Who Is the World's Worst Grandmother?

Worst grandmother

Look in Websters dictionary under "Worst Grandmother," and you will see my picture. Well at least that's what I've said over the years. You see, I was never anxious to be a grandmother. I had always told my children, that they didn't have to give me grandchildren. I was not clamoring to have grandchildren, because it appears that today more grandparents are becoming new parents in their retirement years, and I didn't want to become one. Now, wait a minute, this is not going to turn out the way you think, be patient, hear me out. I digress. I always wanted my retirement years to be free of "encumbrances," as I referred to grandchildren, not just because they were that, but in a lot of cases that's the way it turns out. Meaning that grandparents end up raising their children's children and in that case they become a burden. In my case I thought that Murphy's law would kick in, you know, if it can happen, it will.

Motherhood is one of my proudest achievements, I have five beautiful children. So you see I love children. But I have looked forward to having my freedom while I was still young enough to enjoy it. During the time that I was raising my children, we never had a time when we didn't have them with us. You see, my husband didn't want them to go to their grandparents, without us. So all of our vacations were spent with our children. I had no more than three days at a time without the children under foot. My children were spread out over nineteen years,(the oldest and the youngest are nineteen years apart), therefore I had thirty years of raising children to adulthood.

So I was determined not to be a grandmother, or I would at least be the worst one around. I didn't intend to always have them under foot, always "grandma this, and grandma that." I wanted to be free! I have a "bff", (oh shut up, I'm not too old to say that), who is one of the most doting grandmother's I've ever seen, always with the photos on her phone, showing them off. I'll call her Allison, because that's her name, she makes me sick, all the time with those pictures, and just talking about those grandchildren. Please give me a break! I was determined not to be like that, how sickening.


My transition

When the oldest grandson came along, he lived mostly with us, even when he wasn't living with us he was always here. So he was like a sixth child, he called me "Mom," and his grandfather "Dad," so, I didn't feel like a grandmother.

Now my second oldest son had his first child, a daughter, about four years ago. Because they lived a distance, I still didn't feel like a grandmother, and besides she didn't seem to like me, anyway. Well that was okay, I didn't intend to be the doting grandmother anyway. Then the second one came along (the same son), about eighteen months later. Oh no, she looked like my mother, and that smile, for her grandmother, oh my goodness. Now when the oldest one saw the interactions between me and her sibling, needless to say she warmed up to me. I still wasn't convinced that being a grandmother was the greatest thing. But then a third one came along, and we began spending more time together. Wouldn't you know, it began, the meltdown. Now, wait a minute, that's not all, I now have a boarder and she has a sweet, sweet, little girl, that calls me grandma, with that cute little voice. As you can see I'm beginning to become toast. I now understand Allison a little more.

These are the most beautiful little girls in the world, not just their physical appearance , although they are, but their dispositions are so beautiful. Uh, oh, am I beginning to sound like Allison? In my defense, those girls are thieves, every time I see them they steal a little bit of my heart. I have pictures. Want to see? Their parents are training them well, they are so well mannered and well behaved, at least at my house.

I have a special drawer for the jewelry and hair ornaments that I dedicated to them. When they come to visit they know their drawer, oh yes and I have a bag of dresses that they also use. We never tire of playing dress-up, oh so much fun. You should hear them talk, they have the most beautiful little voices you've ever heard. Their expressions are so cute too. Take the second, she was explaining about the picnic they had gone on, she said "grandma,the other day we went on a picmic, and we played on the swings at the picmic."

The oldest is only four and knows how to count to 100 plus, she knows her alphabets and lots more. The youngest girl about two, can count and also say her alphabets. Actually all three, because they are so close in age are learning at about the same pace. This is due in no small part to her mother's attention and diligent dedication to all of the children. I applaud my daughter-law for the way she's raising the children, that makes it so easy to be, well, a "good grandmother," oops, did I say that out loud. Good grandmother, good grandmother. That sounds good, I could get use to that.

Where I thought that I didn't want grandchildren, I find myself eagerly anticipating their every visit. They have a little brother now, I'm just waiting to see how he takes to me. I am already mush, with the others,(and my newest play granddaughter), one more will just do me in. Even though the oldest grandson is living with me again, I still feel like he is my son, I know that he is not, so I acknowledge that I have five grandchildren. This grandmother thing is just the best. See I told you it would end differently than it started out. So Mr. Webster, you can just take my picture down, I no longer fit the description of the World's "Worst Grandmother."

My brag book

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Two little princessesSee what did I tell you, beautifulTheir dress up drawerGranddaughter #3Don't you just love them.You go girl!Aren't they sweetFirst grandchild and his auntOldest grandchildSecond oldest granddaughterYoungest GranddaughterYoungest granddaughterFirst and second granddaughter
Two little princesses
Two little princesses
See what did I tell you, beautiful
See what did I tell you, beautiful
Their dress up drawer
Their dress up drawer
Granddaughter #3
Granddaughter #3
Don't you just love them.
Don't you just love them.
You go girl!
You go girl!
Aren't they sweet
Aren't they sweet
First grandchild and his aunt
First grandchild and his aunt
Oldest grandchild
Oldest grandchild
Second oldest granddaughter
Second oldest granddaughter
Youngest Granddaughter
Youngest Granddaughter
Youngest granddaughter
Youngest granddaughter
First and second granddaughter
First and second granddaughter

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sailor6 7 years ago

BEAUTIFUL! BEAUTIFUL! Hub. You are turning out to be the Best Grandma! O and who do those gorgeous children belong to???


msmica 7 years ago

aww... haha your ALWAYS around either ur kids or grandkids...i knew you'd come around at the end!

