The People Pleaser

Are you the People Pleaser?

Are you that person or do you know someone like that?

Pleasing other people is not how I was raised. It is about how you were raised or taught from childhood. I see it all the time in our small community and there are many people-pleasers in this world.

He is a people pleaser!

No matter what the occasion his motive is to please other people. If he had pleased his wife as much as he pleased other people, he would have a much happier marriage and relationship.

You are only taking advantage of yourself if pleasing people is your way of life.

How does that feel?

It is time you stopped making other people feel happy. In trying to make others feel better while you feel at your worst is not my way of life

When will you focus on your needs?

Why accommodate others so much more than your loved one?

When will you say NO?

Making up stupid excuses is not going to do much right in your life.

For example:

He does not care about his family’s needs instead thinks of others’ needs. What he is unable to handle or cope with does not matter.

He wants the other person to be happy and fails to see what it is doing to his family. When attending a function to only please some other person is not the way to go.

People-pleasing is everywhere, you just have to control what you do. Sometimes what you want cannot be tolerated, but you do it to put up with it. I do not shut up and put up with anyone, or anything, I know will bring me unhappiness and problems.

Say, ''no thanks!''

Why is it so difficult to say NO?

Be polite, nobody is asking you to be rude and inconsiderate.

Stay calm and be respectful toward the other person and do not do what they want of you. You do not need to hang on to the less powerful and thoughtless people. Make sure you mean what you say.

The world does not end at anyone's feet! Be straightforward and make your point heard.

Why do you want to be the people pleaser?

If you are the people pleaser only you will be most unhappy with yourself. Every person has a mind of their own and no one can or should make you do what you do not want to.

When I first came to Croatia, for me, it was only about pleasing other people. I had to visit family and neighbours to make them happy. I could not continue that routine.

I had to stop and when I stopped, I saw a turning point in my life did not know and sat in silence for hours with these people making me bored and tired and with no communication.

I knew then it was up to me to get out of that situation something I was not born into. Speak up and do not be afraid to let your words be heard.

People have different choices what makes you any different?

Make your opinion heard and put your foot down on such issues. I managed to make myself heard when I could no longer live that boring and pleasing life which made me more unhappy by the day. If you keep silent nothing will change for the better.

The key is to stop being that people pleaser!

I know of people pleasers and will do anything to make them elves present at events to be at their best for the other. To have a good appearance because of that person and to make that person happy is a whole lot of nonsense to me.

What will they think does not go with me?

Who cares about what they think?

Let your opinion be heard and do not get too involved with such people. You do not have to do what others do. Do not do what others make you do for their satisfaction.

Be yourself!

• Do whatever you like for yourself.
• Do not think of what others will think of you.
• It is self-destructive to think that way.
• There must be something that you like to do for yourself.

You should not be a pushover or a manipulator. I am not asking you to be completely selfish.

Those people pleasers out there are weaker and less- confident.

Be focused on your life. It is your choice of what you want to do. Nobody should have control over your life. I moved away from a restricted life into my own life. Nobody can control my thoughts and my life.

You can get yourself locked in a trap if you do not speak up. Walk away and do not look back.

Do you think it is worth having a people pleaser in your life?

The people-pleaser thinks of their needs and not yours. It is always about what makes them happy and what makes you more unhappy.

Is that how you want to live your life?

Life has limits when you go overboard definitely you have reached your limit and that can become very unpleasant for you.

You should check it out for yourself. Analyze what is coming between you and your friends. See who you are up against. Open your eyes to these individuals.

Have you chosen to tolerate the intolerable?

Behave normally and accept, do not accept if you have had enough of a People pleaser. I have seen behaviours that can be most frustrating.

People pleasers are often expecting you to do for them and I have been through a lot of that sort of behavior.

Until one day I said NO.

It was hard to say NO in the beginning when I met these people. When I first got acquainted with the local people, I could not say No and did not grasp their concept, but when I realized how unhappy it made me, I had to stop it!

Nobody saw how unhappy that pleasing people thing made me. It was about making those people happy at the cost of my true happiness.

I had to present myself like was from the convent something I did not have to do in my past life. I quit that behaviour very fast.

I tried to understand this behaviour, but could not see it right away. Everything to me at that time felt temporary, though it was not, and I did not see what was happening around me. The early feelings were just too mixed up.

I learned that most people's pleasers live their lives in that fashion due to putting their needs aside from childhood years. They had grown up in such environments.

When you better understand yourself, you will know who can stay in your life and who will have to get out of your life. If you are raised by people who lived that way could get you to that point of being a People Pleaser.

If you live by the expectations of others you will not see well in your life. You are expecting the other to be happier and you do not see it from your side.

You are just known as the one who runs the chores or errands. Your true image will not be recognized by others. It is normal and nice of you to help others. Only do that if you want to, not because others told you to be that way.

Once you know to help yourself then you will want to help others. When you know to help others, you will feel much better to do that from your heart. Do what you want by choosing your actions speak louder than words when you approach the situation from within.

You would want others to help in the same way. Do not neglect your thoughts. People pleasers are more about giving than taking.

Their lives are less, fun-filled and more about being controlled by the other. Usually, people pleaser rushes along for no reason. Your life is not seen as useful to you.

You feel that person is no longer your friend for you not helping them out, but you do not realize what you are doing to yourself. People do not see your true self. Be true to yourself and do what you enjoy and really want to.