Loss of A Constant Companion

Constant Companions

These are some of the constant companions we are better off without, yet the loss can sometimes feel devastating
These are some of the constant companions we are better off without, yet the loss can sometimes feel devastating


A constant companion, whether it is with a person a place or a thing, becomes a habit. Something becomes a habit when it is repeated over and over. A habit becomes our "comfort zone". When something or someone we have become habitual with is gone or changed, the loss we experience is inexplicable, the loss of a constant companion, our comfort zone.

Most often when we think of the loss of a constant companion we connect that thought to something or someone who brings love and enhances our lives in some way. Yet often times this constant companion causes pain and it is something we do not enjoy. It is a constant companion all the same, and a habit to which we have become accustomed. The loss of a constant companion whether it is one that brought us joy or pain is experienced exactly the same.


Wrapping up in comfort
Wrapping up in comfort

Our Comfort Zones and Constant Companions

As most of us consider a comfort zone, we would imagine that this is a good place to be. "Comfort zone" does not imply "good" it implies habit, what one has become accustomed to. Why don't people leave abusive relationships, and if they do, they go right into another abusive relationship? Why do people become addicted to drugs, alcohol, tobacco, food and other things? These are comfort zones, what a person has become accustomed to. As terrible as these things may appear to be and even the person experiencing them will attest that they are, they have become constant companions, habits, their "comfort zone". To do without them is a loss, the same loss experienced when someone or something that has brought us much love and life enhancement has passed away or gone.

Habits, "comfort zones" are not limited to drugs, alcohol, tobacco and non productive relationships. These also include wars, news coverage of wars and natural disasters, reading of wars, crimes and disasters. These are all habits that many have become accustomed to. It is a "comfort zone" to get our news "fix", it is on the internet, the radio, the television, in the newspaper and numerous magazines. The stories never really change just the names, faces and places. We as a society have become accustomed to these things, they are our constant companions. Pain is another constant companion and "comfort zone", I have witnessed myo-release techniques that put everything back into perfect alignment and the recipient who is without pain and imperfection will move as if the pain and imperfection still exists until it returns, bringing back the "comfort zone". Pain, and conflict has a memory in our cells, just as love and harmony.


The devastation and loss we can feel and the ensuing need to restructure our lives
The devastation and loss we can feel and the ensuing need to restructure our lives

Losing The Comfort Zone

Understand that letting go of any of these has the potential of leaving devastion in its wake just as the loss of a loved one who brought us love and enhanced life experience. When we lose a constant companion what we have lost is our comfort zone, what we have become accustomed to and the way it makes us feel. We become lost, confused, dazed, sometimes seemingly unable to function even in the most basic of ways. We don't know how to eat, to sleep and perform the basic functions we have always done. We have to learn new ways to do even these most basic of life functions.

The Comfort Zone of habit is so addictive in its own right it is the only true addiction. Loss of the comfort zone is devastating.

Feeling The Loss together

When the loss of a constant companion is associated with love and enhanced life experience it is obvious how to comfort and assist. We understand the grieving process and are there for support and have others supporting us whichever it may be. It is known and apparant that this person is going through a rough transitional time in their life. We feel the loss together.

When the loss of a constant companion is someone or something associated with danger, as in the case of abusive relationships and drug, alcohol and tobacco addictions, evening news and pain, it is viewed differently, but experienced the same. Typically we tell them good riddance, aren't you glad that is gone from your life? No, they are not always glad and it is not always good riddance, they have lost a constant companion and their comfort zone. We need to feel this loss together too.

Feeling the loss and renewal together

Real comfort one to another nothing says it like a heartfelt hug
Real comfort one to another nothing says it like a heartfelt hug

Finding Comfort and Providing Comfort

When the sometimes difficult decision is made to let go of and lose a constant companion, a "comfort zone", a habit, that is not associated with love and life enhancement a grieving plan has to be in place. Let others know what you are experiencing, share your loss, have a plan that includes support that provides comfort, it can be done alone, but is better done with the help of others.

