Identify Self Harm Triggers

What are self harm triggers?

Self harm triggers are those things that 'trigger' that self harm urge. Identifying a self harm trigger can be very difficult and as such the urge to self injure can seem to be totally impulsive and random for the person experiencing self harm urges.

If you decide to start the journey to freedom from self harm you are going to need to become aware of your triggers. This is a task easier said then done! It is so important because it gives you an understanding of what is going on in your mind and that can give you control over your choices.

I want to stress before we get started that this is one of the hardest processes in gaining control of your impulses. It will take time to re-program your brain to identify upsetting events that lead to the self injury triggers so you must be patient with yourself. If you do have a self harm relapse this is totally normal and a good chance to evaluate what happened exactly (in every minute detail). It's like they say, practice makes perfect and the more practice you get at discovering your triggers the more control you will have in the long term.

Have you had a self harm trigger?

Lets assume that you have made the decision to stop your self harm and want something more for yourself. You have done very well for awhile but then something happened. You suffered a relapse. You may have even had a really bad relapse, your self harm seems to have been worse then normal. Well this is actually very normal.

Your automatic responses have been challenged and given the chance to re-assert themselves with an emotional event. Think of self harm as an addiction with a mind of its own, this addiction is fighting for your attention and so is going to be stronger then you are used to. By coming down hard on yourself, thinking you have failed your self harm addiction is trying to stay dominant in your mind. The good thing is you have challenged your automatic responses and that is the first step to changing them. This is your opportunity to identify one of your triggers and retrain your brain. 

Find that Self Harm Trigger

It may be that you have already figured out what your self harm trigger was. It could have been some big, blazing and obvious event like the loss of someone important to you. Perhaps you have been under stress and you already know that these are your triggers. For you I hope to write another article soon about alternate coping skills you can try when these big events happen. Chances are that there are some people who read this that have no big events triggering them and cannot see a trigger for what happened. These are the sort of triggers that I wish to help with in this article.

Small self harm triggers are insidious, these ones are the ones that lead us to feeling like there is no logic to our emotions and as such no way to change or heal. I actually had so many of these that I really thought I was incurable. When I started doing behavioral analysis to identify individual triggers I found it extremely uncomfortable and got to a point where I would avoid self harm so as to avoid behavioral analysis! I really hated it and it was the most effective part of the therapy. This is why I highly suggest that you find someone you trust to help you with this, someone who can gently but firmly push you to examine every second that lead to the self harm urge as well as any skills you tried between the urge and the action (I would not be surprised if you tried something). This person can also prompt you to decide what you might try next time to cope with the urge until it passes.

You might not have a person such as this available to you. Self harm is a private and secret thing often because there is a lot of misunderstanding about self harm out there. Just because your environment does not offer supportive people you feel safe with does not mean you cannot begin to identify some of your triggers if not all of them but it is going to be harder I am sorry to say. Try to find any and all supports for yourself that you can, including supportive chat rooms online or best friends who want to help in any way they can (even if its just a distraction for an evening of fun). Also keep yourself motivated with rewards but avoid any self punishment for 'failure' as in reality this is no failure and is a part of the process.

When you look at a self harm event and all events around the self harm episode there are some questions you can ask yourself. When did I first feel the beginnings of a self harm urge? What was I doing? Who was around? Leave no stone unturned.

I had an urge to self harm early on in my recovery that seemed totally mystifying until I looked at it with such scrutiny that I realized that it was a commercial that had triggered me. It was one of those commercials that show starving people in need of aid. I have always been a sensitive person and seeing those images was not even something I was conscious of but it lead to feelings of anger and injustice in the world, which in turn lead to depression. I still feel upset when I see these sorts of images and wish there was something I could do but I realize that my self harm does not help anyone and will not change the real problem. My coping skill in this situation was to understand that accepting is not the same as approving, and I must accept that this is the world and I don't have to like it either. 

