How To Deal With Persons with PTSD

Coping with PTSD
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I am a survivor of an assault incident. I went through an episode of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Three months into my treatment, I was cleared with remarkable results. Now more than a year of having fully recovered, I could already share what I had learned throughout that experience.

To say the least, it was a small roller coaster ride. Getting acquainted with the condition, assessing recovery, living the usual life and assessing the coping behavior of the people around. Remember I mentioned that I owe my recovery to medication, my family support and time away from the stress of life? That is because the people around me was willing to put up with me. Based on my experience, here are things that you should know when dealing with people with PTSD:

1. Don't startle them. Once in while we play a harmless joke on each other. But please when you know someone who had a traumatic incident, even if they have already recovered and you are his friend, never attempt to startle them. It can destroy friendships.

2. There are a lot of things to talk about besides what happened. For God's sake, don't bring up the incident again. For all you know, they are excited to tell you how their day was, or how was their trip over the weekend, or their plans for the following week. Gosh!

3. Keep their caffeine and insomia-enducing food at low intake. If you want to catch up with them over a cup of coffee, this time, stay away from coffee. If not opt for a caffeine-free beverage. One thing that should not be disrupted in the persons recovery is his trouble sleeping. Needless to say that even if the person has no PTSD, sleep deprivation already causes anxiety. We need not aggravate the situation.

4. No baby talking. What I mean is, no affording special treatment. Act the way you were with them. They are also trying to get back to their lives as normal as possible.

5. When your treatment is under a psychiatrist, refer to your psychiatrist as therapist. This is to dispel the notion that persons with PTSD are crazy individuals. This is also to cushion his stigma knowing that he is under his treatment. (I wish I had done this earlier in my hubs.).

The road to recovery for persons with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is not a lone journey. You have a part in his recovery. Note that it is not a one time effort. In some cases you have to go along the journey. To understand more about your part in his recovery, read Stages and Manifestations of Recovery in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

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kerlynb 5 years ago from Philippines, Southeast Asia, Earth ^_^

"For God's sake, don't bring up the incident again." - Simply moving on, right? We can just shrug and say, "It's not even worth talking about in a night/day like this."


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anjperez 5 years ago Author

thanks @kerlynb for dropping by. as much as we want to, we want to respond courteously. you know what i mean like our neighbors, our relatives that keeps on asking details. like they treat it as newsflash. that they need to know everything and they ask it directly from you. that's one situation we have not developed courtesy. i brought this up because i read Rita Avila's book "Ways to Comfort with Grace". It suggests the proper way of comforting the bereaved. I wish certain courtesy should also be practiced for sensitive cases like this. It only starts with being informed. appreciate you for reading my hub.


Arlene V. Poma 5 years ago

It's tough, isn't it? You were smart to seek help and weren't a victim for very long. You bounced back. I can't compare my experience with yours, but it was decades ago, when you just sucked it up and going to a therapist was shame based. At the time, I did go, but I was not ready. Nor, did anyone really know how to deal with it or help me, either. It was all new, and it had to do more with my head instead of being physically assaulted. Anyway, it all worked out because like you, I refused to be a victim or give my power to my abuser. Thanks for your writing. Voted up, useful, interesting, and AWESOME for the pure courage and honesty in your writing.


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anjperez 5 years ago Author

yeah. it's tough. who is ready to visit a therapist? it's like wearing a hat everywhere that says "NUTS". you are right, thinking about it is more nerve wracking than being physically assaulted. i am glad that it all worked out for you. one thing that i learned from you, which my mom also tried to tell me was that being strong and resilient really matters. and you know what? while reading some stuff about this, highly resilient people are really likely to overcome this. we are lucky. thanks for the vote up! i really appreciate you reading my hub.


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medor 5 years ago from Michigan, USA

Nice job... I am Survivor also... thanks for sharing...


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anjperez 5 years ago Author

thanks, medor for dropping by! at first, i was hesitant to share my experience. that is because i was concerned of what other people would think of me. esp when they knew i had to go under therapy. but i took the risk and would like to help them too. not only thouse who suffer PTSD but also to help understand those people around them. i am just glad that we both overcame it. we, survivors, now have a different take on life. cautious but with wisdom. thanks for leaving your comment!


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JenJen0703 5 years ago from Cereal City U.S.A.

A survivor's will to survive has a huge impact on their recovery. You are lucky, as you had the support of your loved ones. Can you imagine what it would be like to go through it alone, with only a couple friends from afar? Your stories are well-written and your desire to help others are evident in your writings. More people need to write about these crimes because they happen to more people than we realize. You are lucky because more could have happened to you...thanks for the inspiration.


blog8withJ 5 years ago

This is a useful hub. If you survive it, then-anyone can. Though it takes time, there's always a room for recovery!


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Daniella Lopez 5 years ago from Arkansas

Thank you for the hub. My best friend suffers with PTSD and sometimes I just simply don't know what to do for her. I'll try using some of these tips. Voted up!


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anjperez 5 years ago Author

JenJen0703, thank you very much for dropping by. yes, i am very lucky because my loved ones supported me. if the trauma victim is trying to recover and he has no support from the people around, it will add up to his anxiety. adding anxiety could not do more help but hasten the condition. it will manifest in his actions. people would associate it as his behaviour. but, in my experience, these are reactions, to medication, to the changes brought about in his life. it is overwhelming. if not taken with consideration, it could rip families apart. if i could only enumerate the any times my family was nearly ripped apart by this. glad that it turned out fine. i am more blessed than ever before. i am thankful for all the blessing and glad that i am able to share what lessons i have learned.


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anjperez 5 years ago Author

@blog8withJ, i am very grateful that you have found this useful. anyone can survive it. anyone who is going through this wants to get out of it. in each of them, they have already built-up that will power to recover. it is just a matter or nudging it a little more so that they can reclaim back their lives and take control of it. thank you for dropping by and leaving your comment.


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anjperez 5 years ago Author

thank you Daniella Lopez for dropping by. glad that i could be of help in some way to your friend. what most people think of PTSD, as what my family was also thinking, was that PTSD is all in the head. no, it is not just in the head. willpower, it is given. anybody who suffers from it, wants to get out of it. but to some extent just can't help it. at the moment of stress / trauma, the hormones surges as as our bodies react (physiological reaction). that is why, the moment of trauma and getting help is also important to one's recovery. and you know what? you being there was already one big help to her recovery. i wish her and you all the best!


ExoticHippieQueen 4 years ago

Above all, don't startle them...........very valid point to make! Thank you for the useful information. Many people don't know these things. Glad that you are up and running again! Voted up and useful..


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tiffany delite 4 years ago from united states

thank you for this article. i was recently diagnosed with ptsd, and as i understand, people like me are hard to live/get along with...lol. blessings!


sannabella 2 years ago

I am drownding in all of it

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