Do You Love Me? Well, do you? We have heard this said before and it's strange sometimes that we even have to ask.

If you find yourself in a relationship that you are unsure of how your partner feels about you, you may find yourself asking this question more than you like too.

Is It Love or Lust?

How do you know if he/she really does love you? Here are some tips on love to help you decide for yourself. First lets talk about lust and what it is. Then lets talk about love and what that is.

Love and lust are both strong feelings that people have for one another. They both feel the same. They are so close to feeling the same that they are often mistaken for one another. However, there are major differences between the two. The differences are often seen by ones actions and the things they say.

Lust is where every relationship starts. You see someone, you think their attractive, you like them a lot, you have an extreme emotional desire for them. You don't know them well enough to love them. Even though it may feel like love, its lust.

I know sometimes people say the word lust and it just sounds horrible. You think of a dog with their tongue hanging out drooling. Sometimes this is the case, but lust is just a strong yearning desire.. just like love. However, Lust is not committed to you. Lust in the beginning stages of a relationship seems to be great and at times a lot of fun. Lust just doesn't have all the bells and whistles that love has and if it is the only factor in a relationship , it will soon start to show it's true colors down the road.

Lusts turns into Love. I guess you can say Love is Lust on steroids! Meaning Love can be just as spicy and erotic as Lust. Love is bigger, it's stronger and it last a whole lot longer! As you get to know a person ,spend time with them, help them, and involve yourself in that persons life you begin to move into this better situation called love. The problem lies in the fact that some folks never get past the lust stage.

Let's Take a Look at a Relationship that is of Lust and One that is of Love

Lust will do all the things that love does. It will wine and dine you. It will tell you it loves you and they want to marry you. However, when comes time to proving what they are saying it's a totally different attitude that you get.

Lust will speak in terms of "me" and "mine". Lust will most of the time not inconvenience itself for you. Lust will use arguments between the 2 of you as a time to venture off into seeing other people. Lust is driven off sex not you. Lust will most of the time put your feelings 2nd.

Lust knows nothing about you. It doesn't know your favorite color, the kind of music you like, what size clothes you wear. It doesn't know what makes you laugh and what makes you cry. Lust usually has more than 1 relationship going at the same time. Lust does not last through the tough times. It probably has almost never met your family. And to top it off , lust will almost never concern itself with these things.

Love, on the other hand, is a strong desire just like lust. But it comes with a bigger and truly unbelievable better package. It too will wine and dine you, tell you it wants to marry you. When it comes time to proving what they are saying , it can prove it and so much more!

Love will speak in terms of "us" and "ours". Love will use an argument between the 2 of you as a time to get an understanding of whats going wrong and try to fix it. Love knows your favorite color, your clothing size ,what makes you laugh and what makes you cry. Love has no other relationships. Love is driven off you and not sex. Love will last through the tough times. Love will always concern itself with these things.

When a person you are dating starts to display characteristics of "love", you know they are beginning to love you. If they are showing characteristics of lust, then possibly they have not began the process of trying to love you, You can't make someone love you, this is something that a person shifts into naturally. When it happens naturally, you can believe it's real and you have no doubts. You shouldn't have to ask...Do You Love Me?

When you are dating someone. Be sure to listen to what's being said, asked and done. Are they asking any questions about you? What you like? What you dislike? Are they asking about your parents? Where you're from.. etc. A person that is trying to piece you apart is more than likely, genuinely, trying to get to know you, for the purposes of one day loving you.

Take a close look at how that persons lives. Does this person appear sneaky, deceptive, or too good to be true? Does this persons actions match what they are saying?

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If you're going on dates with someone and they are never asking any questions about you, you need to put up a red flag. If the the conversations are about the latest ball game, news, hair style, great places to hang out and sex all the time. You should start to wonder.

If at times this person comes up "missing" and can only call you at certain times, I'd say there might be an issue. If they tell you, they love you... but you can't tell that they do. There might be a potential problem. If their temper gets hot when you try to explain yourself .....and this goes on and on for every date ... Hmmm ... you might have to think about what's going on. Are you following me? I hope so, because a lot of folks ignore these obvious signs.

A lot of times relationships fail on the first dates because neither one or both involved took the time, or cared to take the time to find out about each other. Then before you know it , they're sleeping together and BAM.... they're in a relationship and no one knows squat about the other.

People that have casually slipped into a relationship in this manner may find their mate never considers their feelings, is selfish at times, has other relationships on the side and they argue all the time. For others, they may feel the obvious, like they really do not know the person they are with and not sure how to deal with that person. Often you find yourself asking..Do You Love Me?

Reading the signs of potential problems and dealing with them early (and not ignoring them) will help alleviate a lot of unnecessary problems in a relationship. It may also warn you if a person will make a good mate for you or not.

On the first dates when a person is looking to get to know you, their asking all kinds of questions about you ,your family and anything they can think of to get a feel for you. If your feeling the same you will ask similar questions too.

When a person is seriously considering getting to know you for the purpose of loving you. Their actions and deeds will tell you just that. There is no mystery to them. The 2 of you will get to know everything you need to know about each other. Your needs and feelings will be 1st in each other lives.

Love unlike lust will last till the end of time. Even if it goes "South"... The 2 of you will be friends in love forever.

Do you love me? True love is always obvious. Choose wisely.

Candace