Why I Love Big Families

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Big Families

Why I Love Big Families

by Candace Green

I am very passionate about anything that relates to family. I realize that the size of a family doesn't measure the amount love, togetherness, quality or parental ability. However from personal experience I have reaped the benefits and blessings that come with a big family. First I will abbreviate a some brief reasons there are not many big families.

American Culture Versus Big Families: I know that seems like a strong statement, but the America today compared to the America of yesterday proves a decline in large families. One source of the decline ( WHICH I AM NOT AGAINST) is adequate birth control. That is a big reason why we don't see ten to fifteen children in families obviously. Also more people are tying tubes, going through a hysterectomy or vesectomy ect. I am completely understanding of families planning how many children they want and I recognize the physical aspects also.

ABORTION: Since abortion was legalized thousands of babies never had an opportunity to be part of a family so that has been one vast contribution to the decline. If adoption had been considered the thousands of barren, longing or anxious couples that line the waiting lists would beam as they hold a bundle that some teen girl gave up for a good life.

SELFISHNESS: Our media and culture examples often put large families to shame for power, political, lucrative,prestiege,prideful and personal gain reasons. Not everyone but many snoot or belittle the big family as if they are less fortunate.

WE ARE RICH!!!! Some who have not been able to have children look at us in this way too.

I am from a family with five children and here are reasons I know WE ARE RICH!!

The atmosphere of our home was always filled with life, love noise, flying toys, fights broken up, praise, disipline, a table with alot of food, giggles, arguing, tug of war, piggyback rides, nose and bottom wiping, cheering everytime the two year old made a toilet deposit, huggs, kisses, spying on big sister, church dressing stampede, carrying our younger sibblings on our hip and lots lots more.

Sounds Hectic? You are absolutely right, but the whole handful of us created some of the most exciting memories that make us roar in laughter to this day. Because I had younger sibblings I learned how to be a mother at a young age. I observed from newborn to letting go...I had hands on childrearing classes feeding, changing, rocking, kissing and teaching my little brothers.

Money: Who cares? Yes, we all want and need money, but I appreciate living in a big family. I learned how to appreciate and value the small things. Money never satisfies, but family makes you rich when you have everything, but money. I look back now and some of the presents that meant the most didn't cost alot. I learned to work, be creative, consider others ( because I wasn't the only ducky in the puddle). I learned to be a leader and a follower of good things ( my big sister inspired me to be a songwriter). I learned to honor my parents. They have taught me alot about life. A big family often experiences unjust accusations, finacial hardships, self-sacrifice, cruel gestures, but every last one of these characteristics prepared me for adulthood. These lessons has taught me to be strong to stand up for right, build relationships that last, live for what really matteres, be creative and find my purpose. I never felt cheated we had more fun than anyone should be alowed to have and the times that didn't seem too fun at the time created volumes of lessons, comedy and precious memories.

As a mother of four, I have stepped in my mothers shoes, I hear her voice everytime I whale at my toddler for using the floor as a potty or as I try to find the right cleaner that will remove crayon art from the wall. I feel her kiss as I demonstrate on my babies boo boo. Though I seemed to have applied for a job that consists of piles of laundry, sorting through scattered toys, cooking, cleaning, educating and you know all that mother stuff times each kid I still don't charge a dime. Cause just like it is with my sis and brothers I am creating a legacy that in 20 years or less will be a mountain of memories and I will be surrounded by a host of love and happiness enjoying what God has given me. I will never have to die shut up somewhere with no love to take me out, but I will leave this world full and someday have a eternal BIG FAMILY REUNION.

 

 

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma

Oh, sis, that was beautiful and so, so true.  I was sitting here crying while I was reading your hub and was really locked into it as the baby crawled over and somehow the computer got shut off. I had to smile.  Thanks for the compliment by saying that I inspired you to write songs.  You would have done it with or without me because your talent is a gift from God! Adorable pic of the boys!


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Marye Audet 9 years ago from Lancaster, Texas

AS a mom of 8 I have to say..great hub!


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singingmommy 9 years ago from OKLAHOMA Author

Wow! I am proud of you,I'll never catch up because I have had to have all c-sections, but I honor your bravery. I am sure you can write a book about your blessings.


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Marye Audet 9 years ago from Lancaster, Texas

yeah..in my spare time..LOL


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Jennifer 9 years ago

Very well written.


piggylane 9 years ago from Oklahoma

I love to see big families out together having a good time. Nice Hub


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Kathryn Plasencia 7 years ago from USA

Haha! You have no idea how any times I've walked into a room to find that my oldest has drawn all over one [or more] of his siblings with a sharpie. Or maybe you do. Thanks for giving big families credit!


Raquel 7 years ago

That was awesome and inspiring! I wish more people felt this way. I hope to have a large family too!


Joan Heatherington 7 years ago

ma'am i am seventeen and come from a family of five girls and six boys.i see that you are a faithful christian and i really enjoyed your article. But... you mention “adequate birth control”or contraception, as though it were a good thing while at the same time you reasonably condemn abortion, this is wrong; because contraception only feeds the growing culture of death. the reason for this is that ALL Contraception contains what is called an "abortifacient" in other words it dose not prevent the Baby from being conceived; it prevents the Baby from "implanting" in the uterus, which means that during your next ovulation you could pass the dead body of your unborn Child.

Please do some research into this especially the contraceptives such as Norton and RU486.

I will be praying for you, God bless.


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schoolgirlforreal 5 years ago from USA

Very touching rendition. I always believed large family Could be happy and full of fun.


Jamie 5 years ago

Thank you! Really Thank you. I needed to be reminded of what I have. Im a mom to 8 wonderful stars and as im sure many big families can relate I was having one of those down days due to a feeling of having to justify why I have a big family- some people can be so cruel! Maybe if they cme from a larger family they would have been taught "If you have nothing to say then say nothing" but somehow these people justify treating us less then human because they find us and our life choice to have more then 2 children different and history shows what happens to those who choose to be different doesnt it lol funny thing is the bible tells us to reproduce and children are gifts from God ha then again the bible says not to judge... Anyway I was really down but after reading this page im ready to start dinner and I look forward to my little ones pushing chairs to the counter to help and I feel so justified that I doubt the "Is dinner done yet" to the "oh were having that agains".. lol from my olders kiddos would bug me tonight =)


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singingmommy 5 years ago from OKLAHOMA Author

Thanks everyone for your comments, I love reading them:0)

Jamie, you touched my heart with your comment. I applaud you for being a mommy of 8 and I know people can be so cruel, but remember some of the greatest men and women ever born that have impacted the world came from big families.Anything worthwhile comes with criticism, but pay them no mind just enjoy those blessings you have and be proud of yourself. I have 4 kids and get frowned on, but hey I don't want to lose my joy because of their misery. God loves children!


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CMerritt 5 years ago from Pendleton, Indiana

From a father of five, I can relate to this one!

Up and awesome!


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bemily521 4 years ago

This is great! LOVE the pics...oh boy! :)


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Amanda Roddy 3 years ago

4 Kids isn't a large family by no means. I do think parents of larger families can be selfish. These poor kids are stuck with no decent health care and sometimes no decent housing. Self-imposed poverty is cruel IMO. Poverty isn't a a game. Children aren't disposable. Siblings often get stuck with adult responsibility when families get too large. It is unfair to stick a child with the parent's role especially girls since they are expected to be mothers. We must remember what's a joy for some can be a nightmare for someone else.

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