If by chance you know of someone who is overcoming addiction of any nature, or experiencing the loss of an abusive or non productive relationship understand they have lost a constant companion. Understand their loss and that it is a loss, not good riddance. Console, comfort encourage, support as they learn a new way of life without this constant companion whom was considered a friend.

A Brighter Day Ahead

The future looks bright ahead!
The future looks bright ahead!

Have A Plan

How lost would any of us be without our pain we have become accustomed to or the "job" of fixing the pain? How lost would some of us be without the abusive relationships or the "job" of helping with them? How many of us would be lost without war, crime, natural disaster and news to feed on and give us jobs to "fix"? Prepare, have a plan these habits, constant companions and "comfort zones" have no place in the times ahead.

Create a plan, a personal one and one as a society as we prepare for the loss of these "constant companions". To allow ourselves time to grieve their loss as we move into a time a space where these "comfort zones" can no longer thrive and exist. Where our comfort will be one another as we move into a millenium of peace through these war stricken times. Where we can thrive in unconditional love for ourselves and one another, where the lion does indeed lie down with the lamb. Prepare, have a plan these habits, constant companions and "comfort zones" have no place in the times ahead..

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I loved your hub. It is so true when you lose someone or something that has been close to you it is hard to say goodbye. We lost both of our much loved little silkies, Bob and Suzie within three years of each other, they were like our children because I was unable to have children. I had three miscarriages. I wanted to be a mother more than anything else in the world, but it just couldn't be . I miss Bobbie and Suzie tremendously and so does my husband Richard. You are so right, you do become so attached to them it seems like part of you has gone with them. Thank you and I will be your follower after this Beautybabe. x

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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Sue: Very informative article! I read in one of my brain books, as I like to now call them, and which puts several of my loved ones to sleep as they find them boring, hehe, that we humans get so used to our patterns, say of "suffering", that when we resolve one issue, we create another one, because the brain gets its "fix" on suffering through the chemicals the emotions releases, its like a drug. Unless we understand what we are doing, and replace what we let go of with a healthier alternative, there is a chance we may revert to another attachment. I am just thinking out loud here and repeating the gist of your message... Thanks for this hub, I needed to be reminded. You have done a service for me and am sure for others!

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

What a pleasure to meet you Beautybabe! Thanks as you share your losses and working through them. I too experienced the loss of a child at birth and was never able to become a mother as I had hoped...there is comfort however and it is with one another. Bless you as you bring and find comfort, Love and Light to you

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Thank You Marie, Please think out loud on any of my hubs, it always adds such value! I appreciate you seeing the message as I sometimes write in riddles even though it is not always my intent. I like that..."brain books", I laugh with you as the same books have the same effect on others around me hehe "yawn". As you probably know quitting smoking is where this article came from, after an affair with them for most of my life...a constant companion I can do without, yet sometimes..... Thanks again, Love and Light to you Marie, shine your light here anytime!

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rvsrinivasan 7 years ago

We get accustomed to certain place, people, and habits. There will be initially we shy to move to another place of work. After some times we will get adjusted to the new circumstances. It is a natural phenomenon. It is very nice to know new thinking in your hub. I have written hubs as Children Thinking, Human Behavior may be read and offer your valuable comments.

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Universal Laws 7 years ago from UNIVERSE

Great hub, with as usual unique thoughts.

It still surprises me when I see people light up when they tell you about yet another health problem, I have two people in my immediate family who do this. It never fails to shock and amaze me as I hear and see it in their energy. It is the only time they are really animated and energised. Their comfort zone being always to feel comfort from having something wrong. I imagine it began as children and their "ill shadow" developed thru only getting attention and feeling loved when ill. I agree with you, these comfort zones have to go before we can walk the next part of our evolutionary path. Illness being a comfort zone is another one not to take through this next period of time.

