create your own

6 Things Men Shouldn't Say To Women

82
rate or flag this page

By Isabella Snow


We all know that men often stick their foot in it when talking to a woman. Most of the time, this happens by accident. At least, I would hope it does. Obviously, there are plenty of things one should not say to a woman, particularly if you're romantically involved with her, but men often fail to realize that several seemingly innocent remarks can really tick a woman off. Especially if it happens to be true! (What, are you surprised to hear that we actually realize that some of this stuff is true? Of course we do. That doesn't mean we want to hear it from you, though!)

The following 6 phrases should always be avoided -- whether you are dating her, or not.


You look tired.

Unless you're saying this at 0300 in the morning as we prepare to drift off to sleep, this is not going to go over well. You may think that all you're doing is remarking on droopy eyelids and a semi-stifled yawn, but that's not what we hear. Oh, no. We hear something more along the lines of, "You look like arse, and I can't imagine ever finding you attractive again." Of course, the interpretation will vary, depending on how neurotic your woman is.

You're overreacting.

Few things tick a woman off faster than hearing this one. No matter what the scenario, she does not want to hear this from you. It's bad enough we have to deal with knowing that most of you just pretend to give a toss when we're upset about something -- but to actually have to hear you say this? Oh, no, you didn't!

Is that what you're wearing?

This is one of the stupidest things a man can ask. Your woman walks downstairs in a short skirt and heels, hair done up, lipstick looking fab, and you ask her if that is what she's wearing? No. She thought she'd fake you out and then run back and change into the burlap bag she'd been meaning to wear all along. Of course that is what she is wearing. Not that she'll be wearing it much longer, as you've probably ticked her off to the point she doesn't want to go anywhere now.

Are you PMSing?

Whether she is or she isn't, this is not the question a sane man asks a female. And you'd better hope she isn't, cos, if she is, she's going to be that much more annoyed by the reminder. Say this one only when you're sure your boys are well out of knee's reach.

Your friend is hot.

I'm sure even the most clueless of men knows this is the wrong thing to say to a woman he's involved with, but this is also the wrong thing to say to most women you are not involved with. Why? Because it often translates into, "Wow, you're friend is so hot -- and you are so not.". Unless the woman you're saying it to is your sister, I recommend not using this one.

You and your mother could be sisters.

Gawd, what a bad thing to say. I don't care if her mother was a supermodel in the 70s -- no one wants to hear that they look just like someone 20 or more years older than them. If your girl is in her early 20s, she may think it's cute or funny. If she is in her 30s and preoccupied with newly discovered bits of gray hair -- you are not going to stir any warm and fuzzy feelings with this one!

Comments

RSS for comments on this Hub

OrangeCast profile image

OrangeCast  says:
16 months ago

I am very quickly realizing that for the overall health and wellbeing of my relationship I need to make your hub daily reading. ;-)

I am usually pretty good about this stuff, but the "you look tired" one gets me into trouble sometimes. Thanks for the reminder!

Princessa profile image

Princessa  says:
16 months ago

Again a "right on the spot" hub :) I really need to email this page to my husband, brothers and all male friends!

Jewels profile image

Jewels  says:
16 months ago

We're just too sensitive for our own good. I mean you're right; But female paranoia is amazingly twisted isn't it. I guess that's what paranoia is but geez, I even confuse myself at times trying to work out why things piss me off so much, let alone have a male add to the pile!

Maylinda Arons profile image

Maylinda Arons  says:
16 months ago

It REALLY ticks me off when men pretend to know the difference between a woman PMSing, and a woman annoyed for a good reason. They don't. They just use the word coz they know it exists, and it's ANNOYING. Thank you for this hub!

Pagan Crafter profile image

Pagan Crafter  says:
16 months ago

I should probably show this hub to my man--bless his heart! *LOL* Thank you so much for writing this one!

Woody Marx profile image

Woody Marx  says:
16 months ago

As always, right on the money Isabella. I have been guilty of all of them at one time or another and like most men I'm clueless about how dangerous it is to utter these remarks unthinkingly. Good to be reminded!

myhappylaptop profile image

myhappylaptop  says:
16 months ago

Oh I just love this. Pointers will always make all relationships better esp for those who read your hub. Thumbs up!

desert blondie profile image

desert blondie  says:
16 months ago

Absolutely 100% accurate, and quite succinctly stated as well! Women don't go around uttering things like "man, those love handles really looking out of control." Or, "is that baldness just going to get worse"? Or "Gee, sweetie, all those years without suncreen have you looking really beat up." So, men, get a clue...the woman in your life is the one who needs your utmost gentlemanliness...not your least.

cgull8m profile image

cgull8m  says:
16 months ago

Wow, great tips right on the money.

Isabella Snow profile image

Isabella Snow  says:
16 months ago

Orangecast - Thanks :) Just remember how badly we interpret "you look tired" :)

Princessa - I should do that, too. ;)

Jewels - True, but it seems to be genetic, so what can you do? ;)

Maylinda - Yes, me too. I'd rather be called a name than be asked if I am PMSing!

PaganCrafter - Thanks, and youre welcome! :)

Woody - Remind your mates, too! ;)

Myhappylaptop - Thank you, Im glad you liked it!

DesertBlondie - True, we never say that kind of thing! Why do men do it to us??

Cgull - Thanks!

Maikeru76  says:
16 months ago

This hub is the cure for the human male species' oldest disease (probably): "Foot-in-Mouth" Disease...

Any Novel from you and friends that you could recommend?

As always Isabella, you RAWK!

Cailin Gallagher profile image

Cailin Gallagher  says:
16 months ago

How about "Do I have any clean socks?" or "What's that?" referring to dinner. Jeez! Funny hub.

eugie17 profile image

eugie17  says:
16 months ago

This is very complicated for men,

men should watch out for every word they say, I think they should not be serious and it will be good

adeshwar profile image

adeshwar  says:
16 months ago

nice tips ,  u and ur mother look like sisters, man that really makes a woman mad,  trust me.  nice hub.

Andrea  says:
16 months ago

You are so o nhe mark with these. I swould like to add that men should never call a woman the c word.

Victel profile image

Victel  says:
15 months ago

You are hysterical!!! I loved this hub!

elorms profile image

elorms  says:
15 months ago

Thanks for the info Princessa babe-Your tips are really great!!Thumb up for u..

Holly  says:
14 months ago

I think the creepiest side of the "you and your mother look like sisters" is that its inevitably said by someone hitting on your mom. This is not something that is said to you, but said near you so she can hear.

chik labadan profile image

chik labadan  says:
13 months ago

you got ur point there..

Submit a Comment

Members and Guests

Sign in or sign up and post using a hubpages account.


optional


  • No HTML is allowed in comments, but URLs will be hyperlinked
  • Comments are not for promoting your hubs or other sites

working