5 years ago from Chicago Northwest Suburb

Very true that if you're stuck on one genre your are usually stuck in time. Music is a great way to explore and keep up with the times for as you age you cannot be young, but you can be youthful. Up and awsome.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

@Jenifer RW: Thank you for commenting. I love how you listen to different songs from each genre every year. I think that's a great way to listen to new music. I might start doing that more myself. And I stopped caring about people liking my music once I got to college and actually related to people who were more interested in me than my tastes.

@Neerizzle: I totally see where you're coming from because there are so many people who think that they are better than someone else just because of the music they listen to, what they look at on television, their film choices and so on. But I wholeheartedly agree with the whole mainstream argument. I think so many kids now, especially college age are trying to appear cool by listening to the indie music played on the radio. When I was in college, I pretty much kept listening to what I wanted- not what everyone else wanted. Thanks again for commenting!

@Frannie Dee: Thank you for your comments! And I agree that music keeps you youthful. My mom and I are able to share music with each other because we're willing to be open to the other person's ideas and insights.

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Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

Excellent hub....musical tastes are different from everybody....I love stuff for the 1980s....and occasional my kids will think a song from way back ten is actually pretty good....and the same goes for me...occasional my kids will be listening to a song that I like...nobody will have the same exact taste in music as the next person....this is something that is amazing that a teacher would not understand. Excellent writing on this hub, Alecia it was a pleasure to read....keep up the great work.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Cogerson! I agree no two people have the exact same taste in music but it's great to share. I grew up especially listening to my parents music because I wasn't too influenced by my classmates and friends' tastes until I got older. And by influence I mean take in and then form my own opinion. Thanks again!

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juliafranceschini 5 years ago

That's bad that your teacher laughed at your music tastes, I was into N'SYNC at that time too, and I would have hated to be ridiculed like that. Even now, I always feel awkward when I go into a music store because I feel like the music savvy workers will judge my purchases.

Cool hub about a topic that everyone can relate to.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Julia, thanks for the comments. I didn't think about people in music stores being judgmental about your tastes, but that's just as bad as being teased in class.

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mattbibledotcom 5 years ago from Washington DC

Pop music does encompass so many styles of music. When people think of pop, they always just think of dance music or stuff on top 40 stations. There's a lot of good pop music. There's a lot of garbage pop out there too, no doubt.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Matt, I agree. There is great pop and there is bad pop, it's just a matter of taste. Thanks for stopping by!

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I listen to a varied variety of music but it is still hopeless to see some peoples' taste in music. Music is my life as i am a guitarist.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I understand that, but at least your open to new things. Thanks for stopping by!

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MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

I have a good friend who is a choral director . . . she has an advanced education in music and has led her group to wins in national chorale competitions (beating the Mormon Tabernacle Choir, etc) and we used to enjoy vigorous debates about what constitutes 'good' in music, or any art form. It's very tricky.

I would suggest to her that the notion of some supposed 'objective' determination of good seems to run contrary to the very purpose of art and intent of the artist . . . that, through the creative expression (we'll stick to music) of the musician he is sharing with his audience something inside of him, some passion or hurt or hope, etc, so that, if his audience is not moved, if they don't 'get' his passion, hurt, hope, then how can we assert that his music is good?

Of course, she would then assert that, observably, undeniably, a Rossini overture or Brahms concerto is a superior piece of music than some Country-Pop one-hit hunk singing "Achy Breaky Heart". And that seems a reasonable assertion . . . I love American Blues music, to me all of it sounds better than any Polka song. But still - if you play a CD of Brahms in some remote village down the Amazon that has only ever heard it's own tribal music and it does nothing for them, and then you play Al Green for them and they are moved, doesn't that suggest that Al Green is a superior musical artist than Brahms?

I understand what musical forms each culture draws from to hear whatever they hear in other's music must be considered, etc - but, can we say that The Who are simply better than The Partridge Family, that their music is just better music (which seems observable)? Or is any music only as good as it is received as good by those listening to it?

Perhaps a real, actual scenario sets forth the argument best; is Little Richard better than Pat Boone? Little Richard loved Blues, he felt it, and he wrote song after song and sang them like no one else had ever sung, his passion-filled music influenced generations of musicians to come - Dot record label wanted to cash-in on the growing popularity of Black music but wanted the sales the larger White audience would provide, so they enlisted Pat Boone to do watered-down, passion-stripped versions of Little Richard's (and other's) early Rock & Roll/R&B hits. Little Richard was making music - Pat Boone was trying to make money . . . so, in this case, can we say that, regardless of how the audience receives it, Little Richard's music is simply better music than Pat Boone's?