Just imagine how many people's comfort zone will be tossed around or torn from them when they realise the government was never really looking after them and that religion was not their sanctury but both were part of their bondage.

The "comfort zone" is such an important topic and such a diverse one thank you for addressing this here in your usual quirky style!



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ethel smith 7 years ago from Kingston-Upon-Hull

Nice to see you back. Hope all has been well

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Jen's Solitude 7 years ago from Delaware

Well Sue, you have just brought new meaning to what a comfort zone is in every aspect. I now understand more fully why a person who loses an abusive relationship will have to mourn and adjust in ways we find confusing. Why they don't just automatically jump back into life and need our understanding and reassurance. Thanks for making that so clear to me.

It is a pleasure to read this hub and it thrills me that you have returned! What a nice way to begin my morning! :-)

Congratulations and continued success in letting go of your comfort zone as well!


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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


Thank you for your additions of perspective on this as it does apply to any changes including employment and general circumstances. I would enjoy reading what you ahev to offer in these areas as well. Always looking to expand my horizons even when it seems so daunting at times. Much appreciation for you shining your light here!

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


I always appreciate as you expand and share on things I have written. the comprehension of some of the hidden value so to speak. I like that word "quirky" it makes me smile, thank you! All of us have some thing in our comfort zone and very seldom can we see our own. Many of us waiting for the curtain to fall, yet the next act even for those of us who have seen a glimpse of it will surprise and bring us all more joy than we can even begin to anticipate. Mostly it will surprise us what we did not "see" for all the things we "saw". Namaste', Love and Light to you Linda on your journey, thanks for taking it with me.

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


Always nice to see you too. As I saw you on Jens Solitude and have read a few of your works without comment, I have done a lot of reading lately without comment...hmmm maybe getting my comment fingers working again as well. It has been an interesting journey for me as I have shifted numerous of my comfort zones and am now living proof we do survive these shifts no matter how confused and disoriented it may leave us for awhile. So glad to be "back" and grateful for the warm welcome...Thanks, Love and Light to you

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alekhouse 7 years ago from Louisville, Kentucky

I loved this hub, Sue. I had a constant companion for eight years who I still miss and think of often...my golden retriever Sam. She was the sweetest dog I ever had. She died five years ago, when she was only eight, and I still miss her like crazy.

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Georgiakevin 7 years ago from Central Georgia

This is quite a hub. I never thought of a bad habit or a familar activity as a constant companion before. Your hub has made me evaluate and reevaluate my own life. that is always a good thing. Thank you.

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lorlie6 7 years ago from Bishop, Ca

Fabulous work, emohealer! I've found myself learning how to live my life without alcohol since June of 2008, and indeed it was a huge part of my life. I now find comfort in other ways-writing is my outlet where drinking used to be.

Thanks for such an important hub.

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Green Lotus 7 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Excellent hub emo and so well presented. Stepping out the comfort zone is scary and yes it doesn't have to be a "well-known" vice. I'm so glad you mentioned that watching and listening to negative news (not all of which is valid), feeds an addiction to negativity. I also like Linda's point that people who get energized by promoting their problems and illnesses also carry a constant negative companion. Good work.

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WriteAngled 7 years ago from Treorci, Cymru

Someone I love has Lady Gin as his constant companion, lover and helpmate. I'm hoping one day he can leave his comfort zone and I can be there for him.

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


Bless you again my friend,,,,,Hooray, I can write without cigarettes, and finish it. What a challenge! Thank you for your vote for continued success, to be like the little train that thinks he can...me tooooo!

