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My Mom Would Understand


I miss my mom. Some days I sit and think about her all day, other days something small will remind me of her. The other day I picked up the phone and dialed her number. It was the number I could call her at for the last twenty five years. Of course, no one answered. And I cried for the next twenty minutes. I really miss her.

There are things I would like to tell her. Her great-grandson just learned his alphabet and he is only two. Her other great-grandson learned to say his cousins name – although he says it “My Mies” instead of Miles. Her granddaughter is pregnant with her first child.

I want to talk to her about my day at work. She understood my crazy days working with children in my special education class. She understood because she worked as a nurse in an Alzheimer’s unit in a nursing home. She often said that the only difference between our jobs was the age of our “kids.” She understood when I told her how much I loved the little stinker who hit me in the eye, because she loved her patients that hit her and bruised her arms in the same way.

I just want to call her up and tell her about how wonderful my husband is. She would sit and listen, happy that I was finally happy, but still not completely trusting my husband. She saw how bad it was in my previous marriage, and sat listening to me cry for many hours. She wanted things to better for me, but had trouble trusting people enough to believe that I really did find a wonderful man this time.

I just want to talk to her one more time. To tell her how much I love her. Spend one more Christmas with her. One more New Year’s Eve. One more Survivor or Big Brother season. Like the song says, Just one more day….

I miss my mom. I really want to talk to her one more time. She would understand how much I needed someone to just listen…

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JT Walters 5 years ago from Florida

I lost my Mom 11 months ago. I completelt understand. It is normal and the emptiness you feel right jow is the amount of love and devotion you had for her. We i am over run with grief which happens less now I make picture books for my son who loved his Nana to no end. We often sit and talk about her when looking at the pictures.

I think when a daughter loses her Mother it is more difficult because the Mother and Daughter are not only Mother and Daughter but bestfriends so in essence you not only lost your Mom but your bestfriend.

I often wonder why my friends weren't close with their parents when they grew up. Then I realized their realtionship never matrued from a parent child relationship to a friendship.

I know you miss your Mom but it sounds like you miss your best friend too.

She knew and you were of great comfort to her in her lifetime. Few parents manage a successful relationship with their children their entire lives.

Happy Holidays. Your Mom would want you to be Happy.

JT


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justateacher 5 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Thank you for your kind words, JT. My mom was, indeed, my best friend. I keep her memory alive by sharing pictures of her to my grandsons. The only thing that helps is talking to my other best friends, my sisters, who know exactly what I am going through.


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KeithTax 5 years ago from Wisconsin

You had a great relationship with your mother and have fond memories to cherish. I lost my grandfather earlier this year. He played cards at my home with family and neighbors every Friday night. It is hard seeing his empty chair. I miss his stories.


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romari 5 years ago from Heaven

I lost my mom just this September 28, 2011.. 3 days after my 21st birthday... The pain I'm going through is so hard to put into words..


icountthetimes 5 years ago

It really does sound like you had a fantastic relationship with your Mother and that's what's important. I'm blessed in that I still have my Mother with me. My Father died when I was a teenager though, and often my memory drifts back to the times we spent together. I always regretted that he didn't really ever have the chance to know me as an adult. Death can be incredibly difficult to deal with, but we must be thankful that the love lives on through memories of the good times.


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teamrn 5 years ago from Chicago

Dear Justa, Mom and I were just becoming two adults who TALKED, but we understood our relationship. i miss those talks and catch myself just as I pick up the phone. But a girlfriend said to me when we lost Mom that surrogate Moms would appear; no one will ever replace the relationship we had with our REAL Mom, but we can have a mom for 'x' a mom for 'y' a mom for 'z.' When did you lose your Mom? The sting never goes away for many, myself included, but I comfort myself w/ my strong belief that at long last-nearly 50 years- she's w/ my Dad.


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anndavis25 5 years ago from Clearwater, Fl.

Losing one so close is not easy. You know she would want you to go on with your life. Because of her, you can be a better mom, and a better person. This Christmas celebrate the joy she left you.


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justateacher 5 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Thanks for the kind words from all of you. It has been 17 months since I lost my mom. And it does help to know that she is with my dad, whom I lost when I was a child. I have my mother-in-law, who has become a second mom, but its just not the same.

ann - It's funny what you said about Christmas...my mom's name was Joy....


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Pollyannalana 5 years ago from US

It has been 18 months since I lost my mom and I do talk to her. Mostly in my mind, but if in her room or if I am alone, I speak to her aloud. It really helps and makes her feel closer. She is a part of me and always will be.


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rutley 5 years ago from South Jersey

This was beautiful and believe me I feel your pain.

Please read my hub" Is it human nature to do this"

and see if you relate to this as well. A blessed holiday season to you and yours!


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jeyaramd 5 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

Thanks for sharing. There are only so many people in this world that we can really relate to without any hesitation. our mothers are a blessing. And so it is a definite loss. But, I always like to think that losses will make us stronger and shall not break us. You have an opportunity to pass on her legacy through you to many others that can benefit from your smile. She would have wanted you to be happy if she was physically present here on earth. And so take a moment to reflect on the happy moments she gave you and smile wholehearedly.


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Cogerson 4 years ago from Virginia

I like you and some of the other commenters am going through the holidays for the first time without my father who passed away during the summer. I keep finding things to give to him for Christmas and then it hits me that I will not be needing to buy the present. Hope your holidays go smoothly. Thanks for sharing this information in your hub.

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