Dating: Don't Lie About Your Age
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Sounds easy enough, doesn't it? If you only knew how many men have flat out lied to me about their age. I can think of 4 in the last year alone. All of them happened to be English, so perhaps this isn't really an issue for American men - but just in case you're considering it, allow me to set you straight.
Fibbing about your age is lying.
It's not a white lie, either. It's not the "sure your butt looks great in those PVC knickers" white lie you might tell your woman to keep yourself out of the doghouse. This is just a straight lie that serves no purpose. The ridiculous bit is that these lying fools were only a year or two older than the age they masqueraded as being. How stupid is that? Almost as stupid as giving themselves away, I guess.
Take Mr. Small, for example.
He introduced himself to me online, telling me he was 34. As I sat there replying to his email, I noticed the address: MrSmall1970. Guess how old Mr. Small really was?
We know why women lie about their age, but come on, what does a man have to gain by knocking a few years off?
Does he really think he's not going to get caught? What about a year down the road when you're applying for a marriage license and she notices the year of birth is a bit off?
I suppose she might forgive the lie - but I wouldn't.
Why should I? If you lie about something that silly, Gawd only knows what else you'd lie about. Relationships are built on trust. Ok, sometimes they can be built on sex. If that's all you're after, you can probably get away with lying about your age. If not, don't be an idiot.
Tell the truth about your age.
Honestly, it's to the point I'm ready to start ID'ing anyone who asks me out. I was stunned the first time I was lied to about it, and now it feels like standard issue for most of the men I meet.
Perhaps it's a British thing, I dunno.
Whatever it is, it's absurd. Women are not hung up on age the same way men are. That's not to say we don't have age rules - I surely have mine and do not easily break them. But if I'm willing to date a 34 year old, I'm probably also willing to date a 38 or 39 year old.
So if you're gonna lie, knock a decade off.
It's gonna come back and bite you in the arse eventually, anyway, so you might as well get the most of it!
xx Isabella
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No women shouldn't lie about their age either, but they often do - and the only reason I won't chastise them is because aging has more neg affects on women in terms of how we get treated by society. Men get sexier and women just get older! I don't approve of the lying but I understand it.
Wouldn't you be more worried by the *other* part of MrSmall1970's username? :-) Unless, of course, he was lying about that too.
LOL! I think he was! ;)
" . . . aging has more neg affects on women in terms of how we get treated by society."
Sad, but true.
Besides, this makes birthdays awkward down the road.
hello
I do not understand why anyone would lie about there age. I mean if you lie about something as small as a number how could someone trust you with anything else.
I recently met a guy on line 3 months ago and we would talk and we met and he ditched me did'nt know why until I found out his real age is 44 not 38 like he profiled and he lied about everything else job, women everything
Here's the only ONLY reason I lie about my age: it's on-line. I'm 52. I look like I'm mid-40s, I act younger... but women often put in "limits" on who they want to date, and that put's me outside some of their limits. For example, a lot of 45 year old women put their "range" as 35 to 50... and I know full well we'd be great together. So I lie and say I'm 48, to put myself into that "decade" range, so when they do a search for a guy like me... I get included in the search.
And now that I'm writing this, I realize how STUPID that sounds! Sorry. I'm heading back to my internet dating site and changing all my birthdays!
Hey Isabella. I'm 52. Look like a young Robin Williams (think a short-haired Mork!). Will you go out with me?
EVERYONE thinks they look younger and more attractive than they
actually do!!! That is generally why internet dating is a big
disappointment. Everyone LIES!
Holy crap...I just went through that with an English guy...Except Im 24 and dealing with younger men...he thought I wouldnt be with him if I knew the truth...Showed me a fake ID and everything ...being niave I saw an ID from England and didnt know any better...But the ID only made him a two years older...haha
Fretbuzz says:
2 years ago
I never lie about my age. When I was 40 I looked maybe 30 -fit, spit, and polish military man that could ride a bicycle 100 miles in 6 hours and bench press 300 pounds. Now that I'm 43, retired and out of shape I look 43, retired and out of shape. But, I still don't lie about my age -or anything else.
Women shouldn't lie about their age either for all the same reasons.