So glad it brought light to some areas for you as well. this personal experience brought me to this understanding of this confusing state of mind we can be in and how to help untangle the web we have ensnared ourselves in. Love and Light to you my friend, Hugs =), Sue

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


8 yrs is not very long for a golden retriever and they are very good companions. Time does not always make the longing go away does it? Not for the one who provided real comfort and was that positive constant companion. Thank you for visiting here, what a pleasure to know you...Sue

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


Good for you as you are on the lookout to evaluate and reevaluate your life. So glad this article provoked a good inner look and you found it beneficial to your JOurneY! Love and Light and to only connecting with constant companions that bring enhancement to you and your experience!

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


Thank you for the compliment as I lower my head in acknowledgement. Alcohol can be a close friend and companion, good for you as you learn new ways to function without this companion. Such a good thing you did not write and drink, because separating the two can be a doozy sometimes. You are very good at writing too and I am sure the switch is beneficial to you as well as the rest of us you are now sharing your gifts with. Love and Light to you on your continued JOurneY! Sue

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Green Lotus,

What a pleasure to have you stop by here to my humble hub! I appreciate the compliment as well as your input about the negative energy patterns taking the form of constant companions in our society. Each moment we can be spending with each other in pure enjoyment rather than..... Love and Light to you as well! Sue

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


What a challenge a loved one who finds their comfort elsewhere. Bless you for your patience and as you seek to find ways to help shift those patterns from false companionship to real companionship. Realizing you cannot replace "Lady Gin" and that he will need to mourn and grieve his loss bacuase it is as real to him as his own image is in the mirror. Thanks for visiting here, Love and Light to your JOurneY and to his as well!

JagranKiran 7 years ago

great article, got me thinking about my own comfort zones, and what i hold onto, and what i can let go of, perhaps its time for some streamlining, much love !

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

JagranKiran my friend, how nice to see you here on this hub! Thanks for your thumbs up.....With your spiritual perspective, your thinking can only be good. I am sure some amazing streamlining is in store. Much love and light to you as well, you shine so brightly!

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ripplemaker 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Sue, it is always so nice to read about your journey as so much wisdom emanates from it. Thank you for sharing it here and you have explained it so well and so beautifully. Healing is a process and we go through the process huh? Understanding it and accepting it helps a lot as we support the people in our lives going through it. And in turn we are supported too. Thank you for being such a wonderful friend. I am so excited about your latest rendezvous... Wooohooo blessings, love and light to you. ((Hugs))

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dayzeebee 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

A very creative and passionate way of letting go of our "comfort zones". It took me a little over 40 years to let go of the loss of my dad.... I was told that my smoking was a way of keeping him alive in my life. And though I've finally let go of him my smoking still remains. It's great to know you have decided to quit the habit. Like many, I too have tried quitting several times. I believe the right time will come for me soon. Thank you for a great hub. Blessings:)

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

ripplemaker...Michelle, yes healing is so much a process, not like magic, but magical when it is accomplished. As a healer, you know the understanding and support aspect so well, but letting it in our own lives is another process altogether. Knowing how it is done is yet another learning process. I am so grateful for our friendhsip as well =). I won't be writing about my latest rendezvous any time soon, but yes, surprisingly exciting....Woohoo thanks for sharing in these special moments in my life! Love and Light, yours shines so brilliantly, Thanks!!!!!

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

dayzeebee, Some losses never relly go we just adapt! Smoking is the most constant companion we can have, it goes everywhere with us and is always available for consolation and so much more. Functioning without a cigarette feels sometimes like functioning without air. As if survival depends on it. For me, it was connected to the loss of my son, and I lost so much more at that time...just 19, this has been my trail of tears and my journey of healing and finding answers. Don't worry about the smoking, at this moment I envy your companionship as I still struggle for filling the void. You will know if the time is right and maybe I was able to share something that may help you if you decide to take this huge leap of faith, for surely that is what it is. Thank You for your in depth sharing here. Love and Light to your already bright light, may the blessings abound in your life!

