Functioning Alcoholic

Have you ever heard of the saying, "I never knew he/she drank till I've seen him/she sober". That is so true because there are so many people that drink alcohol and really hide it well. They go about their everyday life just like someone that doesn't drink at all, but who are they really fooling?

A functioning alcoholic can go to work and never miss a day do to being hung over or just sick from drinking the night before. They perform at their job just as well as the next person. Little does anyone know that this person is an alcoholic.

They associate well with all their family and friends, but hiding their alcoholism from some. They are embarrassed of their addiction really, so they tend to keep it from certain people, but the real truth is they can't hide from themselves or their immediate family.

Maybe as time goes on those people will start to pick up on the alcoholic's life style.

For myself, I drank everyday and went to work like everyone else. Mind you, I sometimes didn't feel that great in the morning, but I went to work anyway. As the day goes bye we the alcoholics start to feel some what better and we are ready to start the process all over again when we get home from our job and maybe some start at their job. No one knows. This is one of the main reasons why I thought I had no problem with drinking alcohol.

I argued all the time saying, "what is the problem? I work, I do my duties around the house, cut the grass and everything a husband generally does, so why do you say I have a drinking problem?" That is how much I was in denial. So the functioning alcoholic may think the same. I'm doing what has to be done and I'm not hurting anyone, so we thought.

Well, that statement is totally false, because you are hurting many of people and the alcoholic doesn't even realize it. They are blinded to everything around them except when it comes to their addiction. They are really focused on that. It is their life line so they think. They truly think that they could not have a happy life without the drink. I'm stating these words because of my experiences with myself as a functioning alcoholic.

In my eyes, the word alcoholic, is so harsh of a word, but guess what, that word, and what I will always be and will be called, is an alcoholic. I have no one to blame but myself for having that word pinned on me forever.

So basically, an alcoholic can be a person living in the streets always drunk or someone that just drinks to stay drunk and those that are functioning alcoholic that do everyday life things.

In any of the cases, if you have an addiction, ASK FOR HELP to regain your life back. There are so many Rehabilitation Centers that are so willing to help the addicted, but you must want to be helped to start with.

Stay Positive and do what it takes to regain your sobriety back. Your body will thank you, as well as your loving family and friends.


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Shinkicker 6 years ago from Scotland

It's quite an ironic situation for someone to be in TCL

We always imagine drug adddiction to be a downward slope but it seems incredible that some people can keep going.

Thanks for the Hub

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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Hi Shinkicker, Thanks for commenting on this Hub. Addicts or alcoholic are never failures when trying to achieve sobriety. We are only failures when we quit trying.

Thanks again!

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bayoulady 6 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

Thank you for trying to help others with these hubs.From personal experience of a loved one, I can tell you that functional alcoholics have one tell tale sign. belching and breath. You can smell the booze 8 hours later.

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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Thank you bayoulady for commenting and yes that is tru, my one boss many years ago when I cam in to work would say wow , no drinking Mark. I wondered how he smelled the booze because it was from the night before. I thught to myself it would go away over night. Man I was wrong.

I even used listerine in the morning to cover it up but I guess it didn't do the trick.

soumyasrajan 6 years ago from Mumbai India and often in USA

Hi! clean life

Nice article. I admire your drive. I wish your campaign could be internationalized.

In India where I live almost 50% of people never take alcohol. I myself never took alcohol until I visited US, Europe etc. Even now a bottle of alcohol might remain in my freeze for years and I do not remember I ever an urge to use it myself. I take some only when some western guy is with me mainly to give them company.

But my children are better than me. They have been living as graduate students in USA for last 5 years. But they never took alcohol.

I felt it is an asset of our country that middle class practically has no culture of taking alcohol. But alcohol consumption is increasing at enormous rate.

I have many times felt people adopt to bad ideas from West very quickly but not so quickly to their great ideas.

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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Hi soumyasrajan

Thannks for the kind words and yes I wish this horrible addictions we have in this world would end, but unfortunately it looks like it is getting worse. You should be proud of your childrens accomplishments here in the US. People have to be strong willed to walk away sometimes from the temptations of alcohol and surely in the college scene.

soumyasrajan 6 years ago from Mumbai India and often in USA

Thanks a lot the clean life for so nice mail.

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bayoulady 6 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

hey, I answered your question you just asked on questions WRONG! So I sent you an email with correct answer!

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patdmania 6 years ago from waterford, mi

Very well written! I know someone who is a functioning alcoholic. He knows it, however its hard for him to quit. I don't think he wants to try because he knows how hard it will be.

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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Hi patdmania, Yes indeed it is very hard, but anyone can achieve sobriety. All they need is to really want it, that's the problem with so many addicts. I think they are affraid to try sobriety as I was because they are so used to their life being drunk, bizzed or high. I truly forgot what it felt like to be sober. Now feeling that agian in my life I will never go back to the horrible life I once had.

Just tell your friend that it can be done and will be done if they truly want it. If they believe they can achieve and their life will be great once again. It will be hard work but life is not easy and to accomplish anything in life it takes work.

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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ David, YEP, thanks for the pick me up, But sounds like DENIAL to me my friend. How do I know that? I said the same thing, that I didn't think I was hurting anyone besides myself and I was totally wrong.

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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

David, I do not write about alcohol to put it down by any means. There is nothing wrong with a drink, but with me I too was an alcoholic and came very very close to losing everything I had including my family. Yes I went to work everyday and supported my family but when it came down to it my main thought everyday was drinking and not my family.

I have two children that are now adult and to be honest I lost many years of enjoyment when they were growing up all due to my drinking. I write to hopefully help someone with an addiction through my experiences, I am not here to preach to anyone, but as we know alcohol is growing ramped in the world today for many different reason, sometimes beyond our control.

I don't want to start any kind of argument with anyone because of writing how I feel. I am sorry about the way you feel with my article, but I'm only out to help others. The article nor I ever said YOU were personally hurting others.

David 6 years ago

You will first have to post all comments unless they are vulgar and unconstructive in nature to give your blog any clout. I realize I need help and Ive asked direct questions and Im looking for honest answers not the same old DENIAL knee jerk reaction you get from undynamic people who just want to hear themselves talk!

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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

David, I don't what this be a chat room so all I can say is I am not a Doctor nor a Therapist by any means . I only speak from my own experience. If you think you may need help I would seek it. I don't know what you want to hear from me but I can say if a person is not ready to surrender and give up drinking than all the people and Rehab Centers in the world won't help at all, You have to know in your heart you are ready to quit.

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