Celebrating Any Holidays on Your Own and Enjoying Yourself!

How to Overcome a Blue Holiday, if You are Alone!

For many of us, the special holidays are a time of joy with family or just being with someone special, like Valentine's Day. However, for some of us, it just isn’t that joyous because, for one reason or another, we find ourselves celebrating the holidays alone. Our friends are off celebrating their own relationships.

Is that any reason to get depressed during those special days? Not necessarily so.

When I was widowed, years ago, it was with certain dread I faced those first significant days alone.

Valentine's Day was tough since my late husband was great at observing that day. There was always some token to express his affection.

I had great friends who included me in their celebrations, but, what was left of my family was far away and I did not have enough finances to take time off work to travel. Yet I did get through that sad time with some of the magic of intact.

Those times without a loved one are always difficult, make no bones about it. Grief takes it's time, but it wasn't to be my first and only celebration alone so I managed to find joy, peace and even happiness being alone.

I hope that whatever your reason for being alone or sad, there is something here for you to enjoy...and ponder.

Do not try to "Impress"...be yourself!

Your celebrations do not have to be lavish...just make them personal like this evergreen in a pot that speaks to me of memories!
Your celebrations do not have to be lavish...just make them personal like this evergreen in a pot that speaks to me of memories! | Source
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There are Many Reasons for a Blue Holiday

Life can throw us curve balls and widowhood is only one of many reasons one might feel blue, such as:

  • No family to spend it with (students abroad for instance)
  • It could be there was a death in the family that just takes the joy out of the celebration
  • Lack of finances to properly enjoy celebrating ( i.e. debt)
  • Illness
  • Poverty (lack of income)
  • Spouse has to be away at that time
  • Divorce or separation
  • Depression with no discernible cause

Even the most solitary of us prefer not to spend Christmas or other holidays alone. While I enjoy solitude, I also enjoy family and friends and here I will give some of my personal hints for enjoying a holiday season.



Things to Do:

Even if your budget is severely limited, the fact, you are able to read this offers you some options to celebrate a Special time quietly.

Since I am blessed with an optimistic viewpoint in life, I have made the transition from childhood expectations of Christmas (which was wonderous) to the realistic expectation of what it really is...a time of crass commercialization and unrealistic expectation on the part of many adults who should know better. Reality does not depress me because I have my own expectation of Christmas and I retain the sense of wonder and temper it with my own reality whatever it happens to be at the time.

I set aside the Holidays as a time to enjoy myself. I do not leave that for someone else to do for me because that is courting disaster. I realize I will never meet those childhood fantasies of Christmas because i am way beyond fairytales.

However, I can enjoy myself as an adult by pampering myself...not trying too hard to meet other's unrealistic expectations and giving myself slack for not being perfect either!

So you can catch me humming Christmas tunes, watching a really sappy Christmas movie and decorating my potted spruce tree in my own fashion unlike the beautiful decorator trees around. It has to be a little imperfect! i have a cat after all!

Here are some simple ways to honor yourself and let a little joy in!

  • Buy yourself something comfy or special "on sale" and and in advance... have it beautifully gift wrapped or do it yourself. Set aside.
  • Cut flowers...order something nice or even pick up something from the grocers..as long as they are something you love!
  • Get a few treats. Buy yourself what you can afford.
  • My personal favourites are, a large, dark chocolate bar and a special frozen dinner entrée that I could enjoy without cooking. Food is what many celebrations are about so a special treat is a celebration. Buy what you can afford. When the day comes, savour it!
  • On the special day, unwrap your present and relax and during the day enjoy the special treats. Linger after with mugs of coffee or tea and settle for a day of online diversions as found below to pass the quiet day.

Here are some online games that might entertain:

Free books online to load into your computer for your reading pleasure:

Music always soothes the soul. find your favorite music and relax listening.

Once you get tired of diversions you can sit back and watch a favorite movie on television… or a copy you have on hand. Maybe you have seen it a hundred times, but who cares... as long as "you" enjoy the movie!

Accept that this is your life now. Acceptance allows for transformation and the ability to move on to the next stage of your life. Acceptance allows you to take stock and realize what you truly need and what you need to let go of.

Perhaps, you may have even enjoyed this quiet time alone, refreshing your batteries and finding small joys in life! Large parties and expensive presents don’t always bring about the happiness you seek. Solitary celebrations can be very "spa-like" and re-juvenating for your psyche!

It is all about how you perceive that time alone. Resolve to value yourself and take enjoyment in the day, no matter what your circumstance. Do not assume large groups of people and lavish gifts make a for a happier you! Enjoy yourself.

You can celebrate alone. just try it...you will be glad you did !

Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas!

Give yourself the luxury of making Christmas special even if you are alone.


Christmas Poll

Have you ever had a Blue Christmas in Your Past?

  • Yes, because I was alone
  • Yes, for other reasons
  • No, I am always " in the Christmas mood" during the holidays!
See results without voting

Valentine's Poll

Have you Succeeded in Enjoying a Valentines Alone?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Still learning to be alone
See results without voting

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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hi, you definitely have the right idea, I am only going to have one other person with me, not exactly alone, but its the same as any other day, but I will find something to do, I wasn't going to put up decorations, but I thought why not? so I just did it, great ideas, thanks!


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi Nell! I appreciate your comments! I always managed to put up some decorations, and they cheered me. The ritual of Christmas has been comforting since my Christmas decorations are gifts from other years and hold significance even now. Merry Christmas!