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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California

What an interesting topic, and well handled. When you see the word comfort you immediately think good. But as you so succinctly put it, it doesn't have to always mean good and a lot of times it is not good. I would never have thought of news, especially news of disasters, as being a comfort, but I can see how that can be, but only after you said it. I guess knowing that it's not happening to us immediately is like a comfort zone. I could go on and on, but I won't, suffice it to say you did it again, and welcome back to continue to do it emohealer. As usual a very needed article for so many.

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Hi fastfreta, I've missed you and the wisdom you carry and share so abundantly. I appreciate the welcome back...the past few monthes have indeed brought much change, giving up many "comofort zones", some I am better off without and some I still miss yet. I humbly accept your compliments as the words that flow through my fingertips are found to be inspiring or helpful in any way. Thanks for shining so brightly as well, love and light to you, Sue

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ripplemaker 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

I can be your companion too!!! See...(Michelle sits beside Sue and holds her hand) As I went with Daisy through her journey of healing, she also did with mine. I believe love heals. And we are both healing tremendously in so many areas. And I have been so blessed.

Thank you for accepting the friendship. If you had said no...

Oooh I am so excited someday soon, I know Daisy and I will meet certain really special people in person. I am sooo looking forward to that. LOL

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Thanks Michelle for being my companion and friend...Love does heal so much, so glad for both of your healing together and the blessings shared. I was referring to Daisys cigarette companion she still has I envy however...LOL...So thank you for stepping in to fill the void.

What a blessing your friendship is, and yes I know that someday when we all will meet in person is a reality...I continue to learn filipino so when I am there or when you all are here....You are both very welcome in my home and in my heart.....much anticipation for that day.......Much Love and Big Hugs X =)

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Lita C. Malicdem 7 years ago from Philippines

I consider my house my number one comfort zone, that I can't be anywhere for a period of time. If forced to leave it, it would only be for few days, and the reason must be for family gatherings. I don't say it's a perfect place, but becoming accustomed to it makes me move around with ease, unlike in a stranger place. And besides, it is full of happy memories I can't live without.

I can identify myself with many of the examples you have in this hub, especially of losing someone. Thank you for reminding me, but sometimes they must be accepted for good to give way to upcoming and better comfort zones. Nice hub.

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ripplemaker 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Hi Sue... I knew you meant that "companion" LOL that is why I kidded you about it about me replacing it LOL Thanks for the feeling of anticipation. :) Hahahah God bless you today.

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Sue: I didn't know you lost your son, oh, my goodness, this has been my sister's journey and mine as well, as she lost her 18 year old son four years ago. However, no one can know the pain of a mother or father losing a child, so my heart and deep empathy goes to you! Sis left New York, and moved to Florida to start all over again, and is alone, without her husband as he lives overseas, he had several strokes right after his son's passing, (he couldn't cope) and is without her older son as he is in Thailand and not very close to his Mom or me, its his nature. She has grown spiritually, is exploring, and has made her art and love for dancing as her "companion", and this is what keeps her going. I totally admire her strenght and grace; this is my big sis. :)

I would love for you to meet her one day, she is very sociable, she is a Gemini, while I am more reclusive. She has a Loft in Hollywood Beach where she conducts Meetups regularly.

The loss of a son or daughter is one that we never really get over, not even time changes that loss, as they seem frozen in time, but I have found we can use the loss to transmute our souls. As long as I am on this planet, I will help sis, as she has a deep void in her life and its what Love would do.

Much love to you,


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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Lita D Malicdem,

I know many who share your comfort zone, the familiar only...You actually stepped far from your comfort zone to come to this hub and comment. So glad something here resonated for you, I can see you are trying to connect with more and the unfamiliar frightening as it may seem. My best of wishes to you, it can be done, but many times we do not make that step until life forces it on us. I would hope this would never be the case for you. Enjoy and appreciate those comforts until you are really ready to seek new comforts for your world. May your life be blessed and full of love and light as I send you mine now!

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Ripplemaker, Michelle....teehehe, you did know what I was saying.....I appreciate the companionship even more, need all the help I can get...Thanks!

