How Is Your Quality Of Life? Improve It By Adjusting Your E.V.E Ratio

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Is Happiness Possible?

It seems , the more we seek happiness the more it eludes us. Maybe we should, for a moment, try to just let life play its own cards. But again, how shall we leave such an important element of our being to chance, or what others call fate? It appears as if humans have been sentenced to the never ending pursuit of happiness. This is because happiness is human. It's what makes us people. Without it, man is floundering. A mere creature. Hopeless.

It is this rare, yet common, human quality that we all aspire for. One that causes us to envy others and feel sorry for ourselves. So, when we talk about the quality of life, what do we really mean? It is having money? or fame. Is it being married, or for that matter marrying someone rich? Is it retiring young? Is it having a healthy marriage? A loving husband? A faithful partner? Is it having caring parents? Is it realizing your childhood dream? Having your own house? Is it spending your time with your grand children? What is it?

It is very difficult to pinpoint what an improved quality of life means to each one of us. However, we can agree on some general terms and the obvious fact that humans are never satisfied. The moment you attain one goal, another shortly emerges. You find out that it requires other parts for its proper use. If you doubt me, ask any woman who buys a new dress. She will need a new pair of shoes to go with it. Once she gets the shoes, the old handbag no longer has the suiting color. So she will require a new handbag. But who gets all these things without matching jewelry? So, she will wish upon her lover to buy her some or she will go and get it for herself.

Now that all these things are in place, she will expect her lover to take her out to some fancy restaurant. If he delays, he's boring. If he does it, he will have to pay for the bill. Otherwise, he will be labelled a cheap guy. Or, She will call her girlfriends and somehow they will find reason to go out. And when she gets back, he better not ask for anything? Unfortunately, the poor guy is so tired, he forgets to ask for anything. That pisses her off. For she interprets it as not being wanted, and she storms out banging doors as she leaves a trail of furry. Poor man is completely lost. He has no clue what to do.

Consider also a man, who by some sheer luck, manages to get some extra money. The first thing that comes to mind is to upgrade his car. He gets to the dealer and manages to get a good deal. Viola! Excited, he drives home to show off to his wife and children. He gets homes. Suddenly he has had a long-time vision of an expanded garage to accommodate the bigger car. Without telling his wife, he arranges for someone to come and do the job. Meanwhile, cars are supposed to be driven, so he calls up his friends and suggests they should go for a ride. Not anywhere nearby because this thing can fly. We need to test it's power. That again will need more fuel. Because he doesn't want his wife to know what he's up to, he gets a new credit card to cover the cost. And, on and on the quest goes.

I can assure you, that humans are never meant to settle. It is human nature to dream for a better life. But unfortunately, we don't just seem to know what we are looking for and where to look? Even if we found it, we still may not know that we have found it, since we don't know what we are looking for. Therefore, the only way we can feed this desire and remain sane, is when we find a balance. A middle point. An awareness of what we need versus what we want. And why we don't need everything in life. Most of the valuable stuff we crave, we already have, and we possess it freely and in abundance. - Your talents, your joy of being alive, you ability to manipulate your thoughts and cause your body to respond accordingly.

THE E.V.E RATIO

The E.V.E Ratio stands for Entertainment Versus Education.

Most of us confuse the two and never pay attention to the impact that these two have on the quality of our lives. Education, in this sense, does not necessarily refer to the formal schooling, but to the acquiring of ones ability to take control of his or her life. Entertainment refers to anything else that you do for fun. Visiting your friends or family, going on vacation, watching TV, browsing the Internet, tweeting, Facebook, texting, shopping and going to church (for some), being engaged in sports, yoga, exercise, etc.

Your quality of life is directly related to how you interpret happiness. And in most cases, people weigh happiness by their period and content of their entertainment. Unfortunately, you can't have quality entertainment forever. Life is more than play. You need to build a base on which you can sustain such a lifestyle. Which calls for you to really learn about yourself and understand what drives you. As the ancient wisdom states, "know thyself."

Studies taken in the field of success have shown that the more you balance your E.V.E ratio, the more in shape your life will be. 80% of your time and effort must be focused on education and 20% on entertainment. This is means that you must invest your time and money in getting your mind occupied by positive and life transforming messages. Messages that inspire and provoke efficiency, productivity, passion, generosity, vision and a creation of goals. There are many products you can access. Audio CDs that you can use to turn your morning and evening car commutes into a moving university. Books that help you become better in your field of work or business. Attend lectures and seminars.

