I Hate Being A Mother

I Hate Being A Mother
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All over the internet women are claiming "I hate being a mom". Search for that phrase and you'll be surprised to see what you'll find. Is this a new problem or are women just now feeling safe enough to admit it?

There are so many couples who desperately want children but they are unable to conceive. But, those who have been blessed enough to have children are climbing out of the woodwork to say they hate being a parent.

I Hate Being A Mom
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It's really hard to believe that anyone could hate being a mother. Sure every parent has those days where they miss the freedom they had before kids but to hate being a mom is another thing.

Why are we seeing so much of this now? Could it be possible that times have changed and things are harder now than they were before? I think it's a combination of many things.

Mothers Who Hate Being Mothers
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A lot of mothers are now doing it on their own. Single parenting is hard mentally, physically, and financially. It would be extremely hard to raise children all by yourself, with no one to lean on.

In the past most mothers stayed at home with their children, that's not the case any longer. In todays world both parents normally work but mothers still bear the burnt of child rearing.

Also in the past women tended to stay closer to home. This means that they would be close to family members who would be able to step in and help with child care. When you live in a different state from your mother it's hard for her to help out.

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These are all reasons why some mothers may resent their children, or hate being a mother. I will admit being a mother is not an easy job but by no means should you hate being a mom. Even when I'm on my last nerve a laugh from my baby will make it all OK again.

These mothers who hate being moms may actually be suffering from depression, which is some-what common after delivery. I myself suffered from it.

If you do hate being a mother please talk to someone about it. You may be suffering from depression and that is to be taken seriously. Don't miss out on all the joyful moments because you feel down.

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VVanNess 3 years ago from Prescott Valley

Instead of simply stating your opinion, you should offer mothers some real advice about what is happening to them and how to get help. Make it real and offer a solution.


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prospectboy 3 years ago from Texas

Interesting perspective. I think a lot of what you mentioned is correct. To add to it, I think that a lot of women are having kids while they're young too often. That coincides with the missing freedom point you made in your piece. Having a child or kids while still being a teenager I think can cause some resentment from a mother towards her kids. Not saying that it's right, because it's never the kid's fault. I think you made some great points. Voted up, rated interesting.


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LisaMarie724 3 years ago from Pittsburgh PA Author

Thanks for reading and commenting. Remember this is only my opinion.


Amanda Dollak 3 years ago

Even when I was a single mother I didn't hate being a mom. I hated that things were tough, but my kids always kept me centered and reminded me of all that was good in my life. I do miss single life sometimes, but my kids are my all. I hope any mother that hates her life will find the light at the end of the tunnel and truly realize the amazing blessing of children!


Marie Anne 3 years ago

Motherhood is a challenge, and there were times when I was overwhelmed, but I never actually felt, and certainly would never say, that I hated being a mother.


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hrymel 3 years ago from Fort George G Meade, MD

I'll be honest. I don't always enjoy being a mom. I left my career for my son, and I wouldn't change it if I did it all over again. But it's tough to go from feeling like I contribute to the household financially to relying solely on my husband, even though I am aware that my job is to be a mother now.

Plus, I'm not good at "mom" things. I hate cleaning, have never folded laundry or made beds. I am a good cook, but that enjoyment is overshadowed by the knowledge that I'm going to have clean my kitchen in my spare time while the baby naps.

I think most of the time when mom's say that they hate being a mom, it's mostly just to vent, and isn't generally about their kids so much as the other "motherly duties" paired with child raising.


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LisaMarie724 3 years ago from Pittsburgh PA Author

Hrymel, I can totally relate. I feel all those feelings also, esp. being a stay at home mom I feel cut off from the world. Thanks for reading.


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kenneth avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Hi, Lisa,

This was truly an intriguing piece. I loved it. You have a beautiful style of writing.

On this hub I voted up and and all the way!


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mr-veg 2 years ago from Colorado United States

wow I never knew that a women might hate being a mother and google can yield a million results on same :) But being a mother is the most blissful part of life, isn't it Lisa ? Good and nice hub !!


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Astra Nomik 2 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

Some women are victims of rape and some end up pregnant due to one night stands and later reason that they are not experienced or confident enough to have or raise a baby.

Some women have had horrible childhoods and may have been in abusive families. Some women will tick all those "boxes" that are a sure indicator that they are just not somehow suitable to have children. Some women want to see a bit of the world and at least earn some money, or have a career. Babies are expensive and demanding. And yes the work is worth it. (My own Mum told me... despite medical issues she went through, she had three kids.)

Not all women are suitable, and it does not have to a "stain" on women just because the saying goes that all women have the ability to reproduce and give birth, and that therefore they should just "get on with it". It might come down to some circumstance. We don't know their personal stories. There might be health issues involved.

Some women I know who are mothers are amazing mothers, and one struggles with being a mom, and she needs a network of family and friends to show her and help her with stuff. Having a network of people who can support is a bonus. Some of us can stand on our own and learn as we go along, others learn in other ways. and other women learn less, and need help. And then there is Octo-mom. Okay, enough about her experience.

I can see both sides of the issue, of hating being a mother. What about a mother who is deserted by her partner or spouse, or worse still abandoned by her family? What happens to the mother who realises she made a mistake? Who speaks for her? What options does she have?

There is a personal moment for me when my mother told me she was proud of me and glad she had me as daughter and friend. That just got me. It makes it so worth being alive and so thankful. She is a brilliant Mum to us all. She never complained, and if it got tough, she just kept on and got on with it. That is a Mother who loves her children.

I now she sacrificed things to give me and my siblings the life we now have. I can see myself some day being a mother to my baby, with the woman I love.


Kenneth Avery 2 years ago

Nicely-said and wonderfully-written. I had to reread. Keep the great hubbing going and stay sane.

Kenneth


Belen 2 years ago

I love my children but I really hate my life now,

I am in a prison and I hate being a mom, I really hate it.


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sujaya venkatesh 14 months ago

really sad

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