How to overcome your fear of future?
‘Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure. Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, and the downward spiral begins.’ Charles Stanley
Does your future frighten you?
It is an unknown world, isn’t it?
You just do not know what might happen to your life years from now!
Why do you always assume the worst for you in the future!
Your current failures and defeats make you gloomy about your present and terrified about your future.
You persistently ask yourself lots of negative questions!
- What if I am not successful?
- What if I am financially down?
- Will if I lose my job?
- Will my marriage relationship survive as I am having problems with my spouse?
When your mind is fixated on your present gloomy situation you view your future life in the same dismal light. You assume lots of pessimistic things about your future and perpetually your thoughts are very negative and very depressive.
Why can’t you be positive about your future life?
When you are battered in life by problems after problems your mind shrinks in abject dejection. Your depressed mentality drums in the message that you are born to be defeated. You crumble inside in anguish about your unhappy past, become frustrated about your present failures and you finally paint your future life as devastating and disastrous.
What are the usual fears you have about your future?
- You fear your financial stability
- You are worried about the permanence of your job.
- You are worried about the future of your children
- You are worried about your health
Does these worries and fear about your future get you anywhere?
It does not!
Will you please take a paper and write down your fears regarding your future. Keep the paper aside for future reference. Take it out after a year and check whether any of your fears have happened.
You will be sweetly surprised to see that you have feared nonexistent issues and problems. Your fears have never materialized and in fact you are much better off than what you were.
When you are anxious you do not act positively, but hesitate and procrastinate your work fearing failure.
Do you know failure is the stepping stone to success?
Unless you face failures you can never evolve for the better in your life. Failures teach you many precious lessons to handle problems in a different and smart way.
Fear for future does not make your problems go away! It stays put in your life to travel along with you till the day you live.
Do you like swimming? You have to plunge into the water to learn swimming; otherwise you wouldn’t be able to do it. If you have fears about anything go towards it and not away from it. If you move away from your fear, it stays in your mind as a devil to torment you forever.
But if you go towards your fear, it takes a step back for the each step you take towards it. Finally it disappears from your life! Most of you are so focused on your depressive present to think of a rosy future.
Unwanted worries make you see your future with fearful eyes. Mostly your fears are your imagination, nothing else. No animals can survive in the forest if it keeps thinking that it might fall a prey to the powerful predators. It lives its life normally and there are many times it escapes attacks from its predators. What an animal can do, you too can do.
Your future is years away and you have so much of time in your present to improvise your life. What happens when you walk in the dark? You are terrified aren’t you? You see nothing around you and the slightest movement or sound sends a shiver up your spine.
But flash the light of a torch! Bingo! There is nothing to fear! You have imagined fearful things that were not there. So do not let your imagination run wild and assume that your future will be pessimistic. Light the torch of hope and put in your input of hard work and your future is destined to be bright and sunny.
© 2014 mathira
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