A huge tip that anyone can use to help them cope with the ups and downs of life and vital for you in your journey towards emotional freedom is this. Your physical state will have a huge impact on your emotional state. Things to think about and be aware of at all times are things like, are you eating well? Are you sleeping well? Are you angry? Are you lonely? There is a saying that you can think of, HALT = Hungry Angry Lonely and Tired, these things will make you more vulnerable to self harm triggers. Protect yourself from these and you will limit how often you experience triggers you feel to be stronger then you as a healthy body is a stronger body.

Self Harm Help to Come

My next article on self harm is intended to focus on the skills you can use when you know you are experiencing a trigger. These skills will include distress tolerance and crisis survival skills such as distraction, self soothing, improving the moment and thinking about pros and cons. I encourage you to think a little about what you might try to tolerate distress and crisis. I shall wrap this up with one such skill that is employed by people who struggle with many forms of negative coping skills, take things one day at a time, or one hour at a time or one minute or one second at a time. All the best for your success in this most difficult task to self improvement and self healing.

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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

good and nice things on how to pipoint self harm trigger, I will wait for the next series, Happy new Year kirsten, Maita


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Cagsil 6 years ago from USA or America

Very nicely written and informative Hub. Thank you so much for sharing. :)


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

Another great hub Kirsten. You are doing quite an important thing analyzing and explaining self harm. Go on with this.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Thanks again Kirstenblog. Happy New Year.


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nadiaazhar 6 years ago from kuwait

its an intresting hub....can we say that self harm happens when we start doing self- petty during rough patches of our lives, and when we feel we r the victim of fate!

i'll be looking forward for the next writing

best regards,

nadia


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kirstenblog 6 years ago from London UK Author

nadiaazhar, I would say that self harm is a bit deeper then simple self pity but it does happen when we have rough times in our lives and often as a result of feeling out of control, as you say 'we r the victim of fate', a powerless feeling. Self harm can give the feeling of having some power during those powerless times. I used to think, no one can hurt me as much as I can hurt myself, like that somehow made the hurt from others ok. Thanks for having a read and I hope you like the next article when it gets written :D


lisa.bom 6 years ago

I use self harm as a punishment to myself. I have been diagnosed as bipolar and PTSD. Thank you for sharing such great info. I have added your URL to my hub.


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kirstenblog 6 years ago from London UK Author

lisa.bom - Thanks for the read/comment and the link from your hub. Self harm is such an emotive topic and is often very misunderstood. It would be wonderful if the experiences of people like us (those that have been there) can help improve understanding and support. It means a lot that you have linked my hub to yours, I will be reading your hub too. All the best!


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lambservant 6 years ago from Pacific Northwest

Great informational hub for a topic that is rarely spoken of. The shame is great and I suspect many self-harmers, or loved ones of self-harmers will benefit from your writings on the subject. Keep up the hard work.


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wychic 5 years ago from Sheridan, Wyoming

I agree, those of us that have been there are in what I think is a much more understanding position to be able to help others. I stumbled across this hub when I was reading over the "related hubs" displayed on my own story, and am very glad to have found yours. It's amazing to me how many people think that self-harm is "just a cry for attention" and only worry about stopping it rather than addressing the underlying issues. Awesome hub, and I'm off to read the next in the series :).


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kirstenblog 5 years ago from London UK Author

wychic - Thanks for taking the time to both read and leave a comment here! I am glad you enjoyed it. My blood boils at the attention seeking claim made about anyone self harming. In my opinion it is an insult, it degrades and belittles the serious pain a person is struggling to cope with. Attention seeking my ass! More like a cop out or scape goat that means we avoid having to acknowledge real pain and learn new therapies for helping. Gosh, so many years later and it still pushes my buttons. Glad I don't have to deal with that stuff anymore, and glad you don't either :)


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schoolgirlforreal 2 years ago from USA

Hi kirstenblog,

I have never done self harm although when I smoked I considered that at times to be. I think loneliness can cause the feeling as well as other things like ptsd, depression etc. I think the more we learn to Love ourselves and treat ourselves nice, the better off we'll be. Thanks :)

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