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

MickeySr., I think you present a lot of valid and interesting points. I agree that the reception of music is received as good as how someone receives it. The point you make about some artists being motivated by passion rather than success is very relevant as well, but the interpretation of passion could also be reinterpreted in many ways as well. Thank you for commenting.

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Barbsbitsnpieces 5 years ago from Napoleon, Henry County, Ohio, USA

@Alecia Murphy...Nice job on this Hub! I love the resolution you and your roommate achieved! It's civilized and reasonable thinking.

BUT, when I was raising two teenagers, the "stuff" they listened to was so "out the window" that it baffled me as well as hurt my ears! :) (heavy metal)

I, however, did pick up on my parents' musical choices when I was a teen. They danced to the Big Band era. I quickly loved that sound, and I was listening to Perry Como and Frank and Johnny Mathias when my high school classmates were tuned elsewhere. Still, I enjoyed Ricky Nelson, Elvis, Marvin Gay, Jimmy Jones, etc., as well as country singers Alabama, and the like. The rock of the '50s and early '60s was tamer, to be sure!

My variety is more limited than some, but I like what falls easily on my ears!

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks for commenting Barbsbitsnpieces! I think the divide between parents and kids is common, but I can see where you would have trouble with your kids' taste in heavy metal. I agree with you as well, whatever falls on your ears usually is what works best.

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dmcgaw 5 years ago from Manitoba, Canada

Great hub Alecia. People always tell me that I have horrible taste in music because I really only like pop music. Is it pathetic that at 40 I love Brittany, Rhianna, and Joey Stylez? Maybe. Do I care? No. :) I just turn it up louder!

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks for the comments dmcgaw! I say as long as you're the one buying and listening to your music, no one else's opinion really matters.

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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

I was totally caught up in the 90's pop music such as NSYNC, Backstreet Boys, Brit and Christina! What a bunch of punks for laughing at you. Kids could be so rude. I was a closet country music fan for a couple of years and came out slowly, got ridiculed, told them to eff off and I continue to tell them the same thing. Same with Eminem, I'm proud to be a fan of Em's. Harry Connick Jr to Justin Bieber...I like them also! People need to think outside of the box sometimes and they might be shocked at what they can learn and just might like! Fantastic hub always! I'm glad you enjoyed the CMA' should join me on Facebook for the next award show or just to join me!:))

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Sunshine! Yeah, I think being in the music closet is just as bad as being in any other closet but now I'm pretty honest about what I listen to because there's usually more people who have something in common with me than not. Yeah, I'll have to join you on Facebook for the next one but that was by far one of my favorite awards shows in a long while.

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albertsj 5 years ago from Pittsfield, Ma

Ugh! It amazes me that people do judge others for what they like in music. It would be like me judging you for the food you like. You like ham? Ew! Music is an art. It's all a matter of taste. Big deal who likes what. If it makes you happy then listen! Music is great. It affects us on emotional levels. It's good for us! It's a gift that we can hear. People who are deaf, are, sadly, missing out. So if it makes YOU feel good to listen to a particular type of music, then listen. That's what it's for! NOT for others to criticize... : )

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Jacy, I agree. Music is art and we shouldn't be judged according to it. There is something about people enjoying whatever and not caring. Music does different things to different people and you can't always put everyone in one type of box. Thanks for dropping by and commenting.

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AudreyHowitt 5 years ago from California

I am a classically trained singer and voice teacher by trade. And I find it is the music that I prefer listening to for the most part--but there are lots of other types of music in the world and I listen to a fair number of other genres--and musicality and skill are something that I want to hear--but making music is a personal journey into creative expression as well--and so judgmental attitudes are just so inappropriate to that journey--thank you for an engaging hub!

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hey Audrey,

I completely understand where you're coming from. I grew up singing and my parents both loved music so I was exposed to alot but I still needed to find what interested me more. I think music is universal in a lot of ways but it is also personal to the experiences, influences, and interests in one's life. Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting!

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alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

It's not just a matter of personal preference but also lack of understanding of the purpose of musical styles. For example, dance music might be seen by some as repetitious and boring, but you need the repetition, otherwise, how would you know what steps to apply to it. Others see classical music as long-winded, but it was written during an era where people actually paid to sit and hear the music. It has complexity and construction that rewards patient listening. Voting this Up and Interesting.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I agree Aurelio that some people don't know the purpose of different genres as well. Thanks for coming by and commenting!

