How to Make Your Wishes Come True

Postulating helps you get from point A to point B
Postulating helps you get from point A to point B

Postulating- A. Way to Design Your Perfect Life

Many people tell me they're not living the life try want to live, yet when I ask them what that life would be like, they become infuriatingly vague. Upon being pressed for specifics, many say that it would be impossible for them to get what they want anyway.

That, I am afraid, is not the right approach to take in life.  I was once of that mind, and I ended up quite miserable, with a bland, unfulfilling life.  Then I decided to try something different: postulating- something my parents proposed.  I gave it a try and my life has been exploding into perfection ever since!

Below I'll take you through the process, and also do what I can to explain some reasoning behind it (so you know I'm not just spouting hot air!).

Another way to view postulating is this: your life is on a blank page, and you are the author.  What happy ending are you after?
Another way to view postulating is this: your life is on a blank page, and you are the author. What happy ending are you after?

The Practice of Postulating

A postulate is, according to Princeton's WordNet, "a proposition that is accepted as true in order to provide a basis for logical reasoning."  To postulate is to maintain or assert something.
As far as I am personally concerned, postulating involves maintain or asserting things about your own life.  In other words, one postulates by writing down or otherwise proclaiming specific objectives.  It is a process similar to the "dreamlining" proposed in Tim Ferris' Four Hour Workweek , but a bit less... er... gimmickey?
These things can be goals, like finding a fulfilling job, dreams, like meeting your soul mate, or ambitions, like starting your own successful business.  Postulating can also involve listing certain physical possessions you desire, such as a house or motorcycle or expensive necklace, but these things are typically less fulfilling and therefore less worth your attention.

I typically postulate by writing things down in Google Docs (I choose Google Docs because I can access them via any computer with an internet connection), but you can utilize any form you like- some other word processing program, perhaps, or a journal, or a random piece of paper... heck, you can even etch your dreams into glass if you like.  You can even skip the writing process altogether and simply state your postulate to a loved-one.  My parents share their postulates with each other- it helps them work through their goals and also keep each other accountable.

I, personally, have several different "postulating" documents going- one is short term, another extends through my entire (hoped for) lifespan- through the 100s.  Some have to do with more superficial wishes, like getting a certain type of apartment, but others are more spiritual in nature, like finding a more powerful way to give back to the world, and someday knowing what it is like to be in love.  Just in the course of writing this article, I've met some of the goals I have written down.  It's quite satisfying to revisit these postulates and see that they have indeed come to fruition!

In short, you can make whatever types of goals you like; the important thing is that you make them.  Getting started is easy - just take the time to sit down and work through your drams in whatever form is best for you! 

Why Does Postulating Work?

As I mentioned earlier, many people are surprisingly vague about what they want from life.  This is one of the biggest barriers between us and happiness. It's ridiculous but true- we simply haven't taken the time to figure out what we really want.

This is possible in part because we live in societies where there are plenty of external sources telling us what we ought to want.  If we so chose, we could live our entire lives "wanting" things that we never wanted in the first place.

This is why it is so important to postulate, and be very clear about what we want to get out of life.  Postulating is effective because it forces us to stop and deeply contemplate our goals.  As alarming as this may seem, most of us forget to do this.
There is one more huge reason why postulating makes a difference: by forcing us to articulate exactly what we want, postulating encourages us to consider the intermediate hurdles we have to jump.  For example, if you realize that you want to become a processional underwater filmmaker, postulating such will call to attention the fact that you'll need to become certified as a diver, develop filming skills, get supplies, etc... Once you have a goal in mind, it is much easier to identify the smaller objectives that will help you get there. 

In Sum

Postulating has worked perfectly for me.  I made goals and dreams for myself that continue to be achieved.  That said, I have been lucky enough to live a privileged, comfortable life, and I am fully aware that not everyone has it as easy as I have.

Nevertheless, I truly believe that we all have control over our destinies.  Even if your life is 90% locked by some limitation or another, you still have the power to take possession of and shape the remaining 10%.  Being that you have that power, why not use it? You may find that 10% can make all the difference in the world with regard to your happiness.

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chirls 6 years ago from Indiana (for now)

This is so true! I hate it when people complain about not having the life they want, but then do nothing about it. I use a vision board for my "postulating" and it works well for me. Nice hub :)

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

That's awesome! Yeah, I just learned about vision boards and realized how they're just the visual version of what I had been doing in written form. So long as we're proclaiming these things, I don't imagine it really matters what medium we use!

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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay

Simone, love this hub! I think you've said it well. I do find it amazing how often we really don't think about our lives in perspective. it seems many spend more time planning a vacation rather than their life!

I enjoyed reading and love your style.

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

Thanks so much rebekahELLE! You make a good point there- heck, I think some people spend time working on their GROCERY LISTS than on their lives. Hahaa... I might be one of them @_@

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chirls 6 years ago from Indiana (for now)

I definitely spend more time on my grocery list... lol

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stugod 6 years ago from Bradford

I have been postulating to uma therman.. She has told me to postulate off..Hu

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ripplemaker 6 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

The word "postulating" caught my attention. GRIN. I resonated with this hub as I just recently was in a rut and had to review what I wanted to do with my life. Writing down my goals and being clear about what I want really keeps me focused. :)

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

Hahaa, I thought the same thing when reading your Law of Attraction and Get Out of a Rut hubs!!! Yeah- being intentional seems to make all the difference.

