5 Signs You're Not In Love
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I've already done an article on the 5 Signs You're In Love, and now I'm going to address the signs of not being in love. These signs may apply to people who used to be in love, or they may apply to people who aren't sure if they've ever been in love. Obviously, everyone is different, and some of these may or may not apply to you. My main purpose in writing this is to help people who have fallen out of love, or those who can't get over a crush, realize it before they waste a lifetime on someone they don't belong with.
1. You're Not Sure.
Generally speaking, if you've got to ask the question of whether or not you're in love, you're probably not. That's not to say you never were, but it stands to reason that you're probably not, at this time, in love with whomever you're thinking about. Moreover, I'm not suggesting that you can't fall back in love with someone, but if you're at this point, you've probably already fallen out of love.
2. You wince at the idea of kissing or getting naughty.
This is the test I always use when I'm wondering how much I dig someone. Close your eyes and picture yourself sucking face with the person in question. If you can't picture it without grimacing, wincing or, God forbid, gagging, you're not in love with that person. You may well love them, but it's not an Adam and Eve type of thang.
3. You'd rather be with your mates.
If you'd rather spend more time with your friends than your girlfriend or boyfriend, something is amiss. Certainly, one should have their own time away from a partner, but if the partner is getting 40% and the mates are getting 60%, something's not right there.
4. Everything they do annoys you.
We've all been here, haven't we? Winding down toward the end of a relationship, the other person inevitably annoys you to the point you'd rather sleep outside in the snow than sleep in the same flat, due to all of their annoying habits. Habits which, by the way, didn't bother you in the slightest when you first got together.
5. You've realized you're dating a moron.
Even if you're dating a neurophysicist, that man is now labeled a complete moron for the simple fact that he forgot to take the trash out for the second week in a row. Not only that, he watches stupid programming on television and his taste in music is childish and mundane. Nevermind the fact that you found his taste absolutely charming when you first started dating.
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I am scared this might be me. I am always picking on my bf for all the little things while i flirt at work with my boss and daydream of being with someone else.
"Even if you're dating a neurophysicist, that man is now labeled a complete moron"
Meh. He probably is a moron. Neurophysics is a rubbish sub-discipline. He must have been desperate to specialise in it. Cognitive neuroscience all the way baby!
Yes! Accurate.
I feel this way and I've been married for 5 years. He just do not satisfy me in anyway mentally, physically, financially, emotionally and sexually. And we have to kids together. As you can see I use my heart and not my head. I don't want to hurt his feelings and tell him. I DO NOT WON'T TO BE WITH YOU ANYMORE I'M NOT HAPPY!!!!!!!
Well my boyfriend is PERFECT!!!! personality wise. But idk like he's not UGLY, but hes not my type. I am very pretty to a lot of people so it kind of embarasses me sometimes when my friends see who he is, but hes an amazing boyfriend and his looks don't bother me, just in the fact that i get embarassed of what others might think. only a few of my friends think he is cute, and im used to dating the HOTTIES that everyone thinks are hott. should i ignore what people think or is he just not made for me and i should try and find someone else. We've been dating for almost 4 months, and hes ALREADY told me hes in love with me...
help!
it is so sad,why im on this page...simply because, the love i had for my partner is really gone. were getting married in a week and its really really sad. Before i was so excited about that day to come but now i am so scared and it doesnt excite me anymore. We are living in the same house,he has so many plans in our future and i have to act excited. sometimes when he is talking,im not interested and i dont care im not listening. and when he kiss me i have to act like i love what hes doing to me. I dont have another man but i cannot understand what i feel. I will hurt him when i tell him the truth about my feeling.For now im living in a world of pretensions. I dont i still have week to go..i must think very wisely. I DONT LOVE HIM ANYMORE!!!!!











Shimoda says:
8 months ago
And again you are so accurate! It was agreeing with these points that lead to my leaving my husband. Not nice when you realise you've fallen out of love but I'm not one for going with the situation just because it's easier!