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Jeannieinabottle 4 years ago from Baltimore, MD

I know exactly what you mean. I hate it when someone acts like only indie music or obscure bands are any good. Let's admit it, we all like to listen to crap like Katy Perry when we think no one is around and listening. It is fun! People need to lighten up. Fun hub and voted up!

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Jeannie! Yeah, in college I heard alot of college kids complaining about mainstream music. And I will be fast to argue anyone who calls Katy Perry a crappy artist!

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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa


Each and every individual has their own taste in music and RIGHT to love and promote it, but without jeopardizing the rights of others...

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TheHeavyReview 4 years ago

Great hub! I hope people don't think I'm one of those music snobs, haha. The truth is that everyone likes what they like, and if it happens to fall under a certain category then that's okay. Voted up and awesome!

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THEHuG5 4 years ago

Thanks for writing a hub about music snobs! I can't stand people who go out of their way to bash other peoples taste in music. I love just about every genre of music. At the middle school that I went to all anyone listened to was rap and they made fun of my Aaron Carter CD that I used to listen to on the bus lol. I always felt like I had to hide my taste in music until college like you. Music snobs are nothing but pretentious people who want to make themselves seem better than everybody else.Voted way up! I think I'm going to listen to some Aaron Carter

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks MartieCoester! I agree no one should enfranchise on someone else's right to explore music!

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I think you have the right attitude TheHeavyReview! Thanks for coming by and commenting!

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vparker 4 years ago from From Mars

Every decade is filled with fluff music and bad movies that most people will forget. Movies and Music are art that reflect upon a part of life and society. Different forms of art will make you feel different things, and no two people are alike when it comes to the personal experience of connecting emotion to art. If you like it, that is all that matters. Personally, I can not stand Clear Channel and what they have done to radio is just sicking (and should be illegal). I wish mainstream music was more diverse, that's why I can't stand to listen to most of it anymore. XM radio, Pandora, Hype Machine, Youtube and music blogs are the go to places now days for new music.

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kelleyward 4 years ago

I also have a great love of all music, except some country ha ha! Music is powerful. Thanks for this great hub! Voted up and shared.

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi VParker,

I see where you're coming from but regardless what someone thinks of a certain kind of music, it gives you no right to criticize someone else's taste in it. I agree about mainstream music though, it seems to run all together minus a couple of exceptions. Thanks for coming by and commenting!

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Kelley,

I agree that music is powerful! Thanks for coming by and commenting!

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DeborahNeyens 4 years ago from Iowa

Great hub. I love all sorts of music and have plenty of musical guilty pleasures. (Jeannie's comment made me laugh - I've been known to crank up the radio to Katy Perry when driving alone in my car.) I think people who refuse to explore different genres of music are missing out on a lot.

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Deborah! I completely agree, people who don't explore different genres lose out in the long run.

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FatFreddysCat 4 years ago from The Garden State

Good stuff. I mainly listen to hard rock and metal music (and I have put up with my fair share of flack over the years for it!!) but I grew up in a household where I would hear anything from big band music to Broadway soundtracks to Doo-Wop or country music (my parents had a huge, varied record collection), so all these years later I like to think that I have a pretty decent working knowledge of many genres.

...though I will admit, I will occasionally (gently) tease my 9 year old niece about her obsession with the music of Justin Bieber. :) I can't help myself!!

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks FatFreddysCat, I understand- I think everyone needs to respect everyone's choices.

What you do with your niece sounds like something all relatives do- my family did it when I liked N'Sync!

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FatFreddysCat 4 years ago from The Garden State

We bought my niece a Justin Bieber poster for Christmas last year... it made her happy, but deep down inside I hated knowing that Justin Bieber now has some of my money. Haha.

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I think the memories will surpass Bieber getting your money!

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thank you TheHuG5! Aaron Carter back then was the Bieber of now- so there shouldn't be any shaming. I agree people who don't like or appreciate other types of music are fine with me. It's just a matter of respect and understanding.

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Sherry Hewins 4 years ago from Sierra Foothills, CA

I could not agree with you more. Great advice on sharing unfamiliar music with people. Middle school has to be the worst for ridiculing others. My granddaughter had to hide her love for Hannah Montana because she was no longer popular with the other kids in school. Some of those popular bands could end up turning the music industry on it's ear. Looks at the fan base the Beatles started with. We all have our preferences, but can learn to appreciate new things if we keep an open mind.

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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Alecia, I am sorry for all that you have had to go through. I think people should not pass judgements on others at all...especially over something as subjective as music because it shows self-centred behavior. It is just wrong to exact standards on someone else when we are not perfect ourselves! I am sharing because I think it is really important for understanding.