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

VioletSun, my friend Marie, I have known of your sisters journey and yours in connection with hers. I speak little of mine, it has been a long lifetime journey indeed. My son wasn't 19 when he passed, I was, that was 25 yrs ago now and I was never able to have more children because of the complications of bringing him into this world. He died at birth. I spent many many years angry at God, angry at the world....then I began the healing journey.

Thank you so much for sharing more of your sisters journey, this type of loss rips and rends worlds apart, from the inside out. My heart has gone out to her and to you many times, circumstances are so different, but the pain and the loss is the same.

With you for a sis she will find that light, I am so inspired always as I read of your journey and the many ways it interconnects to hers.

Now, the name emohealer is understood I suppose, where the journey began and how long it really takes sometimes. Love is the answer, through our connectivity, finding that light and learning to see how it works in relation to others and life itself. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to do what I never intended.....to bare and share this part of my journey. These words are probably the hardest I have ever written as emotion has swept through me in old waves of familiarity. The two things I never write about, the loss of my son and war, the two things that have impacted my life in ways there are no words for. Much love to you too my friend and Sister in light! Thank You!!!

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Sue: The circumstances are different, but as you said, the loss is still the same. Yes, I noticed you don't mention the loss of your baby in your writings; I actually went to look for a hub to see if I missed your writing about this. One day, you may be able to share this part of your journey in your writings, but if you don't, its okay too! We each handle loss and in your case the experiences of war differently, but by the work you are doing, you have used these painful experiences to bring you to where you are nowadays, so I congratulate you for this.

Blessings to you!

mark 6 years ago

Hi it Great.Thanks for such an important hub. Nice to meet you.Then I will come back again.

Moo 6 years ago

This article was very good. I can bring it to my report. Thanks for the great article.

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Lovedreams2009 6 years ago from Long Island City, New York

Thank you so much for such a beautiful article. It is what I have been looking for to understand the loss I have been going through and why it has been so difficult. Through your explanation, I can now associate what I've been feeling and hopefully begin to heal myself. I would love to hear more words of your wisdom to help many of us through loss to continue our journey in life that is fulfilling, happy, and important.

Jody Rodger 6 years ago

I agree, and I know how one feels. We just had to put our dog Winnie a toy poodle down right before Christmas. She used to sleep right next to me at night, and I find myself still reaching for her at times. It is like loosing a loved one. I felt the same way when my mother passes away, if I had a problem I would call her, even after she was gone from us I still would pick up the phone to call her, then realizing I could no longer physically talk to her. But her words, and advice live on in me, and now in my children.

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Ariztokat 6 years ago from AZ

Thank you for this, Sue. You have me pondering, and that's not the easiest thing for anyone to do with me. lol. It has been 18 years since I lost my daughter. Almost the total length of her life. There are so many emotions connected with her going that I can't seem to find any way of letting go. Perhaps I am in my 'comfort zone' of beating myself up for it. Ponder ponder.

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author


Thank you so much, come back anytime, you are always welcome here. Love and Light to you!

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So glad you enjoyed this hub, I hope that it helps you with your report. Thank for for letting me know you enjoyed it, Blessings to you, Let Your Light Shine!

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bengriston 6 years ago

For me the loss was my dog last year. She had been with me everyday since she was born and we were the best of pals. Nicely written hub.

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Feline Prophet 6 years ago from India

Very interesting perspective on comfort zones, and so true. It's easier to stay in a space that we are familiar than take the first steps to a newer and quite possibly, better one.

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myhomebusiness 6 years ago from Wells, NV

Very good hub. I so enjoyed reading it. You have given me much to reflect upon. Life is just full of different "comfort zones" it is when we can actually step out of them that we begin to grow. Thank you for the time of reflection and the incentive to step out of my zone once again.