Beautiful pics!!


Meg 7 years ago

"The meltdown" -- very funny! And this Allison character is not only a great grandma, but the best mama too. :)

This is the best post yet. Love how it came full circle. So many great honest insights and the pictures melt my heart too! And boy does she look like her greatgrandmother - it is soo amazing how genes work.


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caitlinlea 7 years ago from Texas

Very cute hub!! I enjoyed reading this....=-D Thanks!!!!


Danielle 7 years ago

BRAVO! lol


mryals 7 years ago

LOL...I loved it! Really sweet and the kids my gosh simply amazing!


mdawson17 7 years ago

Very Good Hub!!! This hub touched my heart and blessed me! I have been very touched by reading this well written and truly heart felt hub!! Good Job!!

mdawson17


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ljrc1961 7 years ago from Michigan

precious!


\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

Hey you da kbest grandma...... they just a stealing away your heart bit by bit x


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BkCreative 7 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

The worst grandmother? - well it's not you! What a fun hub and great pictures - thanks!


Juanita 7 years ago

You are right! They are thieves ---they stole a piece of my heart and brought a smile to my face!! BRAVO!


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Juanita, and all, for the compliments, hope you enjoy the journey with me. I'm just learning to write, and learning my way around hubpages, and I'm enjoying it immensely.


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create a page 7 years ago from Maryland, USA

I enjoy reading your hubs. You make me feel like your sitting before me and speaking with me. Like you, I was never anxious to be a grandmother, but you approach this topic with so much humor, that you make it seem like fun to be a grandmother.


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

You are so wonderful, thank you for the confidence you are giving me. You inspire me to continue on in this endeavor. Thank you again.


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dl53acy 7 years ago from East Texas

Oh fastfreta, at first I was thinking "wow does she hate kids that much?" but then the transition came into play, that melt-down of your heart. How sweet it was to read this! Your grandbabies are beautiful! I'm a grandmother myself and just yesterday we celebrated his 1st birthday! Oh we had a blast! Grandchildren just bring out the best in us don't they? I've enjoyed your hub!


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks dl53acy, for stopping by, I'm glad you finally saw the point. I totally agree, they do bring out the best. Thanks for your comment. Please come back


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habee 7 years ago from Georgia

Beatiful girls and great hub! I have 2 little princesses, also, along with 5 boys. We have our fingers crossed for another girl. Hopefully, we'll find out Tuesday!


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks habee, I hope you get what you want,please let us know, as you see my girls out number my boys by one. Looking to hear about your new arrival.


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habee 7 years ago from Georgia

I'm alread looking at those round cribs with the frilly canopies!


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Sue1226 6 years ago from Dallas, Texas

After looking at your pics I understand How it happened they are adorable, you go grandma, and enjoy them while you can, for like our kids they do grow up and wonder away.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Sue1226, you're so right, I'm noticing that right now. Thank you for stopping by and reading my hub. Please stop again. Oh, by the way your comment registered twice, I just erased one.


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lisadpreston 6 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

I am kinda new here to hubpages and the first hub I wrote was called Being a grandmother. So I already knew how this story was going to end! LOLOLOLOL. Your babies are beautiful. I look forward to reading the rest of your hubs.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you lisadpreston for taking the time to read my hub. I must go over and read your hub. Thanks again for stopping. See you soon.


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia

Fastfreta.Hi. I can see where you were and where you are now,it does not take long for Grandchildren to steal your heart and soul,we love ours to bits,and couldn't wait to get them,as we all live on the same property,we see them as often as possible,this is really a beautiful story,I did enjoy it.Thank you for sharing it with us.:) :)


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Hi oliversmum, thanks for commenting and adding your personal touch. You're right they do steal your heart, so you know, I know where you're coming from


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Moulik Mistry 6 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

You are the most blessed Grandma - and there is no doubt about it, great writing...


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you so much Moulik Mistry, I feel very fortunate as a grandmother and also to have you as a follower. Thank you again for stopping, please come again.


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CYBERSUPE 6 years ago from MALVERN, PENNSYLVANIA, U.S.A.

Sounds like a soft hearted Grandma to me. Super Hub--You Go Girl!!


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks CYBERSUPE for weighing in on this hub. Thanks for stopping, see you soon.


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PegCole17 6 years ago from Dallas, Texas

Gorgeous g-kids, fastfreta. You had me going there with the title to your hub. Thought maybe there was a dark side to be revealed - but of course not. Remember, you're only as old as you look, act and feel. Having the young ones around makes you feel young, doesn't it? Everything is new to them and something to be played with. Enjoyed the lovely pictures of your sweet ones.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Peg, you're right, I agree you are only as young as you feel. Thanks also for the compliment on the kids, there are darling aren't they. Thanks for stopping. See you soon.


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Tony Locicero 5 years ago from Inverness Florida

My daughter has two beautiful little twins and another just about a year older and they were all wearing the same wings at Christmas as in your picture of your grand kids... Just ain't fair, ruining my curmudgeon reputation...


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fastfreta 5 years ago from Southern California Author

You said it Tony, they are adorable aren't they.

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