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quicksand 6 years ago

I also believe that we have control over our destiny ... but 'tis the control panel that's ever so elusive! LOL!

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

You are SO right, quicksand! And my control panel is labeled in an entirely different language, so even when I can FIND the darned thing, I still don't know what to do with it most of the time!

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ethel smith 6 years ago from Kingston-Upon-Hull

Interesting Simone. I guess most of us get bogged down with the day to day routine. I am going to start postulating :)

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

Do give it a try! I hope you get what you want from it!

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Betty Reid 6 years ago from Texas

Sounds like great advice. I especially like your summary about focusing on the things you can control.

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epigramman 6 years ago

...whatever that word means - I agree with everything you just said - and it would be strange not to say how awesome this hub is anyway.

And where do you apply for elite status? What are the credentials - and does it pay well?

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Winsome 6 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

"a proposition that is accepted as true in order to provide a basis for logical reasoning."

I really like this idea Simone, it is like Goethe's statement that if we treat a person as they are we make them worse than they are, but if we treat a person as if they already are what they are capable of becoming (a positive postulate)we help them to become that.

Very affirming this postulate stuff. =:)

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

epigramman- thanks! And while it does not pay to be an elite, anyone can apply by contacting me (emailing the hubpages team also works). One of the requirements is a minimum of 6 months on HubPages, so if you're still interested in being an elite in two months, drop me a line!

And Winsome- I'm glad you like the idea! Great Goethe reference- he was an extremely brilliant man!

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Peggy W 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

This word, postulating, also caught my eye. Goal setting and being accountable to someone...or even that scrap of paper you important. I think that it is easy to get side-tracked in life and just march blindly through the everyday occurances. We need that carrot dangling ahead of us! Good hub, Simone. Rating this useful!

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

Thanks Peggy W! You are quite right- it is so important to be accountable to someone, or even something! If we're not, life shall certainly speed by before we know it, and we'll all feel like dolts for not doing more with it.

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A Dane in Spain 6 years ago from Torrox, Malaga. Spain

Thanks Simone. I needed to be reminded of our power to create our own life. I haven't heard the expression postulate in this context before...I know it as visualize or focusing. Very inspiring!

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

They're all the same things, really! Doesn't matter what we call it so long as we do it XD

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lone77star 6 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Simone, this is great! It's nice to see others using postulates. Clarity of thought is so important. The universe obeys clarity, and waits for the dust to settle on confusion.

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

Quite true, lone77star!!

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Bard of Ely 6 years ago from Lisbon, Portugal

As a former Scientologist I know the word postulate from my years of study when I was a follower of L Ron Hubbard's system. He talks about "counter postulates" too which is the opposite and of course can be made by other people who are opposed to your own wishes and goals. I have seen a lot of evidence for this being a reality.

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

Oooh, interesting! So it's a Scientology term! Hmm... mum and dad didn't tell me that, hahaa XD

I am quite fascinated by the "counter postulates" concept you bring up though. It takes the whole "self improvement" drudge to something more of a thrilling game of chess!

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arb 6 years ago from oregon

Hey great write! Unfortunately, I postulated long ago not to allow potulates to dictate the direction of my lack of direction. Actually, I wrote myself a note about planning to write a plan, but, I misplaced it and consequently, ended up with this unplanned life. Where was this hub when I needed it? Anyway,keep it up. Be careful though, you might just end up with what you planned!

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Simone Smith 6 years ago from San Francisco Author

Hahaa- well, maybe it was all for the better!

And I know what toy mean about being careful with what one wishes for... I've sometimes postulated about stuff, and GOTTEN it, but at an expense that I had not previously considered T____T

Effectiveness is a double edged sword with this stuff!

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Jonathan Janco 5 years ago from Southport, CT

Simone, thanks for writing this hub. I have been practicing this sort of thing lately. It was mainly due to my frustrations about dating, so I stopped in order to work on myself. This matter is still on hold pretty much but it has allowed me to understand what I want in a relationship and what I dont want. I still don't SEEM to attract the kind of woman I like, but it has helped me to be much more positive and able to feel 'worthy' as some might say. This is a major thing for me 'cuz I used to be very down on myself and it took alot of work just to get beyond that and it has also given me a chance to allow myself to have a stronger spiritual sense and enjoy life more without feeling the need to rip my own heart out.

Well, thanks for sharing and for letting me share.

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Simone Smith 5 years ago from San Francisco Author

As someone who is only beginning to study the dating world (with the bemused concern of an extraterrestrial anthropologist), I can certainly say that self-awareness, self-reliance, and confidence can work WONDERS when it comes to inter-gender relations, and hence feel that your current approach is ideal! Thanks for sharing, Jonathan Janco, and I wish you all the best!

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lemmyC 4 years ago from UK

Thanks for this article. Different perceptive but effective nonetheless. The scientific slant will promote big picture thinking. Well written!

sidney 4 years ago

i wish i was smart and pretty

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Simone Smith 4 years ago from San Francisco Author

Me too, sidney. Me too.

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