Great Reasons to Be a Stay at Home Mom or Dad

Reasons to Be a Stay at Home Mom or Dad

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Are you a stay at home parent? What made you want to be a stay-at-home mom or dad? Was it that you wanted to spend more time with the kids? Did you dislike your job?

I asked a question once on Hubpages: What made you decide to be a Stay-at-home-Mom or Stay-at-home-Dad? I was delighted by the answers I received. Thank you to all who told a bit of their story.

I would like to share what made others decide to be stay-at-home-moms. I think you'll find their reasons to be real and honest. I’d also like to invite you to read some of their hubs; they too share their experiences with parenting, and I think you’d enjoy what they have to say. Find these hubbers on my question page.

Reasons to Be a Stay at HomeMom

Here are some of their reasons to be a stay-at-home-mom:

  • Milestones and growth wouldn't be missed. Don't you hate hearing from the child care giver that your son or daughter just took their first step or said their first word? When you're at home, you're the one to witness your child's first everything! Keep your camera handy...
  • You can give your children solid bases on which to grow up. Your children get to learn from you and your values, not someone else's values which may not match your own.
  • Day care isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Finding problems with your daycare? Are too many children getting sick? Do you find that the care givers spend too much time on the phone and not enough time with the kids?
  • Why pay others to raise our children? This is where you need to think about finances. Is it worth it having a 9 to 5 job and receive a paycheck only to turn right around and hand the money to someone else? My husband and I figured out that it cost more for me to travel to work, buy clothes for work and give money to a care giver than for me to stay home with the kids. Imagine that!
  • Juggling work and home became an issue for the boss. Not all bosses are like this (mine was great!) but some bosses do not understand that you have a life outside of your job that sometimes that is more important to you than your job. You might lose promotion opportunities or the such if your boss does not understand why you may have to stay home two days in a row to care for an ill child...
  • Happy childhood memories can be made. So many happy childhood memories can be made with you, not a stranger. YOU can take your child to the park, YOU can make messy finger paintings, YOU can fly a kite, YOU can bake cookies, etc.
  • You get opportunities to help out at school. It's so important that parents become involved in the schools. When you're home, you don't need to ask for the day off to read a story to the class or chaperon a trip or help at the book sale.
  • Real meals can be cooked for the family. Find yourself buying takeout or fast food on the way home from work? If you like and can, you can make your own real meals when you're at home. Think of how much more nutritious your meals will be compared to fast food! Even if you hate to cook (ahem, me) you can do so much to improve the health of your family.
  • You can be there to help with homework. Sometimes you're just too tired at the end of a work day to even think about homework, but if you're at home, you can help with homework as soon as your kids get home. That way, the homework is done, you can eat as a family, and the rest of the evening is yours.
  • You can be home with them after school. Were you a latchkey kid? Think of how happy your children will be if you're home to greet them after a long day of school (okay, maybe not the teenagers, but inside they appreciate it). You can be the friendly face that meets them and hears about their day.
  • You can take them places, like day trips, lessons or sporting events. When you work, you need to take days off to go on trips with your kids. When you're at home, you're the boss! You can take your kids to the park, the zoo, shopping, a ball game, etc.
  • You can create happy memories about you as a parent. Remember when your mom or dad had fun with you? You can be a happy part of your child's childhood memories. How sweet is that?

Becoming a Stay at Home Mom or Dad: Giving Up to Gain

Did these moms make sacrifices to do all of this? Yes they did. Some had to give up careers or the dream of a career. Others had to give up other dreams. Despite this, they saw the value in being home with their children, something they could never gain back if they were to miss it now.

My Salute to Working Parents

Is being a stay-at-home-mom (or parent) for everyone? No. Some parents choose not to do so, which is perfectly fine for them. Being a working parent can be rewarding too, but it doesn’t come without its own set of challenges (I know! I was there at one time). There are other parents out there who desire to be home with their children but simply cannot afford to do so. To these parents I say make the most of the time you do get to spend with your children. You are working very hard for their futures, which is an awesome thing to do. I salute you as well!

Being a Stay at Home Mom

And so I continue my own journey as a stay-at-home-mom, my new full-time job with amazing benefits and a promising future.

Please don't forget to read the hubs of those who answered my question. They too deserve plaudits!


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ThePracticalMommy 3 years ago from United States Author

natural holistic, that's the key: we all have different ideas of parenthood, and what may work for one family may not work for another. Being a stay at home parent isn't for everyone, but as in your case and in mine, it was the right choice for us. Thanks for reading!