Your quality of life will follow the quality of your thoughts. "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he." The more dominant thoughts in your mind dictate the direction of your life. You cannot live outside your head. Whatever you focus on you attract. So if you want to improve your life, focus on where you want to see yourself. Not on what you fear. For soon you will be confessing like some famous bible character, "what I feared most has come upon me." Never allow negative thoughts to dominate your mind. Not even for one minute. Happiness is more about attitude than anything else. Fortunately, there are ways that can help you develop this habit. One of which is to use positive affirmations about yourself.

Look at the person in the mirror and tell them, they will make it.

I see a generous and fulfilled me. I see a forgiving person looking straight into my eyes.

I see a great professional making presentations. I see my life improving greatly and allowing me more time with my family. I see myself living in my dream house.

Write down whatever it is that you feel you should instruct the person in the mirror to follow. Don't be cynical about it. Being a pessimist hasn't gotten you anywhere. Why would you continue like that? Do something that will help you. What if it works? what will you lose? For life is a congregate of habits. Habits form character, which inevitably controls our destiny. You cannot take lightly the thoughts you allow to dominate your life. They are responsible for bringing you to where you are right now. Watch your environment and don't be easily influenced by anything that sounds like news and looks like culture. You are smarter than that.

Remember, Fate is not an accident, but a construct of individual events, and the mind has much more to do with it. You will be more happy when you know yourself and truly understand what happiness is.

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ALUR 5 years ago from USA

Great post and insight. I know that many of us prefer to escape through the medium of entertainment mouthing platitiudes to the adage: "Ignorance is Bliss" but education is the key to opening a door of enlightenment. It doesn't simply apply to text book knowledge but an understanding of what's important in life and then acting upon it.

You're welcome to check out my hubs and my book called "Taboo Nation" that I just released on amazon.com (a collection of odd fiction stories)


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Cyndi10 5 years ago from Georgia

I like this article! You have made some great observations about human nature. I would submit that attaining reasonable goals and the act of setting new ones can also bring happiness. I think you are right, the human spirit is usually about the quest. Maybe, that's part of our hunter/gatherer instinct? I think as writers, we understand how important education on any level is to our fulfillment. Thank you so much for sharing your insights.


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Fuller-Life 5 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Thanks ALUR and Cindy. You are both very gracious with your words. ALUR, I will definitely check out your hubs and your book. Cindy you are very right about writer having a much deeper understanding of the importance of education. It appears the hunter gatherer instinct is here to stay.


Musonda 4 years ago

After reading this I am reminded of the Pareto principle (or the 80:20 rule), it states that in our achievement we only attain about 80% satisfaction, which is the most vital, soon realise that something (20%) is missing. Therefore, we make trivial the 80% in pursuit of the 20% hoping it will bring more satisfaction. This ratio deals with the few vitals and many trivials: therefore if man is content with his achievements he tends to live more happier than when he is not.


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Fuller-Life 4 years ago from Washington, DC Author

That's very True Muso! The more I study this issue of happiness the more I realize that it is connected to contentment. Which is not the same as lack of ambition or settling, but instead is a decision to enjoy what you already have.


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teaches12345 4 years ago

You bring out some good points on happiness. It is mostly circumstantial and temporary unless we can develop an inner sense of self-worth. I like your advice on giving yourself pep talks in establishing happiness. We have to learn to be satisfied with who we are and what we have. Great article.


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Fuller-Life 4 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Thanks Teaches12345. I love teachers. I know the impact they have on people, and I can safely say that most of what my teachers taught me, has had a tremendous impact on my life - Both positive and negative. Thanks for the connection and I look forward to reading your hubs too.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

Great hub! You said it all. I remember the statement I read from the book "Desire of Ages" by Ellen G. White; it goes like this..."There is an eternal vacuum in every man's soul..." and because of this vacuum, man(human) tries to fill it with objects, people, events, actions and anything he fancies...

But a fulfilling life is one that is "Divinely guided"...it means that springs from within as opposed to "from without"...once we know who we are in essence and realized the purpose of our being here in this life, then all we do is "follow" our natural path...natural process of growth and unfolding which is unique for each of us...That is happiness.


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Fuller-Life 4 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Thanks Jynzly for stopping by and following. I have read some books by Ellen G. White and she was amazing writer. The statement "divinely guided" brings the whole definition of success and fulfillment to its fullness.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

Exactly...keep up the good work.


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Fuller-Life 4 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Thank you so much, Jynzly. You are so kind.


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