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Lovedreams2009, what a lovely name to use! I do not know what your loss is, but I am so grateful that something you read here was able to touch you in a way to begin pringing you some peace and comfort. Thank You for asking me to write more, it would be my pleasure, you may also want to browse some of my other hubs as they may also contain what you seek in your JOurneY, seeking happiness and fulfillment through life as I truly do believe...We are that we may have Joy! Much Love and Light to brighten the way and that you may continue to recognize the things of Joy and value as you come upon them in your JOurneY! Blessings, Sue =)

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Jody Roger,

So sorry for your loss of Winnie! What a beautiful constant companion she sounds to have been. Even more so for the loss of your mother, she must have been a wonderful woman. I believe that when we leave mortality, our spirit and essence remains. I pray that as you and your family overcome such a tremendous loss that you may be able to feel her spirit and essence still bringing you comfort as I believe she is and will. Much Love to You as you move to a new comfort zone, may it be as fulfilling!

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Ariztokat, what a blessing to see find you here at this hub as well, as you are a seeker, you will find that which you seek to find. It is already within you, do not be afraid to let it shine... as brilliant as this light may become it will never burn or cause any harm.

No loss like that of a child. Beat yourself up no more, she is in a good place and wants you to be happy and experience Joy. It has taken me 25 yrs from my own loss to understand this that the greatest gift we can give is to be OK ourselves. They would never want for us to be miserable or to beat ourselves up. They would want to watch us experience wonder and Love and Joy!

My prayers and Love for you as you JOurneY to this place within, letting your light shine brilliantly and finding peace and comfort within this world! Blessings and Hugs, Sue

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author


Thank You so much for sharing your losses and recovery here as well. My condolences to you for your loss of such a faithful constant companion! May the memories continue to be your companion and bring you Joy! Love and Light, Sue!

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Feline Prophet,

What a pleasure to see you again, I have missed you in my absence! You are always seeking, I hope once again this may have shone some light in your pathway to brighten your JOurneY! Thank You so much for stopping by and sharing your appreciation. Love, Light and Blessings to you as well! Sue

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Mitch King 6 years ago from Wilsoville, OR, USA

Too many people are stuck in a comfort zone this is why so many are in unhealthy situations that they really need to be out of.

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Mitch, could not have said it better myself. As hard as it may appear to move from these "comfort zones" by choice. Life is eventually handing us events forcing us to move from there when our "comfort zones" become "unavailable". Great assesment, thanks for sharing that insight!

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Mystique1957 6 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

I understand quite clearly what happens many times, my dear Sue. Not many people have learned how to detach from the physical world. I believe there must be a connection with the spiritual realm that can make us see life from a different perspective. This is especially true for those who rely too much in the world of senses. What`s left for those of us who understand and accept the Spiritual realm as our true reality is to lend a hand and be supportive.

Great hub!

Two thumbs up!

warm regards and tons of blessings to you, my dear friend,


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Sage Williams 6 years ago

Sue - An excellent article. I absolutely loved the way that you started loss is a loss not matter what type of loss it is. Whether it is a person, place or thing. You went on to say that it became a habit and the habit becomes habitual thus this becomes your comfort zone..

"When something or someone we have become habitual with is gone or changed, the loss we experience is inexplicable, the loss of a constant companion, our comfort zone."

How true this is, I have had no shortage of loss in my life and can remember quite clearly when giving up my cigarettes

I felt I had lost my best friend. As shallow as this may sound the loss was very real. Cigarettes had been my constant companion for 20+years.

Grieving is a natural and essential process to any loss regardless if it is a person, place or thing.

Great Job!


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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Thank you Sage! We all experience these losses on such grand scale. Many call it change, and of course that is how loss can be experienced.

Nothing shallow about grieving in reference to cigarettes, that was my constant companion for 25+ years and the loss that was the inspiration for this article.

