The Order in Which Children Are Born Determines Who They Become as Adults

It is a pretty well known fact that the youngest child in a family often gets spoiled, gets babied, or possibly does not have as much work or responsibilities as the other kids in a family. Often this is because the mother knows that this will be the last one and doesn't want to let go of her baby. This tends to bring jealousy and strife between siblings and can even lead to abuse of the tike.

The oldest on the other hand, seems to get a lot more responsibilities, for it is very easy to ask them to help you out with chores, watching their younger siblings, and often times get a rather harsh upbringing, for the new parents haven't had a chance to try out different styles of discipline or do not know yet the tricks of the trade so to speak.

The oldest child often times feels like they have lost part of their childhood, or have been made to grow up too fast, for they get buried in the things that parents feel they are old enough to do, and get left out of the baby play the youngest gets to thrive on for a much longer period of time.

The middle child has neither of these, for they are not the oldest, and the novelty of a new baby the first child gets isn't there. The middle child is second hand news, to put it in a not very pleasant manner. They very often get a lot of hand me downs to wear, are looked over when it is time to look for someone to take the parents place, babysitting for example. They often feel like they are not special in any way, for the first born is all about almost grown up, and the baby is showered with attention for being so cute. The middle child will often feel neglected, left out of the parents time and attention. Very more often then not they will look for attention and if it is not forthcoming, will act out looking for any kind of attention even if it is bad attention.

The youngest child sometimes is so babied and showered with attention that he or she never quite grows up and learns to take on any kind of responsibility, and will sometimes be the clown in the class in school, for laughing and joking and being noticed comes so easily and they feel comfortable in this light. At the same time the oldest will very often be too serious, won't take time to have fun and will grow up to be the adult who always makes sure everything is taken care of instead of just goofing off and having fun.

Unfortunately, the middle child of the family is not careful to pay attention equally to all, will continue with his need to be noticed, feel that he is not worth as much having self esteem problems, and can become used to bad attention. As they get older, it is them that will often feel depressed, and will quite often feel the need to self medicate, make friends with others who also feel the same way. They might spend a lot of time associating with these friends instead of thinking about his future, and a career. If this follows him into adulthood, he might grow up to be a person who doesn't think twice about taking chances, might break the law without much thought, and has control issues on into his adult relationships, demanding the attention he missed as a child.

Also, being the first born son has it's responsibilities, whether or not you are the first to be born. If the baby of the family is a first born son, this affects the happy go lucky spirit turning the child more toward being what his father expects him to be, and having to live up to the expectations of perhaps taking on the family business, or becoming a mirror image of his father.

All of these things and many more determines how we look at ourselves, and how others in our family look at us and expect us to be. The expectations, or the lack of them can have serious effects on our personalities and who we become both mentally and emotionally. These expectations will cause behavioral changes for children will almost always do the things that are going to make our parents proud of us.

As much as we might not realize it, the order in which we are born into a family can very much form the character and personality we have into adulthood, and for the rest of our lives.