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Angie Jardine 4 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

Hello Scribenet ... reading this I have become aware that we have a lot in common. Although I have never had a totally-alone Christmas I loved your ideas for one ... in fact I think those ideas should be utilised every now and then as a treat for oneself. Often women give so much that they forget about themselves. And sometimes family forgets too and take much for granted ... too much usually.

So ... Merry Christmas to me is a valid point to make.

Bless you ... and have a lovely Christmas.


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi Angie...I never thought of it, but you are so correct! As women, we often forget to pamper ourselves enough! Hey, maybe the women that are too busy this Christmas need to take a "Christmas Alone" day after the celebrations are done! Thank you for the Christmas wishes! Cheers!


Cory 4 years ago

Ignore the commercialism as best as you can and spend it with family members whether it is a son, daughter, sister, nephew or a special neighbour. Go out for tea, exchange simple cards as a gift and time with each other. You would be surprised how many of your family and friends just would like time to share a cup of tea with you and talk during the season.


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Thanks Cory for the additional advice. Friends and family are the best antidote and sometimes just meeting somewhere for a coffee is wonderful as well!

Thanks for dropping by....and Merry Christmas!


CJ 4 years ago

I have had many Christmas's alone when theirs no family and many more to come. I do enjoy not having to hussel around to the malls.But...


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi CJ! In those years, I was alone...it was great not having the hassle of the malls to deal with,but...as you began, there was nostalgia for Christmas' past. It is important to value and pamper yourself. Sometimes we forget, we are important as well! Sending you a great big Christmas Hug! Hope you have some little treat to enjoy just for yourself! Cheers!


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NatalieSack 4 years ago from Pittsburgh, PA

This article is a nice reminder that even in our apparent "aloneness", we are not alone. Witness all the people that responded to this article relating similar experiences. Connections are everywhere, if we look for them.


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi Natalie! I love your comment! "Connections are everywhere, if we look for them."

You are correct! We never have to be alone,if we reach out!

An example, this year, is the secret Santa's in the Unites States paying off the layaway accounts of strangers, plus countless other kindness' that inspire the Holiday spirit!

Merry Christmas! Thank you for commenting!


Lisa 4 years ago

I'm choosing to spend Christmas alone. I've only told a few people and my family members who wanted me to spend it with them. But I decided on taking a hiatus from it all this year. Well apart from on myself of course. I bought myself a few gifts, I'm gonna cook a nice breakfast (Eggs Benedict with smoked salmon, spinich and Bucks Fizz), plus my dinner for later. I'm in the spirit but in my own little way and I like that.

I'm not alone, I'm actually content. I'll watch tv, make 2012 goals, take a good shower and chill in my nightclothes.

Merry Christmas, one and all. Xxx


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

H Lisa! There is the other side of all this, as you stated...just chillin' and being alone for the day on purpose! Taken the right way, it can be totally comforting and healthy! Great breakfast!Merry Christmas!


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Darknlovely3436 4 years ago from NewYork

great hub, however, the idea of being alone on christmas terrify me..


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi Darknlovely! May you never have to spend a Christmas alone! Sometimes it just happens in life, so in such a case, it helps to make the best of it and relax. Merry Christmas!


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thougtforce 4 years ago from Sweden

Great hub with good ideas on how to enjoy Christmas alone! When I think about all those who are alone at Christmas I feel sad and even more grateful for my family! No one that not want to should have to be alone during Christmas but I know that many do. It can happen to everyone so this is very useful. Voted up, useful

Merry Christmas!

Tina


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mandymoreno81 4 years ago

If you're celebrating alone I find that just getting into the Christmas spirit with music, gifting yourself, etc will help bring your mood up. And if anything, see if there are other people celebrating alone and try to get something together so you're not as lonely.


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi Tina! Thank you for your kind comments and Merry Christmas to you as well!

Hi Mandy...Music is one of the best mood boosting therapies and certainly sharing with others is a great idea. Thank you for your ideas and Merry Christmas!


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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California

Scribenet- Amazing hub. Love your resourcefulness. Bon Jovi does Blue Christmas almost as well as Elvis. Blessings.


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi tirelesstraveler! Necessity is the mother of invention. Thank you for your kind comments!

Blessings to you as well! :)


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carol7777 4 years ago from Arizona

Good job on this hub which can be a touchy topic. You have some great ideas and solutions.


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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi Carol! Having spent some time alone; I enjoy solitude actually, but special days are tough. However, even in a crowd, I often seek some solitude to enjoy the quiet ...so I am able to enjoy, even the special days alone because it comes naturally. That said, it is nice to have others around!

Thank you, again for your kind comments!


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

So wonderful to remember those who are on their own at this time of year.

I share all around and vote up.

Lots of love

Eddy.


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Scribenet 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi Eddy! Yes it is. It is also important to remember there is a difference to being alone and feeling alone. I sometimes enjoy a solitary time alone to reflect and enjoy pastimes others do not share... and sometimes I really treasure those moments...even when I have others around. So holidays can be wonderful if we treat ourselves kindly! :)

Your comments and shares are always appreciated!

Hugs

Maggie


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dragonflyfla 3 years ago from South Florida

This was the first year without my daughter for x-mas :-( At first it was a sad feeling but then I reasoned she is now grown and there will be more. I was lucky enough to be able to be around other family members. Inspiring hub.....I pinned you. :-)


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Scribenet 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi dragonflyfla! Yes, x-mas can be daunting when the children are not around. That is when you do need to pamper yourself for sure!

Thanks for the pin! :) Happy New Year!

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