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weestro 4 years ago from Virginia

I can sometimes be a music snob myself, often hating it when a group I like reaches the pop charts, but at least I know it and can make fun of myself. Excellent hub, voted up!

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SkeetyD 4 years ago from Barbados

I want to congratulate you on writing this hub. Speaking about painful memories must not be easy. Secondly, I too was criticised for the genre of music that I preferred to listen to. Most people in Barbados like calypso, dub, reggae and R&B. I liked alternative and rock music and I was told on several occasions that I listened to 'white people' music. On a couple of occasions, I was even called bourgeois. It was a bit hurtful but I stuck by my preferences. Nobody can tell me what music I should like and why should my taste in music be restricted by my race.

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sparkster 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Great hub. Music is something which I appreciate massively but isn't it crazy how music is so widely under-appreciated in general? In my opinion music makes the world go round!

Whether you find a song or a genre good or not I think it still deserves to be appreciated, as do the musicians who created the music. Imagine a world without music, it would be awful! Even if it's a genre that you hate being played on radio, if you're listening to it during your working day then that music is still providing you with something to listen to, ultimately it's entertainment.

I am a classically trained pianist, self-taught guitarist (mainly acoustic, rock & blues) and I also write electronic music so my taste is quite diverse. I don't like rap, r&b, hiphop, etc but many people do and at the end of the day music is an art so I do try my best to appreciate all genres.

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Sherry,

I can relate to your granddaughter. It's sad that people have to hide something as innocent as musical tastes as from others from fear of ridicule. And you're definitely right about the Beatles and fan bases.

Thanks so much for coming by and commenting!

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Michelle,

I agree passing judgment is wrong. And you're right- an individual's standards are different but no one has better taste than the other. Thanks so much for coming by and commenting!

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Weestro,

I'm glad you have a great sense of humor about yourself ! Thanks so much for coming by and commenting :).

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Skeety,

I can relate to the "white music" criticism. I never understand why people think you are an elitist just because of tastes. I'm glad you were able to stick to your guns. And I'm glad you enjoyed this hub. Thanks so much for coming by and sharing your thoughts!

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Sparkster,

I agree- all music is worth being appreciated. And no matter what all music serves the same purpose. Thanks so much for coming by and commenting!

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TaureDawn 4 years ago

Nice post Alecia!

I listen to a wide variety of music. And like most people I like what I like and do not like what I don't like. BUT it is wrong to criticize someone for their musical tastes or bands or genres.

Let's say someone to me says "I love the Spice Girls" .. I may have a funny look on my face as I ask them "YOU love the Spice Girls?" Then I quickly say "Nothing wrong with that. I don't like them but nothing wrong if you do". I like to reassure people that it is ok for them to like what they like. - Then I usually name some of my favorite groups and find one they don't care for --- that way we're even. I want them to know our friendship is not based on music tastes.

*Note: the funny look on my face is usually because I never expected them to like that group - just didn't seem 'them' but you never know.

On the other hand - I do have music buddies (people that have similar tastes as my own in music) - yet we don't always agree either :D

Music is very personal to people -- seems just as much as religion is very personal.

Really enjoyed your article.

Happy Holidays to you

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi TaureDawn,

I agree music is a very personal choice and you can't put people down for listening to one thing or another. Thanks so much for your insights and for coming by! Happy Holidays :).

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JoanCA 4 years ago


This is a great hub and I linked it to my own on the same topic. I like how you did a bit of history on music as well. I never once put someone down for their taste in music but I did hold those narrow-minded views for about a decade. Then I came to realise that music really should serve a lot of different purposes. Sometimes it's used for escapism and that's actually really important. Everyone has difficulties in their lives and music can be a healthy escape from that. I was reading a while back about people who suffer from depression using upbeat songs as a way to feel better.

Call Me Maybe is a silly song but there isn't anything wrong with that. I always turn it up when it comes on the radio and it does cheer me up. I don't want all music to be like that but I don't want it all to be serious or thoughtful either. When my mother was dying of cancer, fun songs helped me stay sane. I was on a steady diet of stuff like Tik Tok and California Gurls and it really did help me get through that time. So, people really shouldn't be arrogant when it comes to fun songs because they have their place.

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi JoanCA,

I understand what your'e saying. Music should be an escape at times and you can't judge people because they like music that isn't considered substantive.

I'm very sorry to hear about your mother's passing but it is good that you were able to have music around to get your mind off of things.

I didn't know that about depression and upbeat music but it makes alot of sense. Thank you so much for commenting and linking your hub to this one.

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