Parenting tips for the young and old parents

Having kids is one of the most beautiful things that can happen to a person. But with all the joy and happiness comes the challenge of good upbringing. Following are some tips you may find useful:

Patience is the key to parenting.

Having kids is not an easy job. You have to be patient if you want to become a parent. If you are not patient and are planning to have kids in the future, they themselves will teach you patience. You have to be patient all the time with your kids.

You should be observant if you want your efforts to bear fruits.

If parents are trying hard and kids' friends are gnawing at all the training then all the training goes to the dogs. It is nature of human beings (or kids) that they learn and remember bad things better than they can learn good things. But this doesn't mean that they can't learn good things as well. You should be so close to your kids that they share their thoughts and what they do at school. I am talking about emotional closeness. Because physical closeness doesn't necessarily mean emotional closeness. This way you can know how your training is going on. Your children need to be disabused time to time. The impact of the environment outdoors can mislead your child.

If you do this, you will save yourself from worries later in life.

Profanities are very common outdoors. The only solution to counter this problem is to ingrain hate for the profanities. If you do this early on while they are immature, you will never ever have to worry about their language.

Good parents are leaders, not managers.

Leaders are the people who set the standards for their followers. If parents want to be effective and want their children to have good habits instead of bad ones they should start with themselves. You simply can't blame your child for his smoking habit if you yourself smoke.

Parents can be the worst teachers.

Learning rapidly from parents happens because they are the ones who are around for most of the time. If the same parent who wants his/her child to be a better person is plagued with bad habits and qualities then his/her child will also pick those habits. e.g. if a parent is shy, has less confidence then child is also expected to be like that. If we take a more "violent" example, son of a drugs smuggler is more likely to become a smuggler himself than to be a police officer. I am not saying that it is the most likely situation but it has higher chances. So take try to improve yourself also time to time.

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Paulog 8 years ago

Thanks for this new hub and the fantastic advice. I'm "going through it" right now with my 14 year old. It's tough.

I'll be back very frequently and I'm very interested in your posts. Thanks so much for having the initiative and care for such a tough topic!


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sminut13 8 years ago from singapore

thanks for the hub. it is really helpful.


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ratnaveera 8 years ago from Cumbum

Very useful tips for parents.


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Lela Davidson 8 years ago from Bentonville, Arkansas

Good job, Greathub! Looks like you're on the right track. Just keep writing and putting it out there. Welcome to the land of Hubs!


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greathub 8 years ago from Earth Author

Thanks!


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bluerabbit 8 years ago

As one who has navigated these waters, I can say that you speak the truth. The word "educate" means to lead out. As parents, we are educators, observing our children's talents and challenges, and leading out of them, their best selves. At each point in their lives, we help them acquire skills that will develop independence. From walking and talking, to reading and writing, to driving, acquiring a separate residence, and contributing in the workplace. These are such huge steps, and we, as parents, stand behind our children, ready to hold their arm for a minute if they falter, just as we did when we were teaching them to ride a bike or care for a pet. It is an honor to be a parent, and, in the process, we learn to forgive ourselves for being bratty teenagers (grins). We see that each stage of life is just that.


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childcen 8 years ago from New Zealand

Hi, i really enjoy reading your hub.

I would love to have you write for my parenting site if you are keen :)


revathi 6 years ago

it's very useful to students.very very thanks


Vanshika 5 years ago

Outstanding

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