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natural holistic 3 years ago from Arizona

Everyone makes that decision for themselves of course, and with the child's best interest at heart. In our household we are deliberately not materialistic people, we want our children to learn the value of money and possessions. And that life is more than a TV or video games. I stay at home while my husband works and personally don't see the value of sending my child to day care to let other people see him grow and evolve while I make a little more money for us. But my neighbor might look at that differently and might want to go earn money by going to work as well to be able to provide more material things for their kids. Each person will look at this differently.

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States Author

sunbun143, that's a pretty good reason to add to the list! When I left my job to be a SAHM, I looked at it this way: I was helping another person get a desperately needed job. In a way, I was making the unemployment numbers a bit better. ;)

Thanks for reading and for the comment!

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sunbun143 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

I can add a reason...the economy/job market! I choose to be a SAHM but if I were not one, it would be difficult to get a job (as a lawyer) today. I plan on opening my own law practice someday, but for now, I'm a proud mommy who doesn't have to miss a moment and who's lucky her husband works every day.

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States Author

wonderingwoolley, I agree: I wouldn't want my kids in a daycare with strangers all day. I was very grateful that my mom was able to help us when I was still working. It would be awesome if your mom was able to help you too; I'm sure she would love being with her grandkids! If you're able to at some point, even for a year or so, it would be great for you to be a stay-at-home mom, for you and for your children. If not, you're still being an awesome mom by providing them with the means to live happily, and I'm sure you love the together time you have with them when you get home from work. :)

Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

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wonderingwoolley 5 years ago from Madison, WI

These are great reasons, thanks for sharing. Eventually I want to be a stay at home mom because my mom has worked in the childcare industry, and I would not want my kids with some of her co-workers. Also, I want to help shape who they become, and that's hard to do when you're gone and leave them with strangers all day. However, if my mom would move nearby, I would be okay with her caring for me kids because I know how wonderful a caretaker she is. Great hub, voted up!

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States Author

OfTheHeart, I'm glad you enjoy the reasons to be a stay-at-home mom. It is a hard decision, but so worth it as you know. :)

Thanks for reading and commenting!

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OfTheHeart 5 years ago from New York

Yes! I enjoyed reading all your reasons. I agree with all of them!! I too, once worked when I had my daughter but soon realized how much she was growing up and in such a short period of time. I didn't want to miss any of it. It's a very difficult decision to make and I also commend those working moms out there. Great read.

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States Author

Absolutely, Greg Sage! I wish I had more of a response from dads too when I originally asked the question. Thanks for reading! :)

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Greg Sage 5 years ago from Orlando, Florida

Certainly applies to dads too.

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States Author

You're right that our children are life's greatest treasures, Ashlea B. Thanks for reading and commenting!

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Ashlea B 5 years ago

Love the the Reasons to be a Stay-at-home Mom. I am thankful that we can afford to have me stay at home. But, anytime you choose to do so, you choose less money which can mean less vacations, smaller homes, used cars, tighter budgets, etc. These are all luxuries, really, though. And your children are life's greatest TREASURES. I can't imagine being anywhere else than by their side loving them.

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, A.Creative Thinker, for your kind words and for reading :)

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A.CreativeThinker 5 years ago

Let me start by saying that Your children are just adorable!!

I too was a stay at home mom myself, I can tell you that, yes, it is very challenging but very rewarding. The time

you spend with your children builds a very special bond with you and them. Great hub. :).

Regards, A.CreativeThinker

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States Author

Good luck with your ventures, Denise, and thank you for reading! The educational world can be a great place to be in. :)

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denise.w.anderson 5 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

Thanks for sharing the reasons others chose to stay at home. My husband and I wanted a large family, and they came before I even thought about a full-time career. Now that they are gone, I am working on a career in education.

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States Author

Thank you all for your comments and votes! It's an important topic for me, so I was glad to write about it. :)

Marinda 5 years ago

This was a very good topic and I enjoyed reading both parts. I loved the year and a half I got to stay at home with Olivia. But then circumstances changed and my Husband couldn't work anymore, or at least at what he was doing that allowed me to afford to stay home, and I had to be the one to go out and work. I feel I'm missing so much now. I don't know her routines, her likes and dislikes like I did. It makes me sad to hear my husband say " this is how she likes it..." or " We don't do it like that"...etc. I feel like I should know those things. Given the chance I'd stay home in a second. I'm so happy you got that chance. You are a great Mother and your kids are gorgeous and you will help a lot of other people with these pages.

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Tracy Lynn Conway 5 years ago from Virginia, USA

Thank you for highlighting SAHM's and their valid reasons for staying home. Women have so much pressure to be a good Mom and have a great career but with these conflicts it is hard to divide your attention. Voted up!

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RTalloni 5 years ago from the short journey

Don't think I saw your question but am sure glad that you posted this hub so I can take a look and "bravo" your writing on the topic.

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