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5 Signs Your Relationship Is Over

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By Isabella Snow


If you've ever been in a romantic relationship, you know that breaking up can be very hard to do, even if you want to end it. Due to this innate sense of avoidance, many people will go out of their way to stay in formerly-romantic relationship, which now totally blows. It's called denial and we've all been there in some shape or form. If you're particularly skilled at self-delusion you'll ignore the early signs of a dating partnership being over, perhaps by telling yourself that you're being too analytical. And hey, maybe you are; but there comes a time when certain signs are beyond proof that a romantic relationship is over. The following 5 Signs Your Relationship Is Over are meant to open your eyes and help you change directions before you get stuck with Mr. or Ms. Wrong for the rest of whatever.


1. You don't trust them.

This presumes that you did trust them at some point; if you're in a relationship with a person whom you've never trusted, something is wrong with you! If you did start out trusting them but now watch their every move (particularly when they're not looking) then not only is your relationship on the way downhill, but you're also a stalker!

2. You'd rather work.

Are you one of the countless people who works 16 hour days because you'd rather slave away at the office than go home to your nagging wife or jerk-of-a-husband? Guess what; that's not normal. If you hate being around your partner or spouse that much, this is a good sign that the relationship is over.

3. You've separated.

If things have gotten so unbearable that one of you wants to move out, this is a sign that your romance has come to an end. Yes, in some cases, people work through issues and get back together -- but most of the time they don't. Separation is a form of breaking-up; why not just get it over with? It's amazing how people will drag the painful parts out as long as they possibly can.

4. You find your lover as attractive as you would a sibling.

This statement presupposes that you're not attracted to your own siblings, but I think it's probably a safe assumption (unless you happen to live in the Deep South). While it's certainly true that some couples are too tired or worn-out to have an active love life, if you don't actually want to engage in any type of intimacy, something is wrong. You're supposed to be physically attracted to your romantic partners -- if you don't want to get down with the person you're involved with, it's either time to get the passion going again, or time to put them in the friends category.

5. One of you routinely threatens to leave.

Granted, the person doing this could simply need far more attention than normal people, but if someone is threatening to leave, this means the idea has entered their mind and stayed there for a significant period of time. Some might be fishing for their partner to beg them to stay, but even if that's the case, there's nothing much romantic about that, is there?

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moonchild60  says:
6 months ago

This was really good. Unfortunately, it sounds like my marriage is over....Thanks Isabella, well done!

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Isabella Snow  says:
6 months ago

I'm sorry to hear that moonchild60 :-(

Best wishes to you.

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Haunty  says:
6 months ago

Thanks for this hub. In my opinion, if someone threatens to leave it is emotional blackmail, and this means the person threatening couldn't care less about how their partner feels, but they focus on themselves alone. So their partner should quit the relationship in the first place.

Miranda  says:
4 months ago

If my partner is always telling me if I dont like the way he wants things then I should get the F out, is that a form of abuse and should I leave after 12 years of this?

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deneevana  says:
4 months ago

I like this.. really sounds like the majority of my relationships.. what's that telling me? Lol

puzl'd  says:
3 months ago

Miranda u need to run fast away from your abusive partner..i finally left mine after 10yrs, and thank God i snapped out of my lil self destructive world that i have built back up. Run hunny Run!!!!! that's not love, u deserve better.

reality check  says:
3 months ago

i think my relationship with my girlfriend is over without a doubt

reality check  says:
3 months ago

all the signs are there...avoiding meeting up...conversation drying up more and more...arguing more and more...we say we love each other but dont show it...she's always tired...always has an excuse to avoid talking to me...if we make it through the remaining weekend i'll be veryy surprised.

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cosmicvern  says:
3 months ago

yep...mines done as well.

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blogmeup  says:
2 months ago

Good and interesting hubs..

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lilislist  says:
2 months ago

Dear Isabella, I was with my last boyfriend for almost 4 years and I kept trying to save our relationship. You know...I didnt want to admit that sometimes, it's ok to let go. After reading this HUB I feel more confident that the break-up was the right thing to do .

Gracias Chika!!

XOXO

LILI

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Alfin  says:
3 weeks ago

Good hub. Reality isn't that pretty sometimes

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elizabeth juno  says:
2 weeks ago

I enjoyed reading this! The part about the attractiveness is so true. Especially if you start viewing your mate as immature...then you really may begin to find them unattractive and even child-like. I think it's having contempt. Not good though.

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Rob in Las Vegas  says:
5 days ago

Can you write one about how you know if it's back on? I'm spending the holiday with an ex who is out of state, and it's starting to get complicated. I'm not sure what to do next. If you can check out my hub and give some advice (it's all there) I would appreciate it! Thanks.

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