I truly appreciate your feedback and for sharing your own insights to add to the process of moving forward after loss. May your light continue to expand in brilliance and your Blessings be multiplied, Much Love, Sue

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EllenGraeger 6 years ago from Madrid

I like the idea to have a plan. I will work on it. Meanwhile, and while it is possible, I would like to stick to my comfort zone being aware that we have to learn to be comfortable with the uncomfortable.

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Ellen, You hit on the key to unlocking the elusive door, having a plan. Many of us are indeed comfortable with the uncomfortable and it cretes discomort moving to a more comfortable place, as they say there is the same amount of stress in a birth as there is in a death. Thank you for sharing and expanding on the concepts here. I wish you well on your JOurneY as you seek more out of life. Best Wishes, Sue

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De Greek 6 years ago from UK

Even the bravest amongs us are reluctant to to move to new areas we are not familiar with. Intersting prespective and a challenging one. Well done :-)

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

De Greek: Thank You, it does indeed take much bravery and courage to move from the familiar to the un-familiar. Many of us percieve oursleves as "lacking" in this, so sometimes teh first step is to move past this fear before getting into the other subject matters. I wish much bravery and courage for you as you move into uncharted travels in your lifes journey.

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Teresa Laurente 6 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

Beautiful and nourishing. Indeed, we have our responsibility as stewards of the earth to give back what we are given of even the least. Really great message to keep and hold.

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Teresa, I Love the words you used to describe thsi hub, not the ones I originally would have thought. You are an inspiration in return. Thank You for your kind words and as we all work together to shift to new comfort zones, the ones that provide real comfort.

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Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this hub. You come across as a very natural and sincere writer. I have only just come across you on here and I will be back to read more in a bit!! Maybe if you have a few minutes to spare you would like to read a couple of my hubs. ie 'My Beautiful Little Girl' is a tribute to my beautiful daughter and 'FROM THIS MOMENT ON ' is about finding my true self. I am votiing this one up and bookmarking it. Thank you so much for sharing emohealer. Take care and God Bless.

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Eiddwen,,,,,,What an honour you not only found your way here but left a note of your passing through. Your feedback and appreciation brings me much Joy as I share these things for the purpose of lightening anothers burdens and lighting the way through the dark paths where I have before traveled. It would be my pleasure to peruse your writings and you too share your JOurneY through this magnificant life. Love, Light and Divine Blessings from above! Sue

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Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

I thank you so much for the above comment. I think that joining HP has definitley been a briiliant decision of mine. Like you I hope that someone can learn from my experiences. We all know how much sadness and cruelty there is in this world but since coming on here I have also realised just how much kindness and love there is also all around us. I am very humbled . I do not show emotion easily but there has been many a tear as I have read all the messages of love and support from everyone on here. Take care emohealer and God Bless.

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Fluffy77 5 years ago from Enterprise, OR

Such great words of wisdom, and very true. I have been in these very places in life as I know many are still today, and what you offer here in this amazing Hub rings so very true to me, thank you again.

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suziecat7 5 years ago from Asheville, NC

There was a time when I was young that if I became comfortable with anything, I would flee. Now I hesitate to change my own "comfort zones". Excellent Hub, Sue - I'm going to share it.

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emohealer 5 years ago from South Carolina Author

Suziecat... Thanks for sharing! It is sadly so, as I have aged I have held onto things and sunk into ruts. Ergo, this article, as in my more aged and learned life now I can harness the youth within and this is done with change and finding "new" comfort zones. I can honestly say it has served me well and is now part of what I refer to as the fountain of youth. Good luck to you as you also shift some of these uncomfortable comfort zones Suzanne

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Yaduvanshi 5 years ago from Bharat Vrse

It really difficult accept such losses in life but there no other way

Carlinda 2 years ago

We deefiitnly need more smart people like you around.

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emohealer 10 months ago from South Carolina Author

We are all works in progress and as may work progresses I enjoy greatly opening doors for anyone seeking to find as they also progress somewhere .. that it may be good for all ..

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