Handfastings and Commitment Ceremonies

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A Brief History of Handfasting

The ancient custom of handfasting has had many forms over the years and can serve either as an engagement ceremony or as a marriage ceremony proper in contemporary Neo-Pagan wedding rituals. The custom of handfasting has also gained popularity with non-Pagans in the places like the gay and lesbian community, with many of the rites and rituals serving well for commitment ceremonies and civil unions.

In one of the original forms, handfastings were betrothal periods for a couple, often lasting a year and a day. This practice is derived in part from ceremonies of the ancient Celts. This time period allowed a couple to better get to know one another and see if the match was a good one, and, in instances were it was part of the marriage exchange, it allowed the man time to earn or gather the dowry price or gifts given to the bride’s family.

If the trial period did not work out, the couple could rejoin and dissolve the union. Some traditions made note of the couple returning to the place where they were first betrothed. From this location, they would turn to stand back-to-back and then part, walking away in different directions. If the trial period was considered a success, the couple would then hold a formal wedding ceremony with further rituals and feasting.


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Handfasting Ceremonies

There are conflicting claims that handfastings either are or aren’t traditionally done in the month of May, or around Beltane. In modern Paganism, they tend to happen at a time that is significant to the couple. People who are involved in SCA recreations or Renaissance fairs often chose handfastings as part of their betrothals and marriages, and will hold the handfasting ceremonies during group events or fairs to take advantage of having their shared community and the period atmosphere all in one.

A modern handfasting can also be a full legal marriage. The ritual itself is not the issue, just the satisfactory completion of the requirements of the state or location of the wedding. If the person conducting the handfasting has the appropriate credentials and the proper marriage licensing is handled, the handfasting will be a legally recognized wedding ceremony.

What elements form the handfasting ritual might vary widely from couple to couple. As with most weddings, the ceremony and altar could be short and to the point, or a long, elaborate ritual. If the couple practice different facets of Paganism, it’s a good idea to spend some time working out what pieces of both practices you want to combine in the ceremony.

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Zsuzsy Bee profile image

Zsuzsy Bee  says:
6 months ago

Relache! A very great HUB. You always seem to come up with something I didn't know about. I thought Handfasting would have been a thing of the past. I think it would be a nice ceremony for the right couple.

I loved the HUB regards Zsuzsy

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Digital Bard  says:
6 months ago

I am new to the community and looking to you "old timers" to teach the right way to do things. This hub is great - not only do I get to learn about the practice of handfasting, but I get to see an experienced Hub Author at work.

Very interesting stuff!

Digital Bard

Laura   says:
3 months ago

very helpful information was given and it was intresting

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